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iamoyindamola:
75m no shot on target
Sels with 0 saves

Arteta is playing his favorite son into getting an extension. Na by fire by force Arteta will ensure he gets that extension.

COYG!!!

Come on guys!!!

Our attack looks piss poor once again. We can’t crate anything tangible with all the possession and it really bothers me.

Nwaneri starts for BVB against Union Berlin.

Just copped a yellow card.

Toffees no get joy. Dem dey boo Dibu despite the injury.

Ibime:
https://www.nairaland.com/8766891/kidnapped-couple-6-month-old-baby-regain

Best news of the day. That man holding his naked baby in the kidnappers den was heartbreaking

My bother, make that two of us!

BlueRayDick:
People that labelled us Corners FC last season don suddenly lose their voice to call us Open Play FC

This season, City and Chelsea have scored from Corner kicks more than Arsenal

Madrid scored 3 goals, I believe from Corners yesterday and everybody pipe low.

ajumma:
*"Corruption is itself central to the spread of poverty."*
-RIPP Umaru Musa Yar’Adua

*“Nigeria's problem is not money, but how to spend it.”*
-Gen. Yakubu Gowon

*"Our problem is not the absence of resources, but the presence of too many resourceful thieves."*
-RIP Dr. Nnamdi Azikiwe

Once again, are we really poor or poor at managing our resources, even our OGs believe the latter.

https://www.nairaland.com/8766342/which-these-nigerias-leader-speech

Bluelines69:
Liverpool were balling them out, that red and Doku bailed them out

I think it would have been closer or a Liverpool result save for that red card.

City did not look exceptional again Liverpool before the red card and this na correct evidence. They look overwhelmed.

Man City don pull the whole house and spectacle for this tie, trying to show strong support for the club during this time for them.

Even the Bald-Bipolar dey stadium.

For once! Can we square the pass instead of a cut back? A square pass has Gyokores already open there for the easy tap in.

These are the mistakes we make whenever we play with him.

Arteta should have started Dowman ahead of Madueke. I don't know what goes on in this man's head I swear.

That looks close though..VAR checking

Ayase scores but is offside

Merino give that header better angle na

Bruno should be scoring that. Good build up..

This Madueke is useless. Werey did the hard work but to put a simple cross na wahala

Raya abeg watch well before laying the ball

Rest on Kenneth J. Friar OBE.

A lifetime presence in the front office of this great club. As a board member before the full take over by the Kroenkes, he was instrumental in our transition out of Highbury.

Ihebu4chelsea:
This is my own personal story,I am 30years old, and there is something I have been struggling with emotionally for a long time. I need the honest opinions of people here, especially those who have experienced something similar.

My biological mother abandoned me when I was just eight months old and left me in the care of an elderly woman who took me in and raised me as her own child. This woman had married my biological mother but could not have a child of her own, so she accepted the responsibility of raising me.

Today, I can confidently say that this woman gave me the love, care, and support that many people who grew up with their biological parents might never fully appreciate. She stood by me, did her best for me, and gave me a sense of belonging. Despite the challenges of life, I have never felt that she failed me in the role of a mother.

Unfortunately, she is now almost 100 years old.

My biological mother, who is still around 50, has recently been making efforts to reconnect with me. She wants to become a part of my life, and I honestly do not know how to handle the situation.

On one hand, people keep reminding me that she is the woman who gave birth to me and that I should not forget her simply because she abandoned me. On the other hand, I cannot easily erase the reality that she was absent during the years when I needed a mother the most.

The woman who actually raised me is the one who sacrificed for me, showed me love, and supported me through life. Even now, I am still hustling to establish myself financially, just like many other Nigerians, but I remain grateful for everything she has done for me.

Sometimes, I lie awake at night thinking about my biological mother, wondering what I should do and whether I am wrong for struggling to accept her back into my life.

My questions are these:

1. If you were in my position, would you forgive your biological mother after she abandoned you at just eight months old?


2. Does giving birth to a child automatically make someone more deserving of the title of mother than the person who actually raised that child?


3. Should I feel obligated to accept my biological mother simply because she gave birth to me, even though another woman made the sacrifices of motherhood?


4. Is it possible to forgive my biological mother without immediately accepting her as a mother in the same way I regard the woman who raised me?

I would easily type a 1000 word response but I will try to keep it simple. Before I answer the questions, you have to acknowledge that you are dealing with a lot of trauma associated with your absent mom that you need to address and her reappearance may provide the closure you have been seeking.

1. If you were in my position, would you forgive your biological mother after she abandoned you at just eight months old?

If my grandmother has shown me what true love is and I don't feel like I have missed the love and attention of a mother in my life then I will forgive because I will not hold her ransom to an expectation I did not miss because my grandmother met all those needs and did a magnificent job at it. If you hold it against her, it would mean there are aspects of Love you feel your grandmother did not meet which you believe your biological mom would have met, however, that expectation may be false hope that you are building. So, if I feel my grandmother met most if not all, then I will forgive my biological mom, but I will not forget and get all cozy like nothing happened. The relationship or friendship she is seeking has to be earned over a long period of time.


2. Does giving birth to a child automatically make someone more deserving of the title of mother than the person who actually raised that child?

Absolutely not! A title doesn't mean anything without the work. Your grandmother not only raised you, she raised you right even in her old age. Parenting is a vocation that is earned. I go to bed every night peacefully because I know I have been the best dad to my children, that is the best satisfaction.


3. Should I feel obligated to accept my biological mother simply because she gave birth to me, even though another woman made the sacrifices of motherhood?

No. However, while it is very strong, I'd advise against constantly pitching comparisons between mom and grandmother, remember your grandmother gave birth to your own mother, so she also has her own trauma she is dealing with. I think you are the one struggling with the idea of actually accepting that your grandmother has actually being your mother versus trying to fit your mom into that role, which she wasn't ready for neither did she fulfil.


4. Is it possible to forgive my biological mother without immediately accepting her as a mother in the same way I regard the woman who raised me?
Again, you don't have to accept her with the title of a mother if your grandmother has met or continues to meet that expectation. Reconcile with yourself that your Grandmother is your mother in every aspect and your mother can earn your friendship or the title in the future if you feel there is still a vacuum that needs to be filled.

BlueRayDick:
I want to believe this video is either a rage-bait or the guy is just looking for attention .

I mean how can you say “wetin 7 million wan do for me “ on top money wey person press for you even when he’s not obligated to do so ? 🤷‍♂️

"Wetin 7 million Naira go do me?" — Nigerian footballer calls out his former teammate who was selected ahead of him at a football trial but treated him unfairly after he turned pro pic.twitter.com/QxvAUCyBfb

— YabaLeftOnline (@yabaleftonline) October 12, 2026

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I speak on behalf of wicked “abroadians”, Nigerians at home are one of the most ungrateful people you’d ever help with your money and time. I no hide mouth talk am, na with full chest I talk am. If I tell you what many of us see with our friends and family over money ehn?

Werey dey talk like say e get 7 million wen e keep for Chidera hand.

afrodoc:
Both can be correct. For our population we are not as productive as many other countries.

We rank relatively high in total GDP and total production but when you factor in our population and calculate things per capita, whether GDP, GNI or use HDI you will see that we rank quite low.

And a poor man can still be wasteful. I have seen gatemen and typists who waste their little salary on olosho and drinking while their children are being sent out of school for not paying school fees.

We are relatively poor but things would not have been this bad if our leaders were not criminally corrupt. Another thing I would agree with is that with better leadership we would have developed our productivity and wealth over the past decades. So the leadership is in a big way contributing to the perpetuation of poverty. The countries that are wealthy do not have 2 heads.

While 2 truths can mutually exist, which one takes precedence? The former or the latter? There has to be one Doc! Think about the amounts of money we are talking here Doc..

afrodoc:
The coastal road was always a white elephant project. It is unfortunate that a country under financial stress is still indulging in mismanagement to such a scale.

Once again, I ask, is Nigeria really poor or are we poor at managing resources.

Y’all watch, he ain’t goin come out, because of course the GOAT has done it again..

Consecutive weeks where the GOAT has played at the MVP level for your team!

A40!!! WHERE YOU AT!!!!!!

I can’t wait to watch Kyrie all season.

Glad to have to have you back man.

I am praying for an injury free season.

Ibime:
This man really finished Nigerian home developers.

There is a reason we don't have side windows in the UK, and when we do they are placed high in rectangular slits, or frosted over for zero visibility. There is no way I should be in my house and my side neighbour is watching film of everything going on in my house

“This Is What Nigerians Call Luxury? 👀 No Privacy At All! The Craftsmanship Is Extremely Poor, And The Finishing Is Beyond Terrible. 😩” ~ An American Real Estate Expert Inspects a $1.2 Million Luxury Home In Lagos, And His Brutally Honest Assessment Is Something Many Lagos… https://t.co/EUrq5gnhTP pic.twitter.com/HZjtE4x8lE

— Somto Okonkwo (@General_Somto) October 11, 2026

Nigerian builders are engrossed with aesthetics than functionality, including safety and privacy. They spend ridiculous amounts of money in designs but the functionality can’t honestly match an efficiency apartment here in the states.

I think I have said it before that I visited someone in Lagos and while he bragged about his house, I was already looking at 100 ways to die inside that same house, especially with little children. It did not take 2 months after my visit I was told a member of his household fell from the stairs and dislocated his elbow.

iamoyindamola:
Cherki your papa

Na that kain drimble and goal dey make dem Elegbon Agba collect ball or scatter post make everybody dey go house..

Our attack has continued from last season, piss poor! Nothing has changed with how we attack. This is Arteta’s job, he needs to figure this out or find an attacking coach to help him with this because our defense without Saliba is now conceding more goals and that spells trouble.

Saka’s poor form is an obvious problem that is also holding the attack back. We have ran him to the ground over the last 4-5 years and now he lost pace and can’t beat his man.

This isn’t about Gykores, Havertz, Migranedueke, Saka, MLS, or any attacking player but on Arteta. It will be really upsetting if Maresca comes in and wins the league ahead of Arteta in his first year at City.

Saka abeg go do deliverance at this point.

Arteta needs to figure out this attack, it is quite poor.