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I knee the four kids part was a joke.

sexaddict08:
yes, but u can manage them together na.

I wish they know that.. It's like they don't know they are popular because they have been together, they should start doing diff songs and see their fan base reduce to the lowest minimum. Infact they should just kiss their music career goodbye.

Neduzze5:
Please can we get married already? I'm looking for a Catholic babe to marry.
Which Parish do you attend? And what state?

Hehehe... Bros calm down na....Ph...St Jude's Catholic church.

I was born in a Catholic family, raised a Catholic and am gonna marry in Catholic church and die a Catholic. No need running from one church to another, build up your faith and pray out your miracle, that's what I believe... GRACIAS

congrats to her

Raydan:
but why can't Igbo's marry outside their tribe

It varies, depends on the family. Same with Yorubas and other tribes. Some families do not support inter-tribal marriage because of past experience or the bad aspect they have seen or heard about such tribe .

Gracesofar:
Hi everyone,

Am not an active nairalander although have been a guest for over 8 years. And am not an active supporter of people coming here to ask for advise but there is a saying a dead body is just another corpse except the person is related to you. Now I have issues that can affect my life and am humbly here asking for advise from people who were ones in my shoes and probably who are more experienced to see the handwriting on the wall. Please don't mind the long epistle for those who really have something to contribute.


I met this lady I will call her Ada. Not her real name though, I met her when I was in my 2nd year in the Nigerian defence academy. She was a friend to my cousin sister so during their passing out from secondary school to fulfill my words I went to greet my sister and I saw this Ada of a girl. Instantly I was captivated by her IQ and beauty and again she cleared all the medals and was the best graduating student. It goes by me saying when I got home on September pass that year, I asked my cousin sister about her and the rest. ....... Just what you are thinking. Anyway I didn't ask her out we became very good friends even though she's of IGbo tribe and am a full blooded Yoruba. We were close that my sister was jealous I was just 20 and she was 16 so asking her out was a capital No. Fast forward, the year she finished secondary school her mum contacted cancer and she was to get exposed to chemo-theraphy or what do they call it and Ada was so disturbed but even though phone was not allowed nothwithstanding I was always there to stand by her. She was so lucky because her mum survived it though she had to retire herself and become a full time housewife and apart she had fibroid issue again. So Ada got admission the year she finished secondary school to study Chemical engineering and when we chatted I realised she didn't know what she want from life. Shes also the only child of her parents so I couldn't blame her even her mum that should have helped talk to her about career is on the sick bed and her dad trust Igbo men I dnt need to tell u before u guys know he's into business. Anyway, we chatted a lot over the issue of her career and I told her God saved her mother from death why won't she save some other mums who ain't as rich as them but is suffering from same illness I advised her to go into the medical field and she agreed even though she was already in the university studying chemical engineering at 16. The truth is we were so in love with ourselves. To cut the long story short. She took jamb and the next year God engraved Ada and she got admitted to study medicine and surgery in an Eastern uni and that year I asked her out and she gave me a resounding yes I do. It goes by me saying she's my first and only love. And we lived so happily ever after

Fast forward, I am among the cadets who passed out of the academy this year and during my convocation and gala night I invited my love to come celebrate since my mum is coming and I see it as an avenue to introduce them even though they've spoken on phone countless times. Thanks to ASUU strike she was home during the ceremony. That night their driver brought her mother and my sweet Ada and immediately I introduced them to my family my mum fell in love with her. Even me I must confess she's so sweet to be with. So charming. Her mum met me too and I liked her a lot so mission 1 was successful both families were in love.

After the gala night, my mum gave them an invitation for my pop and even though HV given Ada one before but she was so happy my mum invited her she hugged my mum and I was so happy about my choice of woman. Because I lost my dad at a tender age and since then its been my mum and my fear has always been I dnt want a lady that won't respect or take my mum as her own.

Fast forward again 2 days after the gala night was my pop and my made sure my clowns and some other cadets I can trust made my mum and future in-laws very comfortable.after e program we entered the hall for my commissioning and pipping and only my mum was entitled to pip me of the 2Lt rank. Fast forward immediately I became an officer I went to hug my swthrt even b4 my sister and she was even the one holding my sword throughout we snapped and we were just so happy. And my mum was to wait for me in my cousins place since there will always be enough after party in vivianna, empire and other lounges in Kaduna by my coursemates. But I begged Ada's mum and I made sure she was there with me since I dnt drink, smoke or go out with women.

Fast forward again after the program and all the parties, I went to my uncles place where my mum and sister harbour and I was surprised mum gave me a car as a token for making her proud because I was in a private uni before but due to financial instability with my mum I had to abandon the uni and wen my mates were going to 500l as Medical laboratory scientist that was when I just got admitted to Nda. I was happy for my choice but to my mum its a sacrifice so when things became stable for her she decided to get me d car on my pop for a thank you keepsake. The mistake I made that is now about changing my live started there


After I was giving the car it was a Toyota Camry popularly called muscle by we Yoruba's. After the car I decided to take my relationship with Ada to the next level and I got some cheap ring that day and decided to propose to my 20 years old gf she was already going to her 400l then. I guessed I was yo forward anyway she I took her out that night to a cinema in barnawa Kaduna and after the play inside my new car I proposed to her and she gave me a perfect yes and for the first time in my life I had my first kiss with her. I told my mum and she thank God for z grace so far and she advised me to go see his dad. The advise was the big issue but what is about ruining my happy life z me going. Monday evening I went to their house in and parked outside, her mum was so happy seeing me and before long her dad came back and my car was blocking him from entering. Trust Igbo's and their pride he was just talking that who will come and block him in his own house etc. I apologised and he looked at me up and down like who are you.anyway we entered and dz man started questioning me that why will I bring my mothers car etc. I was just 23+ since my betday z 24.and again I am just tall and lanky. No muscle or little fat so I can be confused for a teenager. Anyway, I told him its my car and he started asking me about where I work to own such a car etc I was so confused because he sounded so hostile etc buh Ada came to my mercy and told him dz So so so so. His my friend HV been telling u about and his an officer in the army etc. The man was like so where u get the Ar if u just pass out. He was just talking about the car. Oboy and I wanted to tell him am not related to Evans but how will I. Afterwards the mum came and she served me some rice etc. On the dinning table the man started questionning me again where am from and I told him south west. There and then he started telling me about his Yoruba friend who are cheaters, wife beaters. Etc. Oboy the man na tribal bigot o. I was feeling so uneasy and i told him been a wife beater is not about tribe. Its about the individual man. As the man heard this he flared up and starting telling me her daughter can't marry Yoruba, they are unrefined etc. That no Igbo cheats or beat his wife. So on he even said Yoruba's are fraudsters that they like using big cars at their early life. Anyway I kept my cool thru all the torture. And finally after the dinner, we were chatting while watching nat geo wild and he asked about my family. I told him am from a broken home and my dad z late. Upon hearing that again he said you see that's what am saying Yoruba men are so so.

I won't say more but that night was worst than the day I saw my dad dying in the sick bed yesterday night. After it all I was going and obviously he didn't like me because of this Ada my long time gf could even see me to the gate. D gate man just open up and I drive out. Since then HV not contacted ada and she haven't contacted me.



PS. I love this lady a lot. Shes my first and only gf. Pls mature nairalanders wah do u advise. Her father is too tribalistic and is a racist. Buh am stuck and torn BTW two worlds. Giving up on her or staying attached nd defiling the eccentric father.alas I can't tell my mum. Trust Yoruba women them both go gree that lady go commit the ring the day she hears



Pls I need advise. From mature mind only.....

This mods lalasticlala help me out

Well I read to the end. My advice goes this way, marriage is really deep and it's adviceable the parents are in support and gives their blessings. If you can get her mum talk to her dad that will be nice. Most parents don't like their children marrying from a particular tribe because of what they have seen or heard others go through so mostimes u don't blame them though the father was too harsh. You are still young same with the girl, why not let her graduate atleast? Never be in a hurry especially when dealing with marriage issues. As time goes on if the father can't be convinced I will advice you to move on, it might not be easy but its possible, time heals all wounds. If u guys marry and paraventure something goes wrong in the future her father will never forgive you.

TINALETC3:
Op, d problem is dat u dnt even no ur wife well since u courted 4 jst 3months. U won't hv ur solution if u dnt no d problem. Take her to a romantic environment, u no Wat she likes, spoil her until she is in a romantic and happy mood,den let d discussion flow. Ws she a virgin? Let her Tel u her past, her past relationships 2,mayb she ws once abused or raped hence d hatred 4 sex, 4rm dere u wl no where d problem is coming from, den let her see a psychologist

Op, take this advice.

Freethought:
..... Stephenfowoyo

Merlin

We are waiting for season 3

She looks good.

I really wish iam or I can but am currently not.

Kestolove:
Na uti dey knack Dix babe now?...dats gud

Am telling you.

Blackchampion:
Yea. Cos their name sounds like an Igbo name

Lol...U no serious.. Probably it's owned by an Igbo man.

Blackchampion:
Hope it's not a fuel refilling station?

Lol...It can't be.

People and busy body.

End time..

I hope this is no publicity stunt? blood is thicker than water so they should settle their differences.

No be small thing

Hmmmmmm

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Don't just take it out on the gal, she should deal with her husband too.

Keep it coming people....

Nice

GudPpleG8Nation:
Do you think it's about money? Dear, it's not all about money, it's about my time, resources, trying to convince my parents to accept her due to tribal differences, risking my life on many occasions, etc

Still not enough reason to commit suicide or kill anyone. It hurts but you should just move on.

Keep it coming guys...Thanks

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Vokog:
You may.

I just did that, thanks.

Vokog:
Send me a mail.

Please can I mail you too?

tukopy:
Im interested too. how do i reach yu

Thanks... Please drop ur WhatsApp number will chat u up or u can call or SMS me on 09034115309.

WeNoGoDie:
No need for PM. Let's chat on Whatsapp tomorrow. Glad to have you.
My Whatsapp number is 0.8.0.9.4.2.0.3.6.1.5. (Remove the dots).
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