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I had to change my moniker for this post.

Please don't mind the naysayers. Reading your writeup felt like I was reading my life's story. The only difference is that we are both professionals and she is not a full time housewife.
Many men die in silence because we are not oriented to tell our stories. In fact, when I finally summoned the courage to speak to a neutral person, I was perceived as a weakling. Which is similar to some comments earlier posted by here.

In my case, I filed for divorce already. Despite not lacking in my responsibilities as a father, she withheld my access to the kids just so that she can continue with her manipulation. What she failed to see is that it drove me further away from her. The divorce is yet to be finalized due to court proceedings. She has asked that I withdraw the case from court, and I am not ready to do that yet as I am not certain she has changed. I miss being around my kids and I want the best for them but that can't be optimized in a toxic environment...

In your case I will advise you give her space, focus on yourself for now, develop yourself, read books, find peace and happiness while you at it. Don't consider divorce till you have tried everything and you are psychologically ready for it.

Man up!!! Let her know what is like to live without you, don't let her manipule you, cut her off totally and keep fulfilling your responsibilities as a father to your children(monthly upkeep, school fees and gifts).


You can reach out to me.

Xj2020:
My mind is already made up. It is time I take some very tough and hard decisions. My story here on Nairaland is to serve as a lesson to guys out there intending to get married. Why should I give her the link. Do you know the magnitutde of wahala that could cause in my home? yet to resolve the one on ground. She is here on Nairaland and might probably stumble on this thread. She would read this thread faster if it's get to the front page and she might probably comment