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princeeze1:
In relation to the topic, isn’t this the most silly question to ever evolve out of nairaland? You don’t have to comment or respond when you don’t have a superior argument…… shakes head!!!

It was a simple questions because you said if a wife is submissive her finances is inclusive, submission is a thing of choice, not by force, if she is submissive in other areas and fails in finances, it is a matter of time. It is not fair to force your wife to make contribution on house affairs when it is the sole responsibility of the husband to handle. She's just a help meat. Helps comes when needs come that means when the husband is out of funds at the moment.

odinson1:
Avoid non-virgins. Most of them Are PROSTITUTES who are looking for a Slave/simp they will tie down with marriage and milk dry till he becomes a shell of his former self.

If you are a stubborn man who still wants to get married, just do these things.

1. Never get married to Retired PROSTITUTES/non virgins.

2. Have a good source of income and a nice house or apartment that can accommodate the future family.

3. Never get married to a Broke woman,make sure she has a job or a business she's doing.

4. Never get married to a Social media obsessed woman. You'll regret it,trust me.

5. Never get married to a woman who sees Cooking for HER family as slavery. Also,get married to a woman who knows how to cook.

6. Never get married to a Lazy woman who sits on the couch all day watching Tv.

7. Never get married to a Fat Woman. She'll only get Fatter as time goes by,mostly because she's constantly draining you. Reason why in marriages,the Woman gets fatter as the man gets Thinner.

8. Never get married to a woman who isn't sexually compatible with you, she'll starve you of sex and you will have yourself to blame for believing You get unlimited sex once you get married

9. NEVER FORGET NUMBER 1

Your advices are hilarious but makes sense

Hello my fellow Nairalander,

On different social media handles I saw ladies and guys wishing to marry or to be married this year 2022. That brought me to the point of asking, What must one do to be married this year?

My answer is identify and avoid time wasters.

What's yours?

princeeze1:
In trying to sound socially correct, you ended up not making sense. Using the writer’s biblical analogy, is submission a thing of choice and preference? You cannot force a person who has already submitted, it’s simple logic, hence submission was demanded before love. It’s either you are submissive or you are not. Same way it’s either he is loving or not. The woman is not at liberty to choose when to submit. Submission was a command, same way loving was a command.
Unless a man is mad, it’s impossible to not to love a woman who is totally submissive. Of course we have mad men, so such cases also abound. Same way some mad women abound who expect and demand love, equity yet fail to submit totally.

Sorry to ask this question. Are you fully submissive to God?

princeeze1:
The write up reeks of so many unbalanced assumptions;

You said the husband is expected to love the wife, true, you conveniently forgot same bible expects the wives to submit their husbands. Total submission includes everything about you, no reservations. Your name, body, INCOME, future etc. The Bible did not say, submit where you find it convenient. The man is commanded to love, the woman is commanded to submit. God knows it’s impossible to love an insubordinate woman.

God is never an author of confusion. It’s you who choose to leave a part of scriptures without the corresponding to get a balance view. A woman who has submitted her all has nothing to give again. And only a fool will love her less. A man who has loved a woman who has not also submitted fully has simply loved a fool, vice versa. It’s a balanced expectation, love completely, submit completely.

INFACT, to further buttress, the command to submit comes first before the command to love. Eph 5:22-23, wives submit yourselves unto your husbands as unto the lord. For the husband is the HEAD of the wife. It’s clear after God, it’s your husband. Not even your father and mother as a woman. This is God’s intention for marriage. Vs25: Husbands love your wives even as Christ loves the church. Obviously vs 22 comes before 25.

When a woman starts saying, it’s MY MONEY, she has not submitted her finances. She only chose to submit in convenient areas, that’s not God’s design. A good and submissive woman will table her finance before her lord, her husband and seek his guidance and counsel. You don’t go spend without his counsel simply because your earned it, or how is that submission. My brother the Bible is complete. Don’t lift a verse out of context.

So mr writer, just because you choose to justify your obvious lack of leadership in all the affairs of your marriage and it’s working for you does not mean it would work for others. You don’t expect appreciation from your wife is your own cup of alomo bitters. God expects appreciations how much more men! Reason Jesus asked for the rest nine, after only one out of ten healed came back to appreciate!! what works for A might not work for B ultimately.

I suggest you read the write up again with an open mind.

The writer didn't say wife should not submit her finances but he was saying it is not right to ask your wife to contribute to family needs except she willingly does that which is part of submission. But forcing your wife to make contributions on something that is totally your responsibility defiles the true meaning of a husband.

Please google the meaning of Husband please.

Thanks.

Mamijoh:
Good answer

Thanks

Favfables1:
Nice write up OP...
Though I don't agree with a few things you said, buh I won't list it cause it won't be in accordance with the topic of the thread...

However sir...
I have a few questions...
In the Greek word for the word husband, "kurios", one of the translation is "owner", would you say a husband "owns" his wife?? Would it be safe to say that a wife is a property of her husband that have been bought for a price?!

In the dictionary meaning of the word husband, it meant "master of the house", then I ask, if the master isn't treated like a master, should he play the role of a master?

Nice write up chief...
I await a thread on "the true meaning of wife"...

Thanks for your compliments.

One must not be a property before you own them. Remember you a pay a bride price on your wife which automaticaly makes you her owner.

The writeup says you should still love your wife even she doesn't regarded you as master. Love changes everything with time.

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Hello guys,

I came across below writeup online, I feel this write up is educating and very interesting and at the same time controversial to some people especially our Nigerian feminist if they would read in between the lines.

The writer says it is the full responsibility of a husband to take care of his wife and foot all her bills even if the woman is more richer than the man. He defined husband to be the head of the house and a provider. The definition was okay by me if only our Nigerian feminist would understand that a man is the head of the house and should be in total submission to her husband, there would be minimal divorce cases. Please read on and say your mind.





I was discussing with some guy recently and he was explaining to me how he had to force his wife to officially share the family's financial responsibilities with him. According to him, "she cannot just sit there and not be contributing her own quota, I'm not her father!".

Personally, I don't think it's out of place for a woman to contribute to the financial responsibilities in her own home, however, i do have a problem with this guy's mentality and i didn't hesitate to bare my thoughts to him.

You have to understand that prior to marrying your undeserving ass, this woman has always been catered for by her own parents, without having to share the bills with them. This is because her parents considered her their own responsibility.

When you went to take her away from her parents care in the name of marriage, you promised and convinced them you'd take care of her properly which is why they even released her to you at all. You married her to be completely responsible FOR HER and not to share responsibilities WITH HER!

Get this into your head 'husband'!

The financial responsibilities of your family is entirely yours to shoulder 100%, anything else she brings is merely an adjunct! THIS IS ALL YOUR JOB!

When you call yourself husband sometimes, have you ever cared to find out what it even means? In the Bible It's the greek word "kurios" which means "Lord, owner, ruler, protector, PROVIDER".

Oga you're her provider ooo!!!

I've never had to ask my wife, "how much do you have there for us to execute so and so project or pay so and so bills?". It just doesn't work that way in my head. All that's in my head is that 'THIS IS MY JOB!'

Of course there are times she's had to bring some money to contribute to a few things here and there but it wasn't something i was looking out for or even expecting at all!

Even in the English dictionary definition of 'Husband'; as a noun it means "The master of a house; the head of a family; A tiller of the ground".

I hope you're seeing the very sensitive words used here? A tiller of the ground?? Oga na you suppose dey work!

As a verb the word 'Husband' means "To assume the care of or responsibility for". There's no joke in this sir!

I mean men these days just take people's daughters to wife, expecting to enjoy all the services, honour, respect, etc, without identifying what exactly their own role in the union is.

In 1Tim. 5:8, the bible says, "The man that dosen't PROVIDE for his own, especially his own family, has denounced the Christian faith and is worse than an unbeliever! (Paraphrased).

I give my wife money, i buy her things, i mean i take care of her 100%. And almost all the time she says "thank you babe" but I reluctantly respond with" you're welcome". For the most part, she feels uncomfortable with that and I'm like, "this is my job babe".

This is just how it is for me!

The truth is that by default i don't even expect to hear the 'thank you' from her, I don't look out for it. Me taking care of my wife isn't dependent on whether or not she appreciated the last thing i did for her, because i wasn't expecting an appreciation to begin with.

After all when God was speaking to husbands in Eph. 5:25, He didn't say "husbands love your wives only when they appreciate you", No! He said, "Husbands love your wives..." period! There was no conditionality attached. So to me, that's my job and I'm doing it. It's always been that way in my head, even when we were still dating.

My wife likes Apples, i buy them for her almost everyday on my way back from work. Even if she annoys me in the morning before i leave for work, and she does sometimes, I'll still buy it for her on my way back so long i see the vendors in traffic.

I don't try to mentally analyse whether or not she deserves it or not before buying it for her because being 'my wife' alone automatically qualifies her for everything good thing i can afford. Asuch, caring for her and being 100% responsible for her is my job!

'Husband', you cannot be hanging out with friends eating choice meals and ordering the best drinks yet your wife is at home and dosen't even know what those kinda stuff tastes like, otherwise whoever raised you did a very poor job!

'Husband', you cannot be giving side chick an amount of money that your wife hasn't touched, you're not mad!

'Husband', you cannot be sitting down in that house and she's turning on generator for you when there's a power outage or she's answering the door when there's a knock. You're also her protector sir, don't forget that!

Husbands have to start doing better in 2023! This is the only way we can raise responsible son's, and daughters too, who'll be the worthy examples that we all will be proud of tomorrow.

I think I've said enough!

Cheers!✍️

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