COWBOYFAN:
Hello Ladies and Gentlemen
I just had a traditional wedding earlier this month. I'm not based in Nigeria. I provided all the finances for the wedding before I arrived Lagos. Everything listed to be bought for the wedding I provided all. To my surprise wedding that was suppose to take place in a hall had to take place in a cramped sitting room. No food, no drinks, no DJ etc. What did they use the funds for? I don't know. I asked questions and no answers given. To be fair to her family members, I didn't give money directly to her parents or siblings. I gave the funds to my wife to be.
This is a woman that I gave a car to already and spent so much on to be comfortable. I just bought her another car to be given to her on her birthday. On the day she stole the dollars I had just given her 100,000 naira pocket money for the week. She's been crying and begging for two days saying it won't happen again. She has refused to eat.
Here is the bombshell I just confirmed she's now three weeks pregnant. I can't trust my life with her at this juncture. I'm leaning towards divorce. I'm too scared to be with her. She's too greedy.
mark my words....
either you will soon become very poor (if you're lucky), or
you will be poisoned, or
you will be assassinated.
Walk away, return bride price or you may call it divorce (since it's only trad, no court matters now). if you're certain the pregnancy is yours (may be her lovers baby, and the gluttonous greed could be for both of them), you can take care of the baby when she delivers.