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Come on you guys, no one is saying foot the whole bill but let's be realistic

Children - 10k
Vacation - 20k
DSTV and for someone who earns 300k. I'm sure you won't want to go on a plan lower than compact 8k (including bank charges)
Total - 38k
That is almost half of her salary

Then you mention daily food supplement, so probably she'll be making soups and stew for you probably every weekend or 2 weekends....
Yet she'll still have to buy clothes and toiletries for her self.

There was mention of family car but no mention of who gets to drive it and I'm assuming it won't be her, so add transportation to that list.

Then at the end of the month she is left with what?

Rather than list all these bills for her, why not sit her down and you both come up with a way to manage and utilize your expenses.

There will be days that you won't be able to drop 1 kobo into all these plans and list you have made and vice versa.
Better yet, just find someone who earns more than this cos if your ex was my sister and she came to me for advise, I'd tell her to run like she did.

#LoveandLight

bigpicture001:
My girlfriend whom I have planned to settle down with simply started acting cold and eventually stylishly slide out of our relationship because I sat her down and made a family financial support proposal to her in which she will be financially committed to running the proposed family we intend to raise...

These are the proposal...

1. She earns about 80k wile I earn about 300k.. I asked that we jointly contribute for all the children's Career funding starting from when we get married even before any of their birth.. I proposed 10k monthly from her and 40k from me to a trust account. From it we plan to fund all the children's Career from kiddagatten to varsity or which ever path they choose..

2. That sh choose between Nepa bill or DStv or gotv sub monthly..just one for her

3. I will be responsible for rents

4. We pay into another joint account for vacation once in two years..like sh puts in 20k I put in 50k monthly..

5. I provide all the heavy food stuffs required in the house in large quantities including gas ND change of electronics, but sh provide all the daily food supplements to mk mine complete.

6. She buys her clothes ND I buy mine but we can both surprise ourselfs with gift to the other..

7. I will buy the family car ND maintain it. If she buys no p.

8. I didn't rule out surprise gifts once a while and outting which I bankroll ND expect her to do same occasionally..

Plz oo nairalanders are these responsibilities to a wife too much for her, I mean one who works and earn over 50k...?