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ikeno:
Odogwu did not handle the situation in a mature way. He thought because ...



From the looks of things, favour have been going through depression and anxiety and the incident between she and odogwu was the tipping point that made her suicidal.

There re times when you will not let your ego to take control. That way you can take control of a situation.
I'm ,..se I trust warri girls,when you offend them and they naked swear for you na your head you go take dey walker

100%, you are right on this. This is a Kamikaze effect.

"From the looks of things, favour have been going through depression and anxiety and the incident between she and odogwu was the tipping point that made her suicidal". Most of the cases like this, these people are going through a lot of s*** already and they've been finding reasons.

Read this carefully. Share it with every young man you know.

We humans often do things we end up regretting. Sex is part of it for both men and women. Hence, the term post-coital regret and post-nut clarity. Men often dismiss this or do not understand this. Lots of powerful men have been downed because of this.

Where Odogwu Went Wrong — The Aftercare Failures

Failure 1: He Dismissed Her Distress
His WhatsApp responses to a woman who said she was in tears:

"Stop texting me with this you're mindset" "I thought by now you would have come back with your sense" "I will not have anything to do or say to you till you come back to your senses" "Stop reminding me call police come"

This is a woman telling you she's crying. She's telling you she feels violated. She's demanding money. She's emotionally spiraling. And your response is to call her senseless and dare her to call the police?

That is arrogance. And arrogance after sex is what gets men buried. I no be mumu, I no fit simp like that....

Failure 2: He Never Denied the Accusation

She said: "My virginity wey you take forcefully"

His response? Silence. Dismissal. "Come back to your senses."

Under Nigerian law, failure to deny a direct accusation can be used as admission by conduct. A man who didn't rape someone says "I didn't rape you." A man who is guilty — or who is arrogant enough to think he's untouchable — says "stop texting me."

The Money Lesson
Let's be honest about something uncomfortable.

Favour was demanding money. 10k was paid. She wanted more — comparing herself to "50k for Abuja." This was, at minimum, partially a financial dispute.

If Odogwu had paid the money she demanded, would she still be alive? Probably. Would he still be free? Almost certainly.

That's an ugly truth. But it's the truth.

I'm not saying pay hush money. I'm saying: understand that when a sexual encounter goes wrong, money becomes the language of resolution. Whether that's right or wrong is a moral question. Whether it's reality is not.

The important lesson:

1. Consent Is Not Optional — Even With Your GF/Wife
Proper consent. Every time. With every woman. olosho , aristo, ashyyy, even your wife. Nigerian law under the VAPP Act recognises marital rape. The old Criminal Code doesn't, but the cultural tide is turning. It does not matter if she was dancing in a club, twerking on TikTok or using waist beads.

2. Document Everything
If you're engaging in any encounter that could be questioned — save messages, keep records, and if you're in a transactional situation, make the terms clear in writing beforehand. It sounds cold. But a text message saying "I agreed to pay you 10k for this" is the difference between a rape charge and a payment dispute.

3. Never Dismiss a Distressed Woman
If a woman is texting you that she's crying, that she feels violated, that she wants money — do not ignore her, do not dismiss her, do not dare her to call police. You respond calmly, you document your response, you acknowledge her feelings without admitting guilt, and you address the situation like an adult.

4. Aftercare Is Self-Protection
Aftercare isn't about being soft. It's about not going to prison. The way you treat a woman after sex determines whether she walks away quietly or becomes your prosecutor. Geh Geh and the Naija Redpill guys will not come and save you. They told you to maintain frame; now you are in court.

5. Abstinence Is Not a Weakness
In a world where one encounter can end your life — literally or figuratively — abstinence is a legitimate strategy. There is no shame in living a boring life, if you must do, even no shame in doing soapy.

6. Stay Out of Dicey Situations
The world is a dicey place. Clear sign and willingness only; please do not coerce, beg or persuade a woman into intimacy. Any neggiing or refusal will get her to leave your place (politely). If you must engage, take consent, take permission, and if possible, document agreements. It sounds paranoid until you're the one in SCID.


I do not advocate assaulting women. I do not advocate coercing women. I do not advocate exploiting women.

I advocate for men being smart. I advocate for men being careful. We advocate for men understanding that the world has changed and the rules that applied to your father do not apply to you.

Proper consent is non-negotiable. Not because the law says so — but because your freedom depends on it.

Consent. Permission. Documentation. Aftercare.

Four words. Memorize them. Your life may depend on it.

This is not legal advice. This is life advice from someone who has watched too many men fall because they thought aftercare was optional.

The Odogwu Asaba case is ongoing. The outcome will depend on evidence we haven't seen. But the lesson is already clear: the sex didn't send him to jail. How he handled the aftermath did.

Dennisochampa:
So in this lady's case... There is no proof beyond reasonable doubt yes?

The court will judge. The court isn't a place for emotionalism.

Dennisochampa:
They are the reasons alot of rape cases will never be reported because them go still blame the victim...

For abroad... The girl may not have taken her life because she knows nobody will blame her but in Nigeria, most rape victims are always to blame... It's either they are blamed for being vulnerable, or dressing provocatively, or being too greedy or being a hook up girl or all that... How does that in any way justify raping people... Damn!

The court has to see proof beyond reasonable doubt... Law is not about emotions.

False Alligator back is back?

pafestula:
Keep encouraging nonsense in the name of the so called white man that couldn't save himself let alone of saving the poor woman.

Why didn't the Jesus restore her sight afterwards as a miracle guy

In the afterlife she will be able to see how beautiful heaven is. Haha.

helinues:
The selfishness is shared. So a married woman don't have right to attend girls night out once in a while?

Everyone has to do whatever. Same way I have the right to put my thumb in a blender.

Equating a man and woman is the biggest social engineering ever. These are 2 creatures with different hormones and algorithms.

Nozarashi:
Every idiot is suddenly an expert on everything and will always give their ignorant opinions on issues.

Okay thank you for the input.

femi4:
What is eyinbo? It is called Oyinbo

The institution of marriage is one institution that is checkmating juvenile deliquency..it aint dying

Thanks for the of correction.

The last sense is an opinion not a fact backed by data.

This was not an attempt to put blame on any gender.

Men and women aren't saints in this. feminism, economy, most guys are too economically unfit to propose any meaningful arrangement to average lady and most ladies feel they might have to "settle down" and would rather be a side chick to an influential man. It's a complex situation.

Just that situation is critical and people are not seeing the big picture.

Look at the global data: marriage by age 30 is dying. If you think this is just a "eyinbo people's wahala," you are sleeping. The wave is already crashing into Nigeria, and the future looks brutal for anyone refusing to see the trend.

Just look at your timeline every day. Nigerian blogs and forums are flooded with endless stories of celebrity divorces, marriage breakups, everyday infidelity, and partners cheating shamelessly in abroad or naija. The traditional foundation is cracking and I can see a steady decline to point of no return. The lifestyle of celebrities is also a reflection of what is happening in reality to average Nigerians. Let us look at Nedu, Iyabo Ojo, Chike, Frank Edoho, Pastor Chris, Sabinus, Destalker, Anita Joseph & MC Fish, Ugo, Mayowa Ekpo..... It's a mess everywhere.

For those who Japa to the UK, Cana, or Yankee searching for a better life, the reality is double jeopardy. The struggle to settle down in the Diaspora is a different level of hustle for men and women.

Way brutal for "accomplished" women because hypergamy hasn’t changed: women still naturally want a man who is more successful than they are. The problem? As a woman’s checklist grows and she gets older, the pool of "eligible, superior men" shrinks drastically.

Men on the other hand are not totally in the clear looking at the stat they seem to somehow be the most affected, but at least they can do geo-arbitrage to "poorer" location leave Atlanta, Brampton or Cambridge and go to a smaller village in Orlu or Kwara and totally avoid big cities like Lagos to get a chance at ecclesiastical marriage. Hoping not to get infected by the modern virus the moment the Kwara babe jumps on a plane leaving shore of Africa.

I saw this decline in year 2016 and stop living in a fantasy world. Humans lie, Data doesn't . Wake up.

HacheNoire:
Oh!

I never knew the likes of Elon Musk, Nick Cannon and Earl Simmons had low IQ despite the work they put into their respective industry!

Hello! Choices vary and not generic! Some men will die for sex! We have our own Ned Nwoko, 2face and Razaq Okoya, and those people don’t have low IQ

So attributing sex to IQ is outright fallacy!

Even the Epstein class will disagree with you!

They decide when and how they want it as they have power. Poor men get whatever they can get even if it is bottom of the barrel.

HacheNoire:
One man’s poison is another man’s food!

Some married men will die to have such wife! Forget cooking and give sex anytime

Poor men's wishes. The lower the IQ, the higher the fertility and the higher the libido. Hence why we are in trouble with mediocres everywhere.

Man with purpose decide when he wants it and how he wants it. A nympho who can't curtail herself don't make it to marital home with smart folks.

Mirabel has set Nigerian women back another 20 years.

WTF is baby poonani.

I have been telling you all along that women are messed up. You will not really understand what I mean. I've seen s**** I've solved cases, I've been in the middle of chaos like this knowing a woman is lying you.

You just never understand the mind of a woman. when the Bible was saying you should fear woman when people in Islam put their woman under control. They know what the heck they are trying to achieve.

For feminism to be successful, they need men to be their leader.

WTF is baby poonani.

I have been telling you all along that women are messed up. You will not really understand what I mean. I've seen s**** I've solved cases, I've been in the middle of chaos like this knowing a woman is lying you.

You just never understand the mind of a woman. when the Bible was saying you should fear woman when people in Islam put their woman under control. They know what the heck they are trying to achieve.

Genetically talented and gat the connect, but he needs more attitude and ego for the industry.

JESHAL007:
Your greatest power when dealing with women is not your money, not your bedmatic skills and certainly not your looks.
It's your power and ability to keep her on her toe and make her know, though covertly, you can always walk away !
You're not going to put up with her bullshits, her whines and her negative energy.
As counterintuitive as it sounds, it's your greatest weapon when dealing with women

Lol women don't gaF if you don't have money. Money means stability and will make you maintain frame.

abysirius:
Power, Wealth and Success often send women out of marriage. Only very few of them can manage or or 2 of these things together with marriage.

Sadly... I don't want women down. This has been a thing of concern.

By the way "female pastor" is not Christianity.

Gay asf

Polygamy solves this waiting game nonsense haja

Dennisochampa:
If you want to judge the issue without bias... U will know the man did it on purpose especially with the way he was apologising..... If na mistake, he won't allow himself to be humiliated like that..... Just see it from an objective point of view... For example that's your wife and you see her deh vibrate like that for your front because of werin the man do... Will u shut her up and tell her it's a mistake??

Could be true. But some people don't just like trouble of things escalating.

patrickcollins:
This guy was bullied, may be his hand mistakenly touched her body, this shit happens

Three rules.

1) Don't be poor.
2) Don't be ugly.
3) Don't deliberately or mistakenly get your hands on women if you have symptoms of 1 and 2.


The pain is women hate men who are suffering from number 1 and 2 tapping current freely either deliberately or mistakenly.

It is not a bum bum that has not been pressed before by guys who weren't her husband.

Just the facts.

Broke men don't deserve no coochie... - Cardie B.

How everyone put God and Jesus into everything amazes me.

The time is too young to claim such battle is won. It takes years to ascertain full remission.

PlasmaTV:
A mod deleted my comment just because I called this thread stupid for making front page. Just hope this girl is above 18,if not Seun and his silly cronies will be liable for distributing child pornography.

Keep jonzing....

USAID impact?

These people are demons demons. They are all possessed. Too much whoredom and random DNA from several men in their system make them loco.

Fathers need to talk to moderate their daughters. It is getting crazy out here.

Blakjewelry:
Result of loveless marriage.

Godless marriage. Lovers have killed each other more than armed robbers invading a house

Your future wives


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