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A Provider
Most men believe that being a good provider means supporting a family financially. It means much more than that. A man should also contribute to the emotional, spiritual, physical and mental well-being of his family. In order to do this, he must recognize that there are other currencies, in addition to money, that need to be provided.

A Protector
This means more than beating up the guy next door if he insults your wife. It means protecting her self-esteem and self-worth as well as your children's. It can also mean protecting your way of life and guarding against any threats to the things that you and your family value.

A Leader
Instead of waiting for your wife to take the initiative when you are having problems, take the lead. Get in the game and create what you want in your family instead of whining about your family situation. Marriage is not a 50/50 partnership. It's a 100/100 partnership. That means you give 100 percent. And remember, you get what you give.

A Teacher
What are you teaching those around you — especially your children — with your behavior? It's important to provide a good example for your children, loved ones and community with both words and deeds. Set high standards and teach by doing.

Family History
How did your partner get his/her name?
Does your partner consider his/her age an issue? In what way?
What's his/her maternal relationship like? Does your partner consider it an asset or liability?
What is the best feature of his/her paternal relationship? The biggest
problem?
How does your partner handle problems with his/her mother and father?
Does your partner consistently treat siblings with dignity and respect?
Do you consider your partner's relationship with his/her family to be healthy?
What are the biggest strengths in their relationships? Weaknesses?

Relationship Sketch
To create a mini-profile of the relationship between your partner's parents, try to answer these questions.
Is the relationship characterized by lots of affection, or is it more standoffish?
Do disagreements escalate into all-out war? How would you characterize their style of conflict?
Have your partner's parents been faithful to each other?
What kind of home environment have they created?

Your Partner's Other Relationships
Who are your partner's best friends?
Generally speaking, what is your partner's attitude toward the opposite sex?
What kind of people does your partner not like?
Has your partner ever been betrayed?
What kind of social life and pattern does your partner prefer?
Is your partner liked by his/her peers?

Your Partner's Attitude of Approach
Is your partner more participative or passive?
Is your partner courageous or does he/she play the game of life with sweaty palms?
Generally speaking, is your partner lazy or industrious?
What does your partner think is funny? Offensive?

Your Partner's Frustration Set
What are your partner's greatest frustrations on the job? At home? Dealing with family?
How competitive is your partner?
Name three or four of your partner's pet peeves.
Does your partner feel appreciated?

Success, Failure and Loss
How does your partner define success?
What have been your partner's greatest successes in life? Greatest failures?
Can your partner apologize when wrong?

Occupational and Financial Concerns
If your partner could choose a different job, what would it be?
How satisfied with his/her work is your partner?
Is your partner financially responsible?

Mind and Body Issues
How intelligent is your partner?
How does your partner feel about his/her appearance?
What are your partner's favorite foods?

Principles and Priorities
Does your partner have and commit to principles?
In what area of your partner's life does he/she excel?
About what is your partner passionate?
What does your partner's spiritual life consist of?

1. Have a solid friendship.
"Ask yourself what kind of friend you are being to your mate,"

2. Meet each others' needs.
"The success of a relationship is a function of the extent to which it meets the needs of two people,"

3. Set specific goals.
"Wake up each morning and say, 'What can I do today to advance the ball?'"

4. Get back to basics.
"The idea is to have some concept of what a marriage and a partnership is supposed to be and start doing those things,"

5. Take responsibility.
You can't control the way your spouse acts in your relationship, but you can control how you react in negative situations. "You have to take 100 percent responsibility for what you're doing in a relationship,"

6. Turn the negatives into a to-do list.
you need to make a list of enjoyable activities you can do together.

Biblical evidence that the world will end thus;
RAPTURE of believers MAY 21, 2011
WORLD CEASE TO EXIST OCTOBER 21, 2011

I read it from a handbill in kaduna form one FAMILY RADIO.
there website is www.familyradio.com
PLZ lets be carefull on how we follow church doctrines.
If your Church is misleading you, just sit back at home and worship GOD or better still attend churches that are of JESU CHRIST
beware ANTI-CHRIST is among us!

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I appreciate the fact that most states and its indigenous companies are fighting to eradicate poverty. But in Abuja, the case is different. There are no vacancies published.
Should we the Abuja applicants leave Abuja for the land of milk and honey or stay back until our politician get create vacancies for us at old age?
we need intervention in Abuja.
Feloow Niaralanders we dey cry,

Good day room!
I have a problem that needs ur urgent response and contribution as well as advice.

I got hooked up with ROSE about two years now. We starteds our relationship as normal lovers do. After some weeks, I discovered that this girl is a FLIRT and her family background is not good. In her family, 3 of her elder ones are mentally ill. The very day they lost their father, a big battle broke up that same day between she, her sisters and brothers over their fathers wealth. they disregarded the death of this man and sort after his wealth. It was I who took their fathers corps to the mug. since february he died, the family have not made arrangements to bury him. rather they still stuff their head in the mans landed properties. While all this was going on, ROSE was pregnant and refused to tell me because I will not accept the pregnancy because of her flirting. I stayed with her despite her bad character only to see if I could change her. But the influence of her mother, sister and her kind of brought up life has become a stigma. She reported to her sister telling her that I pregnated her.

I dint argue, because I felt it will help calm the anger of her family down. The sister without hesitation arrested me and asked the police to beat hell out of me. I didnt complain, I only resorted into buying baby wears and other necesary items. On sunday the 28 of september 2008, she gave birth to a baby boy. that day, during labour, her mother absconded along with her other family mebers so that when anything happens to her, I will be dealt with. As God lives, she gave birth successfuly at 7:00pm that day.

I loved this girl so much that even my parent disputed my having affair with her but I ignored them thinking that I was doing the right thing. That same day she was in labour, her elder sister called from no where threating me. She said "IDIOT, make u no go any where becoz if anything happen to my sister, u go suffer" That statement made me to walk out. But the nurse in charge pleaded that I should stay. I obeyed. After some days, the childs umblicord fell off. Her mother collected it and travelled with it to their home town to bury it. I got offended but it was too late. A week thereafter, the child feel sick and was admitted at the hospital. the nxt day, her was discharged, that same night, her mother lit MOSQUITOR COIL in the sitting room in high flame, I got angry when I came in to discover that my son is in the same room where the flame was burning uncontrolled. I got angry and left. After some days, the Rose in company of her mother arrested me with some ploce men. They Police people on duty shouted and insulted me without hearing from me. When I told them the whole story, they faced the girl and her mother with insult. All I want is the safety of my child and myself. I have endured for so long in HELL, I need HEAVEN. I need a way out of this MESS. PLZ ADVICE ME.

Love is a sentimental illusion, the product of auditory hallucination[color=#990000][/color]
I dont seem to believe in LOVE especially the kind of LOVE from Ladies.
I wish we could go back to the days of our mothers and find reputable and decent ladies.
What is your definition?

Grave Yard/ Mutuary attendants needed.
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Since usefull jobs no longer exist, lets go for useless ones!

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Federal Government should stop decieving themselves. If I must ask, Y Disable people?
Well, Am financially disable too. Incase I meet the requirment, email me donaustin007@gmail.com

click on career. the vacancy is opened just that it was not to be made public. Am an insider

Good day room!
I have a problem that needs ur urgent response and contribution as well as advice.
I got hooked up with ROSE about two years now. We starteds our relationship as normal lovers do. After some weeks, I discovered that this girl is a FLIRT and her family background is not good. In her family, 3 of her elder ones are mentally ill. The very day they lost their father, a big battle broke up that same day between she, her sisters and brothers over their fathers wealth. they disregarded the death of this man and sort after his wealth. It was I who took their fathers corps to the mug. since february he died, the family have not made arrangements to bury him. rather they still stuff their head in the mans landed properties. While all this was going on, ROSE was pregnant and refused to tell me because I will not accept the pregnancy because of her flirting. I stayed with her despite her bad character only to see if I could change her. But the influence of her mother, sister and her kind of brought up life has become a stigma. She reported to her sister telling her that I pregnated her.
I dint argue, because I felt it will help calm the anger of her family down. The sister without hesitation arrested me and asked the police to beat hell out of me. I didnt complain, I only resorted into buying baby wears and other necesary items. On sunday the 28 of september 2008, she gave birth to a baby boy. that day, during labour, her mother absconded along with her other family mebers so that when anything happens to her, I will be dealt with. As God lives, she gave birth successfuly at 7:00pm that day.
I loved this girl so much that even my parent disputed my having affair with her but I ignored them thinking that I was doing the right thing. That same day she was in labour, her elder sister called from no where threating me. She said "IDIOT, make u no go any where becoz if anything happen to my sister, u go suffer" That statement made me to walk out. But the nurse in charge pleaded that I should stay. I obeyed. After some days, the childs umblicord fell off. Her mother collected it and travelled with it to their home town to bury it. I got offended but it was too late. A week thereafter, the child feel sick and was admitted at the hospital. the nxt day, her was discharged, that same night, her mother lit MOSQUITOR COIL in the sitting room in high flame, I got angry when I came in to discover that my son is in the same room where the flame was burning uncontrolled. I got angry and left. After some days, the Rose in company of her mother arrested me with some ploce men. They Police people on duty shouted and insulted me without hearing from me. When I told them the whole story, they faced the girl and her mother with insult. All I want is the safety of my child and myself. I have endured for so long in HELL, I need HEAVEN. I need a way out of this MESS. PLZ ADVICE ME.
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