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chuksp09:
thats the plan already in motion, still working on it though.

eaziaque:
for ur mind, I seem to be luckiest in number here, we will see overtake the whole blog. Lols. Hw r you doing? Hope u r good.

chijiaku:
June 22nd dats my date

chuksp09:
i need ur views pple, its about making myself better. I am a student with really good grades and fairly popular in my level, i relate well with my departmental mates, and they have a certain level of apprehensive regard for me and a day never goes by without one or two of my mates asking my opinion about their personal matters. But as much as i relate well with them, i have this serious phobia of standing up and positing my opinions to the whole class, whether its lectures or just class matters. If am asked a question directly i do my best to answer to the best of my knowledge, but to stand up and posit my own idea is a problem. Its not that i dont have ideas or opinion about the subject matter, but raising my hand, standing up and saying my mind seems like a big deal to me.
Any idea on how to discourage this behaviour? Its personally annoying!

chuksp09:
July 16 here. Looks like am the only one...

eaziaque:
welcome bro, pleasure having you around, we will all appreciate your contributions here, be free to table any issue for discussion, we will all be glad to participate. i hope everybody is noting ooo, 22nd july cancerians are growing in number than all others. meanwhile rukky, i'm now 3 time stronger than you.

hormordunneey:
June 28 here
Mk una wlcm mee o

onegig:
The social media, Pop culture, lack of tolerance, taking each other for granted.

1. Social media: Most partners have not learnt to use social media properly. You see an average married woman posting revealing pictures online just to crave the attention of the male folks. You would see comments like: "your as.s is big, that bo.obs is sumptuous" and all sort of rubbish that her admirers would be posting. No sane man would see this and still admire you except you are his mistress and not wife thus creating distrust. Moderation is key and people need to watch it.

Also the male folks are not left out. Some would continue chatting with numerous ladies asking for pics, sex chats, lewd talks and so on. Also, there's emotional cheating which social media has made more easier to perpetuate. You would find couples on the phone till late in the mid night. Ladies having that "special male friend" who always makes her happy online neglecting her partner and same for the male folks. Also Many ladies have become wise which is good. They don't turn a black eye to infidelity like our mothers used to. They are liberated and would rather walk away than stay back.

2. POP CULTURE: Ladies now believe in equality as posited by Hollywood movies and so on which is not what marriage is all about. Yeah equality at the work place is ideal but when it comes to marriage, truth is we are created differently and have different roles. couples must understand there's should be no competition. Each person just have different roles and the man just happens to be the leader. MIGHT sound awkward for the ladies, but that's the truth. Also the males forget that leadership is not about making laws, barking orders and showing strong head but protecting, caring and being just. If you are a despotic leader, your followers would definitely revolt one day. If you are however a caring and loving leader, no one would question your leadership.

3. Lack of tolerance:I guess we are less tolerant of each other nowadays. People flare up easily and are easily moved to anger by little irrelevant things.

4.Taking each other for granted
Not doing things that makes your partner appreciate you more. People are more individualistic now and are only concerned about "me , me and me alone"

5.Finance.
You all know the situation of the country. Most families are struggling to makes end meet and the lack of finance especially in the early stages of marriage puts a lot more strain on the couples and it only takes the will of God and discipline to overcome such problems. Most are not realistic and spend way above their finances. Give birth to kids they cannot take care of and so on. When partners learn to live within their means there would be less pressure on their daily lives.

Rajjah:
ya he is a muslim. he is too jealous. he cant stop me frm nairaland. I dont av d conscience to cheat. He is 27.

Rajjah:
Why is it dat immediately most men propose to ladies, they will ask her to quit social networks while they (d guys) will keep chatting?


Is it fair?

Horlawoomey:
I think that Karma is jungle justice, why is it that mostly innocent people suffer for someone else's sin in name of Karma.... Just look at the story of the Mother InLaw whose daughter suffered for the sin she knows nothing about......



I believe nothing like Karma exist, I believe in God though and also believe that all your deeds are somewhere waiting for you to be paid back in folds.

onegig:
Rostel2.

Truth is....Your life is in your hands. You can choose to continue expecting manna from heaven without any appreciable work or you can go out there and fix things and pray God bless whatever uyou lay your hands on.

When faced with challenges, you need to first understand what the problems is/arefrom there you can chart a way forward.

YOU had 2 outstanding courses in school but you are just relying on heresays about they sending your result to the senate so you can go for service.
Question is, have those results been cleared?
Have you passed them with verifiable evidence? If yes/no proc3ed to school, spend at leat a week there and make sure you know the true status of things.

If that's sorted....at least you know what's your next move. Service or going back to write those exams(if you hadn't truly passed them)


But in the interim. I would advise you get something doing. Even if it's a primary school that offers you a teaching job or somewhere you are able to earn something. Even if the pay just covers transport and feeding.. STAYING HOME and doing nothing is the greatest disservice you would do to youtself. There's that confidence that comes with going out daily, having a purpose and waking up looking forward to doing something worthwhile than sleeping at home.

eaziaque:
rukky wrote this on the bbm chat: ''hv a sista that shares almost the same cancerians signs as mine, and she is not a cancer born. does that happen; just wondering ooo'' As regard to this question, first i av to note that nobody has answered yet, not even the rainbow guy alias horlawoomey...Lol!!! dis is a discussion/meeting group, pls i need you bros/sis to participate and share our knowledge with others so we can all learn. To answer the question now in my own way, first, we are all humans, so character/habit can be acquired as much as it could be a natural thing in different individuals, though some characters are quite peculiar to some individuals/group. for example, while you have a habit of procastination in most cancerian individuals, some other zodiac signs don't/never exhibit this trait, while we cancerians are naturally shy and never wanting to take the first and fresh step in love (cancerians prefers the step by step system, we get to know each other slowly and proceed to the next step when it is time) or sometimes in decision making, others zodiac may posses particularly the "forward type" character, we tend too to like the backdoor role, we being the biggest performer/contributor, but prefer staying behind the limelight, in as much as the work is done and appreciated. some other zodiacs craves to be seen at the front, making their present and participation in the project known. so we can have different zodiacs sharing same characters/traits together, but there is that peculiar traits other won't have, like there will be certain traits that is peculiar to others that cancerians don't posses. Another factor that brings about that is the "curb" factor, where an individual born towards the end of a preceding zodiac month to a particular zodiac sign or born at the beginning of a succeeding zodiac month after a particular zodiac sign, "picks" from the zodiac month's traits, respectively. For example, Cancer is 21 june to 22 july, people born around 18-20th of june and those born around 23-27 july tends to posses some of the traits a cancerian will exhibit, just like you as a cancerian can pick from them too. Actually, it is a broad subject, but I just do some sort of summary here. even in the cancerian sign, we are still divided into three different categories, each group slightly different from the other, that why u see a cancerian having an uncommom character, so dont be surprised to see that, it happens that way, the best is to learn more about one's self, capitalise/improve on the good traits and make amendment on the less suitable ones. Good day all. awaiting your reactions, please.

eaziaque:
No thanks, Rukky, it is that way with me too, most of us are like that, and even though we may regret and feels bad, we make it look like it ok. And I'm so sorry for not being there these last few days, I was just kind of busy and tired, but I think I'm ok now, you guys are gonna hear more and more from me, I hope.

eaziaque:
No Cancerian would allow anyone to take him/her for granted. In fact it is even more than that, despite cancerians being generally generous and "extra" tolerant, they never believe in "one way love". If a cancerian shows you love as a family or as a friend and you don't show that much, he is gone before you know it, he is just gonna be like: afte rall I feel safer being with myself, your spirit go just dull, your mood go just flatten.

eaziaque:
Hajia rukky2000, you are welcome to this forum, your cancer 11th date is half my cancer 22nd date, that means I'm probably 2 times stronger than you are...Lol!!! Please be free to participate, we will be honoured to share opinions with you.

eaziaque:
Like I wrote earlier, people under the influence of a common zodiac sign exhibits generally some identical characters, the same here with me. Stays indoors a lot too and fears rejection of any kind. However, as I grow more conscious of those facts, I understand how it had been affecting me, and I have thrived a lot to amend. Staying indoor limits our connections and even so much our capacities, remember, we are more a practical and creative people, some times a cancerian can't explain what he can do in words, give him the avenue to prove him or herself and u r gonna be surprised, even though we care more for others than for ourselves, we need to be helped too, but we are never gonna receive that much attention/help and be able to showcase properly this wonderful gifts or be known for it if we keep staying indoor, another of it effects on us is that it is the reason most people looking at us from "outside", sees us sometimes as lazy or a bunch of self centered people, they think we care less of them, since it is only them who do the visiting, if only they knew we are not only the most appreciative/receptors of care but the most giver of care and love without asking much in return except to be loved back, no cancerian ever believed in the philosophy of "one way love". I noticed you don't care sentimentally about me and I'm surely gone before you even noticed it. And as for the fear of rejection factor, we need to take the risk, people naturally loves cancerians, we just care too much sometimes, it will surprise you how the people you feared might reject you will ask you why it took you so long before showing up, because you are beautiful and kind and shares more, maybe not that bold, especially when new with them but of course you will settle in once you get accustomed to them. When I look into the past today, I regret so many things I've missed professionally and sentimentally simply because I feared something that was never there. Ladies I've missed because I feared they would reject me tells me today how great the crunch they had on me but had to assume I wasn't feeling them because I never showed interests. Don't wanna miss that again. Lailai!

Rajjah:
ôuhh! My reason is dat stayin indoor guarantees safety.

Rajjah:
ôuhh! My reason is dat stayin indoor guarantees safety.

Horlawoomey:
rukky2000 I see you, hope you are fine

Uby40:
Nice to finally be acquainted with my very own. I'm Zeus, with birth date July 11th. BBM- 52F8A396

Rajjah:
Wow seriously, I poses most of dis cancerians characters esp givin advice n stayin indoors.

kestolove95:
masha Allah. Baby na

kestolove95:
masha Allah. Baby na

kestolove95:
swthrt

lastnogood:
Hmmm as a single mom of 2, I'd say take your time and tread wisely.

Not all single moms are happy with their situation and are actively on the lookout for marriage. Which, btw isn't a bad thing... I mean, most single women under 35 are too. But,depending on how she feels, there may be desperation on her end and the ability to judge you may diminish if you know what I mean. So take your time. Make sure you meet the father before taking things seriously.

In my case, my kids have a dad who is also otherwise involved with another lady. He takes care of them, supports them and leaves me alone to live my life. You want something similar, the kids shouldn't need another dad and the one there should enjoy the relationship with the kid and good communication with the mother. If not, prepare for headache.

Finally, based on my own experience, I am not in a huge rush to settle down, I've got both a male and female child, supportive and friendly father, and my business is booming,so my search for love is more organic in nature. I'd encourage yours to be the same, take the same precautions, ask the same questions, seek your parents advice don't get pushed into a life you're not ready for.