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Themilkboy:
Call her and send her some money for meat pie and Fanta. She's going to knock on your door.

When she comes, make sure you tell her you'll take her swimming next week and also give her Transport money whenever she comes

she has guys who Dey all these ones for her, from the one wey Dey buy drugs for her to the one wey Dey buy food give her, I no wan follow join that list abeg

Feldie:
She's unimpressed by your apartment

and she keep coming every time I asked her to, u Dey whine

AK481:
For the fact that she keeps coming when you invited her means she likes you and it's all or nothing .

She sees you as someone that should be her bf and not a fuckmate.


She wants you to ask her to be your gf and show some prospect.

I think you are right. There was a day she came, we kissed, and do all sort of things but won’t let me smash, this geh go dey bed, naked but won’t allow me near the coochie, before she left that day she told me say I never even ask her out, said who is she to me. She is always eager to see me, the last time I didn’t picked and return her calls and messages, she was mad. Anytime we see, she always want to hug and touch my body. Omo, she Dey always tell me about people wey Dey ask her out and toast, different gists. Sometimes she go Dey ask me how to know the right one among them, I tire, I just want a consistent supply of her coochie

1x2x3:


You are not speaking the language she understands. The only thing women see beneficial in "friends with benefit" is money.

honestly I don’t mind giving her money, so far say access to coochie won’t be denied

jamesversion:


Are you in Port Harcourt?

yeah what’s up

Sirhush:
You no run the pipe well be that

guy, I laid that thing twice, correct work o

Babamide:
Maybe you no dey give her transport fare

abeg, her house Dey trekkable, economy Dey somehow money no too Dey

bobonla:
May be u be 1 min man. U no service her well

you fit bring your gf come confirm sha

duduade:
She ain't interested in you not even for a sec

I don’t think so, I’ve seen some signs from her which won’t make me agree to your point. She actually likes me but just confused about she Dey move

FuckingNaira:
The last time you smashed her, How did it go?
Do it end in quarrel or what
Throw more lite so we will know how to help you out......
Cheers

the last time we smashed, it was good, we didn’t quarrel, she even stay the whole next day

Auxigen:



For all this rogbodiyan wey dey happen for this country na how to knack be your major problem to the extent you bring am come nairaland.

lol, wetin concern me, make I no enjoy life again

I had a one night stand with this girl, we did a couple rounds and days later, I tried inviting her over, she came but won’t let me smash. Some days ago, I invited her and she left instantly. I still want to taste the coochie again, any ideas what I can do.

Want to make this a friend with benefits thing too, but don’t have ideas

My ex na cele so I get experience

1. Sweet to Bleep, sugar Dey their pussy
2. They are diabolical
3. They don taste many dicks
4. They date yahoo boys or have dated one in the past

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bigcee:

One bill me but I didn't give her kobo. She took another nigga call in my presence and put it on loud speaker. Very immature people.

guy na to run away from these demons o

Saintinoo:


Its been over 5 months I have gotten over her, just wanted to share full experience so others don't fall victim.

No matter what bro,never go back to that demon.

yeah man

Saintinoo:
I never knew that I will one day write about this, because, of all the advice I have been given, I taught it was love in the air.

Some months ago, I created a thread about how I can't get over my girlfriend and another thread where I confirmed that she was a narcissist. But now, I have not only confirmed that I dated a covert narcissist for four solid years, but I have come to learn a lot about narcissism and how to unmask them. Sadly, we have more narcissist both male and female going into serious relationships.
White you are thinking about the problems in your relationship, the fights everyday, the mental abuse etc, you might just be in a relationship with a narcissist and that is the worst thing that can happen to anybody.

HOW DO NARCISSISTS GET THEIR VICTIMS.

Be it male or female narcissist, they hunt for their victims same way. A narcissist targets an empath, they target people who have something they do not have, learn empathy from you just to use it against you.

They portray themselves as the best thing that can happen to you after egusi soup. Yes, my narc ex portrayed those traits, that wife material characteristics, godly and prayerful, dress decent and act same. Do not be deceived, they know that is what you want in a woman so they give it to you for the while.

They will always talk about forever with you, bring so many fairly tails and give you the soul mate feeling, this you will believe you have found a wife or a husband, then you start making marriage's preparation. They have successfully made you commit. Mine always use this word "forever is the goal". All these is to make you commit and when you have committed, they start the abuse stage.

The narcissist common aim, be it male or female is to get you trauma bonded to them. Trauma bond is a situation when you excuse abuse from someone, go back to your abuser because you are afraid to lose them. I cannot count the number of times I went back to apologize for doing nothing, that is trauma bond working for her.

The narcissist will never apologize for their wrong at the later part of the relationship, they will do wrong, and expect you to take it, when you try to speak up, they give you the silent treatment as a punishment. Yea,because they have groomed their victims so much through the various love bombing stages. I was given silent treatment every time, and yes,after going a week of waiting to see if she will apologize for her wrong, I end up saying sorry. I was groomed during the earlier days to not do without her.

The narcissist will love bomb you at the early stage of your relationship, this is not genuine love,it is a tactics to get you used to them and whenever you try to leave and think of the past memories, you will have no choice than to run back to them until they are ready to discard you. In my case,she calls every day to check on me, would spend over an hour with me on phone, gave me pet names and showed the world that she truly loved me. Those were all lies.

WHAT WENT WRONG BETWEEN I AND MY NARC EX.

For me, i thought she was the last bus stop, in fact I had been planning how our wedding even though I had limited funds at that time, I was ready to go against anybody just to wed my soulmate. But then, this problem keep coming. I felt someone was trying to control me, someone was doing wrong and do not apologize. We kept fighting almost every week, and yes, I kept apologising.

Early this year, I called her to discuss marriage plan, she disagreed with everything and went completely mute, I called the next day to resolve and ask for her opinion, she still went mute, the silent treatment increased. I vowed I am done and will not contact her again, went no contact. After two month, I saw her pic somewhere, and since I was trauma bonded to her and didn't heal completely, I went back begging her for over a week. That is was being trauma bond to a narcissist does, it completely makes you their slave.

During the cause of the discard from my narc ex, she knew that I have been trauma bonded to her and the sight of her pic will bring back memories, she used what is called " flying monkeys " to make me see her pics and believe that I will keep rushing back to beg her, because she enjoy all the abuse.

HOW DO YOU KNOW THAT YOU DATING A NARCISSIST; if you do any of those thing I did, you are dating a narcissist.

1. I beg for her attention when she gives silent treatment.
2. I felt like she is just the one.
3. I do not look at any other lady not even a friendly look because all my attention was around her.
4. Her eyes goes dark when she is angry.
5. She shouts and insults to any extent when angry.
6. When she wrongs me and I refuse to call and apologize for reacting, maybe for 5 days or a week, she rages in anger.
7. She belittles me when she is angry, this is a common trait with a narc, male or female.
8. From her story, during our love days, and from my findings her dad is a narc. Pls try and know your lover parent, narc is hereditary.


Did I talk about how I later confirm that my Darling angel was a terrible covert narcissist.

Early this year, I had a neighbor whose 2 years old daughter exhibited the same traits my ex exhibited, the anger, the manipulation, the gaslighing, everything.

Finally, narcissists are demonic, look for these red flags in your relationship and end the relationship the minute you confirm that you date is a narc, there is no changing them, I tried and got hurt. The narc know what he/she is doing.

Narcissism is hereditary and they are born that way, they keep getting worse by the day, so best is to avoid them.

Drops pen.

I had the same issue with you, I can relate with almost 99.9% of everything you said, my own ex even aborted pregnancy for me, we did a lot but mehnn, I had to respect myself and let it go. I was trauma bond with her too as I went back to beg her, I was grossly embarassed that day, she and mum jointly embarassed me, while I was running and begging her, she even took another nigga call in my front, it's crazy man but I'm getting over it. Getting yourself together mate, you will be fine