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I have a Toyota Pencil 2001 model and I want to venture into this business... My brother once told me a year 2000 car has once picked him up on Uber, so I'm of the believe that some platforms still accepts old cars

Please which platform accepts this year of car? Bolt, Uber, Indrive? And what are the advice you can give that will really help my journey?

Please I don't want anyone that will discourage me or ask me to go and buy Big Daddy or Corolla Spot. Na wetin you get you go use hustle

Definitely! I will oooo

Me wey no too dey stay for house

What if my popsy don follow chop from the same pot of soup when I no dey around?

I no trust anybody oooo

I think IVF is an option just that it's hey expensive

I think it ranges between N1m to N2.5m

The new generation NYSC created vest can't even last a year

Mercychen:
What advice do you want us to give you here?
To tell you to stop her from helping her family?
Is it your wife's money you want to depend on? abi which one is she caters more for her family at the expense of your pressing needs?

Oh... The reason you married her was because she was supporting you financially. So, now she withdrew the resources and channels it to her family, you're having a difficult time accepting that change.

Please let her be. You should hustle to meet your immediate familys pressing needs. Not like she's even asking you for money to send to them. Her hard earned money.

You men don't know what you want. A woman is dependent, wahala. A woman is independent, problem.
Chilax, abeg!

You're missing it.. There's no place in my writeup that I want her to give her money to me

I'm chanelling all my resources to make sure we live comfortably and I don't have any problem with that. It's my duty as a man to take care of her and make us live fine

She on the other hand is extending her benevolence to her family and not us

Isn't that something to be concerned about considering the fact that they aren't even giving her breathing space with calls and attention

boldx:
Will come back and comment soonest

please do

advanceDNA:
Dude this is the 21st century... What has name change on paper got to do with being a good wife...

Besides don’t u guys have a marriage certificate showing you are husband and wife..

I seriously don’t get the clamor over changing all other documents and ID...will she change her certificate too??

Don’t make a storm out of a tea cup

Yes this is 21st and it's not really an issue for a learned person like me but it became an issue for me when I saw the premium she places on her family even at our own basic needs. Looks like she sitting on the fence

Hope you grab now?

InTheCloudySky:
Not helping you out financially in the home but spending money on her family means she has no ounce responsibility towards you/the family you're building together, which isn't the way it should be.

When kids come into the picture, you wouldn't want all the financial responsibilities of the household and of childcare to fall on you, while she selfishly continues to give money to her family.

You've to talk to her now. It's best to nip an issue in the bud early, otherwise it'll continue and worsen.

Thanks for your input ma.. I really appreciate it

perfectcrown:
Hmm...

You see all you've written sir,ask her how she would feel if you are doing the same thing with your siblings/parents too. How would the need at home be met??

On the other hand,its her money ko? But hmmmm... she should cultivate the habit
to saaaaaave ooooh! Siblings matter no dey ever ever finish! See ehn,when you begin to have babies now,e no go continue to be like this oh.

I'm not saying she should not help her siblings and parents but Hun Hun Hun...!

I also think they know she's the type that cant say "NO" so they took the advantage of that.
She's your wife,you know better how to make her come to terms with what you want.

God help

The attachment is much that she even wants to continue bearing her family surname and not adopt mine as part of her name

Hello Nairalanders

I have an issue which has been bothering me lately and I need advice from mature minds. I got married to my beloved wife recently and everything has been going fine. She's such a wonderful woman and a great supporter too

I noticed my wife is too attached to her family. Dad calls everyday, mom calls everyday, brother and sister call almost everyday but that isn't the issue. After all, we are newly married so it's normal for her to still be so attached to them for some while

The issue is that she's too attached to her family financially at the expense of our own pressing needs in the house. I also have my family too but none, down to my younger ones will call to ask me for financial assistance at least for now because they know I need some time to recover as a newly married couple after wedding expenses and all that

My wife keeps sending to her family every now and then for one complain or the other. It's either her brother calls today asking for favour or her sister calls tomorrow asking for favour and she's ever ready too meet these needs. To crown it all, I noticed this behaviour is very common with her mom

I know it's normal to take care of one's family but the way I see the whole thing, she puts her family's responsibility at the forefront and sometimes indirectly utter statements that I should send money to them

I'm a man who knows how to take care of my home and I handle all responsibility of the family- rent, feeding, utility bills and everything which is the normal duty of a man but the issue is that my wife doesn't always feel pressed to assist me in a little way. Things like "dear, let me add N1,000 to the N20,000" but when her family calls and complains about something, she sends money immediately or later. When her siblings or parents call, the call will most probably end with her saying "I'm going to send it". In a span of three weeks now, she has sent money to them more than 8 times

The summary of everything I'm saying is that her money stays in her pocket or either goes to her family while all my own money is used to finance us

PS: she wasn't like this before we got married. She used to be supportive but everything changes after marriage, and if my guess is right, she was given a wrong orientation into the marriage by her family

Please how do I handle this maturely? Should I complain to her my displeasure about it or continue to see it as a normal thing at this early stage of us?

And please, mods, I don't want this on the front page