Saddist:
hmmm... U kinda have a similar story with my bae... He is also a medical student in his finals... Very smart, handsome and he is also an introvert... But unlike you he dated ha for 3yrs but she was his first gf... Some gals don't just value wat dey have... Anyway am glad dat gal broke up with him a long time ago... Am so much enjoying my bae and I so much love his calm and gentle nature... So my dear, just forget about ur ex... She is just manipulating u because of ur gentle nature.. Just focus on ur new gf and allow the love to grow..

At first wen I saw ur moniker I thought u were gonna make a sardonic comment. Tnx 4 ur input

KashyBaby:
U "stylishly" wasted ur 4yrs with her & she all did was cheating behind ur back...

Ask urself if u really "stylishly" deserved all that sh1t? And are u willing to waste another 4yrs with her coz of so called love?

U better "stylishly" bump ur head so u will wake up from ur nightmare and move on. Don't give ur love to someone who "stylishly" don't deserved it...

I would stylishly do as u have said. Tnk u

gamaliel121:
Bro, from a bad perspective, I say you keep her and play along and be fucckingg her anytime anyday....let her be like ur intimacy gadget....and when ur hitting her shores, hit her like she's an olosho aka ashawo...

But, from a good boys angle,

You should not leave your new fish for that old one, one thing you should know is, pple hardly change, they just get better in hiding...derz a hi chance she'll still give anoda ma her to pusyyyysy to crench...someone will still kpansh her wellllllll.......


So choose one!!!!!!

That bad boy's perspective is very tempting. I'm sure most of u will urge me to do that if u see jst one pix of my ex. The good boy's angle is a better option for me though

Adeayo7:
Guy, try get sense abeg! Try.. Just try. You see, you're dealing with a Manipulator; a gal who knows how much u love her n because of that is confident enough to sleep around with other guys, knowing that at the end of the day, you'll probably still take her back. I read ur previous thread from last year and I also read this one. And its pathetic that you've allowed yourself to be used in this way. I do not feel sorry 4 u at all. I can't feel sorry for ppl who allow themselves to be used.

I think its obvious what you need to do; do not take her back, period. If they do it once, they'll most likely do it again. If she cheats on you now, what mks u think she won't cheat on u in marriage? Over time, she has proven beyond reasonable doubt that she is not worthy of ur love. I know you'll quickly tell me u really love her, but hey, love is not suppose to hurt. Yes, u love her, but that doesn't mean u shud bcom her puppet. It's time to do wat u shud hv done a long time ago - get some courage and end this charade. I think u're smart, else you'd not be here asking for help. She claims to love u yet she lies to u. She claims to love u, yet she sleeps around. Biko, wch kain love be that? End it now!!

As for ur new gf, end that as well or take it slow. She's clearly a rebound; you're using her to mend ur broken heart. But she doesn't deserve that. U need time to heal and the only way to do that is to spend time alone, get involved in so many tinz, and find ways to improve yourself academically and otherwise. Its clear that u're not cut out for this either; u appear naive and too immature to deal with the demands of a relationship. Be a man 4 once! End this now and start patching ur life together. Good luck!

I'm taking it slow with d new gal. Yeah, I may be kinda naïve now but I'll definitely get experienced with time. Tnk u

SAINTSAMURAI:
@OP calm down and ask yourself: why she kept cheating with u with that particular guy that works in an oil film? could it be becaus of money? maybe the finance uve been given her is too small 4 her, dats why she kept moving with d oil worker, im nt supporting her but u must reason things as it is. Well the truth is that @op you have to report her to her parents or her aunt so dat can bring shame to her, by doing that believe me she will leave u, if u keep chasing her and all dat, she will keep coming, just report her to her guadians, tell them all she did and that u now have a girlfriend whom u love so much. so her family can put her on track and she will stop disturbing ur life.

She was cheating solely because of d money issue since she wasn't getting enough support 4rm home which I can attest to. Of course, I informed her mom of her activities and she was disappointed in her. By d way, I'm not chasing her. She's d one pleading to come back

peedeeasobie:
You don't need or want any advice at all. You simply want to voice your frustration. You didn't follow the first advice you were given and you want another advice.

Listen, this girl will finish you and use you to clean toilet, you will then come back for another advice.
If you were my brother, I would have punched your face. This is how guys who are controlled by the female private part behave- weakling!

Lol..bros take it easy na. I would probably have said the same thing u did to someone else asking for an advice on this issue but I'm the one wearing the shoes and I alone know where it itch. Tnx 4 ur comment though

Snowangel4:
if you know what is good for you.....you just build your relationship with your new gf.

I don't blame you sha.....u are still new to the game
u never chimchomchin....ur ex is a manipulator and a deceiver and I bet u don't want to marry that kind of person.


think before making any decision

Yea...I definitely don't wanna marry that kind of a person. I really wanted to believe that she's changed but I don't think so anymore. I'll continue with my new gf. Tnk u

Cutehector:
continue with ur new babe na.. se ti gbo

Will do just dat. Tnx

ethene:

Op I totally understand how u feel cos av been in a similar or close to ur case before. The fact is it is not that easy to let go off her(ur ex) because truly speaking ur feelings for her are genuine. But my advice is don't ever make the mistake of going back to her cos is not worth it and it would never work rather u would get hurt the more. With time u will get over what u are feeling for her though it may take a while, mine took over 4years before I got over it even while I was on another relationship. Mind u that u can never trust her again. Just like u too, in my own case I saw it coming but I was always carried by her tears and begging not until I finally stood my ground. At best both of u could be just friends and nothing more. Lest I forget some one earlier told u that u were too young; that's a fact and that is another reason u are feeling the way u are feeling now and she is taking advantage of it, with time u would get to know how to handle cases like this. Just like u in my case I was younger and she was my first too but now I am more matured and am very happy for the step I took. Don't make the mistake of taking her back as ur gf for anything for ur good and for her good.

Ok. I really appreciate ur comment

Peacefulgold:
Op let me give u an example wit myself...i dated a girl for 3yrs,and dis happened 2010 ,I was her first guy and she was a darling all tru,she gained admission yle we were dating,there was a time we spent like 3months before we saw ,but before den she has been acting funny,she came to my house after 3months and she was in no mood for romance,I didn't complain,but I was amazed wen she left d bed around 2am and went off d room,I waited she didn't come back,den I stepped out and found out d sitting room door was open,I stood and was listening to d thrash my girl was saying to anoda guy,d part dat blew my mind was wen she was begging d guy to just tell her he Luvs her so she can sleep,I just walked back to bed,wen she came in I asked her were she was coming from and she said she went to ease herself and I told her to shut up cos I have a toilet in d room,I now told her all I heard her say and I told her it was over ,she started crying and begging,I told her I would have walked her out of my house at dat ungodly hour if not because of d luv I have for her,I also told her dat because of d luv I ave for her and I don't want her more pains dat I wouldn't call back d guy she just called and tell him she is in a guys house ,I told her to go back to school and continue wit d guy,but she kept on begging and even opted to calling d guy in my presence to tell him she was done ,but I grabbed d phone and ended d call,and for dat single act I forgave her rite there,but my guy after some months she came to do her IT in lag,she was staying wit her uncle ,but she works on d island and I happen to also do business on d island,so we c almost everyday after work ,one day she was in my shop wen she picked a call ,but d way she answered d call I was uncomfortable and I had to ask who d guy was and she said its there engineer in their office,,after 2 days a friend called me and asked if I've broken up wit my girl and I was surprised at d question so asked y and he said my girl posted a pics on fb where a guy was carrying her on his laps and even commented d guy was her new crush whom she was considering giving a chance, I was so mad cos she added almost all my friends on fb as her friends mostly d guys and dey all had excess to d pics,so I waited for her to come back from office and I challenged her wit d pics and she said its just a publicity stunt,I warned her and told her to pull d pics down,but she refused,to cut to whole story short she started a relationship wit d guy after all I pleaded wit her,I even had to warn d guy for u to know how much I luved her,my guy it was so impossible for me to let go,but after my best guy talked to me and told me I know I was her first guy dat she will definitely want to taste anoda,dat if I'm better she will come back,so I called her ,wished her luck and moved on,wen she came back 6months lata to mend fences,I've lost all luv for her and I told her I've forgiven her but we can just b friends,she kept on beggin dat we should start again but I've lost it wit her,later I asked her wat happened to d oda guy and she said he left her for her girlfriend...so my guy ,its always very difficult to let go but ur case is beta Dan mine cos u already have a new girl,pls focus on ur new girl and never try to meet ur ex one on one...before u know it u will get over her...it always seem impossible at first but trust me u will get over her .... And if I may chip in ,I'm a comfortable learned business man and dis guy in question is just a salary earner who still lives wit his parents...at times dis girls tink wit there anus...wat doubled my pain was knowing I'm better Dan d guy..so guy just move on...

Wow...some gals are terrible! Tnx

Cutehector:
I will just slap this op nw to receive divine sense...

Bros, I really need dat slap o

Good day Nairalanders, pls I need you'll advice concerning my situation.

I created a thread last year september about an issue I had with my now ex-girlfriend. Here's the thread: www.nairaland.com/2632139/romancelanders-pls-need-urgent-sincere but I couldn't follow the advice given to breakup with her cos she seemed genuinely remorse and moreover I still loved her deeply especially because she is my first love.

I had a minor misunderstanding with her in november and she was angry with me. She didn't pick my calls for 4 days and so I stopped calling her. Few days later she called me and we settled everything. However, I began to suspect something wasn't alright so I stylishly persuaded her to use my phone for some time but unknown to her, I actually did that to spy on her with my call recorder. I was shocked to find out thereafter that she was still dating that oil worker I talked about in my previous thread and that she went to stay with him during that period she didn't pick my calls.

I was devastated and told her it was over but she wouldn't let me be. She kept begging me and even calling my parents, siblings and friends to talk to me.

I completely ignored her until sometime in January, I got a text from her that I should pick my call cos it was very urgent so I spoke with her and she told me she needed to see me for an urgent matter. When we met, she was pleading that I should take her back cos I'm her first love and we are soul mates and all that kinda talk. I couldn't trust her so I stylishly took her memory card and inserted it in my phone when she refused to give me the password to her phone.


Again, I was devastated to find out that she went out with this same guy during the christmas break and they even went to an hotel to spend a night. She started begging me that she's sorry and that she has truly repented since this is a new year and I should forgive her as a christian. I insisted that I would have nothing to ever do with her and I completely ignored her calls and text messages since that day until this early morning when I couldn't bear it any longer so I picked her call and she started talking about how she can never do without me, we are soul mates and that she loves me more than anyone else and would want to spend the rest of my life with me.

I told her I already have a new girlfriend which is true( we've been dating for about a month now) and she said it doesn't matter cos she's sure no one can take her place in my life and that I should take her back. That she would never cheat again cos she's more matured now and has truly learnt her lessons. The truth is that I don't love my new girlfriend as much I love my ex. Maybe its because she was my first or maybe because I dated her for about 4yrs I'm not so sure.


I don't want to go back to my ex cos she really hurt me by cheating on me but other than that she was very good to me. Moreover, she's been persistent in calling and texting me and also calling my parents and friends. I know she feels bad for d things she did and that she genuinely loves me. I'm so confused right now about whether I should give her another chance.

I confided in my closest friend and he told me to string her along just for sex sake but that I should eventually dumb her. What do u guys think I should really do?

@hateu2,

7) Guys that are over-controlling and possessive

Guys that are addicted to social media and nairaland

9) NFA guys

10) Guys no have no respect for girls and abuse them emotionally and physically

Levinelsonbob:
Nigeria. Since Buhari took over reigns, it had been insurgence here and there. Fire outbreaks. Acusations and arrests. All negative ocurences. Tanka explosion at Nnewi yesterday, claiming over 100 lives. Today, fire outbreak in Ibadan, razing doun norethan 200 shops. Wow! Hope this government didnt come on board by an oath of innocent blood sacrifice.

C'mon bros, where is your sense na?

If I swear for this man now ppl will say I don't have respect for my elders. Wat rubbish is he saying? He should address that sermon to himself and other useless leaders we have been unfortunate to have.

I can see that this man is suffering from chronic amnesia. When you were contesting the election, you vowed never to negotiate with Boko Haram and that they will be crushed within few months so why are you now saying this trash after his minister claimed that the war is largely won?

Boko haram are not interested in peace. Never! It won't work. He should provide the military with superior equipment, modern training and adequate motivation. Moreover, people do not trust the military because of their human rights record so he should look into this.

The money that would have been wasted in negotiating peace with those bastard.s should instead be used to provide succour to the IDPs and the socio-economic factors such as poverty, youth unemployment and poor education that enables Boko haram to thrive should be addressed.

For those of you that do not believe the op (like Cc jackpot), well this link is for you



www.nairaland.com/2477537/kill-myself-wednesday/1

I jst dey vex 4 here. How can someone be playing yoruba fuji music with those party loudspeakers by this time in the street!! Music is so loud, its like d speakers are inside my room. Thank God gun is not legalized here like in the US, I 4 shoot some people.

@op, most of the women that like to talk after sex probably did not have orgasm. If they did, they'd be too tired to gist. This is a challenge for guys to hit it well. I know wat I'm saying.

SINNZ:



Dimwitted imbecilic dunce! When has masturbationn become a thing to pride yourself with? If I was your father I'd exchange your stupidd ass for a bottle of after-shave. Retardedd fvckward!

Guy, there's no one to do the exchange with na so he has to manage him. Mehn, wetin person no go see 4 nairaland.

titi4fola:
serious

Yea..according to the op. Don't u like it?

titi4fola:
I don't get it, mine are the same. So which one do I belong to?

That should be #1 category na.

Babacele:
I, strongly ,subscribe to warm up excersises before any serious game. hmmm shay I don answer you ba.

Guy, u go sabi score goal wella. #respect

Disneylady:


My guy na true talk you yarn o.....na garri I wack go sleep last night. things are really tough, only God can save us in dis country

Aww...that's not nice at all. I pray that God will bless us with politicians with good leadership qualities who will ameliorate the sufferings of the masses.

Lemme end with this quote by Oprah Winfrey “ Be thankful for what you have; you'll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don't have, you will never, ever have enough"
. Compliments of d season

ify2016:
Village witch everywhere

May God protect other people with your Blood

Not everything is village witch o. Most drivers flaunt simple rules thereby endangering their lives and that of other road users. Though, one cannot completely rule out the involvement of those witches in this christmas period. God's protection is all we need

Davido is certainly top of the list

MrPresident1:


Hahahaha , naive Nigerians everywhere LMAO. You think power is easy to leave just like that? Smh.

With the kind of desperation we have seen in Bayelsa and Rivers? Bros, take your lesson from Nkurunziza in Burundi, APC is not going anywhere in any short time to come

I appreciate the subtlety with which you admitted that APC are not democratic as they often preach. Where then is the change we all clamored for? However, just know that if they refuse to get to the real business of governance and provide the change they promised, they'll get worse treatment than PDP. Take your lesson from what happened in ivory coast

MrPresident1:
Nigerians should learn to reason deductively, smh, what Lai Mohammed is telling you guys in reality is that Boko haram or no Boko haram you people should should get used to the APC government. And that APC will be with you for a very long time to come

Nigerians are wiser now bro. If APC continues like this, they will definitely be kicked out in 2019. Things are really hard mehn

LaurelP:
What is that whitish stuff that comes out from the corner of the eyes when you wake up in the morning called?

That should be rheum. @op, great job. I learnt a lot.

Though what the op posted is a joke, I actually experienced something similar recently. The girl's boyfriend accompanied her to the park and left after kissing her goodbye and smooching (in public o). Few minutes into the journey, she got a call 4rm another guy and started apologizing 4 not waiting for him to take her to d park, that she was in a hurry bla bla bla and that she would make up 4 it by going straight to his haux wen she comes back. Mehn, I was in shock. I never knew it was jst d beginning. She shamelessly made silly calls to other guys with her loud voice but I was jst irritated and had to block my ears wit my headphone. I fear girls mehn

HateU2:
Iro lo ma pa e

Hi, I want to sincerely apologize for those crazy things I said hours ago about you. I haven't directly insulted anyone since I joined this forum in 07 and I don't intend to start now. I was really having a bad time at that moment. Thanks for your understanding. Merry christmas and a happy new year in advance