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no comment till I hear the other side of the story. so many things not adding up

victor1464: u igbo should kip quiet and say wat u know about urselvs.dont say nonsense about our ukwuani people..the urobo man dont 4ce iskoko 2b an urobo,neither d bini man 4ce an esan or etsako man 2 becom bini..igbo language was gotten 4rm Ukwuani language.u igbos r speakin adultrated ukwuani language..i advice u people 2 learn d real language called ukwuani and stop speakin wat we dont understand(slave tongue).The UKWUANIS r MAIN PEOPLE....UKWUANI is a language dat is similar to ur language language n edo language..it is found in delta state n ndokwa,east,west nd ukwuani l.g.a..but yet it considered as an ethnic group in nigeria but it is a part d anioma(a socio-cultural group of delta state)..even urobo n isoko r similar too,bini n eshan too,igala nd idoma too..respect every tribe 4 who they r so dat peace will reign in dis nation..we can ourselves brothers instead of abusin our selves

You sound so confused and as if you are running away from something that is not even pursuing you. The question remains what does it mean to be Igbo? You really need to open up your mind and seek for answers and stop running away from your shadow. Shalom

zboyd: The gods may be crazy but I sure as hell ain't!

Hit me...hit the door!

My teachers were the women who came before me AND advised me on a route they should have taken the very first time their hubbies put hands on them.

And you think I didn't listen?

I listened very well and observed very well.

I've lost two friends to domestic violence...victims of murder suicides. The husbands shot them to death and then themselves, leaving a total of 5 orphans behind.

So who's zooming who?

There's nothing like the voices of experience to guide you to the right path.

I speak for myself and no one else.

So glad my long story amused you.

So wonderful you think my stance is rubbish.

However, I do find it quite offensive that you think I'm deceiving myself.

You think I don't know my own mind?

Did you read the part where I stated that my hubby and I are in total agreement about certain boundaries that should NEVER EVER be crossed?

And...just for the record, I feel the same way about cheating. If my husband cheats on me ONCE, the marriage is over. Or should I forgive him and take a chance on catching a STD medicine can't cure?

To each...his or her own.

Divorce doesn't concern me or frighten me. In such circumstances...survival and the emotional health of me and my kids does.

Anyway...it is well.

Carry on!

Another tales by moonlight. its obvious from your rantings here you're not married. you dont even know what marriage entails. So sorry for the gullible ones that believes this nonsense you're writing here. Pls extend my greetings to your imaginary husband. bye

zboyd: On this issue, I can only speak for myself.

I, for one have been married for 21 years w/4 kiddos and neither me or my hubby have laid a finger on each other in all that time. Have we argued? Of course. Do we fight dirty? Let's just say that first year was a doozy, until we figured out that fighting fair was the better option. Now we rarely argue over anything.

So yes, I know what marriage entails. It's entails friendship, mutual respect, compromise, communication, kindness, consideration, intimacy, appreciation and all things positive.

It doesn't include violence, cheating or any other thing that will negatively impact our marriage or the lives of our kids.

After that, and as it stands now, at any time, my hubby loses his mind and hauls off and slaps the taste out of my mouth, that is the day he can kiss our marriage goodbye and that goes for me too, if I lay hands on him. And who's to say we won't lose our minds a second time, with that time being worse? Both of us have a very clear understanding of certain boundaries we are NEVER EVER to cross. What message/lessons are we teaching our kids about marriage and resolving conflicts within marriage?

As for leaving, due to consistent violence, I might not live through consistent violence. One blow could end me or seriously injure me, especially if it's a hard enough blow. Hubby is well over 6-ft. tall with bulk to match. And HE'LL be the first one to pack HIS bags and go, not me, because he'll KNOW he committed a serious breach of trust.

NO SECOND CHANCES!

And I could care less who says what, who gossips, who points fingers, who thinks divorce is just horrible or who tries to blame me for breaking up the family. Hassle me and you will see me sprout horns and spit fire. It's best we divorce quickly and smoothly and try to remain civil to each other, for the sake of the kids and promise to never use them as pawns.

As for being a liar...the Devil is a liar if ANYONE thinks I will continue in a marriage where my husband, the father of my kids, the man who promised to love, cherish and respect me raises his hand to me in anger. I don't give a ratz patootie what he's going through. For me, there's no excuse for violence of any kind in my marriage...NOT EVEN ONCE.

I WILL sign on that dotted line!

Another long story for the gods.....
Tis always so amusing reading all kinds of rubbish on nairaland. Make una continue to dey deceive unaselves. Imagine this one saying she will leave a marriage of 21 yrs becos of a one time slap.

omo , ewa agonyi, tiger battery,

one interesting tin about ALMIGHTY GOD iz HE allows mi 2sleep n wake up.BABA IBU ONYE EZE .

ewo! na water b dat? na BABA GOD help us.