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Sorry, I think they stop me from making it too long (probably thought it was spam).

Only to find out that the other person was talking and I interrupted.

When my girlfriend told me I might have ADHD, I was in my first year, she said I behaved like someone she knew that had ADHD, at the time, I know what ADHD stood for, but other than that i didn’t know anything else about it. When she said it, I brushed it off as just nothing, we came across a video on YouTube, this Asian guy that has ADHD said did a funny video on how to know you have ADHD (your phone listens to you, trying saying ADHD before typing it on google, I bet when you type “a” you’ll see ADHD), it was very similar to what I experienced but it was over exaggerated and I took it as a joke. This lady had to look up the symptoms and show me, she pointed out how I show each one of those symptoms.

I finally agreed, I’ve been trying to get a proper diagnosis and hopefully get medication, it can be managed.

I told my mum, she didn’t take it seriously. She always complains that I’m absent minded, she said I’m not responsible, I’m the dumbest person she has ever seen and all that. I can never forget what she told my school’s guidance and counselor lady. I wanted to be a science student cause I still love science, I loved watching science documentaries, so science was what I wanted. So there I was filling out the questionnaire on things you like to see what class you’ll be in and my mum told the lady that if I fail first term, they should remove me and she know I’m too dull for science class.

I passed waec with 5 b’s and 4 c’s not because I wanted to prove her wrong, but because I didn’t want to stay an extra year at home.

I don’t want to make this long, if you have any questions, I’ll answer them.

A lot of people don’t really know much about ADHD and even when they know, they don’t ever take it seriously. ADHD (attention deficit/ hyperactive disorder) is also divided into two part, the attention deficit and the hyperactive part, mine is the attention deficit part, most people just call the attention deficit part ADD (attention deficit disorder).

I have always felt I wasn’t as smart as the average child, I used to fail a lot in primary school. My mum did everything, got a lesson teacher and still, I was failing, there was this time where my lesson teach brought the script they were supposed to set in my school back then, and he taught me all the answers and I still failed that semester. I fail all other subjects except cultural and creative art, the lady had a way of making the lesson fun, and we always had project where we would make clay houses and animals. That was fun, unlike math where the teacher would write a bunch of big numbers and do something, then BOOM, answer! Or music class, where the man would make us draw some sofa notation and force us to buy flutes.

I left primary school, went to junior secondary school and like primary school, I was an outcast. First, I wasn’t really the social type, I mean as children we learn to tell the truth, right? But then I got to secondary school, and I found out that telling the truth hurts peoples feelings. It took me sometime to understand how to tell people what they want to hear to keep being friends with them.

I had to teach myself how to read for my exams, I had to make reading for my exams interesting to help me understand what I was reading. My peers would just read and it’s in their head, but with me it was different. It is not that I’m was not sharp, it goes like this, I would pick up my book and when I remember the magic the teacher performed, I loose interest completely, but on the other hand, if the class was interesting and teacher made it captivating, I would only need to skim through my book and I would pass with a distinction.

By the time I got to science class, I had already taught myself maths and basic science, I loved science but all my teachers back then made it seem like science was just about numbers, big words and calculations. I can remember the time I learned the first 20 elements with a song, and I think it’s safe to say that I’m never forgetting the first 20 elements.

I was in senior school, I would be in the middle of a boring class and thoughts would fill my head, before I knew it, the class would ended, I would find out that I didn’t write anything or hear anything. These episodes became more frequent and I didn’t know if I never noticed them, and soon I would start to notice that during conversations, I would go into on of my thinking sessions and I would be jolted back to reality with the sound of my name, or I would say something only

Brother, I know how it feels believe me, you’ll pull through. You’re strong

My mum was never strict, she never forced us to do anything, she would ask us about the girls we liked and would want to meet my girlfriend to advice us about sex and how if we aren’t planning to get married, having sex will ruin our lives. My dad was also easygoing, when we got to 200 level he advised us to always have a condom in our room, he said he knows what it feels like being a young man and having your hormones take over sometimes, better safe than sorry.
All this advice made me a very calm and careful person when it came to experimenting things.