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Onegai:
Stop giving antibiotics if it ia not prescribed by a doctor, because different antibiotics treat different bacterial infections and you also don't want to build a drug resistance in your child's body and weaken the liver. That kind of persistent coughing, especially at night and a dry cough, sounds like an allergy. I had one recently. Move the fan from hitting them directly and take them to the hospital and tell the doctor about him checking for allergies (their chests will be clear when he listens if it is one) and he can prescribe an allergy medication syrup for them. Keep some drinking water beside them at night and give them sips. Most kids outgrow it. HTH

tnks,he do ask for water everytime bt i dnt give him often.now i know better

We gave antibiotics already.d oil nd sugar,is it same quantity

comtem2011:
I will advice you take them to the hospital probably antibiotics will be prescribed.

Meanwhile u can dissolve sugar in palm oil and give them every 2 hours.

Pls,my 3yr old boy nd 6mnt baby av b coughing for som time nw,we av use 2 diff cough syrup bt is not going.pls any home remedy.d older lo cough so much in d 9t dt i can sleep

Fadamant:
I once resigned from a job not long after a boss used bad language on me. It is shocking to think that you have read Robert Kiyosaki's Rich Dad Poor Dad and you still not know that you are a slave in the hand of that proprietress and need to quit that job and use your time and brain to do something more respectful.
How do you stay at a job in which you are daily subjected to inhuman and degrading treatments and expect to have high self worth and become successful.

My advice to you is to look for money to go into business with and leave that job, in case you are afraid of not getting another job. If you don't have money for business, then resign, and go looking for another teaching job. The fact that you got that job out of 50 who sat for the test, should tell you that you are good enough to get another one if you leave that one.

Don't accept anyone treating you like poo for the sake of money.

d op experience is similar to mine in a skul i once work,i resign wit immediate effect.dt attitude is somehow common to dem

obisunny1:
Read news and respond to my emails

wat abt nairaland

Do you use your phone for social media alone then you are not making immense use of it.what is that career you want to pursue,have you gather information on it online.what about the skills you want to learn,go online,there are some skill you can learn online alone.what is that thing that puzzle you that you want to know,don't go and call a friend to ask when you have a smartphone,learn that meal recipe you have been itching to know online,that business you want to do go online for information,that word you don't know the correct spelling go online,people are acquiring skills online daily while you use your phone for social media alone and still complain about being jobless,you are your own enemy.do research. The bible say my people perish for lack of knowledge,dnt be among these category,get knowledge and you would be glad you did.

akaballball:
Is there no hostel in d school?..... if there is find a way to pay hostel fee for him..... so may be he can come around only weekend.... by d time hunger for hostel hammer him he will appreciate.. ..Students stay in d .. explain that to ur husband..... bad behaviour repels pple.... somr guys even cook food... i know of a guy who cooks more than his madam...

That is y is advisable not to allow thembin d first place...... is better help them find a place bt pls not ur home... once had d issur of some distant relative stranded n wanted to spend d night... we paid d hotel fee instead.... so when d time is up.she goes.

Now d question is....... Do u really what him to leave ur house ? or do u just want him to change his attitude...?
shaaa

change his attitude

Tank u all for responding to my post,i enjoy some comment while some criticism here is also on point while som fall below d line.wud make adjustment.but i wnt to correct some views.1)d boy is nt hubby relation,if he is to be related to anyone it wud b me cos i nd d boy is frm same town.2) i didnt turn him to slave or houseboy i do my chores mysef but i only want him to atleast do something to help,even hubby help wit d chores.3)he is nt d 1st person to stay with us and he also went to stay wit hubby friend who is still single for a week wen we travel,wen we came bk,hubby fwend ask aw we are coping with him dt he can't cope.i also stay wit someone while growing up and i knw wat is expected.i wnt to try to shape him so dt wen he leave oneday he wud remember he learn aw ds tin here bt is difficult modelling him.

Dis is wat i wish i cud do bt dnt av d power,though av make up my mind dt nobody wud com stay wit me again in d name of admission to d poly,dey wud get hostel,dey can only come visiting or to get any help or foodstuff.

LynnPetra:
Since he picks the circumstances to do his chores then you have the audacity to send kick him out of the house. You're a good woman by reporting him to hubby because many wives won't take that shiite. So even his plates he won't wash? You better start pouring all his unwashed plates into his box of clothes. Madam, you better wake up and put your house in order. Even the bible says that any tree that does not bear fruit should be cut off! If he is useless to you, kick him out. The economy is too harsh to take extra bullshitte.

How person go enter my house my house eat, him no go wah even him own plate? I go fling am throw away. So he doesn't wash his plate or do chores in his hostel? Him dey foam big boy for my house? Smh. That kind person no go last one week for my house. I go just count better money, call am enter room, give am like 50k then ask him to get the fyck outta my house

Like 2da wen we finish eating,he was d one dt pack all d plate cos my baby soil his daiper b4 i cud finish eating nd i wnt to clean her up nd hubby was around so he pack d plate to act d boy is gud,my aim was dt he wud wash d dish immediately cos thr was soapy water thr nd thr was no dirty dish thr b4 bt he dump everytin thr,wen i jst pass by d kitchen later i saw d plate,i called him dt'didnt he see d soapy water thr and dt thr are no dirty dishes thr b4 dt he should go nd wash his dishes as d dishes are entertaining flies,he said he wud go nd wash it nd he didnt go,wen i finish washing cloth abt 3hrs nd tidying up i had to go nd do it cos he has slept off and i cant leave my kitchen like that.dtz anoda habit he has,wen i even try to talk him 2 do it,he gives u tym dt he wud do it bt he wont do it at d end

JustHere2Observ:
Sometimes we introverts just need to make our voices heard, you will keep repeating it until he gets it. If not he won't take you serious, dont do anything extreme. Once he finishes eating, tell him to wash his own plate, when he wakes up tell him to tidy the living room he slept in. Tell him to fetch his own water for bathing, dont stop telling him what to do since he wants to be treated like a child.

greatgod2012:
This is where we are different, you have been accepting what is not pleasant from the beginning, as for his used dish, immediately he dropped the plate, you ask him politely to go back and wash his plate. If you want to report him to hubby, let him be around, so that it won't be as if you're lying against him.

Speak out, let him know what you can accept and what you can't.

Call him as a younger brother and tell him what he does that are unacceptable, both by you and the society.


Don't pretend as if all is well, speak out but don't maltreat him or make life miserable for him.


May God give you wisdom to do things aright.

Amen,i wud try to follow ur advice but d look i receive weneva i try to talk to him is wat make me stop talking.i dnt even knw aw to make life miserable for someone cos my conscience wont let me rest.

JustHere2Observ:
The least he could do is do his own dishes and help out once in a while. But most people feel entitled and dont have the common sense to assist around the house. Next time stand up to him and tell him what he is expected to do.

for how long shld i keep telling an adult wat to do?wat i tell him 2da he wud still wait for me to tell him 2mao nd d following day.am more of an introvert so i dnt like to talk much instead i do my tin but my countenance wud change nd i dnt lik to talk wen am angry.for sometime nw,i av not b telling him to do anytin/correct him but is he not suppose to knw dt am not ok wit wat he is duin

Yes,he informed me wen d boy was coming nd i approve it but i was not inform dt he wud stay long,wat i was told was dt he jst got admission nd wud stay wit us till he find accomodation.it was later dt he had settle down dt i got to knw dt he wud b staying 2ruout his prog and dt was not even a prob to me though i don't stay at home for long den,i do travel most weekdays to supervise my project in d neighbouring town b4 i later finish it nd hardly travel out of town again .we get along well atfirst but after going for semester break nd coming back he change totally.

greatgod2012:
Did your husband inform you before accommodating the guy

If yes, did you approve it

If yes, for how long is he staying

When he came around, were you first friendly with him and him with you


What's likely the age difference between you too



Answering these questions will give more insight to how you can handle his issue.



Accommodating someone shouldn't be a problem, but such a fellow shouldn't turn himself to burdens to me.


Well, personally, I don't like dying in silence, I speak out my mind, especially to the person directly involved, not with raising of voice or screaming but maturely and patiently.

Am even ready to accomodate him cos i knw his family is not financially buoyant to get accomodation for him while still in skul,i expect him not go beyond his limit but he refuse.he is not d 1st person dt wud stay wit us.He is now causing division btw i nd hubby cos dey see me as d bad person,wen he want to get money frm hubby he wait till am out or go to meet him at d gate,is not that i do ask him not to give him.even wen he see dt i av wash all d dirty dishes in d kitchen,is he not suppose to wash d one he jst used in eating,he drop it nd i still go to wash it without saying anytin.i dnt knw wat he expect me to do again.he see me as a subordinate dat can't authorise him to do anytin

He is not even an inlaw or relative,hubby nd his father attend dsame church back den

CrazyQuinn:
how can you allow your in law to stay with you for a year? There will be no privacy and he will be involved into their private affairs. Would you like your in-law to be involved with you and your wife's private affairs. So what's the point of getting married then

This is d reason am here,av run out of ideas to deal wit him,av try ds ur idea,my husband face me nd ask to reduce d food only for him to support him after a while again.thr was a tym i even allow him dish food frm d pot by himself

fellis:
Is the boy an id!ot?

How can a jobless person be complaining about the food he is given while living under another persons roof and not even doing anything to assist in the house, my God people like that irritate me. What does he think he is? A king that came to your house to be pampered? At least he should help with something to show you and your husband gratitude for taking care of him instead of just sitting around from morning till evening asking for more food.

What a lousy human being.

OP next time you and he and your husband eat on the same table or in the same room make sure you pile his plate of food very high to like twice or three times the amount you give your husband, if your husband says its too much tell him politely the boy is always complaining that you don't give him enough food so you want to make sure you serve him enough henceforth.

Do it like four times in the presence of your husband and unless he is a millionaire that has money to throw away he will call the boy and caution him on his eating habits.

Ghost21:
Just do all you can, try not to make him understand that you are pissed off over his behaviour! Sometimes people do things like that on purpose, just ignore him.

dtz d real deal,i try to ignore him dtz why wen he doesn't do d chores i dont question or ask him,i just go nd do it but am getting fed up nw and it makes me boil in anger anytime i see him which i detest.he doesnt seem want to change

Even my husband complain about his eating habit,so,is not my complain alone.if he was my sibling i wud knw aw to deal wit dem though none of dem behave so

jhydebaba:
So after reporting to your hubby, he did nothing. You now reported to nairaland make we beat am abi You must be kidding me.

The time you are wasting here is enough for you to do your chores. Abeg! Enter kitchen go wash your plate.


You called him a glutton, make he no eat again Abeg, free the guy joor. Abi your husband dey complain say he no fit drop money again.


I know if the boy were to be from your family, you won't be here.

donbenedict:
First of all, he is not a full time house help. So you don't expect him to do all the chores alone at home.

You are a woman and you too should participate in the chores as well. He can decide not to eat your food. Because you are feeding him doesn't mean he must turn into ur househelp.


Dats one thing u modern wives just use to put up a fight with relatives.



Now since your husband isn't doing anythn abt it, u should not take laws into your hands.


U should giv him food, and tell him there and then he should wash his plates after eating.


If you are a full time house wife, den u shouldn't balance in d house an expect him to do all ur bidding, just as u pick up a broom and start sweeping the palour, guilty conscience will not allow him also to relax when he sees u doing it, he too will feel somehow and join u as well. That is how to solve such problems.




If I should ask, is he related to your husband?


Everythn shouldn't be by force. There are many ways to make someone do ur bidding

i av neva leave my chores for him to do,d only chores i expect him to do is sweep d parlour whr he sleep,wash dishes or fetch water which he hardly does.u said if i sweep he wud feel guilty conscience,this one doesn't,he wud lift his leg for me to sweep nd adjust well,wen i was preg,he wud b watching me fetch water nd d next day he wud use d water to bath not until i warn him lik 3tym b4 he stop using water i fetch to bath

CrazyQuinn:
cool your temper for how long is he staying?

he has bin staying for 1 nd half yr nw nd for how long,i dnt knw

An undergraduate of polytechnic staying with us is growing wings. He doesn't help in domestic chores when hubby is away, he does when hubby is around, he Waits for us to tell him what to do before he does it and he is really making me angry which i hate to be.

When i report him to hubby, he won't do anything or even chastise him instead he complaints whenever i give him food that his food is too small. I'm not a bad type to give him little food cos i have conscience and it disturbs me wen i do bad but he is a glutton that only eats and sleeps without doing anything even to wash plates he use to eat.

What do i do?

Gud aftn.Pls mamas in d house,my 2yr old son doesn't eat but poo nd take water often.i gave him flagy when he complain of stomach upset and to stop d poo for lik 3days nw,but it doesnt stop.he is not running temp or feel sick.pls help

Tnk u,i massage wit towel nd hot water nd also robb and d pain av reduce

babythug:
Congrats and welcome here!

Are you sure baby is latching on well? The entire dark portion of the nipple area should be in the mouth of the baby. You can also massage with a towel and warm.water to relieve the pain.

Sorry oh Pele

Am a new mum with 4wk Lo,am feeling much pain at d upper part of breast,to touch it sef na pain,it started 2da nd is not engorged.pls has any one xperience such.

If u are on facebook,u can join ds group call Natural hair babe,d group is very helpful in maintaining natural hair and product to buy especially for babies

zaynie:
Thanks @ Onegai, that up there was much needed by me.
I'm about shopping for my daughter's hair products.
But the detangler, its good right?



Aunty Kimoni, I see you peeping o! How are the sisters at the nunnery ?

2nd question is for how long shld i take hot water.i took hot water for 2wks nd i start taking ordinary water,my stomach av b rumbling since den,cud it b d cold water

Pls mothers i nid ur help on ds 2 issue.1,for someone tht had tear during delivery nd was stitch,how long shld she sit on hot water and how long does it takes d tear to heal,mine is 17days nw nd still pain me though i stop sitting on hot waters on d 9th day

Tanks.wud try dt cos am always scared to breastfeed

Faith111:
Rinse Nipple with cold water after every nursing section. It works wonders.

zaynie:
Apply nipp.le cream....lasinoh.
Dont stop brreastfeeding.

is dt d only tin i can apply,dnt tink i can get dt here

creamyzone:
Am a new dad and I advice you try out. "Rising raving powder". It very effective for heat. The big one is N400 and small one is N200. It will also protect your baby' skin

i use it for her already bt thr is no changes dtz y am looking for oda remedy.

My baby is 15days old,i feel intense pain weneva am breastfeeding her,i check d breast nd discover i av cut on d nipple.pls wat do i do

kaffy4bill:
Savlon/dettol bath, improve ur hygiene around d baby, avoid excessive heat, tribotan cream
Sure other sabi mamas wil contribute too

tnks 4 d info bt dt excessive heat,i dnt knw hw to control it cos she cnt b expose yet