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"Give me peace, when trouble blows,
Jehovah sees, Jehovah knows, He is my peace." 🎵🎵

This song remains one of my top five favourite gospel songs ever. Rest on Ron. PEACE 🕊

otipoju:
My faculty and set mate that year. We took classes together from part one to part four. calm and easy going girl, also very coded and zero o drama.

Never knew the OAU "aro" culture don seep enter her body by osmosis and she would turn the culture to a money spinning career.

Na we Awo boys wey carry the culture for head those years don turn to extremely calm and introverted gentlemen now.

The era of Professor Jembe, Bukina, Maxwell,Subomi Iginla , Dr 3A's , Femi Freedeom, Revo, Andfash, Olembe, Agbaakin, M-M, Saburi, Energy, Diamond. U-Fit,

Sabur !!!
Of the greatest... gba gba!

You are all you got. Nobody really send you, except God.
So take good and proper care of yourself.

Hmmn, Sir Okafor's law of congodynamics proving to be stronger than both Sir Isaac Newton's and Galileo's laws put together... it is well o.

iyke484real:
Hello everyone, good morning, happy weekend, happy new month and happy new year to all of you beautiful family of Nairaland..

I'm reaching out in the hopes of finding some support and guidance during this particularly challenging time in my life. As the new year begins, I'm facing a perfect storm of financial difficulties, depression, and anxiety following the loss of my job.

After completing my national youth service, I was fortunate to secure a job that provided me with a sense of purpose and stability. However, due to unforeseen circumstances, the contract between my employer and the state government was terminated, and I found myself among the laid-off workers.

The sudden loss of my only source of income has left me feeling lost and overwhelmed. I'm struggling to make ends meet, and the pressure to support my mother's healthcare needs is weighing heavily on me. To make matters worse, my house rent is due on February 2, 2026, and I'm unsure about how I'll manage to pay it.

I'm finding it difficult to cope with the stress and uncertainty of my situation, and I'm in desperate need of guidance and support. If anyone has experienced similar challenges or has any advice to offer, I would be grateful for your insights. I'm eager to take steps towards improving my situation, but I'm not sure where to start.

If you have any suggestions or know of any resources that could help, please share. Your support and guidance would mean a lot to me.

Best regards,

I don't know if this would help...

But, I will say first step is you should try to be calm

Let me assume you have some little savings. Talk to family members or friends to raise money to sort your rent or to make part payment, as this is the most important bill for you now (you need a place to think and plan).

Then find something legitimate do by all means to earn an income no matter how small for a restart, work, pray and have absolute faith in God.

Divine help will come for you.

Console looks okay... simple and cool design.

But the fact that the woofer is placed on the floor below it for whatever reason makes the sampling below par.

Sirchiboy:
To me I will say nothing.
I learnt negative vices from him .
When I was little kid , he Send me to betting office to play game for him.
That is how I became a bettor that affected my mental thinking.
The painful thing is that he never achieve any thing from betting for more than 70 plus years of existence.
Secondly sending a small kid to buy tobacco snuff for him.
Many evil vices

My Dad was a shrewd and very patient man. Although, na bad sharp nigga for women mata.

Above all, he was a kind man, sincerely.

fineboynl:
transportation and other logistic. It's easy to calculate online until you enter market youtselt

Which kain nonsense transportation... abeg jor.

Drsnives:
Good evening guys..
In my place of work we normally do end of year rice contribution to help ourselves so the burden won't be much.
This year we did 10k monthly that's 120k.
Below the is we package we received today.
Wished I had voice, would have suggested 1 n half bag of rice, most of this items they included don't freak me..
The items include
Rice
1 cartoon of Gino tomatoes (sachet ones)
5liter g.oil
4liter p.oil
2 packets of salt
1 bama
Maggi
Dish washing liquor n
Dental floss/toothpick

Pls guy check it out n point out your observations.
My wife from her body language is saying I was cheated

Omo, dem cheat you o.... never join things with the coordinators again.

Akinpedia:
You’ve dropped gems o! 😂
I love how you’ve balanced sense with humour.

Office romance—fair point. Not everyone can separate emotions from environment, and honestly your mama’s advice is premium wisdom. Some people don use workplace turn heartbreak HQ.

And that part about having an understanding partner? Spot on. Stability at home really does make the “market” less chaotic. It’s the small check-ins that build something solid.

As for weekends—omo, your boundaries are elite! Airplane mode from Friday evening? I respect it. People who protect their peace like that actually show up better everywhere else.

Thanks for adding your perspective. This your “small contribution” na full masterclass. 😄👏🏾

Thanks baba

Actually, as per the airplane mode... I usually turn off intermittently after some hours to check dropped messages on WhatsApp. I reply the few I want and go off again... no calls pls.
For the peace issue, even bible said love your neighbour as yourself... not more than yourself. How will I deliver well if I'm not well recharged or okay myself.

Make I just contribute small to your long tori...

Office romance ? Nah, I don't subscribe to it... "my mama teach me not to shit in the place I eat." Although, I build close friendships M/F for a mutual time of need (excluding romance).
I mean I do my sina (waywardness) faaarr away.

Then as per traffic..? Best to have an understanding Partner.
Regularly and around specific hrs, my spouse will call/text briefly just to check on how my day is going. "It's often said the market could be unstable, but the home shouldn't."
So, it's vital to know that as you make your bed, so you lay on it.

Lastly, the weekend is strictly family time, infact from Friday evening. We unwind and refresh ahead ahead... unless I get worthy side hustle.
Honestly, you'd be as lucky as a man that found gold... if I pick your calls for any work/office related stuffs at weekends even if you are my boss, abi you wan call pesin wey dey airplane mode?
People know, so they adapt... QED

Learning.... we need more insights please

yarimo:
and terrorists killings innocent people in name of sit at home

Exactly...

Kill 'em all... I mean all the bandits.

"I dreamed.., now life has killed the dream that I dreamt."

Kalulu44:
Neehi Torege
An neehi Torege
Torege, amduna.......
Hahahaha, I tried abi

Make I try...

"Yeeeh tosaati eee....
A nahin torege
Toregeeee, amna tahi
Nma nari ma, torege.."

Omo, what a movie... what a memory.

Kalulu44:
Lolz! You just reviewed the movie very well. That movie was produced in 1978 but I first watched it in 1988 when I was just 8yrs old.
I still have the songs from that movie and the likes of Mard, Ghazab, Yeh Vaada Raha, Disco Dancer, India Commando, Nagin, Burning Train, Loha, Kaalia, e.t.c in my phone till now.

You be bros.
Good list... but you sabi RAJU (the elephant man movie) ?

The first and sensible move BAT will ever make for the country. Kudos on this one. 👏👏

Mistaresa:
Who else has noticed that since Trump condemned the killings of Christians in Nigeria and pledged to send troops to wipe out terrorists disturbing the peace of the nation, Wike has not been in the news lately. Unlike before everyday news were always centered on Wike. At least the man is observing a break from the spotlight...😂😂😂😂

Ofcourse, he is getting to see he has been supporting the disgraced government of a fantastically disgraced country, according to POTUS.

Kayberg:
I still don't understand why that was done in the first place.

Buhari knew exactly what he did with that...

Then you expect one fellow to rest in peace ? I doubt.

MarkNsukkaBread:
If he continues giving like a king he will remain a pauper forever!

My dear, all my life... I have never seen givers lack. It may be possible temporarily, but never in the long term.

"If he has the spirit of generosity, a pauper will give like a King."

GreenCovering:
May Allah guide the President with the insights to unravel and resolve the security challenges in this country.
I believe in your abilities dear Jagaban and I believe you occupy a unique spot in history to be able to handle this.
You will not fail! Insha Allah!!

Ameen.

He is failing already, my guy.

Hedonisco:
This is simply a tribal matter. Imagine for one second that it was a Southern Christian soldier that stood up like that to a Fulani Muslim Minister of FCT. Just objectively imagine such a scenario. It would never even happen because such a Southern soldier would dare not. Even if he does, the reaction or outcome would be very different from what we are seeing now.

Hedonist... stop making everything look tribal. That's too trivial !

ambale:
Many people at that 40 now, already have kids and families to cater for and the worst part is they start to become redundant, cos every penny they see has to be spent on food for their families, they even beg sometimes so as to pay their children school fees

It is not encouraging at all

This is a big misery

In my opinion...

Grass to Grace

ASA

Mushin to Mohits

Get Squared

True Story

Entertainer

Superstar

Emceecee:
I was going through the thread and there was a lot of pain and struggle, I guess it's nothing to be surprised about. The thing is, they have a commonality.

There was a Russian physicist who claimed to discover how the universe works and wrote a really big book about it called reality transurfing. In it he describes a lot of things, and I'll like to mention one of them which seems to be very common, and that's the Idea of excess importance.

Have you ever noticed how people often attract the very thing they’re trying to escape?
The one who fears loneliness ends up in relationships that make them feel invisible.
The one desperate for money keeps meeting setbacks and scarcity.
The one who wants peace often finds themselves surrounded by chaos.

It’s not that life is cruel — it’s that life mirrors what we energize the most.

Whenever we give something excess importance, we create an imbalance in our inner state — a kind of energetic “charge.” And because nature always seeks balance, life responds by bringing the opposite pole into play.

The person who fears poverty gives it power — every thought of lack becomes a silent request. The person who worships success with desperation attracts delay and resistance. The one who obsesses over being loved often draws people who confirm their fears instead.

It’s not punishment — it’s balance.

The world doesn’t respond to words like “I want” or “I hate.” It responds to feeling.
And the heart doesn’t distinguish between positive and negative emotion — it only feels intensity.
So when we spend our days emotionally charged by worry, fear, or frustration, we unknowingly send out a powerful signal — one that calls back experiences carrying that same emotional tone.

That’s why it seems like we attract our opposites.
The ambitious meet the passive.
The kind meet the ungrateful.
The driven meet delay.

It’s not random — it’s resonance.

Let me give an example:
Let's see someone is like oh I have money and people are suffering so I want to help them. Nature doesn't understand people suffering but you to see that thought and energy you give at excess importance and so it's like there is a charge that is too much here and so we need to balance it with something that removes it. So the generous man attracts someone that takes advantage of him, does so use like people are wicked and ungrateful I will never help anyone again. This nature restores balance.

The more importance we attach to something, the more the world moves to neutralize it.
And the more we resist what we dislike, the more life reinforces it.

So when things go wrong, the question isn’t “Why is this happening to me?”
It’s “Where have I placed too much importance?”

Often, what we need isn’t to fight harder, but to release the tension — to stop charging our reality with desperation, control, or emotional weight.

When we stop demanding so much from life, life begins to respond.
When we stop seeing ourselves as victims or heroes in constant struggle, balance returns naturally.

You don’t have to force outcomes — reality unfolds around the quality of your inner state.
If that inner state is peace, peace reflects.
If it’s tension, tension reflects.

What's the solution? Not fight, but to go with the flow, set and intention and rid oneself of desire and importance. Of course there's a lot more, but perhaps this will get you started.

Oh, in case I forgot to mention, the world reflects you relationship to it, like a mirror. For example saying you hate poverty and you want money doesn't bring money to you, the world will reflect, your hate, of poverty, and your want of money, that is the nature of the mirror. If you were to say instead I am rich and have money................, that's a start.

The bolded works like magic... asin keeping my head straight, yet "Unbothered."

If you're broke, please do not marry... or else you will be broken.

Go hustle first to escape being broke... that should be your thought Morning, Day, and Night.

Ratty !!

Reminds me of the movie "Third world cop"

Amotolongbo:
Samson and his seven locked hairs

This very one is the number one.
Then picture King Solomon in his palace, with his guard attempting to divide the baby.

LoneSoldier:
The money I have is okay for me, I don't need a wife.

"He that findeth a wife, findeth suffering"

LoneSoja, no worry, bodi go tell you when you get to 50+ age... you go understand.

Dem no dey telli person.