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...This girl approached me ist and asked if we can do business 2gether (we are into publication world) before then I noticed she's been eyeing me in more obvious way cos my shamber is within her street.
I accepted her, she asked if I can take her digit dat day cos her phone was down, den I did.
Later she came to me again dat I should train her more on d deal. From then she started frequenting my shamber and giving me if I must say disturbing calls up to 5times a day or more ...
She offers to buy my food etc as a trainee cos I smtimes my boys may not be around.

The closeness got to d extent dat i take her wit me to outside work and pay her as she allways plead I should get her contracts.
I also give her feeding and little little cash.

It got to a point she complained her phone is bad and asked me to buy her phone....later she asks for money for hair...I felt its much and didn't give her...she started complaining why don't I give her money....

It got to a point we started getting more close and while gisting on issues of life she made mention of "we should remain good friends" "I can't marry frm ur tribe" we are not compartible etc"
So I decoded and gave her boundary too.
Dat time she was tru wit my training which I dint take a token.

I stopped calling her and chatting and she withdraw d level of closeness and even smiles but smtimes comes to say hi...

It didn't take long she came and we reconciled. Infact our friendship has been on and off since den but she is d one dat eventually come back asking why I don't braking the closeness and asks me dat I should let her knw wen she offend me.

This girl is smone dat get emotional and offended easily...even when I don't knw I offends her she can just get annoyed and walk out on me.

Sorry for long story.............
Now wat brought d whole issue is dat after wen I touched her playfully she complained says she is a church girl which she trully is cos her lineage run church tins; she later called me dat men don't touch her... den we were chatting and I smhow made mention of virgin and she shunned me, late called in d morning I didn't pick... From then I stopped chatting wit her and calls. She stopped calling and chatting too also stopped greeting me wen she pass and it took a short while.

NOW she came back again and asked me for forgiveness so we started business.
THE MAIN ISSUE now is that she is offering to come to my house...she asked me to train her on how to drive.

I hav already accepted but I don't want it to lead to more closeness again.
Pls pals what do u tink this young lady wants from me.

Note they have asked me to be their lover and I declined; check my other post

Uhmmm

See them! Na them them...

There is pressure on me now From 3 different gals that I placed on friendzone level after they refused to leave me.
Now they want me to invest on them;
NO 1. is on my neck to take her out, she has been disturbing me since over a month now. She even offered to come to my house and went as crazy as asking if I can suck breest blablabla.

NO 2. Comes to my office and ask me for lunch money and even offer to follow me to official duties cos I run my personal biz.

NO. 3 is a teen, disturbs me wit sms and chat each time I mistakenly log on. Now she asks for recharge card and also comes to my office to ask of T-fare whenever her parents send her.
Pls pals how do I turn down all their request from now onwards without giving the impression that am stingy and also maintain them on d friendzone or loose them if possible.
Tnks

Pls don't crucify me yet.
I'm someone that is good in attracting and keeping female friends but most of them can't marry me because of one reason or the other; of course one can't marry all his girlfriends.
These factors include:

Tribe -
(most yoruba and hausa gals dat luv me can't marry me cos we can't fight d battle of convincing our tribe people to accept the differences. Its a big war.

Age Difference:
I also have girl frnds who are not yet ready to get married cos they hav to at least pursue a degree and maybe get more matured.

Lifestyle and taste: I also have girl friends who want to marry very rich men due to family influence.

Opinion: I also have girl friends who want plenty children while I insist on only Two kids.

I also have girl friends who are also in relationships with either their tribe person or smone they can't afford to leave.

Business: I also have girl friends who help me run my business.

Now, I want to get married but I think I have to keep all this my girlfriends cos we also share emotional tins. And they all love me. I can't afford to leave my girlfriends Esp. **NJD**

All these pals saying: tell her to stop calling you, talk to her wit fatherly voice, block her, be mean wit her and all dat...
No matter what she deserve my respect besides I'm smone that treat children wit respect even kids of 4 years, I can't beat a child rather I talk to them wit d same respect as I talk to adults. You don't need to Snub a child if u want to get best result.
Besides I never said dis young gal is sort of rag dat u just need a way to dispose. She is a very pretty and intelligent young woman dat every man will want to keep if she were to be of age or wen she get to ripe age. Advice I seek is hw to make her remove adult kind of feelings till she get to d bridge.

Tnks to some of u dat gave gud advice, but I must say most people her sound corrupt by saying who knws if she is giving me head, kissing, smooching, se-?x etc. Hav I even tried dose tins in my life even at my age. Not to talk of wit a 17yrs old gal.
For pple that say I should go and marry; I will like u to take me where I can go and marry cos I don't knw any where u can just GO AND MARRY.

For smone saying she is not sure I've slept with her; why do u use such words on me? Hw could I do such a nasty thing...sleeping wit a teenager NO NO.

I treat her like an elder brother and always encourage ask her tins concerning her studies and encourage her to do better like me cos I showed her my ssce results and BSC degree. She just finished writing waec. I took time to examine her by telling her dat she is not yet ripe for marriage and she also needs to finish her studies cos she intend reading bus admin. But in response she told me dat even 13yrs gals get married bla bla bla. Anyway I will take u pple advice my withdrawing gradually

Gudday pals,
it all started this way; I do patronize her mum in their restaurant smtimes she sends d food over, somehow I took her digit so as to order for food when I needed.
As time goes she started by calling to say hi even when their restaurant is not open.
Now d calls is frequent even at midnights and sundays.
As time goes she added me on all social platforms and always wants to chat me up.
Now she even check my phone and questions about my chats wit girls, also asks for t-fare and gifts.
My problem: this is not what I bargained for besides she is only 17 while I'm old enough to be her dad. As I'm 33. She even went as far as questioning my frnd on fbook...
Pls pals how do I tell her dat it can never be possible for me to keep her. She is too young for all this and I'm a principled guy.
Tnks
: Kelvin

I usually attract younger girls and well matured ladies too... They always feel free to chat wit me, call me, play wit me and crack jokes but wen I tell them my age they will be surprised am as old as that and tell me WHY ARE U NOT MARRIED or "GO AND MARRY"
The one that triggered this write up is a 17yrs old intelligent young lady who naturally picked interest in me and we started talking cos I knw her mum. She call me almost 2-3 times a day coupled wit chats and some jokes and play wen she sees me around.
Right now I'm feeling on d hot seat...
Besides most nigerian ladies I make advances for marriage are too materialistic and want me to be their financial source once I initiate a relationship.
Many not one not two
NOTE: I don't ask for sex and don't even get it anywhere.
I detest premarital sex and indecency.

I'm tired of it all dats why I'm here:
There is dis gal dat I helped throwing cv smtime ago but now its all coming back to me.
She started by calling me my sweetheart etc I told her no I can't be ur sweetheart she persuades I said no, later she started disturbing me wit calls and always complain I don't call her and ask how she is faring... I keep giving excuses.
Later she started asking me to take her out which I turned her down, smtimes she asks if she should come, I turn her down...
Now she still keep calling and giving series of missed calls on my phone. I don't like her cos she is fat and fair (I don't like fair gals) and I've told her I want a virgin which she said she is not.
Now why won't she leave me alone. I have tried everytin to stop her even refusing picking her calls. But after long while she continues. I just finished talking wit her now cos I picked her call out of pity... But I'm now sad why she is disturbing my life

...Have been in a distant relationship since 2013 in which we have met 3 times since the whole years, all the meetings were in public place. Now d issue is, she is asking for a favour of crediting her account. Pls should I credit her account or loose her if dats d worst outcome??

Note I'm not a player, I'm not a cheat but I can't be in luv wit one woman at any given time... Being in luv wit only one woman can result to anxiety problem, heart break, jealousy, or even boring....
I like to hav as many "sweethearts" as possible at any given time.
Note: I don't keep women as friends...I believe a real man don't need to do that because its either you are deceiving yourselves or you are burying your feelings or you are not just being a man by allowing yourself to be used in the place of a woman.
When you have many "sweethearts" ...you don't need to bother your self with frequent calls, expensive gifts, unnecessary emotions, jealousy, anxiety and other inconveniences all in the name of chasing and keeping just one girl who will probably have as many admirers and toasters day after day....

I'm happy living this way and women admire me and tell me to my face they want me day after day...
But pals pls does it mean that when I get married
I won't be able to continue keeping many "sweethearts"
Note I don't hav sex with them just being happy and smiling and playing ...I like playing wit gals

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