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Gotocourt:
It's no secret, that zenith bank Boss that's investing in real estate, property per unit in highrise will go for $2.3M USD in a crowded building is way to expensive and built for corrupt polithiefcians for money laundering 🤷🏿.

That 12K na lamba though.

Lagos is among the highest population densities in the world. That comes with a cost. Many businessmen and foreigners also buy these properties.
12k USD a month is cheap depending on where you live in LA. There are many expensive neighborhoods that rent exceed 10k/month.

Fiscus105:
Have you asked yourself, why all of them want to go to USA by hook and crook?

If the owner of a house tells you not to come inside, how is it too difficult, either to stay at your home or go to those who are ready to welcome you wholeheartedly?


Not until you people redirect your traveling to other countries and stop going to USA and for every govt of the world stops doing business with USA, and let see how buffalo of America who think he own the America will feel.

There are many valid reasons to visit the USA. Millions visit each year for business purposes. The hospitality industry is complaining from these stringent policies. The private sector is not inline within these government policies.

femi4:
And where did I say it was caused by FBN

Read to understand not to argue

If you understand how inter-bank transfers work you won't be typing FBN being efficient and reversals. I can teach you the workflow if you're willing to learn and then you'll realize what you typed doesn't make sense.

Jef4u:
How do I get my money back on time please?

The bank that debited you is responsible for tracing your funds. Call/visit the bank and ask them to trace your transfer using the session ID.
They'll update you on the status of the transaction.

femi4:
I ve been using FBN for decades. I am not new to glitch.

Whenever money got reversed, you ll see it in your statement or mobile bank history...they are so efficient like that

Few yrs ago, they had 24hrs glitch n everything was rectified the following day with reversed notification / emails etc

The glitch was not caused by FBN. Billions were trapped. FBN can confirm if the transaction was successful or not by checking their automated reconciliation or acknowledgement from the receiving bank. Most of the glitches are not from the banks. This was from the settlement system and it messes things up.

femi4:
FBN dont move like that...if its reversed, it will be in your account even with the charges reversed

You clearly don't know how inter-bank transactions work. FBN is not the one initiating the reversal. There was a glitch at the settlement system. They are responsible for most reversals and not the banks.

femi4:
When fbn says its succeessful, its always successful. Your money is with gtb

Many successful transactions were reversed on that date. He should reach out to the originating bank.

Jef4u:
There supposed to be a penalty for such failure in service delivery and witholding of people's money

It's not the fault of either banks. Nigeria banks are very fast in inter-bank transactions. NIBSS experienced network downtime and it affected interbank transfers. Reach out to the issuing bank for resolution.

DesireV:
It depends on your situation before applying for adjustment of status.

E.g someone on dual intent visa like H1B won't have any problem other than having to remain in home country till green card is approved.

Only visa fraud and illegal migrant people would be axed

Why will someone on H1B return to their home country? AOS is in the law and there will continue to be AoS. This is not a new law but a reminder to applicants and USCIS officers.

They reinstated and “reminded” applicants and USCIS officers that discretion has been written into the law, and a lack of discretion has caused fraudulent patterns in some areas, therefore they are now going to exercise their legal right to discretion more in depth than before.

They did not eliminate legal AOS, no new law has been made, no major changes have been enforced in black letter policy. They basically said “We see the patterns, we’re going to make fraudulent patterns harder to achieve… and we are telling you this now, so it doesn’t come as a shock”

MT:
There's a question we are not asking.

Was it Edoho action that pushed Sandra to misbehave or was it Sandra toxicity that caused Edoho to misbehave.

This woman emphasized that she built the house Edoho was living. There was a tendency that this woman might be referring to that everytime they had issue. No mam wants that. I never said she did, I said there was a tendency.

Edoho action was inexcusable and also Sandra action. They are both cheating on their home.

Chike must be heartbroken now, Sandra even cheated on him. What a life!

The foundation of their relationship was built on cheating. That's not different from many relationships out there. There's nothing new in their case, in all of these the blogs are the ones "cashing out." These are the types of headlines that Nigeria youths revel in.
I've posited that open relationships and consensual non-monogagany should be legalized in Nigeria. Until then everyone can keep deceiving themselves about non-issues.

otipoju:
When Frank told Chike " Leave my wife alone ", Chike could simply have blocked the woman and moved on. Every man has that power but he enjoyed bringing pain to another man.

That is what he can never recover from and his life is in real danger not just career. Some husbands will ensure that he can never ever do that again.

This thing also happened in Europe to Grigori Rasputin. The men of the city conspired to assasinate him and then castrate because their wives flocked to him to sleep with them

You don't have to lie to prove a point. Gregory Rasputin was assassinated because several Russian nobles and political figures believed he had gained dangerous influence over the Russian royal family, especially Tsarina Alexandra, during a time of national crisis. That was the major cause of his assassination. Ironically, Rasputin’s death did not save the monarchy. Just a few months later, the Russian Revolution of 1917 led to the fall of Tsar Nicholas II and the end of the Romanov Empire.

I don't know if you cheat or not but I tell every man and women, if you cannot get married and stay faithful then get out and live the way you want. I don't understand the meaning of side-chick and side-guy that our society celebrates. Frank is notorious for being unfaithful and he deserves every bit of agony that comes his way. You men should emacipate yourself from your backward thinking.

narite:
The Family unit won't break down, if the man goes on to remarry but getting it right (This is paramount). When unfortunate things like this happen which can happen to anyone, how the future is going to be for the man and his children now entirely depends on the quality of his decision. And that decision lies in the next woman he goes on to marry.

As a man or woman, you can afford to make mistake with the first woman you go on altar with but for a second time, I have never seen a man who goes on to make a mistake again and his entirely universe (everything he has built, children, asset etc) completely did not fade into nothing, whether the man is innocent, good, bad does not matter. The outcome always ends up the same.


As for the woman, I have never come across a woman that committed infidelity and not dying in less than 7 years later (especially those with a very faithful man), the ones that did not die, their life become so clearly miserable that i as a person that hardly judges people and overlook people grave errors find it utterly difficult to still roll or be seen with them (This sounds philosophical but it is true)

I like those words. Quality of decision.

The man or woman should not make mistake.
I've corrected that.

Your paragraph 3 is folktales. There are many women that I know who have committed infinitely and are doing just fine. If a woman is unfaithful, you can sue for divorce or reconcile. There is no correlation between her infidelity and her future life.

Offpoint1:
How married men don't know their biological child right from the day they were born or after a year baffles me.

Your biological child should carry your features or feature from your family.

Even if they carry the mother features, some of your features will be visible. Nature isn't stű}pid

Most men that experience this are actually irresponsible. It shows they are not fully involved in their family life. Getting married involves more than providing physically.
People should be seeking marriage counseling.

tctrills:
But this is fallacy and I believe you know it.
Why attribute Africa's lack of progress to this.
You mean Africa is not held back because of bad leaders, we are not held back because we lack the instructions. but according to you, we are held back and not progressing because we feel that the chastity of a married woman is stronger in keeping the family than that of her husband.

I really don't understand how you see Africa's problems.

Comrade, you are missing the point. Nobody is denying that Africa suffers from bad leadership, corruption, weak institutions, poor policies, and lack of development. Those are major problems. But cultural attitudes also play a major role in shaping society, and African patriarchy is one of them.

A society cannot fully progress when half of its population is constantly expected to be silent, submissive, or limited in opportunities. When women are denied equal participation in leadership, education, decision-making, and economic growth, the entire society loses talent, innovation, and balance. No Nigerian woman have been a Governor or president since 1999, hundreds of men have ruled and yet the country continue to go downhill.

Also, this discussion is not about “the chastity of a married woman.” That is exactly the problem reducing women’s value mainly to morality standards while men are often excused from the same expectations. Equality means holding both men and women to the same standards while giving both the same respect and opportunities.

Africa’s problems are complex, but culture influences leadership, family structure, education, and national development. I hope you now have a better understanding comrade.

jaxxy:
What is funny is that cheating married men are upset with chike for cheating.

We need more people like you to say the truth. It's funny how unfaithful men are angry with Chike. 🤣

Hullcity:
Out of all the thousands of single young and beautiful ladies available , u went for a maried woman. Now u have succeeded in breaking the home of your fellow man. And you think you can have peace of mind, never! .
Ur career is over before it started becos if your Foolishness .

The truth is you are just being emotional. Many married men and women don't respect their marriage vows. Don't tell me you're not aware of that. There is no relationship between a boy who sleeps with a married woman and his career. I know a lot of men who do such and they are very successful in their careers. We should learn to separate logic from emotions.

themanderon:
There are biblical consequences for breaking a man's home and sleeping with his wife. The repercussions are severe so prepare for it. An adultrous woman is a quick fire expressway to an early grave. The Bible doesn't lie and I know some people who ended up horribly for the simple sin of sleeping with another man's wife.

So what does the Bible say about an adulterous man.

tctrills:
What are you talking about? Is Chike not a man? Most men are outraged with Chike because as men, we seek to protect the family.
This guy came to destroy a fellow brothers home so why shouldn't we be mad at him.
Also, a cheating wife is never the same as a cheating husband.
The virtue of a woman is farore important in stabilizing the family than that of the man.

This is the mindset that has held back progress for far too long in African communities. The mindset that a "cheating wife is never the same as a cheating husband" is outdated, unfair, and damaging to families, communities, and society as a whole.

In this modern age, women are not second-class citizens or people whose voices should be controlled or ignored. They are equal human beings with the same intelligence, value, rights, opportunities, and potentials.

A strong society is not built on domination, but on mutual respect, partnership, and shared responsibility. Progress begins when we abandon backward traditions that suppress women and embrace equality with maturity and open-mindedness.

Frank failed in being a faithful husband, caring father and lacked the maturity to handle marital crises. I always tell everyone, it's not compulsory to get married. After he failed in his first marriage, he should have remained single and develop himself emotionally.

The ex-wife failed in knowing how to handle an unfaithful husband. She wanted to retaliate but that's a foolish way to handle such situations. She didn't seek professional advise.

There are millions of men and women like Chike who sleep with married individuals. Chike is not the first and he won't be the last.

In my court, the husband and wife are guilty as charged.

LoveIsKind:
Read between the lines.

Replying you is exhausting. Like really? Are you thinking this way?

I really need to leave this country ASAP.

Did the application instruction ever said "Post your Linkin account"?

Nairaland mods have given clear Instructions never to post our personal details on this forum because of scammers. Think bro...think.

Him posting his profiles is even against the Nairaland rules and regulations.

I can't believe I'm having this conversation.

Peter Obi was right.

I rest my case.

Your posts reeks of "entitlement mentality." The truth is, nobody owes you success, and blaming the government, society, or other people will never build the future you want. Strong people develop themselves, sharpen their skills, and stay disciplined.

Drop the entitlement, open your heart to correction, and become receptive to growth and new perspectives. A closed mind will always remain stuck, but a person willing to learn, adapt, and humble himself can achieve far greater things in life. Your attitude will either limit you or elevate you — the choice is yours.

casualobserver:
What is standard global wage? There is no such thing. If you feel as an engineering graduate in Nigeria you are entitled to the same £40,000 a Uk graduate earns, why don’t you apply for the UK job? Trust me if you were qualified they will employ you. Wages will always be a reflection of local environment plus the particular skill. What should be constant irrespective of where you are is the quality of the certificate that says you are qualified. That’s the problem! Your Nigerian certificate says you are educated in a particular course but when you are put to test, you fall short of basic standards.

In Mexico a qualified doctor fresh from medical school earns $7,000-12,000, just next door in the US he will earn $72-92,000, in Canada he will earn $43-54K. There will no difference in the standard of the American or Mexican doctor. That’s the problem with NIgeiran graduates…the quality!

I am telling you in Nigeria, there are graduates who earn upwards of N2m a month, I know of graduates in Nigeria on $100,000 pa.a and there are those who earn N70k a month minimum wage. Those well paid did not go Nigerian universities.

Nigeria has a large unemployed youth population, we are an English speaking country. Ordinarily we should be a node for call center farms. Many firms explored the idea, you know why it didn’t happen? Our basic English and IQ is actually very poor. We speak but lack comprehension and we can’t solve problems or reason logically, which is where the IQ part comes in.


I have said It many times on Nairaland about English comprehension and IQ. Most discussions on this site boil down to the absence of both. Search “casualobserver + IQ” you will get hundreds of posts. The main issue is Nigeria is comprehension and IQ. Now your employers are telling you.

Very brilliant of you. It's evident that you are exposed internationally. There's nothing as standard global wage and every top talent get the best jobs. Most times it's those without nothing to offer that that complain so much and they're not willing to learn.
In the US, you have wide income range depending on location. A 120k offer in LA can be 60k in Alabama. Even in the same location, you have to advocate for yourself. I once had an offer where some of my colleagues were making 70% of my income, they were unhappy when they found out and HR told me never to disclose my income to anyone. Any top talent can get a job anywhere in the world. Nigerians need to learn to develop themselves instead of fleeting away their time on social media.

SpencerForbes:
The core issue with the Nigerian system is a lack of what I’d call "Joseph’s wisdom"—essentially, a lack of strategic foresight.
Imagine if a founder, like the owner of Moniepoint, opened a massive internship program targeting first-class graduates. He could hire one or two foreign experts and place them on a contract where they must mentor these graduates for three years, transferring their full knowledge base before their tenure ends.

If he starts with five top-tier hires who each train three more people, within six months the talent pool begins to multiply. In three years, you’ve built a powerhouse of intellectual capital. You create a self-sustaining workforce so deep that even the "japa" syndrome or brain drain wouldn't be able to shake the company's foundation.

Valid points. We have the workforce and training is essential. We shouldn't always be looking for "already made" talents.

MT:
This thread is an example of what the Moniepoint CEO says.

If this thread is about Portable vs Carter Efe, it must have stretched to a minimum of 10 pages😁

Don't blame a former president who said the youths are lazy.

SpencerForbes:
I completely disagree with him. Having worked within the corporate system, I’ve realized that many Nigerian employers don’t actually like hiring Nigerians. Why? Because they want maximum skills for minimum pay.
They will hire a foreigner and pay him 350k–400k, but hire a Nigerian for the same role and pay 250k. The Nigerian might even be more skillful, but they value the expat more simply because of where he’s from.

Look at the minimum wage—it's 70k. Yet, I can bet that many employers pay their drivers and security far less than that. But imagine if it were a foreign firm or individual safeguarding their property; they wouldn’t blink at paying 200k.

The moment we start to value our own people, maybe "yahoo" and other social vices will reduce. In this country, we love to overwork our own and overvalue others. It’s discouraging for the youth. Other countries prioritize their citizens, but here, we do the exact opposite.

As someone who has hired talents local and foreign. I can tell you that Nigerians have poor work ethics. It's not always about pay. Our workers sometimes exhibit "I don't care attitude " We have poor work ethics compared to foreigners. I can give you several examples from my working experience. It's not easy to get foreign workers into Nigeria and it saves me a lot to use local workers. But when these workers don't understand contracts, timelines, dedication and diligence, it's better getting foreign workers whose sole business is to get the work done and get out.

phineas:
Stop speaking on what you don't know

Moniepoint is a fintech,he needs tech boys

Naija wants to pay tech persons peanuts and use them like horses when they already get remote jobs that pay them steady without them leaving the house

Tech boys and girls are refusing naija tech role with nonsense pay and toxic work environments

It's not just moniepoint it applies across sectors and many banks

Naija should pay better and profer better working conditions.simple

These same tech persons that you say are unavailable are been recruited daily remotely with their naija education.be deceiving yourself,some even get coas to move

The same complaint is made every where. Foreign workers are saying that jobs are being outsourced because the companies don't want to pay local workers good wages.
Many of the companies giving jobs to Nigerians are looking for cheap labor not because they can't get talent locally. It becomes a win-win for both parties.

All companies want to reduce costs.

Kenn55:
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As per your last paragraph, Nigerians don't have the option of removing bad leaders unfortunately. Elections mean nothing in Nigeria. It doesn't matter whether they want to vote out bad leaders or not, dem no fit.

Bad leaders will continue to lead Nigeria, we don't have the kind of system in the west that gives citizens power to remove a leader, nigerian citizens are powerless by design

That's not correct. There have been Governors/House of assembly/National assembly members who did one term. Jonathan also did one term. Any leader can be removed. The issue is not the leaders, it's the institutions. The west have also had bad leader but the strong institutions continue to protect the system.

seunmsg:
Actually, what we have is a revenue problem and not a spending problem. For a developing country with over 200million people, our revenue is grossly inadequate to push us to a developed country. To make matters worse, we have a huge population that thinks FG must give us everything for free without caring for who will pay. Free education, free health care, free electricity, subsidized PMS, fixed exchange rate, subsidized fertilizers, untolled federal highways etc. And despite this huge expectation of freebies, we don't want to pay commensurate taxes. Sorry buddy, spending is not our problem. We need to improve our revenue.

Revenue problem is also a spending problem. Nigeria doesn't lack potential revenue, it under collects, leaks it and depends on a single source.
What can be done - expand tax to GDP ratio
Increase transparency in the oil and gas industry which is a major source of revenue.
Cut wasteful subsidies eg Government should reduce/eliminate subsidy on power.
Encourage more foreign investors
Monetize public assets etc
It's true the country has been on a bad trajectory for decades so this is a structural issue.

EponObi:
You guys are never real. You are comparing where there's sense of service and decorum with Nigeria. Opening toilets to the public is not the issue; the problem is the manner at which the public (Nigerians) will handle the facilities.

Go to universities across the nation and see how students (the supposed educated and exposed ones of the society) use toilets on their campuses. You will pity those employees who clean and maintain the facilities. If students are doing that, how do you think the public will handle facilities of eateries and banks?

There's no upside to this for the banks or eateries. Just troubles and headaches.

Your post is affirming what he said. It's not a government problem but Nigerian problem. Many banks and gas stations open their restrooms to the public in other countries, so if you say Nigerians are not decent, the government can't help them. That's parental and societal failure.
There should always be partnership between private institutions and the government.

Ashirioluwa:
I do believe that I do not know about how she lost her virginity. Additionally, I understand that sex and love do not always correlate. But what I know is that I will not allow anyone to deceive me.

I am not crazy as to whether a girl is a virgin or not because I myself am not a virgin. However, I have decided that if a lady is not a virgin, she cannot ask me to wait until marriage for sex. I am not going to buy that from her, and I would prefer not to hear her elaborate explanations regarding her past and how she lost her virginity.

The solution will be to go our separate ways.

Well, that's fair enough. I do agree that nobody should be deceived in a relationship.

Ashirioluwa:
I will respect her decision only if the lady in question is a virgin and she wants to remain that way till our marriage.

If the lady is not a virgin, I will term her decision as deception and believe that she probably doesn't have feelings for me and that she is possibly having fun or involved with someone else outside our relationship.

You don't know the circumstances in which she lost her virginity. Sex and love are not always related.

DeclanR:
Honestly.
Maybe she was desperate to get married.
What's 8 Months?

Date someone u want to marry for at least two years first. You see why most marriages are crashing these days?

There's no fixed time to date. My uncle didn't date and they're still doing just fine. The length of dating is not related to how successful your marriage will be.

stan4b:
If no sex before marriage, then no spending or billing of any kind before marriage. Case closed.

Marriage is not transactional. The wrapped-up view of marriage is what's killing the institution.

deebrain:
I was raised up among girls. We get them plenty ratio 4 to one boy.

I can tell you for free that once a girl gets to late 20s to early 30s, it's not easy.

All these so-called independent women association are a bunch of liars.

Yes they are become rich and successful which should be encouraged. But mentally and emotionally, e no funny O.

Real men abeg. Come and marry from our side O.

That's how your parents raised you guys. Getting Married is seen an achievement. Based on my upbringing, we don't view it that way. I seen many single individuals, male and female who are fine just being single.