dharmmylolar:
That's just the mere truth, some idiots are hiding under the Name (Government) to impoverish the country for their own use, if we look at the private hospitals there machines are it would be for one idiot that says he or she is in the Government. God help Nigeria. And God Bless Nigeria

Sadly all Nigerians are responsible for the mess the country finds herself in.

We complain that policemen are corrupt but we forget that these people are recruited from among Nigerians. The same applies to all other professionals.

In our own little ways we need to change our orientations.

The small is part of the whole. If every individual plays his or her role well Nigeria will be a great place.

CaptPlanet:
Salary get level. If you're earning about 400k monthly, you're good bro.

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400k monthly is peanuts to some people. It depends on your expenditure profile! Not everybody can be good with that.

Op quickly unblock your father. God forbid, if he passes to the great beyond now, you will forever regret your actions.

While I believe your father was engaging in overparenting, I think you don't need to be too harsh on him. Always remember that he will not be around forever.

He has advised you on the path he thinks you should follow but you have your life to live. You can exercise your discretions without being antagonistic towards the old man.

Parents keep seeing their children, even when grown up, as babies!

Appswheel:
I read this post on Facebook and found it valuable to Share. I do not know that Author

"I, like many other Igbos have stood on the side lines for far too long, wishing this Biafran breeze fizzles away, but it’s now dangerously turning into a major storm that constitutes an existential threat to Igbo civilization as we know it. Those of you IPOBians, Sympathizers, Rumour Mongers, Facebook Warriors, Facebook megastars, Opinion Leaders and Propagandists escalating the already tense situation must understand that in the end, you'll all be losers, victims and at the same time in more bondage than you ever were. Not my wish anyway, but the perceptible reality. No war ever got won by emotions. Preparation and strategy does, ask any battle-tested soldier. Even the best of them get eaten. Little by little you guys are doing everything possible to attract avoidable conflict to our region hoping that the international community will intervene. You'll be in for a shocker when this meal you've cooked for so long is served up.


Understand this, I have monitored many revolutionary conflicts around the world and know this for a fact, the international community foot-drags at less than a snail pace, if at all, before attempting any interventions in internal conflicts in a sovereign nation and that includes America and Israel you're hoping on. War is a huge liability and no Country wants to meddle. The best they give these days are reliefs not military aids and that is after many must have died including those who started the fire. I watched it happen to Libyans, Yemenis, Syrians and till now they still don't have peace. Besides, you’d be stupid to believe that those countries, if ever there is any, promising to support Nnamdi Kanu are really in for it. Some of them want to use him to initiate conflict and sell their weapons to both sides and make blood dollars. War is an all-comers affair and all kinds of demonically vicious players come to the slimy field to play the hellish game of blood and death. In this case, Boko Haram that has largely been caged by the army will break free to roam with ambitions to finally establish their Caliphate across Nigeria, all because the Army now fighting on two fronts can no longer concentrate on them having become too stretched. Guess what, they’ll come with ISIS on their back. Nigerian Army will be fighting to keep Nigeria together on one front, Boko Haram (ISIS Nigerian Branch) with Caliphatist ambition on the other and Biafra with secessionist ambition on yet another front. That was how Syria got so complex till date and any war in Nigeria today will have a similar picture. Whoever gets overwhelmed will face the other. It will be a long and difficult journey and unlike the first civil war without Boko Haram in the equation, no one can predict the tortuous end. Other Jihadists from across Africa and Middle-East will join in as they always do wherever there’s instability to advance their different brands of Islam. In the end you’ll leave Nigeria and discover you’re fighting other strangers you don’t even know how they came into the picture.


The big boys (international players) like Iran will be there to get there pound of flesh from Nigeria in revenge for the Shiites, Saudi will be there to defend Nigeria, and all will play. Weapons merchants will the start smiling to the banks. Guess where the theatre of war would be, Igboland. We must not allow this! Libyans thought they were fighting Ghaddafi but after Ghaddafi, they discovered other strangers fighting them to establish their different brands of Islam. Same thing in Syria. The words of Saif Al Islam Ghaddafi (Ghaddafi’s first son) keeps ringing in my ears as he forewarned Libyans of these grim possibilities, but okuko nti ike nánu ife n’ite ofe. I never took him seriously at the time but in retrospect, I now see he knew better because it panned out just as he predicted and Libya still isn’t out of the woods. That’s the way it is these days of jihad consciousness across the world. If you ever experience war, you'll never take peace for granted. War is not a movie as some of you think. You could be the first victim. Can you stomach watching your loved ones maimed, killed, raped, tortured, starve to death under slow and painful circumstances? Those are the grim realities of war and in Africa, it is executed with luciferous savagery and psychopathic sadism. The worst of peace is still better than the best of wars.


Funny enough, most of our chest-beating IPOBians will likely die off within the first month or two of the conflict leaving those who knew nothing or are on the sidelines to defend themselves. There will be nowhere to run to as no country in West Africa will agree to accept the ocean-sized volume of refugees. When the Rwandan genocide was looming, everyone was running his mouth until the death hurricane they courted so hard swept across their country, they wailed and shouted for international community to intervene but none came. That's the way it is. Paul Kagame, their current President it was who ended it. And they vowed to “never again”. They learnt from history and have completely removed tribalism from every facet of national life and are admirably making astounding progress as one of Africa's best. My advice, agreed, Buhari hasn't treated us as well as we wanted, but wait till 2019 and make amends. I have listened to Nnamdi Kanu on several videos and my conclusion is that he is plain naive on how things roll in a conflict situation. On one occasion he bragged that it would take him only two weeks to reach Sokoto in the event of war. I don't know what weapons and extra-terrestrial strategies he has to execute that. War is an unpredictable undertaking that you'll be ignorant to estimate which direction it goes. As it is, he has no weapons just yet and is bragging. Many of you believe him and even ascribe infallibility to his words. I have lived a couple of years abroad and what some of you don't know is that many of our people there egging you on don't have immigration papers and are praying for an outbreak of hostilities in Nigeria so they can claim asylum on the back of it. We must advise ourselves on this current path of self-annihilation. Some of you think Biafra will be the end of all your problems, so South Sudan thought, as did Eritrea, but sorry it will be the beginning of new ones. Now take this to the Bank, it will even be far more difficult for any country to touch any conflict here with a long spoon than it was in the sixties. Reason? Then there was the prospect of oil but today oil is out of fashion and even as it is, Nigeria is begging for buyers and nobody's buying. Osinbajo said that much a few days back. Now, tell me, if they spend their money intervening in your conflict to save your asses, what will they get in return? The best they can do for you is to condemn what is going on, then more out-pouring of condemnations and then more unleashing of floodgates of condemnations, but NO ACTION while you die in numbers.


You often argue that a call for referendum is not a call for war. I agree completely! Very true! Referendum is a right not a privilege. Even Buhari asserted that much in favour of Palestine when he addressed the UN. However, it is plain naivety to assume that all that is enshrined in international law is enforceable. UN has no mechanism of enforcement. Countries and Dictators constantly flout it and nothing happens. Even if something were to happen you’ll all have decomposed in your graves by then. A show of bravado will not lead you anywhere Umunnem. Call me a coward if you like, but Chinua Achebe told us that we often stand in the house of a coward to point at where a brave man ONCE lived. In any case, isn’t it foolishness to challenge an army that has been stockpiling arms since 1960 when you on the other hand haven’t bought a bullet just yet? Papa Achebe puts it this way, “Only a foolish man can go after a leopard with his bare hands”. As impulsive and as tempting as it may get, tone down your rhetorics, invectives, acerbics, and cursing on social media. Cherish the peace you now have at least Igbos are not worse-off than other regions despite never being in power. While there is grinding poverty in other regions, the highest income per capita in the country is posted by Anambra and other Igbo states ain’t doing badly. Our people live well, build better houses compared to other regions and it's all a miracle given the scratch we started from after the war. Why do we want to throw all that away because of ego and start all over again? Is it a curse? The Hausas though having been in power do not even live a better quality of life than Igbos. Let's be wise and not give opportunity to destroy all we've achieved as a people.

I condemn in the strongest of terms the killing of unarmed people by Nigerian soldiers, killer herdsmen, and do not by any means say Nigeria is what we want it to be but understand Biafra wasn't Ojukwu's first choice. At Aburi his choice was a return to true federalism which he knew was a better deal for us than secession. Nigeria failed to honour that agreement and continued the killings forcing him to declare a Biafran Republic to save his people from slaughter and it's understandable. Nigeria owes us tons of apologies, I agree. But brothers, let's think again! A Biafra today will even be far less economically viable than it would have been then. Reason is because then we would have used oil money to jump-start the new country but today oil is so unsellable to the extent that Venezuela with arguably the largest reserves is grappling with severe economic problems. Kick-starting a new country from the basics would be painfully slow and may outlive our generation to even get the basic things in place. Arewa youths know that, the reason they have asked Nigerian Government to let Igbos go, only for Nnamdi Kanu to start asking for Benue and Rivers because he knows that Igboland alone isn’t viable. Asking for Benue is laughable because they were never part of Biafra and have made it clear to all, as did different Rivers groups that they don’t want Biafra. A handful of his collaborators from those regions pledging allegiance to him does not equate to an entire people. Majority of their people hate this Biafran idea and have made that much clear. Some funny IPOBians are also hoping on Asari Dokubo and FFK. What a funny bunch being used to fight other people’s fight. Why won’t they take up the gauntlet or is it only us that is suffering injustice? Don't even think corruption will suddenly disappear in a new Biafra as some naive IPOBians hope. If they give you Biafra today, your eyes will open up to new unpleasant realities many of you haven't even factored-in in your agitation but then it would have been late. I know voices like mine are often loathed and cursed by IPOBians but some of us who know the truth can no longer keep quiet while you drag us all into avoidable chaos. I owe our people the truth as I see it. Curse me all you want, it's OK. Umunnem, ka ako’n’uche na udo chianu biko! Patience solves all things, with time. Let our people think again and know what is looming. Stop your facebook and social media vituperations, cursing, grand standing and join me to educate others. De-escalate this situation and speak words of kindness to others. Even mighty America de-escalates after tensions with Russia. It’s called wisdom. North Korea provokes South Korea most times but the South always de-escalates tensions knowing that the North hasn’t got anything to lose in the event of war but beautiful South Korea will lose quite a lot. In our case, all the beautiful houses and streets in Igboland will be razed to the ground. Why should we be starting afresh all the time? It will even be more painful if we lose again as was the case in 1970. As it is, it’s not looking good!".

If you’re reasoning along with me, please copy and re-post this message. #Copied.

This your post deserves to be an original post by itself. A lot of people might miss the piece as it is buried with other several posts. You will do well to consider starting a topic with the insightful piece.

"The death of one man diminishes me because I am part of humanity"

I have never commented on issues that have a tribal slur on this forum because I vowed never to be a party to ethnic bigotry.

However, with recent occurrences I feel compelled to advise our teeming youths to desist from heating the system up any further.

Name Checkers Association members should kindly remember that the seeds of discord they sow can decide to germinate and fruit in several ways that they may end up regretting.

The South Eastern elders must counsel Nnamdi Kanu and co to jettison their style of agitation. While it is the right of any group of people to seek self determination, if they so choose, it is not fair to stereotype other people and call them names and incite your people against others all in the name of fighting for your rights. Citizens rights and responsibilities are not mutually exclusive. You can demand for your rights without being abusive; when you tow that path you alienate a lot of people who may be sympathetic to your cause.

President Buhari should be advised equally to find peaceful means of defusing tensions in all areas of the country.

Please let us all remember that we are all descendants of Adam and Eve and such we are brothers and sisters.

May peace return to our country.

EgunMogaji:
I have been out of the country for a while so I don't have my fingers on the pulse on happenings but I do have a serious question.

Why do these thieves take the money out of Nigeria instead of using it to develop the country?

I am thinking that if this female thief, alleged for gods sakes, builds, for example, a world class hospital in her village where she employs nurses, doctors and support staff. Charges a decent scaled fee, then the populace might turn a blind eye.

The stolen money would still be in circulation and earning interest and creating industry and stuff.

You have captured the major problems bedevilling the Nigerian economy: theft of public funds and capital flight!

If the stolen funds are invested in Nigeria there may not be much need for foreign investors.

Edemaya:
I pray your wife or anyone close don't have such headache!! I am a living witness, I once had headache with which I was groaning, seriously, it is very possible.

Dear wife (OP), your husband is not exaggerating, some could have pain which makes someone to groan.

OP, please take your drugs accordingly, don't skip it anymore. May God heal you.

Thanks. You are a blessing to me. May God that healed you perfect everything that concerns you. Amen.

obicentlis:
Op, you are really at risk with this BP.

My comment now is not about your wife but about this BP, because I know how dangerous it can be.
Firstly, you should have a BP Checking Kit to always check your BP every day, Morning and Night, when you notice any changes , you rush to hospital or with Doctors advice, you should have a particular medication that you normally control it with.
N. B: BP is very dangerous . Don't give room for any chances ooo.

Thanks bro. BP is indeed a silent killer. I have a digital kit and I am paying close attention to the stuff.

I urge all people above 40s to start monitoring their B.P too.

Looks like there are lot of factors that make people more predisposed to it now more than ever. Fast paced life styles, diets and other stuffs.

priceaction:

I like this bolded statement. Good one.
@ op, your bp must be very high probably systolic above 180/110 to be giving you this type of headache, unless otherwise factors are responsible. If you are drink alcohol, pls stop it and take much time in worry less. Take your medicine serious too and do good follow up . all the best.

Thanks my brother. Much love for your time and concerns.

eyinjuege:
If yoir high blood pressure still causes you so much pain, it's either it's not well controlled or the bp medicines are causing the pains.
If your bp is not well controlled, your Dr needs to review your medicines as you're joking with a sudden stroke.
If your bp is fine, it may be a particular bp medicine causing the headaches.
The headaches may not even be related to your bp!

You could have a brain tumour for all you know, or it could just be a migraine or tension headaches.

Thanks. I intend to discuss all the issues you raised on the next visit to my doctor.

However, I have not followed the usage of drugs tenaciously as I admitted earlier. Besides, the headaches are very far between and they usually subside once I use my b.p drugs.

Thanks once again for reminding me to stick religiously to my prescriptions.

nursennenny:
Am a nurse and I understand how severe the pains are .Next time u go to see ur doctor ,take her along .
And then plsss stick to ur treatment regimen religiously and know when to take rest ,watch the food u eat in fact monitor all aggravating factors.
Better to prevent the pains than explain them .

Thanks nursennenny. I appreciate your contributions.

Prognose:


Lol, be like say na your wife dey give you d bp

You shouldn't be having headaches if you are adhering to your antihypertensive drugs. This is not a good sign at all. Please take your medications regularly and go for your blood pressure check at least once a month. If despite taking your bp drugs your blood pressure still is not under control then I advice you change your health care provider.

Another thing you should do as a matter of urgency is a CT-scan of the brain. Persistent painful headaches may be due to a space occupying lesion or even a berry aneurysm. Both are not good news. Please do a CT-scan of the brain at least in the next two weeks after reading this message, don't delay further than that. I would have said do it immediately but it's a little costly.



Madam, tension/stress/bp headaches can be terrible! The only reason your husband is not crying instead of groaning is probably because he is trying to be macho. Please try and be understanding. I know you think he is disturbing your sleep or something but you should be more concerned about your hubby's health than annoyed. Please ensure he gets checked up it is very important.

Thanks a million. I will work on your suggestions. Like I admitted earlier, i sometimes skip my drugs once I feel I'm okay. I am however trying to deal with that.

yomi007k:


Food is drugs and drugs is food.

If u want to solve this issue, use ur drugs daily and adopt other lifestyle measures.


If u continue wt d way ur thinking, u may not be happy wt d noncompliance results.

I appreciate your contribution and your advice is taken. Thanks and stay blessed.

maclatunji:
You need to be mindful of your groaning and try to reduce it, your wife needs to be quiet about this and be supportive by knowing what to do to help manage your condition or ease the pain.

Madam, you are adding to your husband's health complications, do you understand that his condition is life-threatening?

Thanks for the contribution. I will try as much as I can. I don't even pray to have such headaches. It is bad enough to have HBP not to talk of when it is accompanied by headache.

Oyindidi:
You're welcome sir, may God heal you ijn

Amen. May God bless you abundantly.

teemy:
questseeker, people find it hard to believe those they see as liars or as liars themselves do not have trust for other people's words. if the former applies to you, it is better to stop those small lies or jokes that could make wifey not believe you.

She is aware that the B.P issue is not a joke. Like I mentioned somewhere, she has driven me to the clinic and the pharmaceutical store on at least 2 occasions.

What she says is that she doesn't know anyone who groans when in pains. Nonetheless, thanks for your time.

Oyindidi:
She should be worried about what you're going through not mere groan. Madam bear with him and don't make him feel like an alien cos he groans when in pains. Your husband is suffering from hbp and your constant complains can worsten it.

Thanks for your thoughtful contribution.

yomi007k:

Then dont skip your drugs

Thanks. Sometimes one just wishes never to live a life where you would need to use medications everyday.

EmeeNaka:
There surely must be a co-morbid condition in his situation. What kind of HBP comes in bout, save he is reacting to his drugs.

I might have used the word 'bout' out of context. But I meant this painful headaches sometimes (not always) accompanied the high BP.

Previous medical checkups had precluded comorbodity and my doctor had told me that the occasional headaches are symptomatic of very high blood pressure.

I only experience these spikes in the blood pressure when I skip my drugs. Thanks.

All helps are highly appreciated.

WiredLeggings:
You don't need to compare your pain to anyone else's. Besides, headaches can be excruciating. Your BP must be extremely high for it to be causing these headaches, which must be really severe for u to be groaning in pain each time. U might have other problems too associated with this high BP or other problems that're contributing to ur headache. Someone like u would be a good candidate for an MRI. Your wife should be empathetic towards you. Each time you're groaning she should be feeling ur pain and comforting you, not complaining at all at all. It's not as if u are groaning intentionally.

Thanks for stopping by. I consider my wife an adorable person, even though we have little differences like most couples.

That said, I guess she doesn't understand how painful some headaches can get. On one occasion when we had this argument, I told her I wouldn't wish her or anyone to experience that kind of headache.

God bless you.

elektra:
Your wife is being highly insensitive (to put it lightly)
She should be worried about your HBP and headache. She should care for you any way she can during the bouts of headaches.
Does she show any concern at all?

She has driven me to the clinic/ pharmacy on one or two occasions. But, the fact that she does not seem to acknowledge groaning comes with pain is the painful aspect.

And, it is not as if these things happen too frequently. Maybe, once in a while when I stay off my drugs and exert myself too much.

baby124:
When you go for a doctors appointment, take her with you. So that she can observe and ask the doctor any questions she may have. So she understands the seriousness of the condition. Sorry. Also, try to get some BO medication to prevent all this groaning. I know people with high BP and they are on medication. I have never witnessed them in pain.

Thanks. Like I explained, it is not the high b.p that causes the groaning; it is the headache that comes with the b.p bout. Note, that this does not happen always but only when the headache is much.

Thanks. We have been to the clinic together. As a matter of fact, she drove me to the clinic on one of such occasions.

Thanks and God bless.

Dear Nairalanders,

Your pieces of advice will be very much appreciated. Married members, are kindly encouraged to make their contributions.

I am a young man in my mid forties and i have been married to my dear wife for 11 years. Between us, we are blessed with wonderful children.

However, I have an history of high blood pressure which I have been managing for about 5 years now.

Sometimes, at the peak of this high BP episodes I experience excruciating headaches that makes me to groan in pain, unconsciously.

These groans are now the cause of this post. My wife has said severally that she does not understand why I groan when I'm in pains.

I had explained to her that my groaning whenever I had the pain is an unconscious act that is fuelled by the pain I felt and those groans were not to scare anybody. Actually, if I could, I would rather bear the pain without my wife or children knowing I was going through pains.

This night, we had this discussion again and she said I was the only one she knew that groaned whenever in pains. This shattered me as I feel I can't be the only one who does this.

I reminded her that women in labour often groaned in pains too but she retorted that pains from headache induced by high blood pressure cannot be compared to pains during child birth. It is not my intention to contest her assertion.

However, I honestly need to know if I'm the only one who groans when in pain, if other wives on this forum share my wife's sentiments and how would you deal with this situation as the husband in my shoes.

Medical practitioners' comments as well as the comments of people who have experienced headaches induced by high blood pressure will be appreciated.

Note, my wife is a Nairalander and I intend to let her know that I created this post. We all can learn something new everytime. Thanks.