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This thread is very interesting. I always loved having my Little farm as a child. I think there is so much to be gained and money to be made in Agriculture in Nigeria (Not to mention the employment that it will create). I totally want to go into farming in the future. The snail link was also "music to my ears"!!

Totally, and I think he must have had some "head" issues, cos I don't even see how that's a revenge to the woman

I could not believe it when I read the comment bellow in an article. Crazy or what? And he even had an Aston Martin. Hmmm, money really can't buy one happiness.

"2008: Gerald Mellin, a U.K. businessman, committed suicide by tying one end of a rope around his neck and the other to a tree. He then hopped into his Aston Martin DB7 and drove down a main road in Swansea until the rope decapitated him. He supposedly did this as an act of revenge against his ex-wife for leaving him"

I have not really had guys reply. I would really like to know Ur point of view on this matter. As we tend to think a bit different from you guys.

Thanks for all your responses, Much appreciated!!

@Charminme
I agree with you, I don't want to just give up. But def, knowing exactly what I want is a good place to start.

@Spikedcylinder
Was Ur comment meant to help me out?

@Sistawoman
It is not my first serious relationship. But he is the first guy I have ever felt this strongly about. Usually I have guys being the one mad about me. So I guess that's why I feel more vulnerable with him.

I am 26 and have been seeing my BF for 2.5yrs now. We have so much fun together, have a lot in common, love spending time together, very supportive of each other and I know he loves me. Although sometimes when we fight / have a disagreement; I feel that he hates me.

We have had our fair share of problems in the past; including issues of trust, communication etc but we have decided to continue working on them.

A bit about him: He is Ur typical stubborn alpha male, very assertive, vocal and set in his ways. He is also tall, handsome, focused & ambitious, caring, v family orientated and God fearing (not overly religious like me).

And myself: Am not as assertive (but when I feel strongly about something, I am known to get a bit psycho). I am very thoughtful, fun loving, beautiful (not being arrogant . I also have a very successful career, very domesticated and take a lot of pride in my home etc, …,
Might also help to let you know that I am the only child and mum raised me alone (so I have not experienced sibling rivalry or the wrath of a Biological father)

I have always been a confident person, and knew to always be strong and look after my self (learning from what happened to mum). But recently I have been loosing confidence in myself in this relationship. I feel that I love my BF more than he loves me. I feel like am trying too hard, and recently I have been getting very emotional (crying during confrontation… pathetic I know!!). Sometimes I don’t even put my point across, cos I know he will have something to counter act my view. It is affecting me so much, that I am beginning to do silly things in the relationship, which makes him madder. He is aware of this and says he hates it when I make him feel like he is bullying me or does not appreciate me, that he wants his woman to be strong and not as if I have to beg him, but that he should be the one running to me. (I was never like this in my previous relationships)

I know I really need to get a grip, but I don’t know how best to. Do I take the back seat more often? (but does that not mean I don’t care anymore?). What if we fight and he does not call, do I sit it out? Because I believe talking is best, rather than playing hard to get. Just because two people don’t agree on something, should that spell the end? What are the best ways to make compromises?

I don’t think relationships should be this hard and that one should be overtly tactful and premeditate all their actions, but I value this relationship a lot and I want to make improvements not necessarily change who I am. All suggestions and advise are wellcome, I really need ur help to pulll through, Cos ur girl aint coping no more 

Thanks.x