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bobbyluis:
be careful with that girl,she might invite u to her wedding[color=#000099][/color]








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I agree with you. She told me she would like to get married by 24 or 25yrs but I would jst be finishing my nysc by then

Thowbie7:
Guy,the best thing for you right now is to fully concentrate on your career in order to create a brighter and a rewarding future for yourself!...The truth is, she doesn't love you!...No woman, I repeat, no woman that claims to sincerely and passionately love a guy would go to the extent of keeping"toasters"just to fend for herself!..and to crown it all, she says nothing happens between she nd her toasters?...that's a fat lie!...The guy that got her the Laptop and clothes is surely sleeping with her!...Get that into your skull Man!....i'll advice you to steer clear of that relationship pls...she'll cheat on you more nd more especially this one she's graduating before you!...a word is enough for the wise!

Tnk u so much 4 dis ur comment. But if d girl doesn't love me as u say why hasn't she broken up with me and move on with those her rich toasters? This issue is really confusing me

PunkyVeer:
I find it strange that you're calling the other men "predators", when the real predator is the one you're in a relationship with. I have an issue with people who can't live within their means & make do with what they have, but instead leech off other people because they're greedy at heart. Now imagine marrying this type of lady in the future, what do you think will happen when you can't meet all her financial demands? She sounds very entitled & unfortunately, love has blinded you to the point where you're unable to see that you've been demoted to a glorified "yes man" & a love-vendor. What man would be okay with his woman getting money off other guys? Don't you ever ask yourself at what expense are they willing to part with their hard earned money? She must be giving them something in return & it's a shame that you're fooled by the croc tears + manipulative lip service. Ding. Ding. Ding. Wake up! She doesn't have a good character going by your narration. She's money hungry & if you choose to stay with her, you'll be the one crying in the end.

Hmmm...its nice hearing this 4rm a girl. Tnx a lot

tellwisdom:
Reason why i said you are too small to be in a relationship. This gurl is not yours...she's gone bro. U wan make i break ur heart more??

Ok...

andromida:
If you decide to continue with the relationship its her job to keep the predators away.

You seem so lost in this relationship abeg take care of yourself don't let it consume you.

Tnx...I've really lost a lot of weight. I dunno if its d stress 4rm school or this issue

xpac01:
My brother, the only thing torturing you right now is your too much emotional attachment to your girl. I understand how emotional and crazy love could get a man sometimes because you feel you got to protect your territory. Now my serious advice to is that: you have a better life to live, so detach yourself a bit. Your emotional attachment may not really cause changes in your girl. Just live your life as a fun afterall life's fun.. Keep tabs on her, but mind you when the going gets rough, simply let go. You've got better life ahead. Have fun.

I appreciate ur comment but what ways do u think I can have fun and detach myself away 4rm her cos I seem to think about her all d time

Richiy:
I think you should put that relationship on pause for now. That girl will keep her toasters around and you will only keep getting hurt.

Last bullet: Forget serious relationship for now. Focus on finishing up and hustling your life. Now is not the time to get emotional at all.

Tnx 4 ur contribution. But how are u sure she wouldn't change this time around? I'm only emotional abt d issue cos she's d only one I've ever dated and I would love 4 dat to continue since I'm not interested in hit and run games like my friends are currently doing

tellwisdom:
Guy, u are too small to even be in a relationship involving sex...You are a small boi.

How am I too young to be in a rship? Besides, is that the only contribution you can make?

Before I start, I want to plead with all trolls and those who have nothing meaningful to say to stay off this thread. I'm not opening this thread for jokes or out of idleness but because I need a good advice which I hope to get. Here's my story:
I've been dating my gf since 100l and we are both in 500l now. I'm 22yrs while she's 21yrs and this is my first and only relationship. She will be graduating this session while I'll be graduating next session because I'm doing a 6yr course. We've been through a lot in this rship but I still love her and would love to continue with the rship but the problem is that I can hardly trust her now.
My reason is that she keeps a lot of so-called toasters around her not out of love as she claims but so as to 'milk' them because her parents are not adequately providing for her ( I can say this a very true). I wasn't comfortable with this at first but I had to let it go because I'm not capable to meet all her needs as I'm a student as well and I believed her that it was only me she loves and that she doesn't sell her body in the process. However, she completely shattered my heart when I found out that she went to a club and hotel with one of her toasters on her birthday last month. I couldn't be with her that day because she was on her IT in a neighboring state and she gave me some flimsy excuse that she would be busy with work and all that. When I confronted her, she tried to lie her way out of it and cried like a baby all through but I didn't let her fool me once again.
The guy works in an oil company and he bought her a brand new laptop, gowns and even gave her money. He has also been giving her money before that day and she once claimed he was her uncle until I found out that was a lie and she promised me she was only eating his money and nothing else. She told me absolutely nothing happened between them and that I'm the only one she has ever slept with. She begged me to see reason with her that she's only keeping those toasters so that she can survive since her parents do not have much and that if she didn't love me then she could easily have broken up with me since 100l but I didn't listen and called off the relationship.
However, she kept asking me for forgiveness and since I still love her I accepted her back but I'm having difficulty trusting her. She has accepted to do away with all her toasters and be fully faithful but I still have my fears. Moreover, she will be graduating before me and there's no guarantee that she won't go back to her former self. I feel so much inadequate right now. I still have 2yrs before I graduate plus internship and nysc before I even start working so how do I cope with her needs. Though, I have to admit that she doesn't demand much from me but I feel she would be tempted to leave me for ready-made guys since I still have a long way to cope.
Pls, I need your advice on how to deal with this situation. How do I cope with my fears? How do I keep out predators from coming between us again? How do I handle financial matters when they arise? How do I build up the trust once more?
This issue has affected me so badly that I now see all girls as runs girl and treat them as such. My apologies to all real girls out there. Lemme stop here for now cos I'm on a queue in a general hospital to see a doctor for anoda matter and it has almost gotten to my turn. Pls pardon my typos or if I sound incoherent.
Just advice me based on what you can understand from my write-up and ask any question that you feel is relevant. God bless u all

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I proudly rep sept 26th....where is my birthday mate o

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I'm proudly sept 26th....where is my birthday mate o

It's a shame that many nairalanders do not read a post before commenting. This picture was taken before the inauguration. I don't know why some people are saying bs

bashydemy:
This TANoids will never get brain, PMB/PYO have fulfil there constitutional right by declaring their assets to the CCB (Code of Conduct Bureau) and its the CCB that will make it public. SO if anyone is having problem with it they should approach CCB or the court simple. Beside GEJ did not declare anything and Nigerians never ask for his head.

Bro, pls which school did u attend? No offense

AhmedMustapha:
Lame joke

If u tink d joke is lame then ur problem must be really bigger than that of Nigeria...mr ahmed!

With all the grammatical blunders you made in your post, I wonder how you will be able to manage your 'dream' appointment.

Stop taking cheap crack...by the way, why didn't I see you at the eagles square today? Irrelevant fo0l

@op, I commend you for opening up and sharing your story with us. I'm very sure that someone would learn a lesson from this.

The fact that you feel guilty means that you either did something that violates your own values/principles or something that you think will reflect negatively on you in the eyes of other people that you care about the opinions of (or both).

I'd recommend asking yourself which of your principles you broke, why you broke it, why you have that principle and whether in hindsight the principle or the action that broke it is better for you / more important to you.

Understanding why you did something, even if later you
regret it or disagree with your past self about it, helps. You
can also use a time like this to decide whether some of your
beliefs should change, or to strengthen your grip on your
beliefs so that you do not cross the line with what you think
is right / wrong again.

However, the deed is done and can not be undone no matter what so just move on. Channel your energy into doing productive things like studying if you are a student or work. More importantly, be very careful about people you keep as friends and don't let anyone pressure you to do what you don't wanna do.

This is the woman most Nigerians love to hate. I know she has a lot of flaws but one fact I love about her is that she's not bothered about whatever anyone speaks of her. She's bold, fearless, speaks her mind and greatly supports her husband even to the detriment of her health. I don't think Jonathan would have been so successful in life if he didn't have a woman of strong character such as her as his backbone. We'll surely miss your drama...farewell

cococandy:
there is everythng wrong with that method of feeding.

It is nothing to do with superiority.
Choking risk is more than 70percent in that situation. So I should not criticize it so you won't feel bad?

Everybody is suddenly Einstein!! I would love to know how you came up with your statistics? Besides, give me just one scenario where you saw a baby choke. Different strokes for different folks. Just let it go

How do these pastors manage to brainwash people on a large scale? Or are some human beings naturally gullible? This is a despicable act!! I think human rights organizations and the government should work together to significantly reduce the influence of these so-called men of God.

The other day, it was a pastor giving petrol to members to drink, ordering them to eat grass etc. This nonsense will continue unless something is done

cococandy:
Nobody feeds children like this in my part of Nigeria. At least they are not many if they are at all.

I saw this in Lagos for the first time.

@pxdaniel and misspsicy and co, you guys have to understand not everyone have the same cultural inclinations so I don't why you're surprised that some people don't see it as normal.

Well, if u say so. However, I don't see anything cultural about feeding a baby that way and even if it is culturally related, it is wrong for one to criticize other peoples way of life as if they are superior or whatever.

@op, abeg take style drop ur address. I know many guys that would like to move into that kind of house. Lol

remember007:
hahaaahaahhaahaaa.....U ain't ready boo

Of course I am. Jst trust me. Is it not sambisa avenue? I know there very well na

Jst common 55k for everything :30k for t-fare, 20k for miscellaneous, 5k to buy food that I'll eat on the road

remember007:
no 57 Sambisa Avenue the street before lake Chad...bornu state...com quickly pls am lonely

Alright...I'm on my way. But I need jst one favor from u
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Send me t-fare!!

remember007:
... if this girl gets a good lawyer she will be walking freely on the streets sooner than expected...... I will tell the judge he beat me mercilessly and was about to ràpé me in my father's house,I only defended my self and meant not to kill him......CASE CLOSED... but I don't support killing.

All this one na mouth. Oya gimme ur address, lemme pay u a visit and let's act the drama

Sugarpeaches:
This is the beginning of her end!.. Why did the dude pay her a visit in her family house naw? RIP to the dead..u for no die if u had left when she asked u to.

Maybe he's one of those guys that have been brainwashed to think that when a girl says 'no' she actually mean 'yes'

I don't see any reason why you should go to her family house when you know you won't be welcomed because they don't even know you. She's obviously hiding the relationship maybe because her family wouldn't approve because of her age or something so respect her decision. I'm not supporting the girl for stabbing him though. She should be made to serve the punishment for her crime.