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Tobiee:
Yeah I have Catholic friends, a lot.
I even know a couple things about catholic way of worship, since I've attended mass a couple times when I was younger.
Most of my friends are igbo people sef, from school.
Oh. Okay.
Lol everyone is getting closer to christ this period. That's a good thing.

Yeah it's a good thing

Tobiee:
Alright. I'm not scared joor.
Why will I be? Lol.
When I send a message we'd chat better I guess.
Though I don't use messenger, I don't even really use the Facebook like some people. I'd send a request first.
Hopefully you'd see it and accept.

Okay, I'll be expecting. And yeah I don't use facebook or messenger that often.

Well you can only have access to everything on my timeline if we're friends. I think that's the way it works.

DrLevi:
There's a saying that Doctors make the worst patients

There's also another saying "Psychologists heal thyself"

Don't be shy, share details

If you'll share yours too.

I wondered how far you've gone if you've not been fingered. But if a finger is painful, I can only but laugh at what a BBC would do to you
You go be virgin tay

I'm usually after a few things
1. Pleasuring the guy
2. Making the guy see me as a freak
3. Taking absolute control
4. Getting a really freaky kiss

All those can be done without me being fingered.

Also I don't know what BBC means.

Tobiee:
You're cool.

Like just there kinda cool right?

I saw it though. Didn't see yours, just some guys own. I didn't scroll down. Was more interested in the pictures

Will you still read it?

DrLevi:
I see you don't plan on getting married anytime soon, 5 more years you said... I don't think that enough time to modify a habit.

Also when you say you love sexual stuff, you mean kissing right... or have you done more than that?

Googled Vaginimus... That's terrible. What makes you think you have it?

Well as a psychologist in the making, one of our roles is to understand and modify behaviors. Mine shouldn't be an exception.

Oh honey, I've done more than just kissing.

Well for one thing, I've never been fingered. Once anyone tries to, it's just too painful and I shut down the whole thing. I'm not sure I have that, to be exact. I like to think it's cos I'm not prepared yet. But a part of me keeps saying what if I'm prepared and same thing happens, that I can't get both finger and actual stuff in...

DrLevi:
so you guys would see each other once in every whenever either of you can make a 3 hours journey. your relationship is funny. I feel you enjoy the distance, it prevent you from having to confront things like sexual stuff and proximity in general.

Don't you think getting used to long distance relationships will affect your future relationships?, especially Marriage

I still don't get your stand on sexual stuff, you don't like it or you do like it but prefer having control

Hope you slept beautifully

Yeah I think I enjoy it too. One time in school, I almost agreed to this guy. We were so close in the short while we knew each other, it was almost like a relationship. It finally did not even last a week cos I was feeling cramped. Well that and other factors.

Yeah I know this long distance thing will definitely affect me later on but I keep telling myself that since I'm in school, I shouldn't be in a relationship till I'm done. So if at all I should dive into any, then it ought to be distant.
So I feel, once I'm done with school, I'll get a hang of how close relationships are before marriage comes into the picture.


I love sexual stuff, I'm just scared of sex. Yes I prefer having control. Also cos I think I have vaginismus, whatever that means.

DrLevi:
You must have slept early

I'm a little confused, thought you guys live in different places and won't get to see, especially if school resumes.

also why are you *seriously* not looking forward to it? You sound like you love the guy scatter in your last post

goodnight also, I'll read the reply when I wake, my eyes are heavy

No I didn't sleep early. I was just kinda eager to wake.

He's planning on coming to see me in my school when school resumes. I told you it's just like 3hrs journey from his school to mine.

I'm not excited cos sexual stuff freaks me out. It's easier when I'm not in a relationship. I'll be in total control and stop when I want to. But being in a relationship, it's gonna be different. I can't just start and stop with a snap of my fingers.
Also I did not say anything about loving him scatter, I just said he's sweet cos he his.

Goodnight. Sweet dreams

DrLevi:
What are you doing awake at this time?

And I'm still waiting for the gist on how this relationship is expected to work, no sexual stuff will ever happen?

I woke up and decided to update my diary.

Me sef I'm still here pondering how it's going to work. There may be sexual stuff, maybe not sex. I'm seriously not looking forward to it.

DrLevi:
I like girls like you because I believe the first answer is the only answer. Nobody has time for a chase. You should hold a rehabilitation seminar for girls everywhere preaching this gospel loud and clear.

I like your stance with the girl, but was expecting you'd be rooting for one of rhem.

I like our private chats, makes it seem special. No need chatting on the chat session, we could always meet here.

Finally how is BF and your online relationship?

BF and online relationship is doing just fine

DrLevi:
What your thoughts are, if you have any?

You don't like chatting with me in the chat session or you just prefer here?

Well as for my thoughts, I have none and even if I do, it won't be a good idea to share. There is a tendency that whatever I say is most likely going to have an effect on you or kinda influence whatever decisions you make.

Also, girls are wired differently. I'm saying this based on myself in comparison with some other girls. Some guys think when a girl turns them down, she's trying to test their love, persistence etc which could be true. But when I turn a guy down, I know I'm definitely not gonna accept him. His persistence is just going to be outright irritating to me.
Just felt like putting this out there...

The bigger question here is "are you ready for a relationship? Is a relationship something you want right now?"

Here seems more private, sorry. Also I could copy this and use as a response in the chat session if you want.

DrLevi:
Of course

So what do you want me to tell you?

Knock knock DrLevi

Can I come in here?

Tobiee:
Lol. No wonder. Guess you're done? Thing is I have a lot of igbo friends, but they don't observe this 3pm prayers at all o.

And we did say the prayer even when they weren't around

Tobiee:
You're cool.

I saw it though. Didn't see yours, just some guys own. I didn't scroll down. Was more interested in the pictures

Whenever you feel comfortable and not totally scared of me, you can send me a message via messenger.

Tobiee:
Lol. No wonder. Guess you're done? Thing is I have a lot of igbo friends, but they don't observe this 3pm prayers at all o.

You mean you have Catholic friends?

Well we didn't use to observe it until the pandemic happened.

Tobiee:
Lol. Best believe I went through your profile, especially the pictures.

I hope you liked what you saw

Well, on the good side, you get to read the 15 days writing challenge I've been talking about.

Tobiee:
Lol. Are they back?

Oh yes they are

Tobiee:
Alright. No issue.
You're quite devoted o.
God-fearing lady

If I don't, mum will think I'm possessed

Tobiee:
Lol. Guess so.
It's cool sha, that I know you to a very large extent.


You can edit that post that has your university.

A large extent indeed

Yeah I've done that now

Tobiee:
FB
Your names on Instagram. Wanted to send a request, but didn't.

So you were so curious about knowing me, you had to go searching I'm blushing

Tobiee:
Lol. Kinda. But there's no reason to be na.
Are you online rn?

I would be after 3pm prayer. It should end at about 3.50pm