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Romance / Re: GIDI Love.......(pls Don't Open) by Saintflames(m): 6:40am On Jul 18, 2016 |
Nubian999 i remember ur mom warn you not to play with fire!!!! Now u are here oya turn ur *ss let me spank u out of here |
Romance / Re: GIDI Love.......(pls Don't Open) by Saintflames(m): 6:38am On Jul 18, 2016 |
Prodigee help me ask her o.... Medunna are u saying u would have become a better option to Tosyne2much? 1 Like |
Romance / GIDI Love.......(pls Don't Open) by Saintflames(m): 6:05am On Jul 18, 2016 |
Abeg who nairaland don't help get a serious relationship? Got few crushes here but dam eem let me comment my reserve first........ Am going to be dropping my female crushes here. Pls if i call your name answer present Sir. Charlene Refiner Ivy Naughtynaughty Tosyne2much HateU2 Estharfabian......... I wanna date one among this crushes guys pls who among this crushes would suggest i should take home to meet my parents? |
Romance / Re: Buharisbae My Lady Crush by Saintflames(m): 4:17am On May 02, 2016 |
Buharisbae kashybaby is stealing ur show just lyk she'd always done |
Romance / Re: Buharisbae My Lady Crush by Saintflames(m): 11:14am On May 01, 2016 |
@ buharisbae I don't wanna fight i just wanna feel u, u don't have to try u don't have to change i just want the real u....am going in circles trying hard 2 get to where u are. Remember there's a war on nairaland so come prepared to fight. |
Romance / Re: Buharisbae My Lady Crush by Saintflames(m): 11:06am On May 01, 2016 |
Tnx @ H20 even if dem talk say water pass garri myself aand Buharisbae go take am say garri fall inside water.....if Buharisbae wouldn't mind i know say 9months from now i go follow her go maternity. |
Romance / Re: Buharisbae My Lady Crush by Saintflames(m): 1:25pm On Apr 30, 2016 |
I thought ur mama warned you not to play with fire..@ Kashybaby |
Romance / Re: Buharisbae My Lady Crush by Saintflames(m): 10:05am On Apr 30, 2016 |
Kashybaby na u know o lol howz ur 9ja crush doing? |
Romance / Re: Buharisbae My Lady Crush by Saintflames(m): 10:02am On Apr 30, 2016 |
Analysis corner i ain't crushing on her dp am crushing on her 4 real......dis ain't titanic am not a sinking ship. Buharisbae my Angel 08181244208 u can reach me via my contact |
Romance / Buharisbae My Lady Crush by Saintflames(m): 3:51am On Apr 30, 2016 |
Am not into social media dating but like they always said " there's always a first time" got this gal i'd been crushing on for a while now she's none other person but BUHARISBAE. i really hope we get along well and connects too...... She got the body of a goddess wonderful and so matured, she could be the Queen of my heart my Annie Macaulay. I see d fire in her eyes, kai walahi her looks can melt ice....team #iwannatakeitveryphysical#. I guess those lines are the best line to help convey my message to you. |
Romance / Re: Asian Girl Looking For Black Men by Saintflames(m): 3:32am On Apr 20, 2016 |
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Romance / Re: Asian Girl Looking For Black Men by Saintflames(m): 3:32am On Apr 20, 2016 |
Livinghopealoysius@gmail.com |
Fashion / Re: Vivian Nnnebedum Wins Car As She Emerges Most Beautiful Model In Imo by Saintflames(m): 12:41am On Apr 08, 2016 |
Had crush on her back then |
Fashion / Re: Vivian Nnnebedum Wins Car As She Emerges Most Beautiful Model In Imo by Saintflames(m): 12:39am On Apr 08, 2016 |
We finished from the same school here in Creative Mind Sec School...dis gal is really rep us she was a beauty to behold bck then and am happy She made it to the top |
Celebrities / Re: Wizkid Acknowledged Banky W On His Birthday by Saintflames(m): 10:07pm On Mar 28, 2016 |
Music/Radio / It's All About You- Newest Gospel Track by Saintflames(m): 3:39pm On Mar 16, 2016 |
Download this Spirit lifting gospel Song by "IT's ALL ABOUT YOU" D.P Tafson ft Livinghope & Loveth Daniel you it's powerful and Inspiring
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Career / Open Letter 2 Mr P by Saintflames(m): 6:50am On Mar 16, 2016 |
Back2Back was the hit song Testimoney, Ifunanya Onyinye etc were is the love I used to see as a young lad growing up to love music cos I love everything u both sing. Me saw super stars on a 16bar and I know you both has gone deeper than that But Mr P i don't intend to come to subtly on u but when i look into your eyes now me want yarn you wetin me see, i see ur freak mood and i just sit and imagine how sudden did it came to happen? What happen to the love of fans and family? pple wish you end like Plantashun boiz? and you just prove to them dat money fame is thicker than blood at the long run family is all we got. I wish to look into your eyes just as your recent solo wish me to but no, i rather choose to look into ur late parents and their utmost wishes is all i see cos it goes deeper than trying to prove everyone wrong. Bro come let me show you how the things go cos i sabi say money the rain but when the fan refuse to enjoy everything u sing now, when they fan refuse to show the love, when Lagos clubs refuse to feel you and endorsements deals frown at ur illusion that's famine Bro. I respect you Bro P but me no trust your judgement cos me no sabi wetin you dey find like say you want discover mungo park, at this point looking from my window me understand all you've been through even though you dey drive 4 limo today but dats not enuf reason to let bonds go. Psquare is sexy to fans am yet to fathom what Mr P or RudeBoy turn out to be, now wey you don go solo rudeboy come follow i been dey reason say engees jude go mellow. I remember mom has been of great support and you must have made Promises to her telling her 'Anything for her' oya Mr P now is the right moment to fulfill your promises tnx. Love from Psquare Fan |
Business / Reasons Why Most People Can Never Be Rich by Saintflames(m): 6:44am On Feb 06, 2016 |
Did I just say stay away? Yes! Seriously, the business is not for everybody lazy people, bench warmers, folks that thinks everything online is scam should please stay away from the site cos am selling it. Just like Jack Ma, founder of Alibaba said Bill Gate was once asked "what is the secret of success?" And he replied saying "i was at the right place at the right time" "I wasn't the only person who got the info that got me running, some people just sit and wish i love wishes but i don't wish......" "The worst people to serve are the Poor people. Give them free, they think it's a trap. Tell them it's a small investment, they'll say can't earn much. Tell them to come in big, they'll say no money. Tell them try new things, they'll say no experience. Tell them it's traditional business, they'll say hard to do. Tell them it's a new business model, they'll say it's MLM. Tell them to run a shop, they'll say no freedom. Tell them run new business, they'll say no expertise. They do have some things in common: They love to ask google, listen to friends who are as hopeless as them, they think more than an university professor and do less than a blind man. Just ask them, what can they do. They won't be able to answer you. Not just poor people, lazy people does! If you belong to any of these category, please stay away from these Change not APC kind of change lol My conclusion: Instead of your heart beats faster, why not you just act faster a bit; instead of just thinking about it, why not do something about it. These people fail because of one common behaviour: Their Whole Life is About Waiting. They wait and wait until all opportunities by pass them lets go here for something real... www.make250kpermonth.com/uzoh/ |
Business / Reasons Why Most People Can Never Be Rich by Saintflames(m): 6:39am On Feb 06, 2016 |
Did I just say stay away? Yes! Seriously, the business is not for everybody lazy people, bench warmers, folks that thinks everything online is scam should please stay away from the site cos am selling it. Just like Jack Ma, founder of Alibaba said "The worst people to serve are the Poor people. Give them free, they think it's a trap. Tell them it's a small investment, they'll say can't earn much. Tell them to come in big, they'll say no money. Tell them try new things, they'll say no experience. Tell them it's traditional business, they'll say hard to do. Tell them it's a new business model, they'll say it's MLM. Tell them to run a shop, they'll say no freedom. Tell them run new business, they'll say no expertise. They do have some things in common: They love to ask google, listen to friends who are as hopeless as them, they think more than an university professor and do less than a blind man. Just ask them, what can they do. They won't be able to answer you. Not just poor people, lazy people does! If you belong to any of these category, please stay away from these Change not APC kind of change lol My conclusion: Instead of your heart beats faster, why not you just act faster a bit; instead of just thinking about it, why not do something about it. These people fail because of one common behaviour: Their Whole Life is About Waiting. They wait and wait until all opportunities by pass them lets go here for something real... www.make250kpermonth.com/uzoh/ |
Business / WELCOME BACK 2 THE 21ST CENTURY NIGERIA by Saintflames(m): 11:04pm On Feb 01, 2016 |
See Why The Naira May Fall To The Dollar At N1000 Per Dollar (Must Read) It is either I do not understand economics and how exchange rates work or a vast majority of us Nigerians still don’t get how we have wrecked our country with our own curious choices. Just this morning I was listening to the radio and the lady on air went on and on about how she thought CBN governor Godwin Emefiele was incompetent and should be sacked because the naira was now exchanging at 309 or so to the USD. That view pretty much echoes the sentiments expressed by many people I know and it amazes me that there are Nigerians who actually think there is some magic POLICY that can make the Naira strong in the near term. If my economics and my understanding of the way the world works are right, then that is as far from the truth as Jesus Christ is black. The simple fact of the matter is that apart from oil that accounts for over 90% of our revenues, we really don’t have much of an economy. We hardly produce anything, we import even toothpicks, so exactly what policy is going to be implemented that will turn Nigeria into a top exporting economy in the near term? Where are our Apples, IBMs, Disneys, GMs, General Electrics, Coca Colas, Empire State buildings, Statues of Liberties, Lockheeds, Citibanks, JP Morgans, ExxonMobils, NBAs, Super Bowls etc? Let me bring that closer home. There was a time long ago when Nigeria had a truly strong economy and the naira was one to the dollar – even exchanged for higher than the USD, but that Nigeria is not this Nigeria. Sadly that Nigeria was laid by the British, and this Nigeria (if you don’t believe in the nonsensical imperialist conspiracies like me) – fueled by the DAMAGING Indigenisation Decree, has been the creation of us Nigerians.Back then we had a booming economy. We were either the top, or among the top exporters, of timbre, cocoa, groundnuts, rubber, palm oil, etc, in the world. Nigerians not only holidayed at home in their villages, at Yankari Games Reserve, at Obudu Cattle Ranch, at Oguta Lake, at Ikogosi springs, at Gurara Falls, at Mambilla Platueau, etc, we attracted international tourists who brought in loads of foreign exchange. Even Nigerian schools were foreign exchange earners because they attracted foreign students. We had different car assembly plants – Peugeot, Volkswagen, Anamco etc. Nigerian government officials only bought vehicles assembled in Nigeria for official cars. We had a thriving sports industry. We were not Man United or Chelsea fans, we were Rangers or IICC fans. We had the Nduka Odizors, people made money from sports. We also had companies like Lennards and Bata producing school shoes in their thousands, we had the thriving Nigerian Airways and the Aviation School in the north that produced some of the best pilots in the world. In those days if you were brilliant you were respected much more than the crass money-miss-road contractors of today. Most of the Aje Butters I knew had fathers who were university dons. Back then it meant something to ‘know book’. Our textile industry was alive and well. Just recently I watched a news report on the textile industry in Nigeria on CCTV News. Though the main focus was on the comatose status of the industry, I was stunned by the gigantic Kaduna Textile Mill built in 1957. I could go on and on. Today however, no thanks to our parents (and we must call them out the way Wole Soyinka did his generation) and many of us (and we should be remembered for failing our children if we continue like this), we have destroyed everything. Today for instance Nigerian football (which comes easy to me obviously) doesn’t appeal to us, we have to fly across thousands of miles to watch ‘our’ clubs play. Every year we collectively burn billions of Naira being fans of clubs that give us nothing back, but some ‘entertainment value’ – simple pleasures for which we are ready to destroy the future of our children. Well people, payback time is here. Even with our ta-she-re money we all want to wear designer clothes and carry designer bags, Armani, Givenchy, Louis Vuitton etc. We all want to drive jeeps with American specs, our children must now school overseas and acquire the necessary accents to come back home and bamboozle their ‘bush and crass’ contemporaries that they left behind. Who holidays in Nigeria anymore, is there Disneyland here? No one buys made-in-Nigeria school bags for their children, after all no Superman or Incredible Hulk or Cinderella on them. We are no longer top exporters of anything and the demise of oil means we have zilch… zero. A country of 170m fashion-conscious people has no textile industry. We take delight in showing how our made-in-Switzerland Aso Ebi is different class to everyone else’s. When we help our musicians grow and pay them millions, they repay us by immediately shipping the monies overseas to produce their “i-don-dey-different-level”music videos. It makes no difference that distinctly Zulu dancers are dancing to a Nigerian highlife song. As stars concerned they also wed and holiday overseas to impress us all. All the musicians who acknowledge their Ajegunle roots now speak in a cocktail of strange accents to symbolise how much they have blown their monies overseas. Were we a more serious people, the highly popular Kingsway Stores of the past would probably have a thousand outlets pan Nigeria today supporting a massive agriculture industry among others, but today we have the likes of SPAR, Shoprite, dominating the retail industry while Kingsway is dead. And we Nigerians make it a special point to shop from the Oyinbos who have ‘cleaner shops’, ‘better this and better that’. For our personal pleasure we don’t mind them dominating us in our own backyard and shipping proceeds overseas. I could go on and on, but I don tire. Even as you are reading this, stop for a moment and look around you. What you see will probably explain why we are lucky it is not N1000 to the USD yet. And don’t think for a moment that it cannot get there. Just continue to wear your Armani gear and Swiss-made lace, continue to spend your money on Man United, Arsenal, Chelsea and Barca and encourage your children to do same. (My article tomorrow in my Saturday column in This Day is on the Nigerian champions Enyimba FC – Nigeria’s most successful club – not having a sponsor, yet Nigerian brands pay over N600m to Man United and Arsenal for sponsorship to impress us.) Ehhh, no problem, continue to tell me the NPFL is rubbish or the clubs should clean up their act if they want sponsorship, mo gbo . Don’t curtail your interest in choice wines ( we were the number one champagne consumers in the world in 2015), continue to love your American specs, cheer the education ministry for letting schools sink to pitiable levels, don’t fight them to improve our schools, don’t chide them for letting schools drop Nigerian history and embrace British, America and whatever else curricula. Carry on with your love of French wines and Chinese silk, don’t bother about Jamiu Alli when there is Roger Federer. Stock up on your Italian, American, British products which you cannot live without, including the ‘baby soft’ toilet rolls produced only in that small unique village in England – the days are long gone since you were a broke student who used wet newspapers to wipe your butt. Don’t even consider holidaying in Nigeria, it’s too dangerous – you have to fulfill your dream of being Nigeria’s Henry Ford. Don’t listen to people like me who have a wardrobe full of only cheap adire that is actually cheaper than just one of your Tom Ford blazers. Please keep dressing in fine silk made in some exotic place so you can be addressed accordingly. Finally keep letting corrupt leaders who have looted your commonwealth and shipped all the monies overseas get away because to attack them does not fit your political narrative. Let us continue with the fine life, let us all continue to work for Oyinbo. But don’t forget that there is payback time and Emefiele is not your problem. Time for us all to look in the mirror and take responsibility. Culled from a writer |
Romance / Re: Ex Girl Friend Recovery Guide 2- The 3 Text That Ur Gf Can't Resist by Saintflames(m): 7:12am On Dec 30, 2015 |
Phase Three: Transition Text There are a ton of positive aspects about text messaging but there are also some limiting aspects. For example, attraction can only be built so far via text messages. Which is why I recommend that eventually you will have to move from text messages to phone calls. So when that inevitable time comes how do you do it? Well that’s when I like to use the transition text message which just so happens to be our third secret text message! This is a really easy text message to grasp. Basically you are going to tell a story so interesting that it has to be finished over the phone and much like the story method that I was teaching you in the previous phase, the attraction phase, you want to build a story that is so interesting that she will have no choice but to finish it on the phone. So you need to understand her interests. What does she like? What are some of the things that she will love to talk about? For my wife it would be hot air balloons and Paris. So lets pretend that I’m talking to my wife and I sent her this text message, Notice how hot air balloons and Paris are mentioned in it. And then also notice how I stopped midway through telling the story and said, Hey, do you want to finish this over the phone? This is an ideal text message to send because it acts as a test to see if your ex girlfriend is ready to transition to the next phase of attraction building, phone calls or if she’s just comfortable texting. In that case you still have more attraction to build. And that’s it… That is the transition text message |
Romance / Re: Ex Girl Friend Recovery Guide 2- The 3 Text That Ur Gf Can't Resist by Saintflames(m): 7:07am On Dec 30, 2015 |
Phase Two: Attraction building Phase We’re talking about the attraction phase here so lets just get right to it. The name of the game is to build attraction with your ex through text messages. So how do you do that? Well the first part is to emphasize the positive parts of your previous relationship. And anything negative you do not want to talk about. Anything positive you do. The only kind of advice I’m going to give you here is to not bring sex into it. Just keep it PG13. Now building attraction there’s a lot of ways to do it but I’m just going to give you my favorite way and I like to call this the story telling method. Have you every noticed when someone tells an amazing story it just draws you in? Think of your favorite TV shows, Game Of Thrones for example. Have you ever noticed when something shocking happens or your really into the story you cannot wait to see the next episode. Binge watching on Netflix is really popular for this. The idea behind Netflix releasing every single episode at once like House of Cards or any of the other original series is that viewers like to binge watch. When they really get into a show they watch one episode after the other after the other. Well, I want you to do something similar with your ex. I want you to build attraction like that. Treat every interaction that you have with him through text messages like a TV show. End on a good note… End on a cliffhanger… Leave open loops… Do everything you can to be mysterious or make her want more. That’s the name of the game. So I am going to teach you a text message right now that can accomplish this. I want you to take a minute to look at the text message right here. ( The craziest thing happened to me. my friend and his girl friend played the prank of the century on me. They were on my vacation and I lent my camera to them. well, when he got back and give it to me, curiosity got the better of me and.....) Then add (you are still with me?) This is a perfect example of something I like to call a funny text message. Basically the premise of this text message, even though it may not look like it right here, is to be funny. But it’s going to tell a story through multiple texts and you will notice that I started the text here with an imaginary girl and the story is not over yet. You’ll notice that in the middle of the story I sent a text message that said, “Hey are you still with me?” This is what I like to call the check in text message. One of the big problems of telling a story though text is that you can kind of lose the girl if she is not really engaged. So this check in text message, sort of saying, “Hey are you still with me?” Is check to see if she’s still listening or to keep her engaged. So the story goes that I had a friend and his girlfriend and him tricked me into thinking they were doing it when they really weren’t. That story may not be complete in there because I didn’t have enough room but the idea here is to continue the story. Build attraction through this. Interest her. Interest = Attraction Always remember that. To Be Continued..... |
Romance / Re: Ex Girl Friend Recovery Guide 2- The 3 Text That Ur Gf Can't Resist by Saintflames(m): 6:54am On Dec 30, 2015 |
The second guideline I want you to follow is the fact that you need to be ending the conversations first. Now my recommendation is not to just end conversations whenever you want. Try to find the high point of that conversation. The point in the conversation where you think in your mind, wow I don’t want this to end. Well the second you think that thought, it’s pretty much the high point of the conversation where you end the conversation. And finally the third guideline that you need to follow is build attraction. Build as much attraction as possible. But don’t do it all at once. Take your time with it. Slow and steady wins the race. Tortoise and the hare. Alright I’ve never tried something like this before. And now I’m going to give it a shot. And now we’ve reached the moment you’ve all been waiting for. The 3 secret text messages you can send to your ex girlfriend to drive her crazy. Yeaaaah. Dude Flames that was lame. Hey don’t judge. Alright we’ve reached the moment where we will be talking about the three secret text messages that you can send to your ex girlfriend. But really the three text messages fall into three phases of text messaging. Basically with one phase you get first secret text message, with the second text message you get the second secret text message, and finally as I’m sure you know with the third phase you will get the third secret text message. TO BE CONTINUED |
Romance / Ex Girl Friend Recovery Guide 2- The 3 Text That Ur Gf Can't Resist by Saintflames(m): 6:48am On Dec 30, 2015 |
This is what I like to call the value chain. This is your overall strategy to get your ex girlfriend back. The number 2 part after the no contact rule is texting and after text messaging is phone calls. Basically we are trying to move from no contact rule to text messages to phone calls. What is the purpose of text messaging? The purpose of text messaging is simply to build attraction. The second purpose is to move from text messaging portion to phone call portion. Basically transitioning. Now how do you go about doing that? I’m going to try to keep this as simple as possible for you. You have two goals with text messaging. Number one: Build as much attraction as possible. Number 2: transition from the text messaging phase to the phone call phase. Ok so now that you have a firm grasp on the goal of text messaging. I’d like to talk about the ideal conversation you’d like to have with her. In a perfect world, what would a conversation look like if things are working. Let’s pretend that I’m your ex girlfriend and I’m going to text message you. “Oh Hi Baby.” “Ugghhh, god that scared the crap out me.” Anyways the ideal texting conversation with your ex girlfriend is relatively simple. Here is a few of the guidelines I want you to follow. There should be a 50/50 split on who should starts the conversation. You should start the conversation one day and then she should another day. Your a man so theres this idea that women have that you have to initiate things. And that’s ok. I’m going to allow you some leniency here. It’s kind of impossible 100% of the time to have an exact 50/50 split. But get as close as you can to it. |
Romance / Re: Ex Girl Friend Recovery Guide....is Your Ex Regretting Why She Left? (guys Only) by Saintflames(m): 6:41am On Dec 30, 2015 |
1. Finding The High Point Of The Conversation 2. Ending At The High Point Of The Conversation Lets start with idea number one. Finding The High Point Of The Conversation Forget texting for a moment. Lets just say that you are talking to one of your good friends about an interesting topic. Well, when you think about this interaction I am betting that you can pinpoint a time in the conversation when you stop and think to yourself, “Wow, this is actually really interesting. I am so glad I am talking to him/her about this.” This would be the high point of the conversation. High Point = The conversation can’t get any better than this. Believe it or not but it is actually VITALLY important that you learn to pinpoint the high point because it is going to really come in handy when it comes to your ex. Lets talk a little about that now. Just like with talking, texting has a high point of a conversation as well. Let me give you an example. Lets say that I am texting your ex girlfriend and we are having a really interesting conversation about relationships. Well, this is a topic that both of us find stimulating and we end up talking for two hours. We are both humans and both of us have short attention spans. So, around the one and a half hour mark the conversation quality begins to drop off slowly. Notice how after this point the quality of the conversation begins to dip pretty drastically. What constitutes a conversation quality dip? Long periods of time for her to respond. Short responses from her. No substance to her responses. Most men end up wearing out there welcome when it comes to texting. What do I mean by that? It’s simple really, they wait until the conversation quality dips before the end the conversation and this leads me to my next point. Ending At The High Point Of The Conversation There is nothing memorable about ending a texting conversation after the quality of the conversation drops. There is nothing for her to regret… You don’t make an impression on her… Oh, AND you are going to be just like every other guy out there talking to her. Don’t live your life as an uninteresting sheep. When the world zigs I want you to zag. When you are texting your ex girlfriend MAKE SURE you end the conversation right at the high point. Right at the point where things can’t get any better for her (or you for that matter.) What this will do to your ex is really mess with her mind. You see, to her, if you are having a good conversation then the conversation will most likely continue. However, if you end the conversation right at the high point it is going to mess with her mind because not only will you leave her wanting more she is going to constantly ask herself, “Wait, why would he end the conversation there?” There is a psychological principle that I like to cite a lot called the Ziegnerik Effect. The ZE (Ziegnerik Effect) basically states that human beings remember uncompleted tasks better than completed ones. Well, a conversation that is cut off right at the high point isn’t technically a “closed” conversation. Thus, your ex girlfriend is going to remember that conversation above anything else. This works wonders for getting her to respond to your future text messages and it will also raise your value in her eyes. Oh, and in case you didn’t know, raised value in an ex correlates directly to regret. YOUR MINDSET WHEN YOU SEE HER IN PERSON Seeing your ex girlfriend in person is always a tricky subject because often times it goes so fast. What do I mean by that? Lets say that you are with your ex girlfriend at a Starbucks and she asks you a question. Well, you are expected to respond to her question in a timely manner and some guys get so caught up with extracurricular things that they really struggle to focus and they stumble with their answers. After all, it is hard to answer in a good manner when you have this staring back at you, Ok, I highly doubt you will be faced with that situation but what I am trying to get at here is that you are highly attracted to this woman, you clearly want her back and if she is FINALLY sitting across from you it can be easy to be caught up in the moment and lose track of why you are seeing her in the first place, to make her regret letting you go. (Your still looking at the picture aren’t you?) “SNAP OUT OF IT AND CONCENTRATE” So, what I would like to do now is give you my best tip for seeing your ex girlfriend in person. Now, I don’t want to overload you with too much so I am just going to give you this one tip. My Best Tip For An In Person Encounter It’s probably the easiest tip you have ever heard. SMILE! Seriously, smile a lot when you see your ex in person. Smiling can do a lot for you. It can make you less stressed. It’s a universal sign of happiness (which you really want your ex to think even if your not.) It’s contagious (which can make your ex smile and then your both in good moods.) Women find smiling men more attractive than non-smiling men. So, SMILE!!! |
Romance / Re: Ex Girl Friend Recovery Guide....is Your Ex Regretting Why She Left? (guys Only) by Saintflames(m): 3:16am On Dec 30, 2015 |
THE GRASS IS GREENER SYNDROME I would feel bad if I didn’t at least mention the connection between the GIGS (Grass Is Greener Syndrome) and regret because without a doubt their connection is deeply intertwined. First though, lets talk a little bit about what the GIGS actually is. GIGS- The Grass Is Greener Syndrome occurs when a girl breaks up with a guy with the thought that she can do better than him. Of course, over time she determines whether or not her decision was correct. Sometimes she will find that the grass is not greener on the other side (meaning it was a mistake to leave you) and other times she will find that the grass is greener on the other side (meaning it was the right decision to leave you.) So, where does the regret come in? Simple, if your ex girlfriend leaves you with the thought that she can do better and she determines that she can’t then she is going to regret her decision to leave you. I actually have had some personal experience with this. In fact, my very first girlfriend way back in High School (a long time ago but bear with me) had a bit of the grass is greener syndrome. Our relationship was pretty tainted with fights and arguments so after we went our separate ways I completely ignored her and didn’t talk to her on purpose. She of course tried to move on but the new guy she started dating couldn’t live up to the standard I had set with her. I didn’t know any of this until she called my best friend (who I happened to be standing right next to) looking to see if he could convince me to give her a call. Regret rears it’s head in many forms… RE-SHAPING YOUR “TEXT GAME” Texting… There is all sorts of interesting things you can do with these little messages that go to your ex partners phone and that is what I am going to talk about right now. Now, I don’t want to mislead anyone here. This article is going to talk about the strategies that go behind texting which I imagine is going to prove to be extremely valuable to the readers of this article. What this article will not go over is the actual text messages to send in a situation. Alright, so with this section I am going to be talking about two BIG ideas that you need to implement if you want your ex to regret the breakup with you. 1. Finding The High Point Of The Conversation 2. Ending At The High Point Of The Conversation To Be Continued......... |
Romance / Re: Ex Girl Friend Recovery Guide....is Your Ex Regretting Why She Left? (guys Only) by Saintflames(m): 3:12am On Dec 30, 2015 |
Tnx bro will do that in my next write up |
Romance / Ex Girl Friend Recovery Guide....is Your Ex Regretting Why She Left? (guys Only) by Saintflames(m): 3:05am On Dec 30, 2015 |
Nothing is going right… You thought you met someone special… You thought you had something that would last a long time… And then, just when you thought things were going great she drops a bombshell on you… “We need to breakup…” Ah, its a story I have heard far too often from friends and folks around Boy meets girl… Boy gets girl to fall in love with him… Girl rips out guys heart and stomps on it half a million times… Anyways, men who get their hearts stomped on by their ex girlfriends often come to this site trying to make sense of the events that have just turned their lives upside down and that is where I come in. I have been called a lot of things in my time… Amazing.. Awesome… Incredible… Future world leader… But without a doubt the thing that I take the most pride in is being called an “EX”- pert. What is an “EX”- pert? I am so glad you asked! An “EX”- pert basically specializes in helping people repair their broken relationships. In other words, I help ex get back together. And I am going to help you right here right now by teaching you to use one of the most powerful emotions to your advantage, regret! WHAT THIS GUIDE IS GOING TO DO FOR YOU Those of you who are loyal fans of this article know that when it comes to my kind of “advice” I go above and beyond for you. Well, this guide is going to be no different. In this section I am basically going to sum up exactly what this guide is going to cover and how it can help you with your ex girlfriend. Before I get started here I want to make two big assumptions about you and your ex… Assumption One = You want your ex girlfriend back. Assumption Two = SHE broke up with you. If I am assuming these things then it is pretty much common sense that in order for her to want you back you are going to have to make her regret letting you go. But how do we do that? How do we make your ex girlfriend hurt so bad without you that she wants you back? Well, below I have put together a game plan outlining exactly how we are going to go about this process. Does this make sense to you? If it did I’d be shocked… (Don’t worry, by the end of this guide I promise this will all make perfect sense.) Basically this guide is going to be covering the following topics, The NC Rule The Frank Sinatra Effect The GIGS How To Make Her Regret Leaving Through Text Messages How To Approach Seeing Her In Person Of course, before I really start tackling these subjects one by one lets talk a little about the power of regret. THE POWER OF REGRET (AKA: WHY YOU NEED IT) Have you ever heard someone use this phrase before? “He was the one that got away…” or “She was the one that got away…” What does someone really mean when they say this? Well, before I give you the answer to that I want to tell you a little story. A few years ago I met a fellow who I actually became very good friends with. Lets call him Caleb… (that is not his real name but bear with me.) Caleb had a pretty interesting life story. He was in his early thirties, had been in the army and he was divorced. One day we got to talking about Caleb’s past… (I am a nosy person and I know a thing or two about relationships.) He told me about what went wrong with his ex wife and how she had cheated on him, how he thought he didn’t deserve that and how he hardly ever thinks about her anymore… Me: “How long ago did you two get divorced?” Caleb: “It’ll be about five years next Tuesday..” Me: “Oh, I am really sorry to hear about that… Divorce is really tough…” Caleb: “You know, it’s funny… I don’t really think about her all that much anymore.” Me: “Why not?” Caleb: “I guess I felt I was right to let her go. I don’t really have any regrets with her but with my ex Sandra… I still think about her to this day…” Me: “Who is Sandra?” Caleb: “She is my ex girlfriend from College. She was the one that got away. I think she is married and has two kids now but if I could go back in time I would marry her. She was perfect. I really regret letting her go.” You know, most people when they go through a divorce they really struggle with it. Many people get caught up in their failed marriage and do everything they can to fix it. Yet here was Caleb… He was still caught up on an old girlfriend from college. A girl he dated a DECADE ago! All because she was the one that got away… When I first started this section I posed an interesting question. What does someone mean when they say, “He/She was the one that got away?” Simple, it means that if humans had the ability to time travel they would turn back time and NOT break up with that person. Time and experience teaches them that they made a mistake in leaving the relationship with that person. It is basically an admission that they want to get back together with that person. For example, lets pretend for a moment that I was dating your ex girlfriend back. Well, if I was dating your ex and in my mind I dubbed her as the one that got away then given the opportunity I would get back with her. Now, imagine if you could do this to your own ex girlfriend in your real life situation right now? Imagine the power of that? Imagine the power of being dubbed, “The One That Got Away…” That is the power of regret. And this guide is going to teach you all about HOW you can make that happen. Let’s begin! REGRET & THE NO CONTACT RULE Have you ever wondered why I constantly go on and on about the no contact rule? I imagine it must be pretty annoying. At times I probably sound like a broken record. “Do NC in this situation..” “Do NC in that situation…” “JUST DO NC!!!” Well, there is a reason for this. When you look at getting an ex girlfriend back from a birds eye view it makes sense that in order for her to want to take you back she is going to have to regret letting you go. Well, the no contact rule is an excellent way to expedite that process. How The NC Rule Can Expedite The Process? I want to tell you two stories. One is about a man who ended up getting his ex girlfriend back and the other is about a men who didn’t. Lets start with the man who didn’t succeed. (For examples sake we are going to call him Joe.) So, Joe ended up finding my article read through it and thought my advice was brilliant. (I am brilliant I know .) He really wanted his girlfriend back and thought my strategies were his best shot to do that. There was just one problem… When it actually came time to implement my strategies he didn’t have the strength of mind to follow through. For example, Joe thought the idea of a no contact rule was brilliant but found that when push came to shove he couldn’t actually cut his ex off. He was too infatuated with her. I don’t think its too shocking that Joe ended up being a little too clingy with his ex by contacting her and she ended up moving on and finding some other guy. Ok, now lets turn our attention to Max, the man who got his girlfriend back. Max and Joe have very similar stories. They both hid to my advice on my articles and it worked (Again, I am brilliant .) Both of them wanted to implement my strategies but the one difference between Joe and Max was the fact that Max actually implemented the no contact rule. As a result, his ex was the one who became infatuated with HIM and not the other way around. All of a sudden Max was looked at in a new light. But perhaps most importantly, she began to regret her decision to let him go. But why? Why The No Contact Rule Makes Your Ex Regret Lets stereotype a breakup for a second here. When you think of a breakup what do you typically think of? I’ll tell you what I think of. Arguments Anger Ultimatums Begging Neediness Depression (Just to name a few things.) Notice how I bolded “begging.” Why? Well, because after a breakup (especially if your girlfriend broke up with you) then on some level she is probably expecting you for her to beg her back. Seriously, this is probably what she is imagining that you are going to do in her head after the breakup, So, subconsciously this is what she is expecting out of you. In other words, its not very shocking when you do this to an ex. Take a look at our story of Joe above. All Joe did was reaffirm his ex belief that he was still into her and as a result he did nothing to make her regret her decision in breaking up with him. The no contact rule is effective because it goes completely against the grain. Remember, your ex girlfriend is probably expecting you to beg for her back. So, when you do the exact opposite of what she is expecting it kind of catches her by surprise and she doesn’t know how to handle it. In other words, where other people zig you are going to have to zag. “But Mr Flames… you still haven’t told us how the no contact rule works to make your ex girlfriend regret the breakup?” Ok, lets talk about that now. Before I get started I am going to make a pretty big assumption about you and your girlfriend. I am going to assume that your girlfriend relies on you for a lot of things emotionally. After years of relying on you for emotional support it is quite easy to take things for granted. Have you ever noticed that women have this constant need to remain friends with their exes after a breakup? Have you ever asked yourself why? It’s because it leaves the door open for them to rely on their ex emotionally. So, what we have here (if you remain friends with your ex after the breakup) is a situation where your ex girlfriend has no way of missing you or regretting the breakup. The no contact rule breaks that barrier. It takes the ability for her to rely on you emotionally out of the equation and completely reshapes her thinking. Instead of thinking, “Oh, he is someone I can rely on for emotional support.” She is going to think, “I kind of miss talking to him… maybe I made a mistake.” Once she thinks that then you have her! THE FRANK SINATRA EFFECT I like Frank Sinatra (as you are about to find out.) Believe it or not but Frank Sinatra is going to help you in your quest to make your girlfriend regret the breakup with you. How? That’s an excellent question. One of Sinatra’s most famous quotes had to do with revenge. “The Best Revenge Is Massive Success…” What does this mean? Well, it means that improving your situation is often the best way to “get back at someone.” For example, if I had a girlfriend that broke up with me because I didn’t make enough money and the very next day I created a business that earned me millions a year then that girlfriend would be felling pretty bad about her decision. In fact, some would say that she would REGRET it… See what I did there? This is an example of something I like to call “The Frank Sinatra Effect.” The idea goes like this. If you can improve yourself enough to be considered a “massive success” then your ex girlfriend won’t just regret the breakup with you, she will want you back. But how? And when? Lets start with the “when” portion of the FS Effect (Frank Sinatra effect.) When To Implement The Frank Sinatra Effect Above I talked about the important of a no contact rule and how it can almost single- handily work to make your ex have feelings of regret. Well, if you truly want a double whammy of regret (yes, I did just say that) then you should start implementing the FS Effect immediately when you start the no contact rule. In other words, you are going to working to bring out regret on two fronts. Front One- No Contact Front Two- The FS Effect The “when” is really the easy question to answer. The “how” is the hard one… How To Implement The Frank Sinatra Effect Massive success and success are two different things. Lets use money as an example here. Someone who earns $100,000 a year is considered successful. On the other hand, someone who earns $500,000 or half a million a year (for those of you can’t count) is considered MASSIVELY successful. If you really want to have an impact on your ex girlfriend then you need to raise the bar of what you are trying to accomplish in your life. In other words, it’s not enough to be “successful” you have to be “MASSIVELY successful.” Got it? Yes? Ok, lets talk a little bit about how to raise the bar in your life so you are considered massively successful. You should know that there are really three major areas of life that I like to focus on. 1. Health 2. Wealth 3. Relationships These three aspects of life are intimately intertwined and if one aspect of them lags a little bit then the others suffer as well. For example, when you go through a breakup (the relationships aspect) then the two other legs of the stool start to falter as well as you can’t eat or concentrate at work (health and wealth respectively.) So, what I am going to do for you here is talk about each one of these aspects of life and what you should be striving for to be “massively successful.” Lets start with health. Frank Sinatra Effect Health The thing I want to focus in on health is your looks. More specifically the way your body looks. Here is a fun question. Now-a-days what is considered a successful physique to have? Well, America is fat so I would say this would be successful for most people out there, (It’s sad I have so little faith in America isn’t it? In basketmouth voice, give it up to Nigerians we are blessed, you know) While I am sure that most girls would find a guy attractive if he had the body above something tells me they would prefer the body below over the body above… So, if you are a bit overweight and you know you should be hitting the gym more then don’t just go there with the intent of losing weight. Go there with the intent of looking like a greek god when its all said in done. That’s how you really make an ex regret leaving you. Lets turn our attention to wealth. Frank Sinatra Effect Wealth Above I gave a pretty interesting example about money and success. Do you remember the example? I said that if you earned six figures a year you are considered successful. If you earned half a million a year you are considered massively successful. Success isn’t enough. You need to be massively successful when it comes to wealth. Heck, be greedy. Be like Gordon Gekko from Wall Street. Seriously, I know that may sound a little crazy but here is my mindset. If the epitome of financial success for you is to make six figures a year then that is all you will ever strive for. However, if you change your paradigm and shoot for half a million a year then amazing things are going to happen for you. While you may not reach that half a million mark you are probably going to make more than six figures shooting for half a million… That’s a win in my next article Frank Sinatra Effect Relationships What defines massive success in relationships? Well, that is completely up to you really. You want my opinion though? Getting your ex girlfriend back isn’t enough to be a massive success… A success, yes. But a massive success? No. Getting her back and ending up together long term (maybe permanently) is what I would call a MASSIVE success. So, what are you doing to make this a reality? Well, you are obviously reading this article and you like what I am talking about but do you really buy in to what I am saying? You need to because I may be your best shot at making this happen for you. JEALOUSY CERTAINLY DOESN’T HURT Women are interesting creatures. Sometimes it takes a little push (from you) for them to realize that they made a mistake in letting you go. And that little push can come in the form of jealousy. Now, I know what you are saying, “Flames… This is a cop out. You are just pawning us on to some other fictional article and trying to expedite the learning process.” Well… Ya. No, I am not going to leave you empty handed. Actually what I would like to do is give you an example of one of my favorite jealousy methods that I think would really work well for your situation. What is this jealousy method? I like to call it the “movie text jealousy method.” Movie Text Jealousy Method Now, before I really get into the meat of this method I feel I need to give you a few disclaimers. The movie text jealousy method should ONLY be used AFTER the no contact rule is completed. In other words, you are not allowed to use this during your NC period or when you are working on yourself via the Frank Sinatra Effect. Also, I would like to do something a little unique with this section. Instead of just teaching you the method (which I plan on doing) I would like to explain the effect it has on a woman and how it can work to make her regret the breakup. Lets get to it! Movie Text Think of a romantic movie… A chick flick… A movie that only a woman would go to. Off the top of my head, a movie that just came out (and this might date the article a bit for future readers but I don’t care I am trying to make a point here) that meets this criteria is Fifty Shades Of Grey. A guy would definitely NOT take another guy to that movie. I am sure there are some exceptions to that but for the sake of making a point here I am stereotyping. Realistically, a guy would take his girlfriend or two friends who are girls would want to go see that movie. Subconsciously I think everyone knows this. This is important because you are going to use this stereotype to your advantage when it comes to your ex girlfriend. What do I mean by that? Simple, send her a text message like this, (You: hey, Jenny did u remember the movie "Pyaar impossible" or any other movie u could think of....we both watched over the weekend? Jenny: No i don't remember doing that with you....YOU: oh sorry it was with another friend....) This text is effective for a number of reasons. First off, no two guys are going to see Fifty Shades of Grey together. That is just common sense. Oh, and we can’t forget that we have the double whammy of that particular movie being over a pretty sexual topic… So, when your ex girlfriend receives this text from you she is going to think a couple of things, 1. “Oh my god… He went on a date with a girl.” 2. “AND he took her to see THAT movie. I can’t believe him…” The greatest part of the whole thing is you get to stay in the clear because the text is so general it looks like your not trying to make her jealous. It’s subtle and that’s why its effective. It allows your ex to face her own worst enemy, her mind. Now, you may still be wondering what this has to do with making an ex girlfriend regret letting you go. Glad you asked! How Jealousy Makes Your Ex Regret The whole point of trying to make your ex girlfriend jealous is that you are trying to illicit a reaction from her. Why? Because if she is having a reaction like jealousy then that means on some level she still cares about you. Even if she won’t verbalize the words she will know deep down that she still has feelings for you and that is exactly what you want. Oftentimes a woman who still has feelings for an ex will regret letting him go. Now, I am not saying that guarantees you a shot of winning her back but it is a step in the right direction because you will hold sway over her. To be continued..... |
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