₦airaland Forum

Interesting thread, however lots of ignorance being displayed. What you are, can be vastly different from what you wish to be. Carbon dating has actually shown one civilization to be older than the other, yet people are still here arguing. My 2 kobo! mtsheew....kissing teeth!

, not gonna happen.

@ everyone
I really do appreciate your contributions to this thread, I actually enjoyed reading most of your responses.
I didnt start this thread to bash women, which I stated in my first post, but I realise I may have generalised, afterall I havent met all Nigerian girls abroad, I apologise for this, however I did say it was "most" Nigerian women. I actually meant most I have met, which apparently isnt too far from the truth judging from the response from other guys here.

I dont want this to become a pissing contest, but for a bit of background, I may have to explain a bit about myself, I'm just a regular guy, I live a modest life. I have dated a good number of women, so I am attractive enough and I have no problem approaching anyone. Thing is, I dont wear flashy clothes and I dont have a car because I dont need one. I invest in real estate, which is all I'm focused on right now, so I live in the basement apartment of the building I own.

@ Jackieugo, the Nigerian women I got involved with seemd nice at first, I met them at social events, so I was dressed real sleek, one thing led to another and I spent the night at their place, but when they come to my place and they see I dont seem to live flashy like they do , thats when the attitude starts (obviously from making assumptions) and I find this very shallow.

Then "most" of the  other Nigerian girls I meet on random days, and I'm simply being friendly with, are usually unfriendly and trying to sound real posh.

So from the replies I have got here, maybe its because I dont live a flashy life and just looking at me on the surface, in my plain white T and jeans (I wear this almost always), they think I'm poor.

Anyway, I may be too fixated on marrying a Nigerian, its just that, I may want to go back to Nigeria at some point, and a foreigner may be scared to go with me. I have a few friends going through that now and I would like to avoid it. At least I understand a bit more now, I'll just let the unfriendly ones be.

Sorry about the long essay, and for the record, I respect and love Nigerian women. 1 Luv.

@tpia@
You know what, I'm sorry if I have offended in any way, please be cool. I just wanted some insight.

@tpia@
lmbao! I just asked a simple question, thats why its a forum, you really dont have to post anymore comments. Thanks for your contribution though.

Y'all shouldnt get worked up about the one night stand comment, those girls asked for it! I never plan for things to work out that way.
@tpia@ please no insults, its really not neccesary.

@ ogugua88,
So basically you really dont have a bad attitude, I can understand  giving  attitude to try and get someone of your back, but I'm talking about something different, I mean the girls that just assume they know what you want, so they start off giving attitude , most of the time I'm  ot even interested,  but I like meeting Nigerians so I'm always quite friendly.

@tpia@

To be honest, most I've met have bad attitudes, which I find annoying, they therefore tend to be one night stands. It would be nice to have a normal relationship with a Nigerian girl, thats all.

Thats fair enough, but must that attitude be used against all and sundry, even when they are not neccesarily interested in dating you (i.e if you give that attitude to all Nigerian guys)

I'm afraid, you've got me mixed up with someone else, though I have visiting NL for about 3 years now, I havent been registered on this site long enough for that(only registered this month). So common, whats your take on the topic?

waddaya mean? I'm not, but thats not even important, it would be nice if you could share your opinion on the topic though?

Hey NLers, I really would like to know why most Nigerian women abroad seem to have some sort of attitude problem when dealing with Nigerian guys.
I'm not trying to bash Nigerian women, I would just like to be enlightened. I have lived outside Nigeria for sometime now and I have dated a lot of non-nigerian women, now I've got to that stage where I would like to settle down and I would really like to marry a Nigerian, but cant seem to get past that attitude I see in most of them. Please can someone help me out here.

@ Mrs. Chima- nice and balanced comments

@ Southchi- I hate bigotry in all its forms, and before I make any serious comment, could you please explain what you mean by;

"I think Nigerians are racist against Black Americans therefore illegal Nigerians should be reported immediately"

Because this is a very sweeping statement on one hand, then you go to say

"ON THE OTHER HAND, black Americans should embrace LEGAL Nigerians especially those seeking an education"

Something between the lines of your post reeks.

First of there is always more than one side to story, but even if something else went down, and there is more to the story than you are letting on, it is simply inexcusable for him to do such a thing. I know its a painfull period for you but on the long run you better off without a man like that.

@ the men bashers(I'm not naming names), this not a "man" thing, granted some men can be a**holes but women can be a**holes too, its more of a human thing and how we generally hurt each other, while trying to get ahead in life.

@ Ms. Potato

The poster didnt specify, but apart from you, almost everyone else seems to have assumed the poster is male, I just find it quite interesting.

Why the assumption that the poster is male by most people on here?

Not much detail in your post but, If she likes and is with someone else, it means she doesnt feel the same way about you, so why dont you just move on to the next one. wtf?

Thats soo funny how in the name of all that's holy did you stumble on that?