Oh Lord!!
I know God will do mine soon.

farady:
Laugh wan kill me with the kind of comments wey i dey read.

@marvelous000 your tuition no loss.

Sometime last year or so, a colleague who just resumed after wedding on stepping into our office was hailed by another colleague, extending his hand to shake him, saying "welcome to prison"! Everyone busted into laughter for a long time. Continuing, his colleague added "yes, na prison you just enter so" and the laugh continued. Months after when that occasion, I will just be laughing when I remember what the guy said. Maybe due to his own sad experience since he was married for just under 4 years before being separated from his wife.

The point I am trying to make is that marriage is a serious business. From the man's perspective, it's not what he would just jump into. At 26, I don't think he wants to go into marriage, notwithstanding whether he has a very good job or not. Guy man want to still enjoy himself (not necessarily frolicking with other girls). He will need to prepare himself emotionally and psychologically.

Again that both of you are into something does not mean he should be displaying your 'pinture' like signboard 'everywhere he goes'. Infact one the contrary some guys would prefer to keep such ladies in one reserved corner. I don't know why sha. No be say dem no love u oh or say dem dey ashame of u oh, ehen.

A lady at 24, already out of school with even a masters is ready to take the important step in her life which is marriage whereas a guy man like I stated above is not ready. Very few guys will want to. I for one would have love to get married at 26, but at that time I was way far from it and my fiancee who was 24 was ready emotionally and psychologically. For my side bread-wise (financially). Due to strike and extra year I was just preparing to go for youth service. My brethren, that time during service our telephone calls that time (Nitel era) dey give me pains. She always pop up the question "when are we getting married" and I go just weak. I did not find it funny at all. Finally we got married 3 years after my service at the age of 30 and she, 28. In total we were in the relationship for about 9 years. It was a long one really and long distant for a period of 6-7years of the entire 9 years.

Op remember your question was if he really loves you, but along along the line marriage things come enter. My advice is just keep an open mind, get yourself busy, thank God you said you have a business you want to run. You did not state if both of you have talked marriage. If not, both of you need to define your relationship and where both of you want it to lead to. If yes, please give him some space and pray for him and for yourself. If he is not coming out straight, please move on, no hard feelings.

Thank you.. I appreciate your contribution.

farady:
Laugh wan kill me with the kind of comments wey i dey read.

@marvelous000 your tuition no loss.

Sometime last year or so, a colleague who just resumed after wedding on stepping into our office was hailed by another colleague, extending his hand to shake him, saying "welcome to prison"! Everyone busted into laughter for a long time. Continuing, his colleague added "yes, na prison you just enter so" and the laugh continued. Months after when that occasion, I will just be laughing when I remember what the guy said. Maybe due to his own sad experience since he was married for just under 4 years before being separated from his wife.

The point I am trying to make is that marriage is a serious business. From the man's perspective, it's not what he would just jump into. At 26, I don't think he wants to go into marriage, notwithstanding whether he has a very good job or not. Guy man want to still enjoy himself (not necessarily frolicking with other girls). He will need to prepare himself emotionally and psychologically.

Again that both of you are into something does not mean he should be displaying your 'pinture' like signboard 'everywhere he goes'. Infact one the contrary some guys would prefer to keep such ladies in one reserved corner. I don't know why sha. No be say dem no love u oh or say dem dey ashame of u oh, ehen.

A lady at 24, already out of school with even a masters is ready to take the important step in her life which is marriage whereas a guy man like I stated above is not ready. Very few guys will want to. I for one would have love to get married at 26, but at that time I was way far from it and my fiancee who was 24 was ready emotionally and psychologically. For my side bread-wise (financially). Due to strike and extra year I was just preparing to go for youth service. My brethren, that time during service our telephone calls that time (Nitel era) dey give me pains. She always pop up the question "when are we getting married" and I go just weak. I did not find it funny at all. Finally we got married 3 years after my service at the age of 30 and she, 28. In total we were in the relationship for about 9 years. It was a long one really and long distant for a period of 6-7years of the entire 9 years.

Op remember your question was if he really loves you, but along along the line marriage things come enter. My advice is just keep an open mind, get yourself busy, thank God you said you have a business you want to run. You did not state if both of you have talked marriage. If not, both of you need to define your relationship and where both of you want it to lead to. If yes, please give him some space and pray for him and for yourself. If he is not coming out straight, please move on, no hard feelings.

Thank you so much.
I understand you perfectly

khiaa:
You didn't say he called it quits, the bolded is what you said.

I know right.
I couldn't have explained beyond that. Its no more about my previous relationship but my present relationship.

jaxxy:


He doesn’t have to necessarily show u off on social media to prove he loves u and yes communication drops when busy or distracted bt that doesn’t eliminate love.

What u should watch out for is his conversation and how deep or genuine they are. Does he sound themsame or less serious, does he talk about his future plans with u in the picture or just randomly. Does he hold u in high regard or just fulfilling all righteousness.

He will always interact with other people and gals and that is fine aslong is he doesn’t change major and important aspects of it relationship. Drop in communication happens due to certain reasons now and then bt the quality of the communication is consistent.

Thank you.
I appreciate your contribution.

khiaa:


LMAO were you loyal to your ex when you dumped him to be with the next guy?

I didn't dump him. He called it quits.

OMOTOWO:


I hope she can answer this question honestly. The girl is only in love because the guy is out of the country and she want to marry him so that he can travel won't with him. She is afraid the guy will abandon her ..she is just attaching selfish sentiment.. As if she no dey Bleep

Not true, if you read the write up well, you'd get that he recently just travelled. And I'm not asking him to marry me now. And I no dey Bleep. Thank you.

richie240:

@purfee,
Men and women are wired differently. While, 4 instance, men are moved by sight, women are moved by what they hear. A man and woman view things mostly differently. When a man sees tissue paper in d toilet, he thinks only about using it for no. 2, whereas his female counterparts think of using it for nos1, 2 and/or 3.
The average man communicates his love for his woman thru gifts, whearas d woman may make light of these gifts if u don't say "I love you".
There's no way anyone of us can precisely confirm dt he's not serious with this relationship. Even if he gives u all d 'attention' u desire, it doesn't stop him from cheating/dumping u (that's if he's the type).
Moreover, if u dump him and start afresh, what's d probability dt d new chap won't be worse.
The only sure way u can know if he's d one for u is thru prayer. This will also save u time wasted on a punkass (that's of he's one)

I won't advise u to call it quit just yet. Go on ur knees and ask for God's guidance/directive. He knows him in-and-out and he won't lead u astray.

Thank you so much.
Prayer is my resort.
I really appreciate your contribution.

Marxizm:


Let's stop this nonsense. You don't have good command of English and you want to discredit hers. If you want to correct her grammar why not do it constructively or better still, face the message.

She asked a question begging for an answer and all you were after was her grammatical construction to debase her. Your behaviour is just a smack of jealousy on her educational achievement, nothing else.


Now, on the issue at hand, I would advise you to stop channeling your energy negatively on the competitive plane which you're doing right now. If you continue like that you will lose him. Draw him to yourself through positive energy directed on the creative plane which works with pure love. When you do this, anywhere he is, he'll feel your love and it will be difficult for him to resist it. And, you'll feel it with certainty.


Don't listen to those who want to strike fear in you that's gone, age, distance,bla bla bla. Gone where? I repeat nothing can stop you when you get it right. You work with fear and that's a killer. Mark 11:22-23 wraps it up. Pm me if you you like.

Thank you so much.
I appreciate your contribution.

Xmen149:


under a year r/ship

26year old guy and he just traveled meaning he is still huzzling that guy is looking at a picture you are not seeing so What level have you attained (graduate,working,skill,presentation,character etc)

Have you been putting his picture or that of two of you on whatsap or social media too.

somtimes people aint actually emotionally ready for new rship after leaving one but they will be forming hardman and hard woman.

Attention is all you crave for and its most likely bcs you have plenty time,.use your time,work,add more huzzle or start ur masters if you are a graduate, na when person get time im dey think nonsense.

Open up for other people coming into your life and attend only to one calling for marriage if that is what you are looking for.

Again,love from a guy is not all about attention (it comes differently depending on the type of person)

I used to when he didn't have a phone.
But now that he's online I stopped cause he's not doing it too. Well I've got things doing but I'm not so busy at the moment.
Well he's still hustling.
I appreciate your contribution.

Chukapage:
stop suga coating Ashawo work , a woman "dating" ten men na Ashawo no be relationships. Back to your topic do you know what is called "ben Johnson" by "chioma ajunwa"? A.K.A oso by Gbalaga! nne RUN!

You're not getting the point. I already stated it's something I wouldn't do.

criminalmindz:

is ur boyfriend tall with slight tribal mark on his face?

Lol.. He's of average height and doesn't have tribal marks

Pauldollars:
Have you even prayed to know if he is the will of God for your life? Do you know if you're compatible spiritually, physically and medically. You're just thinking of marriage, marriage, marriage. My sister, pray first. If he is God's will for you, he will be interested in you.
A woman doesn't have to struggle for a man to marry her. Quit struggling and Pray

Thank you.
I have and still praying.

Pennyways:
education suffers in Nigeria
The sentences, the grammar compositions and errors from someone who almost done with master degree program

Hello Man I'm not writing a formal letter.
'Someone who almost done with a master degree program'.
Olodo like you can see any blunder there.

UyaiIncomparabl:
He is just 26. He's still a growing adult. If you're looking to settling down soon, date mature men from 30 and above. I wonder what I'll be doing with kids of that age range. Don't just waste your time, dear. He isn't getting married anytime soon. He hasn't experienced 'life' at all.

Switch levels already!

I'm really not so keen about settling down now. If it happens now fine but loyalty is key for me.

XklusivGistBlog:



Sis, if he has traveled out of the country, just forget it. I tell you the truth. He can't flaunt you on social media, his next aim is to be come a citizen, and shame on you for quitting your relationship for a guy. He will never value you. You don't know how guys reason o. All the best sha.

I didn't quit my relationship. I wouldn't have. It was due to an unresolvable issue between me and my former guy.
I appreciate very contribution.
Thank you.

paddyofboss:
If you didnt state it that you created a new account we won't respond to your post abi? And why do y'all have to start with "SO"...
Date other guys and then weigh your options. All relationship does not lead to the altar some.ends in the 'oza room'

Lol I wouldn't know.
If I'd wanted to date ten guys at a time, I would but I'm not so into dating like that. I won't condemn ladies that do that but it's not just my thing.
Thank you.

Thank you so much.
I'm rounding up my masters program soon.
Plus I have a business I'm running too. Though there are some challenges now.
I hope to get a job to support my business too.
And I used to have lots of male friends that made him insecure then.
But I'm actually not close to most of them again.
Funny enough I'm not the lovey dovey type.
I just happen to love this guy so much.
I think when I love I love fully, that was the case with my ex before things fell apart.

desvi:
Purfee,

there are no guarantees in life or relationships.
now to your question, how do you know he loves you?
you feel it!
your problem is that you don't feel his love
trust your intuition
if you feel he is withdrawing, then he is
if you want to fix it, leave it alone
don't nag
it's a sure way to push him away more


you MUST focus on yourself if you want this relationship to have a chance
it's your job to be happy regardless of his behavior
love him but ignore him for a while
and focus on being happy
he is focused on himself and his personal and professional growth too
so must you
what goals have you got? what else, other than him, are you passionate about?

pick his calls, reply to his messages, be nice and sweet
but if he doesn't give you his attention, give yourself all the love and attention you want and deserve
prove to yourself that you can be happy regardless of his behavior
and you will have a very happy relationship
with him or someone else
but you will

SILVERLINES:
you haven't gone to school here you are crying for love
see English composition

Lol you'll be shocked.

baby124:

He’s not ready for a committed relationship. Move on. If your man is chasing women and does not give you the desired commitment and attention then he’s not ready. Don’t waste your time. He’s playing games with you. He will learn the hard way. Go and find your husband not the boyfriend you are carrying up and down.

Thank you

MrFuckallday:
The best and only long distance relationship any man should have is through inmessage where they gfs lives some kilometers away (which the app would tell you). You bargain price, they come and you nut and pay them off. Repeat and errbody happy.

Apparently I didn’t read before commenting.

Obviously

Easybela:
distant relationship isn't for everyone, it can only work for matured and serious minded partners. I was in a distant relationship for 5years before I married him and guess what, any lady that starts flashing herself around him,he quickly introduce her to me and before you know it,that one will stop replying my "hi" on watsapp . Staying away from someone you love and being faithful isn't easy,its filled with temptations. He was in the country,your communications dropped, how much more now that he's out. Don't be in a hurry to quit though, but gradually shift your heart towards another direction

Thank you.. Can we have further discussions beyond here?

marvelous000:
I want to be sincere with you as a man; you're in a precarious relationship, and you shouldn't be much emotionally invested in that relationship.
be circumspect with your dealing with him, why trying to make him concede emotionally and commitment wise. if he equivocates, then start making plans to jump ship, while approaching the relationship with stolidity until you see the end.

if it turn out palatable-fine, but if it turn out awry; then you'd better equipped to handle heartbreak in any form it might rear it head.

because by his demeanor, there isn't a palpable ground to reach a conclusion whether he loves you or not. but there's something surreptitious and oblique about him, which is why you've got to be careful.

Your grammar is much tho..
I'll have to open a dictionary to understand you..
Thanks for your contribution all the same.

Good day Nairalanders,

So I had to create another account to share my story.
Please I need sincere counsels from you all.
Now to my story.

I'm in a relationship with a guy for almost a year now. We actually both left previous relationships to be together. In the start of our relationship we were together for few months before it became a distant one.

While we were together I know he loves me but maybe not as much as I would have loved it. We've had issues he has strived to settle and all. When it became distant, he got a job and the relationship got strained cause we weren't communicating as much as we used to. Initially he got a really low paying job but that was in the midst of guys. I still had all the attention. But when he got a job in the midst of plenty females.. Young guys and ladies I felt the relationship strained. I had reasons to accuse him of not loving me. And he says what do I know about guys in love. He loves me and all. Now I feel that I tend to love him a lot. I worry about him being close to other girls at his place of work.

He recently just got a browsing phone and I saw his close conversation with girls at his place of work and he says they are just his friends.

Of a truth all these happening has given me different causes to worry a lot. This is a guy I love so much. We don't even chat much and he doesn't flaunt me on Whatsapp at least. Since he came online he's only uploaded a picture of me once and a picture of us on the day he was traveling abroad.

Now that's another crux of the matter. He travelled after months of we being distant. He says he will come back after a year. He says he's leaving so our lives can get better and we'll achieve our goals.

His friends were telling me he will come back for me. I saw him off to the airport though.

Lemme quickly round up my story here.

I love my boyfriend so much. He says he does too but I'm not feeling it as much. I saw his close conversations and pictures of girls on his phone and he says they are his friends just barely three months of working.

How do I know he loves me as much and how do I put my mind at rest. I know his mum and family members. He knows some of my siblings too. I'm 24 and I hope to get married soon.

He says I crave for attention a lot and I take relationship too personal.
He says he loves me but it doesn't sound weighty too me. And how do I know he'll fulfil all he's promised to fulfil. He's 2yrs older.

I hope y'all can put the tiny bits of my story together and advise me.

Thank you.

Ask questions too I'll be ready to answer.