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If guys are free not to remain virgin and girls are strictly made to remain virgin then logically WHERE WILL THE GUYS LAY DOWN THEIR TOOLS Oh maybe with the goats or fowls

Bro get wisdom once

eze2015:
Op, you terribly misunderstood this whole thing. What you failed to understand here is that when God placed the hymen in women to remain untouched until marriage sets it, it also mean that men should not go there i.e men should also be virgin until marriage sets in. Those who should go there are the one that are married. So you see premarital sex is naturally against God's plan. Please dont miss this again.

Thanks for your wisdom Brother...
And For you@ Op devil thinks he is wise but he lacks wisdom

Op u may hav knowledge but u need wisdom, stop shying away from wisdom.

ireneony:
eyah am more concerned about the broken roof above your head @your dp

Excuse me, Why is this over-used young lady showing herself

pweetixandy:
eyaaah. op, DM me, let's rub minds. lets parlè

Another thing that is my concern is that there was a time she told me to tell her brother to allow her to visit me wen she came to stay with him cos we are in the same city, den I gathered the courage to tell his brother but he discouraged the idea.
Now she said she don't want to tell his brother dat she is coming, and wat if his brother finds out she came to visit me without going to his house? Won't he be angry against me?

Xensity:
If a woman sees you as less of a man just because you decide to cling to your moral principles of not having sex with a woman you aren't married to, then it says a lot about her, and the kind of person she is.

You haven't indicated through your post, whether or not you are actually in love with her, or whether you want to eventually get married to her, but whichever it is, I don't think a woman's opinion about your manliness, matters at all in the grand scheme of things. Think about this: If eventually she comes to your house and you tell her that you don't want to have sex with her because of your moral principles, what does it matter? What does one person's opinion of you matter? Is her opinion more important than your principles as a man? Are you going to break your moral codes just because of a person's opinion about you? And you aren't even sure she is going to think such about you, so this might be a case of you jumping into conclusion.

On the issue of self control, if you feel that you won't be able to control yourself if she comes to your house, which is going to lead to you doing something you would regret, then the best advice would be to not allow her come to your house.

But to propose a better compromise, I will say this:
I think humans evolved speech for a reason. Every dilemma we are involved in can be resolved by simple conversation. I think you are too old to be worrying about anyone's opinion about you. Whether or not people would misinterpret your gesture as a sign of immorality shouldn't be your concern.
If you want to accept the lady's request of coming to your house and you don't want to engage in any sexual act with her, or not want to face sexual temptation, then the best thing is to engage in an open end discussion with her about this, when she comes to your house. This would make things easier for you.

Thanks
I once opened up to ask her if she would be fine for us sleeping separately, she said will like us to sleep together. I think she is also a virgin as she told me though her manners suggest she might be romantic

Xensity:
If a woman sees you as less of a man just because you decide to cling to your moral principles of not having sex with a woman you aren't married to, then it says a lot about her, and the kind of person she is.

You haven't indicated through your post, whether or not you are actually in love with her, or whether you want to eventually get married to her, but whichever it is, I don't think a woman's opinion about your manliness, matters at all in the grand scheme of things. Think about this: If eventually she comes to your house and you tell her that you don't want to have sex with her because of your moral principles, what does it matter? What does one person's opinion of you matter? Is her opinion more important than your principles as a man? Are you going to break your moral codes just because of a person's opinion about you? And you aren't even sure she is going to think such about you, so this might be a case of you jumping into conclusion.

On the issue of self control, if you feel that you won't be able to control yourself if she comes to your house, which is going to lead to you doing something you would regret, then the best advice would be to not allow her come to your house.

But to propose a better compromise, I will say this:
I think humans evolved speech for a reason. Every dilemma we are involved in can be resolved by simple conversation. I think you are too old to be worrying about anyone's opinion about you. Whether or not people would misinterpret your gesture as a sign of immorality shouldn't be your concern.
If you want to accept the lady's request of coming to your house and you don't want to engage in any sexual act with her, or not want to face sexual temptation, then the best thing is to engage in an open end discussion with her about this, when she comes to your house. This would make things easier for you.

Thanks

We hav been in a distant friendship
Many times she has confessed her love for me.
I hav gone to her villa and her siblings and parents hav known me by now.
She requested to come and visit me
And she has given me d date she will come.

Now from my real purest of thought, I don't think its morally right for a single lady to spend a night at a guys house not to talk of days.

My fear is that if she come we will end up doing at least romance and if I fail to respond to her she may feel I don't like her or dat am not a man.

Dear pals, what is ur suggestions, is it wrong for a single lady to visit a single guy and spend nights
I don't want to do something my mind sees as immoral and I don't want people around to see me as one of the worldly guys.

Note: I have never had sex before and am 33 now. But I hav had romances in d past.

If you want to easily detect girls who are having premarital sex or romance its through their dressing and appearance

They are all these indecent girls u see everyday

I even prefer a non-virgin girl who still dresses decent cos at least she will not be over used like the indecent ones.

I love wisdom.

But bros, its either she is not pregnant but just wanted to test u to knw ur motive for her
Or she is pregnant but wanted to take ur permission before aborting it d way she usually do it lool
I love wisdom

If you want to easily detect girls who are having premarital sex or romance its through their dressing and appearance

They are all these indecent girls u see everyday

I even prefer a non-virgin girl who still dresses decent cos at least she will not be over used like the indecent ones.

I love wisdom.

Brother, I think you lack wisdom too just like them if not u would at least known that why they prefer toy is to still Retain their reputation after being foolish indoors.

Young man let me tell u dis,
U were lucky to meet a gal that reject gift frm men.
But u messed up

U would hav adhered to her principle.
Right now I hav a gal who is in luv wit me and never accept gift or money frm men. I guess its a teaching frm a good parent.

Grow up young man. And get wisdom. Make wisdom ur friend and ur food. Don't shy away from wisdom

What do you think
For me I would love to make my friend my wife I will always be happy seeing that my frnd is now my wife
Note I don't do dating and courtship tins.
I do friendship whereby everyone is free no one owns another

Guys do it
...But these women should know that its not everything that man do that a woman hav to do

Right frm history even biblical history it has been possible for a man to marry many wives and still keep his family together.

But which woman does the same except a stinking hoe

Oh is that why most university graduates or older ladies find it difficult to conceive Oh yea now I get it....too much abortion on the long run*

firstking01:
That's cos you measure maturity with age...you are 30+ but still behave like a teenager...op, you are what you attract, there are no two ways abt it.

I luv kids uhmmm and still retain some kids part of me. ...wen I was a kid I loved to be frnds with adult now am adult .... Besides adult who don't hav some essence of kids in them are boring for me so I still won't chase younger gals away from me

I watched d video hmm if its in naija agbero guys could hav done worse. D west are really mild on women maybe cos of strong legal actions in favour of women in terms of abuse.

I now realize that I got knowledge of sexual sin quite late compared to my peers.
I'm going to give some instances to prove this;
When I was about 12years in primary six then I sometimes come across drawing on d walls of d school by my fellow pupils. They usually draw people having sex in this way- a boy wit something long connecting to a girl.
In my brain then I was wondering if the people that draw this are ignorant cos I didn't knw a manhood need to be connected to womanhood to hav sex. I was believing its just sleeping ontop of each other with cloths on and twisting the waist. Dats wat I knew as sex den.
I grew up without being introduced to sex or even masturbation.
then in secondary school I used to hear about masturbation cos I went to boys sch and also mixed school.
I do hear that boys use soap to pleasure themselves while bathing in groups then and I was just seeing them like people in another world and never got interested or cared to try.
Naturally I grew up frm a decent home and a mum's boy always in the store making sales. I go to sch frm shop and come back to shop yet I always come first right frm primary 5 till secondary level.
To summarise the whole thing; apart from wet dreams, the first time I had physical ejaculation was after my NYSC @ d age of 26.
But right from when I was young till now girls are still admiring me and trying so hard to spoil me.

Uhm another man's wife is No! No!

Naturally I don't spend on girls
...I hav told her I'm taken even showed her some of my conversation with the serious girl that wants to visit me.
Then I thought I was free, that she would free me yet she came to my office with her sibling looking gud on a new dress an wearing innocent smiles all thru.
She also called dis evening...

This is just one among many young girls that make advances calling me baby, my luv etc
Why do young girls find an older guy like me more interesting why why why

byvan03:
What goes around comes around. You have no business reporting but you are as evil as your friend. You could have stopped this crime from happening but you didn't. The world is cyclic, what you give is what you will get. Today it's a random girl, who knows who it will be tomorrow.

You pple should stop defending dat gal she knew wat she was doing and I don't tink there is anytin like rape but nowadays girls use the painted word RAPE to take advantage of dining with the devil when they know wat to expect. Smone dat dines wit the devil can never be any tin close to a saint so no justice for both of them let them suit themselves

She always longs for me then I asked her this;

Are u in luv wit me? She said yes dat its because of my intelligence dat she doesn't fall in luv anyhow oo

Ok I also asked her this;
Will u be angry if u see me wit another girlfriend? She said NO cos u are not my boyfrnd. I don't luv u to be my boyfrnd.

I den told her why I asked all these; cos another gal in luv is planning to come visit me and spend days.

Den she got angry loool

We met 2013 and I've gone to her village once, I met her dad and mum and brothers and I was welcomed.
Since den we hav met once more last year though we do communicate via call and chat.
The call has not been frequent though cos I don't like too much call and I don't chat her frequent too which she always complain and even at some point threatened to leave and asked me to never call or chat her.
She always profess her luv for me but I don't act wit emotions though I respect her.
Now she intends to come visit me and spend some days and I hav already accepted.
I hav never spend days living wit a woman who is not my blood relative before. Can we spend days without doing any tin funny?? I hav not really slept wit a gal before apart frm romance. Pls wat am I going to expect cos I don't want to spoil my reputation or hav premarital sex.
I asked her if we should sleep separate wen she comes but she said no dat we should sleep together.

But the other girl who also claims to luv me always want my gifts and get angry wen I don't give her money and gifts

ibibiofirstlady:
Please, the man is a beast. Worse than a rapist.

If anybody deserves to be termed as "A BEAST" I think the lady in question is the one because she went to meet the man and lured the man into premarital sex.
Another person that deserves to be called a beast here is yourself cos of the way u reason. Honestly speaking. U can ask your pastor

firstking01:
My friend stick to your wife....make her understand that thats one of her obligations to you...wasn't she the same woman who constantly opened her legs for you for 18 months and gave you 2kids??, except you 've missed it somewhere or there's something you where doing but you stopped doing it...check yourself well you are skipping something, either your sex drive is way to much on her or you cannot satisfy her in bed, whichever way dnt go committing adultery, it's a sin....

Make her understand ...like d man is only one dat needs it..oooh I tink he is... Just leave her if she stays 5 years without asking u for it, come back here and repost it... I will tell u wat to do

After two children u still want sex

I thought sex for married people is only for making babies?? And two babies is okk nah

What do u need sex again for. Two kids is okay
Just continue to be a daddy and ur wife mummy wat if ur kids get to knw dat dad and mum are doing funny tins? Wat kind of picture are u going to portray??

I think sex is only for making babies, if there is any other need pls tell tutor me looool
Don't mind me if I'm a novice

If I could, There are some souls I would plead to vacate Romance section.
Though till I know their mission and vision.
Even in the Grave Jesus was not subdued

If it were to be morally right and safe for a man to hav sex wit any new girl he comes across.

I imagine how many gals I would have loved to go down with. But I fear God.

In fact I happen to get attracted to every pretty new gal on my sight
and d ones getting into adulthood day after day cos they look more fresh and sexually pleasant and innocent.

I think Men get attracted to every new girl dat falls within their spec.

I knw of a sister in SU den dat speaks in tongue and sees vision den there was a brother dat prays like fire...

Later they had premarital sex and sister got pregnant.

Why are ascertained holy brother and sister in churches still go about doing premarital sex and romance dat ordinary pple do

How long Do we stop holy sister holy brother tins and be open and real people and yet do the right thing

If you know you can't hold body please get married @ 15

tearoses:
You are almost double this girls age
You also want to rob this girl of her childhood
She is too young to go into a relationship with a man this old
She should be with her age mates

She only has a crush on you because you are older and maybe you have and can give her things that males in her age bracket cant offer her.

Cast your mind back to when you were 17......were you mature enough then to be in a serious relationship with someone that old?
I didn't think so

Let her go
She will get over it
You are doing you both a favour

D ball is in her court cos I'm not holding her in any way;
I don't call her rather she is d one dat calls me
I don't chat her up even if I see her online rather she is d one dat initiates chat
I can never go searching for her but if she comes looking for me I will always treat her well

U people need to understand dat I'm also very wise and I use my head.

Anyday dat she stop contacting me I will also stop contacting her so I'm just waiting for dat move till it comes, meanwhile let me enjoy d attraction as it lasts.

Thanks

MilesLamar:
post ur pictures here man

No

Eminembuz:
Look! In every actions there's consequency. And mind you nature has it own concoction and that's what I call nemesis..meaning the past is catching up with you and you really need jesus in your life to make things right. Cause him alone is capable to make that your adversity feasible to fix..God help us all.

Note: I don't do premarital sex so don't say nemesis. And I didn't woo d many gals coming to me... Infact I don't hav it on my head to woo a lady or spend on her cos many hav been spending on me, buying clothes and giving me raw cash since I was 17

Not attracted to my mate