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Premarital s*x occurs when two persons intending to married get involved with s*xual act before wedding. Premarital s*x is not only the very act of intimacy but all other related activities is also viewed as s*xual immorality. These include but not limited to petting, s*x chatting, Kissing, sending or viewing nude pictures etc.

Many a young man having found the lady he wants to marry mounts pressure on her to come to bed with him arguing that ‘one must taste what one wants to buy.’ A child of God should neither mount nor succumb to such a pressure. For the lady, she must understand that not every relationship ends in marriage. Therefore it will be very unfortunate for the lady to give in to such a pressure and in the end not get married to the man in question.

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More importantly, God warns His people to stay away from s*xual immorality. One reasons He commanded us to do so is because our bodies are God’s temple and s*xual immorality pollutes it ( 1st Cor. 6 :18)

Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body. 19 What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own?

God is holy. He frowns at s*xual immorality of any kind and warns His people not to pollute themselves even while getting ready for marriage. He desires that marriage be conducted in the purest possible form (Heb. 13:4).


Many Christians hide under the guise of “we are getting married” to engage in s*xual immorality. God frowns at this because He knows that this act will hurt us. Therefore, He warns us to stay away from it. So here are 7 reasons you must stay away from premarital intimacy even when you are sure that man or woman you are involved with has agreed to marry you.

Loss of Value
When a lady offers herself to the man that has proposed to her but has not taken her to the alter yet, she loses value in the eyes of the man. To him there’s nothing new about the lady any more. The excitement about the lady fizzles out and in most cases the man begins to loose interest and withdraws from the relationship. He may feel he has conquered her and may move on to a new territory.

Mistrust
When a lady gives in to s*xual advances from the man who promises to marry her, she loses the trust of the man. His mind set will be like ‘since she offered herself to him before marriage she can also later offer herself to another man not married to her. So even when the two persons involved in this act marry in future, the trust that should exist between married couples will no longer be there.


Shame
In many Bible-believing churches, prior to their wedding ceremony, the intending couple will be asked whether they have been involved s*xually and if the answer is in the affirmative, they will have to face discipline. One of which is to stand before the congregation to confess their wrong doing. Imagine the shame it will cause you and your family and friends to stand before the congregation in your place of worship to confess that you have committed s*xual immorality.

Feeling of Guilt
For every child of God who engages in s*x before marriage there is guilt conscience afterwards. The Devil who pushes a person to engage in it will afflict him or her will a feeling of guilt thereafter. This feeing of guilt will linger even after wedding and when there’s any little problem later in marriage the two persons involved will tend to think that they are being afflicted because of the s*xual immorality they committed before marriage. This feeling can only be removed by confession, repentance and restitution.


Feeling of worthlessness
The lady who offers herself to a man who promised to marry her but has not taken her to the alter feels worthless, especially when their relationship ends before marriage. She feels as if something precious has been taken from her. This feeling is heightened when she finds out that the man left her to marry another woman immediately after.

Opens door for demons
S*xual immorality opens doors for demons to attack the marriage later. These attacks may include barrenness or delay in conception, infidelity, sicknesses, poverty, turbulence in marriage etc.

Risk of pregnancy
Pregnancy may results from premarital s*x. To hide the shame the couple may opt for abortion thereby further offending God.

Other effects of premarital s*x include contacting S*xually Transmitted Diseases (STDs) like HIV/AIDS, Gonorrhea, Syphilis, Staphylococcus etc


Martin Akachi…..✍️

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Hi Lively Stones,

I just want to say something that maybe no one likes to talk about. I think some men feel like when a woman is with them, they are doing the woman a favor. Like, yes, I know there are plenty girls out there and so many girls are looking for a man to call their own. But that does not mean girls are just nothing. Now, that same attitude, they carry into marriage…like once you marry a woman, especially a faithful woman, then you can do anyhow you like cos you are a man.


My husband cheats on me. I have suspected it for a long time. That I have tried to address it with him for several years but he says I am imagining things cos I really have not caught him with any woman but I have seen texts and nudes. He says there are just for fun, that nothing serious…well, I was not born yesterday. I even caught an STD which I believe was from him one time. After a while, I got tired of complaining and left him to behave the way he likes.

Then, his best friend that stays abroad was around for a couple of months. When this man saw how my husband was cheating on me despite the fact that he has a fine wife like me…the guy started to talk to my husband to do better so he will not loose someone as good as me. My husband boasted to his friend that he cannot loose me cos we are married, and I cannot go anywhere. The one that pained me was that, my husband said no man will want to sleep with me cos I am now shapeless from child bearing weight.


All these things my husband said annoyed his friend more…so the guy told my husband to bet that if any man shows interest in me, that he cannot loose me….my husband agreed….they made a bet that his friend should try and seduce me …to test if I would cheat on my husband. So, this guy tried everything, got me gifts, sent me nice messages, trying to make me fall for him.

I must admit, it was hard when my husband’s friend tried to do all of these to me. I was really tempted. This happened years ago. But I refused to sleep with the man. It was later the guy told me everything he and my husband planned. I later confirmed from my husband that they had a bet of N1M….to try and seduce me. This made me very mad ….very very upset but my husband laughed it away and said he was joking.

Somehow, this thought of my husband thinking he has caged me, inside the marriage, so no man can make me leave him…started haunting me…the urge to now prove him wrong now started. I told myself I would sleep with the first man who tried wink at me. Since then, I have been planning and plotting it. One day, I took my car to the car wash for deep cleaning…The place had a car wash, a viewing centre…a bar…just where people can go and hangout. I suspect my husband meets girls here too.


So, as they were cleaning the car, they brought out two used condoms from my car. It was clear who used them… I flipped….I walked up to a guy I knew looked single and asked him if he wanted to have fun with me…right there in the car wash…behind this guy’s driver’s seat….I and a total stranger had s3x. Without condom too. All I was doing was: getting my revenge for the first time in a marriage of cheating for almost eight years. It felt so wrong but I felt peace for the first time in a long time.


The next time, I took my husband’s car…drove to meet this guy in a spot…had s3x with him and made sure there was evidence in my husband’s car….I even paid the guy for his services. I pretended not to know anything when my husband was asking how come his car is messed with with white stuff….I told him I dont know…I had taken my revenge and I felt peace and freedom.

Then one day, my husband went to the car wash to wash his car and also watch a football match….while watching the match….the men there were talking and he overheard some guy talking about women who come to the car wash to look for men to sleep with them. One of the men boasted that he f*cked a woman who came with a white benz . That even well to do looking women are looking for f*cks around here. The men were just talking dirty . Someone then said to my husband….shey you say your wife has benz…which color is it….all the men laughed ..but it got my husband thinking


The way the men described the woman in a white benz fit my description so my husband figured it out….he came back home and told me what he heard….he asked me if I ever cheated on him….I said no…he said if I ever slept with a man in a car wash viewing centre ….I said no…he asked me why are the guys describing a woman like me….that almost all the men have slept with…that was when I told him….not all the men…only one man.


My husband could not believe his ears…he sat down in denial and disbelief….he asked me why….I told him I just wanted to revenge for telling his friend last year that no one would be attracted to me cos I am shapeless….and that I wanted to pay him back for always cheating on me. The next thing that happened was the most shocking thing….My husband knelt down and apologized to me for being an irresponsible husband and promised to change his ways.


I was not expecting that response from him….I also apologized to him…we made up but since that time….things have not been the same…we don’t talk much to each other…I think he is hurting at the fact that after boasting that no man will ever like me enough to want me….to the fact that I was hurt enough betray him to prove him wrong. He said he cannot face those men again cos what they are talking about is how his wife f*cked another man at the back of the car….

Me, on my path, I am feeling bad at what I did…I realize I went too far but my husband pushed me…made me feel unwanted and he kept laughing at me with all those young girls he was sharing nudes with…all those girls with perfect bodies….I felt so bad about my looks…I wanted to feel good again…but now…I feel we have both hurt each other so deeply just because we took each other for granted.

I fear our marriage will not make it if we keep feeling this betrayal….I want my marriage to work. I know my husband is not the kind of faithful man…I just don’t want him to look down on me. We have both decided to talk to a marriage therapist to help us. That is how I came across Lively Stones online. Please advice us. what do we do….to repair our marriage….it seems we have both broken down every trust this marriage ever had…is there a part to ever healing again?

Anonymous

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Hello Lively Stones Family,

I need your advise. I have been married to my husband for six year, we have a five year old daughter. My husband has a baby mama that has two girls for him. The girls are ten and eight years old. He told me he did not want to marry his baby mama cos she was a runs girl, he had caught her severally with different men, he had to take a DNA tests on his children to make sure they are truly his children.

When we got married, my husband told me that his baby mama took the girls away and said he will never see his children again. For over six years, we never heard anything from this woman until she suddenly appeared last December, on Christmas day. When the bell rang, my husband’s younger brother who was in the sitting room, was the one that opened the door…he came to tell me and my husband.

We were both shocked to see her and the girls and one boy. My husband was so overjoyed to see his daughters. I welcomed them in and gave them food to eat. The children were also happy to meet my daughter, their half sister. We all just thought the boy with them was the woman’s son from maybe another man she was with. It was after eating, that my husband’s babymama said that the boy is my husband’s son.

According to her, she found out she was pregnant after she left him but she was so upset that she vowed not to tell him about his son. And true to talk, the boy looked so much like my husband. My husband was so happy…he hugged the boy several times. I was happy for my husband but also sad that my husband’s first son is coming from the baby mama. I reminded my husband that he has to do DNA too for the boy to make sure the boy is his…my husband agreed.

This woman and her children stayed till evening. When I asked when are they leaving, the woman said they are staying the night. And that, she wants the children to start living with their father cos things are difficult for her. She cannot cope with taking care of them anymore. I was shocked….like, the children can stay but not her…she said she has no where to stay and no money for hotel. So, my husband gave her money to go to a hotel. The children stayed with us.

That night, I asked my husband how am I supposed to look after this woman’s 3 children plus mine. My husband said we will manage cos he cannot reject his children. The next day, my husband spoke to his baby mama on the phone. This woman said she wants to be close to her children. She wants to relocate back to Lagos mainland cos she lives on the island…so she can be close to the children. I said ok.

After the DNA test that proved the boy is my husband’s son…things are normal now. The 3 children are living with us,…they have started school. They are play with my children. Last Friday, their mother came to visit them on Friday evening. I asked her why she didn’t come in the morning on Saturday cos Friday evening that she came was already late, around 7.30pm. She said traffic held her.

This woman stayed until it was almost 10.30pm..I had to ask when is she leaving…she said she wants to spend the night with her children in her childrens room. Ha…I said no way…I asked her to leave…she refused….I looked at my husband….my husband asked her to leave…she was like, why am I so wicked….that she has raised this children by herself for six years and now I want to keep her away from her children.

I told her she can come back the next day, take her children to spend the weekend with her and bring them back on Sunday evening. She started saying I am heartless…she only just wants to spend the night in her childrens room…because she was crying…my husband said ok,..she can spend the night with the kids. That night, I refused to speak to my husband cos I felt he betrayed me. This woman spent the entire night, the next day in our house and when it was almost 4pm….I asked her to leave….she laughed an evil laugh….

The next thing she said is….you are being jealous right….that your husband’s ex is back…and if you keep acting like this…I will take him back from you…hes mine first and will always be mine first. She left around 4.30pm. All through that weekend, I was unhappy and angry at my husband for allowing his ex back into our lives. Clearly, she has an agenda..to get him back.

On Wednesday, my husband said…the children’s mother said he should bring the children to her place over the weekend since I dont want to see her. I said ok…So, after school yesterday….my hubby took the children to drop them in their mom’s place. My people …do you know my husband did not return home yesterday…even till this morning…as am writing you…hes not back from the Island…from his ex house where he went to drop his children yesterday evening.

The only text my husband sent last night around 11pm was that, there was alot of traffic and so he will be staying back on the island…to come back in the morning. I asked him where will he spend the night…maybe in a hotel….he said I should not ask him…that he is a grown man and he can take care of himself…my God….last night…I could not sleep…all I kept thinking was my husband was with the ex…and maybe having s3x with her.

I am boiling with anger and frustration….waiting for my husband to return…almost 10am this morning…he’s still not back…his no is switched off. My mind is running wild….I have been crying too…I know I cant control myself when he comes back but I also feel if I am not careful…I may loose my husband and drive him into the arms of this witch. This woman looks like a seductress…with her big breasts and bum….swinging it everywhere….no wonder why men can’t keep away from her.

Please I need my husband away from her…how do I handle this matter,….I feel like I am already loosing this battle before the war even started. I need advise quickly….

Anonymous

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Happy New Month Everyone. New Month Wishes are widely popular throughout the world. The first day in every new month, just like the new year, means a lot to many folks who usually share messages, wishes, greetings and prayers to their relatives, friends, and colleagues.

Regardless of religious and other cultural leanings, people plead for loved ones, send them beautiful greetings and wishes on the first day of every month. These wishes also serve to prepare them for the remaining days of the month.

So the overall notion is that there’s not any better way to start off every month by sending best and loving wishes, messages, prayers and greetings to the loved ones, and to set the tune for this month being that it’s the Month of Valentine. For this reason, Lively Stones Relationship Blog have gone to compile the finest new month heartfelt wishes that you can send to your friends and relatives.


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A tear-inducing video of an elderly man saying his final words to his wife of 64 years while on his deathbed has gone viral on Chinese social media.

The video, shared on Douyin by a relative with the username Xin Jing Jia You on Jan. 11, was reportedly filmed in the unnamed elderly couple’s home in Inner Mongolia, an autonomous region in northern China, in December 2022.

The senior reportedly died from an unknown illness the day after he said his final goodbye to his 83-year-old wife. His death occurred shortly after they celebrated their 64th wedding anniversary.

“Grandpa has gone after all. Grandma has been crying like a child ever since,” the relative wrote in the Douyin post, according to the South China Morning Post. “He left her reluctantly one day after their 64th wedding anniversary. He left the girl whom he has cherished and taken care of his whole life.”


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rqxXhBmXH8g

The now-viral video shows the man on his deathbed holding his wife’s hand while their son sits beside him.

During his final goodbye to his wife, the man advises her not to compromise if their daughter-in-law or grandsons make her unhappy, to which the person filming the moment tells the woman, “Promise him, Grandma.”

As the man’s wife cries while sitting beside her dying husband, she wipes her tears and tells him, “I hate you. Why will you leave me alone in such a hurry?”

Emotions continue pouring out as the man reaches out to comfort her.

“Don’t cry. I don’t want to leave you but it’s not my choice,” he tells his wife. “It’s amazing that we’ve been a couple for so many years. Think of your two younger sisters. Their husbands both died when they were in their 50s and 60s.”

Many Douyin users were touched by the undying love of the elderly couple in the video, which has now been viewed over 32 million times.

“I cried each time I saw this video,” a Douyin user commented, according to the South China Morning Post. “The grandpa didn’t mention the word love once, but his sentences were full of love. The grandpa was worried about the grandma living without him, while the grandma couldn’t bear to see him leave.”

“He left the world peacefully and with dignity. He didn’t have numerous tubes inserted into his body, like those old-aged patients with serious diseases. He still had a lucid mind and even comforted his wife,” another user wrote. “This old man has my blessings!”

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