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Marriage to me should not be for fulfillment, though.
And yes, it's logical to marry on time if having children and being in their lives is your aim, because why have children at an old age when you won't be strong or healthy enough to be in their lives?

It's selfish to marry late and start having children; you're not doing them anything good!

A man of 50 years and a woman of similar age (1st timers) should never have children again because they won't be strong, healthy, and active enough to give these children the attention, care, love, and discipline they deserve.

Arostar2023:
That's exactly the point. To some having kids and grandkids give them happiness, to others it's burdensome. Each to his own. That's where we Africans miss it.... you must not marry simply because you are of "age" and have the means. Marry because it gives you fulfillment.

UyaiIncomparabl:
Continue being on the side you want to lean on then. Someone else will correct you tomorrow.

Na.

You obviously do not even know how the classification came to be.

Arostar2023:
You missed the point altogether. I said it was "situation specific". What works for you, may not work for another. It's neither good nor bad. It depends!

Ok.

Very situational. I got your point.

One thing remains constant in almost all the stories = Mother in law.

Not once was father in law mentioned.

When it comes to marriage, the probability of external influence destroying the home is 90% higher with MIL.

Women against women.

Principalities against principalities.

LordBiden:
They control the spread of nuclear weapons.
They deal decisively with terrorists like case of bin Laden,al baghdadi.

They control spread of biological weapons.
They do alot of humanitarian work.

Do you wanna know more?

Lol the same bin laden they trained and used against countries not following their directives? Man you're too Brainwashed for me to have a civilised and knowledgeable discussion with.

90% of terrorists in the world are funded by them.

LordBiden:
No they can't have,world powers wont allow that.

Tehran sponsors majority of the worlds terror groups.They have always wanted to wipe out isreal.

I can't waste my time.

The biggest sponsor of terrorism all over the world is the united state of America. It's a known fact.

Good day.

LordBiden:
No one gave them,they earned it by being the most powerful nation on earth.

You may not understand,the US does alot to protect our world.They help to put rogue nations in check.

Protect the world from who exactly?

Give instances where the US protected the world.

oz4real83:
is the statement true or false? Was Iran still enriching itself with uranium or not?

And why should they not?

Why can't they have what others have?

UyaiIncomparabl:
Incorrect.

More sources peg the Gen Z generation from 1997.

You are not in the position to decide what is correct or not as long as it's not an unanimous conclusion.

I decide which side to lean to.

UyaiIncomparabl:
Wrong.

The oldest GEN Z is 28 years old (which starts from 1997-2012.

Well, some sources put it at 1995 to 2010

A desperate man who wants to steal what he doesn't deserve.

What a pity to Nigeria.

A 30 years old person is also a gen z, so not like a 35yrs old is far off.

Arostar2023:
Yeah. Go and ask those who married early and are struggling financially because of too many responsibilities. I doubt if they will agree with you on your submission. This thing is situation specific- what works for you, may destroy another.

Why should he go and ask others when he himself married early?

Are there no people who married late that are still poor and struggling?

You think it's by age?

Arostar2023:
So you are happy because you had kids and grandkids. Or because you were successful?

What is success to you?

Hope you know the definition of success is relative?

To some, it's material possession
To others, it's the joy of being surrounded by family
Etc

Nnamdipapa:
I do now but I get monitored all the time like contant video calls. I am scheduled to travel alone to Cartagena in Colombia early next month.
I would love to be in Pucket Thailand before the end of this year and ALONE as well. No kids, no wife. Lol

You already said you told your wife you don't love her and wants a divorce, so why does what you do still worries you or what she'll say?

Na by force to pick vidoe calls or even pick any calls for that matter?

Marriage is not what is tying you down, it's just that you don't want to be responsible again due to how early you were made to be responsible to not just your wife but to 2 extended families

Mariangeles:
Many guy reading this will be mad at you, you know?







I think your regret is more about the family you married from.
You feel they exploited you.

That is the koko. He married into a wrong home, not really the age she married. There are people who married late but still went through what he's talking about.

Nnamdipapa:
I am not ungrateful, I just felt I would have done way better and looking back, I never did what I truly wanted to do, never had fun as I would have expected. You are a lady so, you won't see issues from a guy's point of view. Most ladies want the guy to work till death with little enjoyment.

I studied very hard for ICAN through the ATS route and became a chartered accountant around 20. I never went to a regular university. I got good jobs in multinational when my mates were still in the university.

Got into tax department and was in charge of negotiating company taxe with FIRS officials and you know what that means.
I also moved into oil and gas where I was in charge of supplying ago to the whole country, I used to get my cut from every driver like about 500k every week excluding my paycheck which I never remember to touch. At some point, I bought my own 33,000ltrs ago truck and added to my company's fleet. Nigeria was sweet.

I think I got lucky.

How did you know you would have done better?

You are regretting what you are now in place of what you assumed you would have been?

What exactly makes you think you would have been better off if you didnt get married early?

Why do we assume our future alot?

Nnamdipapa:
At 21, I was driving a big car to church, and the news had spread that I had also bought a car for my dad. I never knew that I was a target already. I should have had at least four houses before marriage, as I had good jobs all through early adulthood. I am not doing badly now, but in hindsight, I should have been a $ millionaire before 35. My kids are older than the kids of all my mates.

Then marrying early wasn't the reason you have a regrettable marriage, it's more about the people you married and the people that surrounded you.

I also can't exonerate you from the whole thing, you might have also been one with no character for marriage.

In a nutshell, whether you are 50 or 20, some people aren't just a marriageable spec

Nnamdipapa:
I also believe they set a trap for me to marry because I was doing very well financially, bought two cars at 22 and spent a lot of money on MIL. My MIL then told me she had a vision that I would marry her daughter and permitted me to get her pregnant before marriage if I wanted. I made money early and at 23, had no business with marriage. Build assets, enjoy your life, travel the world, date extensively, and you will have more wisdom to make marriage decisions.

Marital wisdom doesn't come from multiple dating experience.

Marital wisdom comes from understanding the purpose of marriage and companionship.

One of the reasons marriages no longer last is because of these "multiple dating experiences" people now have compared to the days of old.

Lastly, some people aren't meant to be married be it early or late

TonyeBarcanista:
Omo your own long o! If na me I go end am immediately she say make she finish school before settling down, especially if I have the means to sponsor her education.

Not really about sponsorship, some people can't handle 2 major things at once.

TonyeBarcanista:
Absolutely

My goal was 26/27 but babe called off things three years into the relationship when I was 23. Though she wanted a return 6 months after but I refused! This caused my delay.

I've never seen any need to wait into late 20s or 30s, however, I've never believed in desperation or a fan for one to settle down with just anybody.

Omo the joy of early marriage is sweet

Officially dated one woman all my life. When I was ready, she wasn't, she wanted to finish school before settling down.

When she finished, I was no longer ready financially.

Some years later when I still wasn't getting the financial status I wanted, we decided to do it however.

Dated for a very long time!

TonyeBarcanista:
My friend married at 20, and became a grandfather at 42. He may likely become a great-grandpa at 62-63.

You guys are fortunate! I got married at 34, my wife had early marriage @24

Meaning you are 10 years older than your wife?

I married 2 months to my 36th birthday and I regret waiting that long.

Goal was to be married at 27.

If you have ever flown on Airpeace before, you will know he's saying the truth.

Myself and family members booked online and were to fly to Enugu enroute Ogoja.

These airpeace people decided to change my mom's date to the next day claiming no space. This is a ticket I personally booked for all of us. My elder brother had to raise his voice including myself and younger ones before these people did the right thing.

Airpeace is a very corrupt and disorganized airline.

Airpeace don meet their match

Always delaying, postponing and cancelling flights.

muyico:
I thought 💭🤔 he igbo by tribe?

Is Igbo a tribe?

Anioma, Okrika are examples of tribes, Igbo is an ethnic group.

JikSneh:
I bought this exact size of cow at 55k 5years ago for my girlfriend's birthday, so what happened? Just in a space of 60 months? Its really disheartening to understand that the emergence of yoruba government has done a big blow to Nigeria and Nigerians.
I wonder how much it would be sold in another four years of yoruba rule....... Good people of Nigeria will prefer every person's regime but yoruba, the reason is beginning to be clear to me

55k in 2020?

Keep lying.

Something not as big as this was bought by me in 2021 for ₦250k

What he said is sensible unless you're a sentimental hypocrite.

Seeing the imahe of the father is enough to conclude on why they were treated this way even while mourning their son.

It would have been totally different if the father was different in appearance.

The report also didn't tell us if both parents were home when the children went on that errand, yet both parents got the punishment.

What a crooked system, the govt still wants to make money off the poor parents.

Twemi:
If you get close to this so called daddy GO’s and mummy GO’s as a Christian you will never attend any church again

Gospel truth


I refused to join any department in my new church for almost 11 years now just because of what I witnessed in my former church.

Even my wife also didn't join because of what we went through in the hands of the church during our wedding period (Because she was still a member and a worker in that church)

I can't say the commenters are lying because i have my own personal experience with a so called pastor's wife who is now the "bishop" of her husband's church after his death.

I lived with my brothers who were church officials/pastor in that church when the owner was alive, the wife would fling people's buckets away once she comes home and see people fetching water from the tap in the Mission house.

It doesn't stop there, heavy curses are laid on whoever came to fetch water at that time.

There was a time she called me to come get food from her kitchen, only to discover the food had spoilt. That was the first and last time I ever took food from her.

I flushed the rubbish food as expected!

She would be driving home alone from church after service and would see me walking home to the same mission house but drives off. (more than 50 times and only stopped to lift me once)

When the Biship (her husband) of the church died, she became the "Bishop" and everything changed.

Thank God I already left the mission house before the husband died (I'm 100% sure she was the one that told her husband I shouldn't be allowed to stay in the mission house after they transferred my brother to a branch.)

That pastor brother of mine also left the church before the owner died.
I also stopped attending the church few months after the owner died.

Now, I heard she now takes rent from whoever come to live in the mission house even though these people are members of the church and also workers.

Judgement is to start from the church says the holy book.

Tinubu installed who?

It seems these people overestimate themselves.

I hope he's safe now that all about him is in the public space?

Nigeria is not a place to be upright without serious backings.