Hey NLers, I really would like to know why most Nigerian women abroad seem to have some sort of attitude problem when dealing with Nigerian guys.
I'm not trying to bash Nigerian women, I would just like to be enlightened. I have lived outside Nigeria for sometime now and I have dated a lot of non-nigerian women, now I've got to that stage where I would like to settle down and I would really like to marry a Nigerian, but cant seem to get past that attitude I see in most of them. Please can someone help me out here.

you seem like a multiple id moniker.

waddaya mean? I'm not, but thats not even important, it would be nice if you could share your opinion on the topic though?

^^use the search function.

i'm sure i must have responded to one of your ids at some point.

I'm afraid, you've got me mixed up with someone else, though I have visiting NL for about 3 years now, I havent been registered on this site long enough for that(only registered this month). So common, whats your take on the topic?

^search function

Raynemaker:
Hey NLers, I really would like to know why most Nigerian women abroad seem to have some sort of attitude problem when dealing with Nigerian guys.
I'm not trying to bash Nigerian women, I would just like to be enlightened. I have lived outside Nigeria for sometime now and I have dated a lot of non-nigerian women, now I've got to that stage where I would like to settle down and I would really like to marry a Nigerian, but cant seem to get past that attitude I see in most of them. Please can someone help me out here.

It's a defense mechanism. Giving attitude is the only way I can convey my answer of emphatic "No" semi-effectively.

Thats fair enough, but must that attitude be used against all and sundry, even when they are not neccesarily interested in dating you (i.e if you give that attitude to all Nigerian guys)

No, I don't give that attitude to all Nigerian guys. I'm very open-minded to friendship, but that's all. It's when they become persistent and start nagging. Sometimes they can't take a hint.

I've never met a Nigerian guy that didn't want to date me, save one, but he's born and raised here. I think it's because most Nigerians, particularly the ones born there, are gung-ho on marriage. They probably think I'm the same when I'm the complete opposite lol.

Raynemaker:

Thats fair enough, but must that attitude be used against all and sundry, even when they are not neccesarily interested in dating you (i.e if you give that attitude to all Nigerian guys)

^^so did all of them give that attitude to you?

@tpia@

To be honest, most I've met have bad attitudes, which I find annoying, they therefore tend to be one night stands. It would be nice to have a normal relationship with a Nigerian girl, thats all.

Well, one night stands is definitely a way to start. If you see Nigerian women for sex, it'll be hard getting out of that habit. Good luck.

Raynemaker:

@tpia@

To be honest, most I've met have bad attitudes, which I find annoying, they therefore tend to be one night stands. It would be nice to have a normal relationship with a Nigerian girl, thats all.

yeah, whatever.

if you cant, then keep moving and keep your mouth shut cos i certainly dont care why nigerian women are giving you the cold shoulder.

tough luck, imo.

but i'm sure there are other types of women you can date.

@ ogugua88,
So basically you really dont have a bad attitude, I can understand  giving  attitude to try and get someone of your back, but I'm talking about something different, I mean the girls that just assume they know what you want, so they start off giving attitude , most of the time I'm  ot even interested,  but I like meeting Nigerians so I'm always quite friendly.

Y'all shouldnt get worked up about the one night stand comment, those girls asked for it! I never plan for things to work out that way.
@tpia@ please no insults, its really not neccesary.

where are the insults?

is it by force to join your pity party.

this is what i responded to:

It would be nice to have a normal relationship with a Nigerian girl, thats all.

if most of them have bad attitudes then face your front abeg and quit whining.

like attracts like.

Raynemaker:
@ ogugua88,
So basically you really dont have a bad attitude, I can understand  giving  attitude to try and get someone of your back, but I'm talking about something different, I mean the girls that just assume they know what you want, so they start off giving attitude , most of the time I'm  ot even interested,  but I like meeting Nigerians so I'm always quite friendly.

Oh. You only said attitude generally, and not from the beginning lol. As for those ones, I can't speak for them because I don't know.

@tpia@
lmbao! I just asked a simple question, thats why its a forum, you really dont have to post anymore comments. Thanks for your contribution though.

you asked a question and i gave you an answer.

what's your problem?

does your post and thread title not specifically say nigerian women.

i am a nigerian woman and i gave you a response since it seems i'm included in your "observations".


of course you're a saint who specializes in one night stands with bad attitude nigerian women but nothing wrong with that mentality, is there.

besides, use the search function!!!!

this is really redundant.

@tpia@
You know what, I'm sorry if I have offended in any way, please be cool. I just wanted some insight.

here's all the insight you need:

Sir-fly:

most of them are b!tches. their punnies is cheap nd loose.

no need to apologize- you didnt offend me.

Tpia is a bitter Nigerian woman that was probably either turned down, made fun of, or done by Nigerian men. @ OP: just ignore her

^^^

Gbam!

No wonder!

millco88:

Tpia is a bitter Nigerian woman that was probably either turned down, made fun of, or done by Nigerian men. @ OP: just ignore her

21 gun salute,gbam gbam

@SIR-FLY, Does that also go for your Mother and sister?
@Tpia, I find it amusing that you of all people would agree to that CRACKHEAD'S comment

Simply told the f.ools what they wanted to hear.

Dont know whats with the whiny i.diots calling themselves men nowadays.

Blazay stop stalking me, thanks.

Nothing personal but enough of the fixation.

Learn to let go.

op
d problem is dat u dont have d kind of money dey want.

like seriously guys, y'all need to stop generalizing, cos you had an encounter with a few Naija babes, you come to nairaland and pack us all together, Naija guys abroad too have got attitude bro!

@OP why are you stereotyping? I'm a Nigerian girl who resides abroad without attitude issues. So your claims, do not count