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Why are girls always giving me attention
Do other guys still get this
Is is cos I'm quiet and cool

After my secondary school I was having many girlfrnds up to 30. At a point two gals fought cos of me.
Sometimes girls clash themselves when they visit me at home or at shop den.

During my campus days a very pretty fair gal was all over me kissing me in public and all dat... Got to d extent dat lecturers make fun of us in class.
and at a point she cried for me cos I wasn't giving her much attention. I also had another gal frnd that took a permission frm me to beat her cos she was insulting her but I pleaded wit her.

During my youth service, right in NCCF family house, a decent sister walked up to me and asked me out. Waoo

Now I'm working. gals still keep giving me green light dat it now bothers me so much cos I can't marry all of them and I do pity them.
These are gals that I hardly knw but suddenly they will start to wave hands for me or start eyeing me or start talking to me initiating conversation all the time.
Many of them hav finally gathered courage to profess their love and interest in me but I turned some of them down yet they still call and chat me.

Why I brought it here to share my experience is because it is making it hard for me to settle down wit one single gal and get ready for marriage.
How do I handle this attraction from female folk
Someone said its because I'm quiet and cool. And I look and behave gentle but I'm not a saint though...
How do I settle for only one gal without feeling pity for the rest??

quivah:
I think its better you 'disconnect' her now, she can only hurt for awhile and then move on. but why would you date a 17 year old girl in the first place..common!!!
no need to play along, just let's go before you both do things you will regret..

33 to 17 is just all wrong, you shouldn't have started in the first place. and well, you might want to get married as soon as possible, but bare in mind that marriage isn't something to rush into, and keeping the 17year old girl as a friend while you are married is a dangerous thing to do in my opinion. like you said, ; #..but considering the fire burning within her at the moment... ..#
her emotions and her age might not make your situation any better esp when you are married.
best thing is to let's go now,totally!
and find your girl in your age bracket, your taste. good luck.

Thanks dear.

Disconnecting her is not an option. I think she knows what she want so blaming me for starting it in the first place...
I didn't force her to like or luv me and I didn't persuade her into any relationship. She just developed d feelings naturally having known me frm a distance.

Since I'm not in haste to marry now, I may as well wait for her till she get at least a degree like myself.
But it won't be fair to end it unless she do dat herself.

quivah:
33 to 17?? 16years Ok na..
even if you wait till she turns 21, it still doesn't negate the fact that you are way other than her.. 16years difference, An average child at that age is preparing for university o.

if you eventually wait for her, what assurance do you have that the 17year old girl you see now won't have changed when she turns 20??

abeg this girl is young o..whatever gold you see in her now is partly due to her age.
There are obviously older golden ladies around you na.

Thanks a lot.
Since disconnecting her will hurt her I think its better to play along but still hav in mind dat I hav to marry someone else as soon as possible. Wen I'm married we can just be frnds.

She is "GOLD" I believe Gold are not meant to be trashed

I'm 33 and doubtful of the possibility of waiting more 3-5 years.
...but considering the fire burning within her at the moment...
Could it be a hard risk

Or do I go ahead and marry "A SILVER or BRONZE instead.
I'm observing (ATM) abstinence till marriage.

Tnks pals ... She has opened up today by calling me my luv she says am her first luv dat if I leave her she will cry She even asked me to say "I LUV U" to her
Hmmm women really have light brain... Dis is a gal dat behaves like man and doesn't appear emotional at all.

CrazyQuinn:
She's obsessed with you Op what's the secret?

D secret is wat am yet to find

After I ran into her mum on the phone and she told me to leave her daughter alone.
Den I stopped calling her daughter but she persisted in calling me.
I warned her to stop calling me since her mother is against her making phone calls with men at her age.
She refused to stop rather she continued to initiate chat wit me on fbook and we started talking.
Now she hides away from her mum to call me cos she said her mum monitors her phone and her calls.
Today she has called me 6 times on no serious cause.
This is a girl that I believe is not emotional person not to talk of falling in luv but right now I don't understand what she is acting....
Stoty of 17yrs old gal continues...

timsonpreye:
why is it that if a guy send card or money to a girl out of his free heart the girl will see the guy as a MMS mugu money spender and start praising her self of how she av eaten the guy without her knowing that the guy did it out of his free loving heart
I won't mention any monikers, gals I mid ur answers

***free mind ko. Free income nko

The way you approach or woo a woman depends on the situation or scenario. It determines how to compose your language

Besides what works for jack may not work for john.

Cos john and jack are of different personalities. Women hav different needs for a relationship too. Though their taste may be closely related (successful men)

Note: there are levels of success.

When I read a thread about formats or lines etc to woo women I feel unimpressed...

The only thing that may even have a format is KEEPING A WOMAN.

Most times women are even easier to get than to keep just like men.

Assuming a girl is tripping for me as a nice guy and sending all green lights most times even indirectly doing the wooing, the only thing that bothers me is the fact that I DON'T WANT HER TO FALL IN LUV WIT ME AFTER I MIGHT HAVE ACCOMPLISHED MY MISSION.

Note: Not necessarily to use her for sex. But the mess of keeping a pet lol. Most times d pet can even shit on d couch or mess ur environment or even drain ur finances cos most pet eat too much. It takes ur time dat u can use to do some more fruitful tins yet it can't bring any returns. Bath her feed her on milk and egg day after day yet there is no assurance it can't even bark on u wen she is hungry.

No pms pls

KingCheezyPuff:
[color=#00cccc]Let a man try and run game having me and another woman simultaneously
ll will get tagether with her and WRECK HIM [/color]

Hmmm hope u knw ur intentions might end up not being d same... She will come frm ur back to be d saint
Dats why I luv women hahaha

KingCheezyPuff:
[color=#00cccc]Let a man try and run game having me and another woman simultaneously
ll will get tagether with her and WRECK HIM [/color]

Hmmm hope u knw ur intentions might end up not being d same... She will come frm ur back to be d saint

having only one girlfriend can be boring and likely to cause jealousy and heart attack

Having "MORE THAN ONE" girlfriends makes u sleep well focus on your career and be successful.

Men of the old spent less time to please women but they gained more respect from them and lived more healthy and longer life while being successful.

Terms and Conditions apply:

Warning!!! Don't marry more than one wife.

I told her to reveal herself to d guy as soon as possible and she said NO and was even making reference to d bible, asking me "who did isaac marry?? Who did jacob marry??
I plainly told her dat they can't marry cos they ar of blood relation.
This is a girl who is not yet up to marriage age.

A girl told me a story abt. the son to her grand father's brother who she added on facebook after about 14years. Cos she knew him wen she was a kid.

D guy now professes his love to her always but she refuses to tell him her true identity.

Even if they know it can never never never work. They enjoy to keep d drama flowing...

So guys be wise like a serpent

This afternoon,
A girl told me a story abt. the son to her grand father's brother who she added on facebook after about 14years. Cos she knew him wen she was a kid.

D guy now professes his love to her always but she refuses to tell him her true identity.

She gave me the guy's Facebook acct. But warned me not to reveal to d guy. Dat she won't forgive me if I do...
Now d guy has accepted my request and I'm thinking if I should chat him up and reveal it??
Advice ur brother

njiasi30:
I would advise u against it. Dont keep d girl.


I feel 4 d girl, it won't b easy 4 her to let go....and it will surely break her heart when u finally do...u don't cut a tree 4rm d root,u start 4rm d branches... D best way is 2 stop seeing eachother ,4rm dere u will reduce d calls/chatting with time she will accept d handwriting... gradually u guys will go ur separate ways and end it amicably.

Tnks nji...
I forgot to say dat dis gal is "all eyes on me" u knw wat dat means... Yet I don't knw wat she see in me cos I'm not her mate and am not an actor I'm not a star. I don't tink Gold is meant to be trashed.

lilyqueen:
Stay away from the girl

I'm already staying away from her but she is the one who persists hanging around
So pls can u help me tell her what u just said plssssss

Story of 17 yrs old girl continues:

After she asked me for airtime, I called her d following day only for her mum to pick d phone and pretended she is her daughter...
I sensed d voice and reluctantly ended d conversation, den I heard her saying tins like "leave my daughter for me etc..
I had to cut d call.

She later called back den I hav to return the call and talked in matured way with her cos I knw she is d mum and we knw each other before I even knw d gal is her daughter.
so she asked me some jamb questions and I scored A, den she felt satisfied.

Now she has told her daughter to stop picking calls from men and dats our agreement for now...

Afte a short while she started using chat as only means of communication which she does in secret.

Pals d issue here is dat I can't chase her away since she sticks around, cos I hav no bad intention for her rather I advise her always and share quality pieces of information with her.

As it is now, she is always showing concern that I will soon marry and break our connection, but I told her not to worry
But she is scared if my wife to be would think she is taking me away...

Pls married pple in d house, hope am free to keep her even wen I'm married Cos by then she would have been far more than 18
Thanks

**Story of church girl continues...

After she came to my house and I squeezed her breast to test-proof her, she flared, threw my gifts to my face and left.

Wen I called her, I heard her say "its over"
Dat I'm even "stupid by still calling" and dat she even made "mistake by picking"

So later she came to d office and picked her belongings from one of my workers.

To show her respect, cos I'm very principled guy...
I sent her d most lengthy reconciliation text ever on what's app.

On ist of Aug. She was d ist to send me gud wishes prayers and "happy new month"
But Now my fear is "Could it be dat she might come back??
I don't realy want her back cos d love has died, I only sent d text just to show respect...wat do I do

**Story of church girl continues...

After she came to my house and I squeezed her breast to test-proof her, she flared, threw my gifts to my face and left.

Wen I called her, I heard her say "its over"
Dat I'm even "stupid by still calling" and dat she even made "mistake by picking"

So later she came to d office and picked her belongings from one of my workers.

To show her respect, cos I'm very principled guy...
I sent her a d most lengthy reconciliation text ever on what's app.

On ist of Aug. She was d ist to send me gud wishes prayers and "happy new month"
But Now my fear is "Could it be dat she might come back??
I don't realy want her back cos d love has died, I only sent d text just to show respect...wat do I do

DatCuteGuy:
[b] I've been into relationships, dated both Igbos and Yorubas, lots of em (never dated any apart from ladies from the two tribes). But I was more into Yoruba women and noticed they easily let me eat more than half of the cookie lol without much stress or spending much all because they want to keep a handsome boyfriend to themselves...


But that's not how to keep a man to ur self, opening ur legs for him only pushes him away faster than it keeps him close, women who prove " HTG "(hard to get) tend to make us know their worth, and that no man, no matter how good looking or rich can make em give up their body just so he can still hang around her. It never works that way my dear ladies, take note! U see him thinking about u all the time, taking u seriously, making sure he knows u better, u'd even notice he's not into deceit anymore ever since he noticed u are NOT like every other girl... Carry urself well and if he is a a serious man, he will stick to u no matter what be the case. Carry urself well ladies!




Now I have come to the conclusion that Yoruba ladies are more gullible than any other tribe. "pls note: AM JUDGING FROM THE TRIBES I'VE DATED THEIR LADIES " so u can as well do us a favor by telling us which u think has the more gullible girls. [/b]

Hard to get my foot! Bros u're letter "L"

*This is the church girl story continued...
Remember I was on my own and this girl approached me all in d name of training her, and helping her to get small contracts. I accepted and trained her free (while others pay 20k). I did that cos she couldn't afford to pay me.
After dat I was helping her wit small contracts without any token.
It got to a point she then started demanding money from me which I do give her most times.
But yet wen I don't give her she starts uttering tins like...I Don't give out money, I'm stingy, igbo man blood etc.
I was forgiving her all these while.

Because of d way she always wants to be close to me and always call me I asked her to be my woman so as to knw exactly what she wants. But rather she said NO, THAT WE CAN REMAIN GOOD FRIENDS. Cos we ar not compatible, she can't marry ibo, she wana be pastor mrs blablabla...
Then I told her I'm not interested cos I can't be just friends with a woman.
We then stopped talking and meeting....

Later she came back again, cos she must always come back wen I don't expect her.
This time she asked me to teach her how to drive.
I still accepted so she said she will come to my house around 5:30, and we agreed.
As we kept discussing I TOLD HER THAT I WILL LIKE TO TOUCH HER wen she come.... She asked why I explained dat cos she is a woman, she can't come to my house without me touching her.
With what I told her, my intention is to discourage her so dat she won't come, cos I'm not comfortable wit dis JUST FRIENDS TIN. Wen I'm not a kid.

SO FINALLY SHE CAME***

We sat down, I offered her drink and we gisted for some minutes...
So I playfully hold her and squeezed one of her breest...
she got angry and went outside ranting...so I now know the kind of person you are...don't worry wit d teaching...she threw d drinks on me and left...

Now I'm free from friendzone...
But I wish she could have SEEN THE RED LIGHTS cos I told her before hand, why did she still insisted on coming

I'm not sure u knw d type of church girl I'm dealing with...if u can't woo a Rev. Sister den u can't woo her

What's app but there is a way u can forward all ur conversation into ur email. Yea

SHE ASKED THAT WE REMAIN GOOD FRIENDS AND I TURNED HER DOWN she left, and I stopped contacting her later she came back on her own. Though I haven't told her "YES" but dis time I guess I may play along.

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It can't be strictly business when she asks of favours and when I made mention of a gal I'm interested in she said "...so she is not as nice as my crush" she gets jealous yet she can't leave me alone wen I stop contacting her...she must find a way to come back
I will keep touching her if she like let her leave dats wat I even want