On the table for discussion this time was a question that a friend had posed to me the week prior: how do you know when it is the right time to leave a relationship?

My friend had been dating his girlfriend for six years. While he loves her deeply, he is exhausted by their constant fighting. He feels unable to please her, and his motivation to keep working on the relationship is waning.
His concerns echo those of many other couples facing a similar pattern, often expressed in the following questions:

How much is too much when it comes to hard work and sacrifice?
What is the line between a healthy relationship (that requires diligence and patience) and an unhealthy union (that feels like an uphill slog)?
How do you determine when a relationship has run its course?

Given Aimee and Carolyn’s experience with hundreds of happy and unhappy couples, I welcomed their professional insight. One thing's for sure: reaching the decision to end a relationship is a process. “The decision to leave a relationship can take months (or even years) to process,” explained Aimee, the marital therapist. “There’s usually an inner process of dealing with guilt, sadness, disloyalty, obligation, fear and relief." Amid these emotions is, of course, dealing with your partner on a day-to-day basis. It's not easy.

Knowing the emotional devastation that a breakup can wreak, we created the following list of questions that every person should ask when debating whether to end a long-term relationship:

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1. Is our sex life satisfying?
Sex is a very important component of a relationship. Especially in times of emotional tension, sex brings things back to the physical, providing an opportunity to alleviate tension and forge deeper intimacy between partners.

While there is no objective standard for the “right” amount of sex, the most important factor is that both partners feel satisfied with the type and frequency of their sexual encounters. A low-sex partnership may be perfectly healthy, but only if neither partner wants more.
2. Are we still laughing?
Relationships require work, but they should also have a healthy balance of joy, fun, connection and even silliness. “Even in the best relationships, couples will get on one another’s nerves," explained marital therapist Aimee. An ability to laugh and make light of the situation can be tremendously powerful.

So ask these further questions: Is your relationship is overwhelmingly dramatic and tiring? Does your time together devolve into crying fights? Do small misunderstandings lead to big blowups? If the majority of your interactions are negative, it may be a bad sign.

3. Do we resolve conflict in a healthy manner?
While too much fighting is unhealthy, a lack of conflict may also be a bad sign. “If each partner is too polite and tiptoeing around the other, there is a lack of communication and a repression of honest emotion," said Carolyn, the matrimonial attorney.

Instead, resolve to fight fair. Focus on the resolution of the underlying issue (including, when necessary, an agreement to disagree) in a manner that leaves both parties feeling respected. Second-guess any relationship where you and your partner either do not conflict whatsoever, or cannot agree on fundamental rules for engagement.

4. Are we each other’s #1 priority?
Consider the following example: Effie and Matt have been dating for five years. Effie is tied to her family and their opinion. She runs home every time she and Matt fight. She asks her mother and sister’s opinion on every small and large detail of her and Matt’s life together, from what they should eat for dinner to when they should have children.

Each partner's loyalty to one another should take precedence over all others, including their family of origin. One's separation from his or her parents is an essential barometer of that person's maturity and ability to renegotiate priorities based on different developmental scenarios.

5. Do we have a common vision about our future?
Another example for this one: Deidre is one of seven children and always dreamed of having a large and boisterous clan of her own. Although Gary was raised in a large family, he enjoys his quiet and orderly life. When they fell in love, Gary steamrollered ahead with their relationship. Now married, Gary is feeling pressured into a life he doesn’t want; Deidre feels cheated out of a future she had discussed openly.

"If someone tells you something about themselves, my advice is to listen and take it to heart,” said divorce lawyer Carolyn. After all, it's impossible to change your partner, or anyone else but yourself, for that matter.
Be honest with yourself. Does your partner want a long-term, monogamous relationship? Do they want kids? Are their long-terms goals in sync with yours?

For each of these questions above, take an honest appraisal of the relationship for what it is, not what you want it to be.

Source: http://www.my360vibes.com/2015/05/five-questions-to-ask-before-you-end.html

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Many Nigerians are spending huge amount of money on browsing every month. Some are even inactive on the internet because of data.

Airtel now introduced new way to get free data for her subscribers. You don’t need to stress yourself on this free data. You only need to send a keyword to Airtel data zone to get the free mb.

How can I get Airtel free data?

* Goto your message
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* Airtel will also message you if you’re not eligible for it.
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Dial *123*10# or *123*123# or *141*712*0# to check your data balance.

Its validity is 30 days. It works on all phones.

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Note:
It selects sim but it works on most Airtel sims. Enjoy it while it last.

Source: http://hub201.com/airtel-free-megabyte/

Source: http://hub201.com/5-most-important-communication-strategies-for-any-relationship/

Communication is the cornerstone in any relationship. It is a foundation of utmost importance and is something that often needs to be learned, polished and practiced over time. Fortunately, there are basic strategies that can be used in any relationship to help improve connections and head off devastation before it starts. Effective communication in relationships only help strengthen bonds between fathers and sons, mothers and daughters, life partners, spouses and friends.



You Don’t Need To Be Right

We think if we can get the other person to see our point of view and agree with us, then we will be happy and our relationship will be what we’ve always wished it to be: heaven on earth, right? Well, not exactly. The key is to be able to have an exchange of ideas and words that will be heard, understood, and reciprocated between two people. We think if we simply repeat ourselves or tell the other person what we need from him or her with a little more vigor, then he or she will finally get it.



Being Indirect Never Works

Some of us use more subtle hints, like passive aggressive behaviors to get the other person to listen and understand us. I once remember counseling a lady who said, “I was hoping my husband would read my journal I left it open on the bed, so he would know how I feel.” She could not bring herself to tell him directly in an open, honest communication session what she needed from him and in turn learn what he needed from her. It may be a little frightening at first, but with time and practice, two people can learn to use these strategies with little effort. Let’s take a look at some ways you can help your relationship succeed.



The 5 Strategies:

Listen to what your partner is saying: How often is it when you are in the midst of a conversation with your partner, that instead of listening to him or her, you are thinking of a rebuttal. There is nothing more frustrating than talking with someone about an important topic and he or she is busy playing with nails, looking around the room (or worse at the TV), or appear to be daydreaming. Use body language such as leaning in to listen, making eye contact, and nodding. Of course,reallybeing interested in what they have to say could be of some importance, don’t you agree?



Refrain from using blame statements. This may take practice. How often is it that when you are in the heat of anger you put your foot in your mouth and wish you could take your words back. Often your statements can come across as accusatory simply because you say things like, “You always” or “You don’t.” Instead, try saying something like “I feel important to you when you spend time with me doing…” These statements help to quell arguments and open up lines of communication.



It is important to calm down (sometimes in isolation) before talking about issues. Some of us like to nip things in the bud right away. I understand, but it can do more harm than good if you jump into a discussion about your needs while in the midst of anger. If you feel you must leave the situation to calm down, try and tell your partner that is why you are leaving, and the issue will be discussed at a later time.



Choose an appropriate time and place to discuss your concerns. There’s nothing like talking about sexual issues just before or after sex to spoil the mood; wouldn’t you agree? Try setting a neutral time and place (not the bedroom) to discuss issues of any kind, especially sex. For non-romantic relationships, this works also. For example, don’t try and discuss a problem before a family outing or get together. This will only serve to reinforce your disdain for family functions. Setting an appropriate time and place to discuss issues in any relationship is vital in order to prevent negative associations with what should be joyous occasions.



Ask questions and be attentive. This will allow your partner to feel you are attempting to find a solution and you sincerely care for him or her. A good rule of thumb is to ask questions such as, “What do you need from me in order to feel important in this relationship?”

I hope you find these communication strategies helpful in your relationships and remember practice makes perfect!

Source: http://hub201.com/6-facebook-messenger-apps/
The new Facebook messenger is no longer an app that allows you to send only messages. During the F8 developers’ conference, held Last week in san francisco, Facebook announced the new Messenger platform.

The new facebook messenger also came with 39 free apps you can download and install directly from Messenger. These apps let you spice up your Facebook chat using video, GIFs, sound clips and animation.

You might want to try out the following apps.

Action Movie:

Action Movie app lets you add special effects to brief video clips. About a dozen effects come free with the app; additional ones cost a buck. “That’s a wow!”

JibJab:

JibJab is a personalized video e-card app for Messenger. It has two options. It allows you take a selfie or snap a pic of a friend, then add the face to a GIF; or choose from one of JibJab’s library of hundreds of prefab images.

Ditty:

Ditty turns your text messages into a 20- to 30-second music clips set to a familiar tune. Roughly a dozen public domain tunes are available for free.

Emu:

Emu Takes a quick video selfie; Emu animates it with one of 18 canned phrases, from “I love you” to “whatever,” which you can quickly insert into the conversation.

FlipLip:

FlipLip lets Speak into your phone’s mic; records you and gives you a choice of six voice effects, including Robot, Helium, and God. Swipe left to frame your face in “costumes” like a sailor, mermaid, or the Almighty himself.

Wordeo:

Wordeo app lets you make your own video using just words — hence the name. Type a phrase, and the app finds appropriate images to illustrate each one, strings them together, and adds a soundtrack. You can swap in your own images and choose from nine musical themes. Super cool huh?

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Whether you add cucumber slices to your salad, toss them in your smoothie or take them as a snack, cucumbers help keep you full without ruining your diet.
But not only are they satisfying, they are also great for your body. Here are some impressive health benefits of cucumbers:

Cucumber Rehydrates The Body
If you are too busy to drink enough water, eat the cool cucumber, which is 90 percent water. It will cheerfully compensate your water loss.

Freshen Your Breath
Placing a cucumber slice on the roof of your mouth may help to rid your mouth of odor-causing bacteria. According to the principles of Ayurveda, eating cucumbers may also help to release excess heat in your stomach, which is said to be a primary cause of bad breath



Fight Cancers
Cucumber are known to contain lariciresinol, pinoresinol, and secoisolariciresinol. These three lignans have a strong history of research in connection with reduced risk of several cancer types, including breast cancer, ovarian cancer, uterine cancer and prostate cancer.

Packed with Vitamins
Cucumbers are rich in most essential vitamins that the body needs. They contain vitamin A, vitamin B and vitamin C, which strengthens the immune system and gives the body more energy and a youthful glow.

Good For Diabetics
Patients of diabetes can enjoy cucumber while also reaping its health benefits. Cucumber contains a hormone needed by the cells of the pancreas for producing insulin.

Protect Your Brain
Cucumbers contain an anti-inflammatory flavonol called fisetin that appears to play an important role in brain health. In addition to improving your memory and protecting your nerve cells from age-related decline, fisetin has been found to prevent progressive memory and learning impairments in mice with Alzheimer’s disease.


Good For Weight Watchers
Cucumbers are low in calories and high in water, making them ideal for those who want to lose a few pounds. They are also high in fiber that aids digestion and can be a cure for constipation.

Do you know of any other health benefits of eating cucumber? Do you eat cucumber often?

Source: http://www.lifestyleng.com/2015/03/5-healthy-reasons-why-you-should-eat.html

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With Spring just around the corner (thank goodness) we’re all busy getting our wardrobes, cars and homes ready for the break in weather. If you’re the designated spring cleaner in your house (I know I am) then you probably aren’t looking forward to the task of getting your home in shape. Well, don’t fret! It doesn’t have to be a headache. Here are 10 tips to deep clean your home without losing your mind:

Start with a plan: Make a list of everything you’d like to accomplish. Go through each room and determine what, if any, cleaning and storage supplies you’ll need to get the job done. This cuts down on delays.

Clean one area at a time: Avoid getting off task by breaking down your plan by room and finishing one room before starting on another

Clean top to bottom: Since you’ll probably kick up loads of dust and crumbs, start with things up high like clearing cobwebs or dusting the tops of shelves and end with sweeping or vacuuming.

De-Clutter: Get rid of or repurpose things that you don’t need or want. Be ruthless about what gets tossed

Save money with DIY cleaners; things like vinegar, lemon, and baking soda can be used instead of harsh chemicals

Organize closets: Organized closets not only look good, they’ll also shave time off your morning routine by making it easier to put together outfits every day.
Multi task: I find cleaning therapeutic; it doesn’t require much thought so I can just zone out and let my mind wander. If you find cleaning less than appealing, you can make it more enjoyable by doing things like making a phone call or listening to an eBook.

Don’t neglect the walls: Walls are on of the most visible things in your home. Clean stains off walls with mild dish detergent and warm water or repaint them altogether. If you’ve considered updating your wall colors, now would be a good time to make the switch

Make sure your cleaners are clean: Get rid of moldy sponges, clean dirty mop heads and replace old worn brooms.

Don’t forget to clean out dryer vents: Lint buildup in dryer vents can become a fire hazard

Once you’re all done getting it clean, you’ll want to keep it clean. Here are a few tips to do just that:

Clean as you go: Avoid letting messes get out of control by cleaning as you go. Doing things like washing dishes as you cook and folding or hanging clothes after you wash them will help you avoid marathon cleaning in the future

Make the bed: In the bedroom, making the bed first gives the room a more organized look and you’ll be more prone to keep the rest of the room clean
Keep a schedule: Set aside a little time each day to clean specific rooms. Use a basket to remove anything that doesn’t belong in that room, then organize the stuff that does belong

What say you ? Is your home ready for spring? What other spring cleaning tips do you have?
- See more at: http://www.my360vibes.com/2015/03/10-tips-to-deep-clean-your-home-without.html#sthash.WUGYosRc.dpuf

Source : http://newsfeedngr..com/2015/03/hate-broadcast-reps-demand-details-of.html
House of Representatives on Tuesday asked the National Broadcasting Commission to produce detailed evidence of penalties it had meted out to broadcast stations that had violated the codes for political coverage and advertisements.


The House Committee on Information and National Orientation gave the directive in Abuja at an interactive session with top management officials of media organisations and regulatory bodies in the country.
The committee, which is chaired by Mr. Umar Buba-Jibrin, had called the meeting to address complaints of “rising cases of violations, particularly the broadcast of hate speeches, advertisements, documentaries and publications” by media houses.


The committee claimed that such actions allowed by some broadcast outfits and print media houses ahead of March 28 general elections could precipitate “major and uncomfortable political violence” in the country.
The committee noted that fairness, balance, lack of right of reply and broadcast of content that were “clearly untrue or intended to cause crises” were on the increase in the media lately.

“What purpose does it serve anyone, if we have to broadcast or publish content that we know is not true?
“We are living in this country and we know our history. Some of us witnessed the Nigerian civil war.
“Why do we carry content that is full of lies just to please a particular political group or individuals even when it is not correct?” Buba-Jibrin asked.

It was a stormy session where regulatory agencies and some broadcast outfits, including the Nigerian Broadcasting Corporation, DAAR Communications, Nigerian Television Authority and the Federal Radio Corporation of Nigeria put up a defence for themselves.
The NBC, led by its Director-General, Mr. Emeka Mba, denied that it failed as a regulator in allowing some broadcast stations to air certain political content considered to be offensive.
He told the committee that the commission applied all the codes and regulations to all political broadcasts.
Mba also said whenever complaints were made or investigations showed that certain content were indeed in bad taste, the commission did not hesitate to fine the media houses involved.
“We have fined some stations, not once; there are a number of them”, he added.
However, Mba got the lawmakers infuriated when he rationalised that hate speeches or what might be considered to be offensive was relative.

He tried to explain that there was a line between interfering with the operations of the outfits and the right of people to freedom of expression, equally guaranteed by Nigerian laws.
“Any material that incites violence, we take particular exceptions to it.
“However, not all uncomplimentary remarks about an individual or organisation are inciting because the stations too have a right to freedom to operate,” Mba said.
A lengthy argument ensued between Mba and the lawmakers over his stance, a reason the committee directed him to produce the list of the stations it had sanctioned this year.
Both Daar Communications and NTA told the committee that they had been fair to all political groups and individuals since electioneering for the poll stated.
But they also clarified that certain content were commercial in nature and intended to generate revenue for the sustenance of the outfits.
NTA’s Director-General, Mr. Shola Omole, in particular, further explained that content that was carried “live” was completely beyond the control of the station.
He claimed that other political groups were usually compensated by giving them the same amount of airtime as a right of reply.
Former NTA presenter and Chairman, House Committee on Diaspora Affairs, Mrs. Abike Dabiri-Erewa, vehemently disagreed with Omole.
She said President Goodluck Jonathan and the Peoples Democratic Party enjoyed more airtime than Gen. Muhammadu Buhari and the All Progressives Congress on the NTA.
She also told the session that on three occasions, the APC had tried unsuccessfully to air a documentary on NTA and AIT to reply to hate documentaries carried by the same stations against its presidential candidate and the party’s national leader, Asiwaju Ahmed Tinubu.

The Nigerian Press Council was represented by the Executive Secretary, Mr. Nnamdi Njemanze.
Njemanze stated that though some print organisations often challenged the regulatory powers of the NPC, the media would still have to perform their duties.
He explained that most of the reports carried by newspapers but seen by some people as inciting, “mirrored” the comments made by politicians.

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I know we all like to share what you can do to start, grow, build and enhance your relationships. It is also equally important to know the things you shouldn’t do, and even more important the things which are totally unacceptable in relationships.

Ignorance of the law is not a defense in court and ignorance of what not to do to someone is not going to save your relationship after they have been mistreated. Here are three things your relationship can’t withstand. First, realize you must avoid them at all costs or correct them if you are already dealing with some of these issues:

Resentment
Resentment is defined as the feeling of displeasure or indignation at some act, remark, person, etc., regarded as causing injury or insult. Resentment is a derivative of our anger. Anger is fine, we need to be realistic with being upset with our mate or someone else in the household. The problem lies when the feeling lingers because the injured party feels the guilty party doesn’t acknowledge the problem, apologize for it or try to rectify it. Resentment can occur in other situations as well.
In blended families, one parent can resent the other parent’s children. The displeasure can come from any number of circumstances, some even self-derived. The important point is that resentment must be dealt with. The longer we have a resentful feeling in a relationship, the easier bitterness develops and feelings of hate can develop. Resentment is a gateway drug to divorce. Both the offending party and the offended party must talk through their feelings of resentment. Get a third party involved if necessary. Nothing good comes from harbored feelings of resentment which no one is trying to address.

Indifference
Think about indifference this way: If you love someone, you obviously care for this person. If you hate someone, you once cared for this person, and at least there is some feeling about this person within in you. The passion is still there. It may be misguided (or some might say guided appropriately), but the feeling remains.

Once a person is indifferent toward another, the person whom the feelings are directed toward no longer matter. It’s much easier to work through challenges with a person who is not happy or in strong dislike with their mate. Once there is true indifference, it’s a tough challenge to overcome. When you become aware of the feeling of indifference setting in with your mate, you are likely deep into a very difficult and challenging time.

If you begin to feel indifferent, don’t let it stagnate. Talk about it. Tell your mate how you are feeling and talk about ways to deal with it. Sometimes, it could be as simple as getting another couple you trust to begin to walk with you as you work through your challenges together. You may turn to marriage counseling, or individual coaching. Work together to take whatever the necessary steps are to work through the feeling of indifference. The feeling of indifference can be a relationship killer, but it can also be overcome.

Sabotage
Almost anything one could fathom can at least have the opportunity to be overcome if both parties are willing to work on their relationship. Both parties have to be willing to come to the table to discuss the challenges and work together to overcome them. If one party or another has decided they are going to fight the process and do things to undermine the process, then the relationship is at a stalemate, or a very tough crossroads.

Coaches, counselors, pastors, friends and relatives should have a couple’s best interest at heart when they are trying to help them and they want the couple to win. The toughest challenge in any relationship is when one person is simply not willing to work on the relationship or doesn’t believe in the process. Relationship sabotage can be a symptom of other issues in an individual, such as personal insecurity/trust issues, trying to create a “self-fulfilling prophecy” to their pattern of relationships in the past and any of several other things could be the underlying cause.

If your mate is trying to sabotage the relationship or the work to rebuild the relationship, try to get them to seek individual help to find out what the underlying cause of this behavior is, then work on those issues. Until the sabotage is addressed, the relationship can’t move forward.

Can you think anything to add to list? - See more at: http://www.my360vibes.com/2015/03/3-things-your-relationship-cant.html#sthash.C7j37LqB.dpuf

Lawyers have warned President Goodluck Jonathan over continually saying that stealing is not corruption.Recall that the president for the 8th time on Wednesday during the Presidential Media Chat tried separating the act of stealing from that of corruption.



Source: http://newsfeedngr..com/2015/02/lawyers-caution-gej-over-stealing-is.html
“If somebody is a thief, he is a thief. We should not use the word ‘corruption’ to cover a case of stealing. Thieves should be called thieves,” [/i]the president had said.

However, Professor Itse Sagay, who is a lawyer and human rights activist, has taken up the issue. In a telephone conversation with Punch, Sagay said there was no technical difference between the two acts, and that people involved in either should be made to face the wrath of the law.



He said, “In a broad legal sense, they are the same. Stealing is taking what belongs to another person without the consent of the owner with the intention of keeping it permanently.

“Corruption is using an office to acquire the resources of an organisation without working for it and without the organisation’s awareness. Looking at it, using an office as a political office holder to acquire what belongs to the state results to stealing.


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“Ultimately, every act of corruption is an act of stealing. There is no question about it. There is no moral or ethical difference between them. Both are criminal, immoral and anti-social acts and nobody should attempt to make one look lighter than the other. People who commit either should be dealt with seriously.”




Another civil rights lawyer, Fred Agbaje, said President Jonathan’s differentiation between the acts was clear evidence that the president’s government is corrupt. Fred Agbaje said this is because those two words are same offence in different letters.



He said: “Defence of stealing as different from corruption is indicative of the fact that President Jonathan’s administration is morally bankrupt.

“What the President has said is an admission of guilt and that his government is corrupt. It is a distinction without substance. It is calling one object two different names.

The nomenclature may differ, but the substance of both allegations is the same.



“Which of them is allowed in our law whether he calls them in different names? They are both punishable under our penal laws. Stealing is even worse than corruption. Both of them carry a legal element of deliberately taking what does not belong to someone with the intent of depriving the taxpayers.”

The president’s ‘stealing is not corruption’ statement prompted various reactions from many people when he first made it. At the Presidential Media Chat yesterday, February 11, Jonathan was again asked to give more clarification on what he meant by his famous phrase, but this time the president’s response triggered the displeasure of the All Progressives Congress vice-presidential candidate, Professor Yemi Osinbajo.

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Source: http://www.my360vibes.com/2015/02/3-reasons-why-your-spouse-cheated-on-you.html

Infidelity. It has to be one of the toughest marital problems for any couple to discuss. Trust and honesty serve as the foundation of marriage. People enter their unions believing that they can trust the person they just made a life-long commitment to. When something like infidelity happens, it shakes the foundation that the marriage stands on. Once there is a crack in your foundation, what do you do next?

When a person finds out their spouse broke a wedding vow by failing to remain faithful, the questions begin. Why would he do this? Did I do something wrong? I thought we would last forever. Can I ever forgive her? Does he love the person he cheated with? Is this the person I married? How did we get to this place? Why did this happen to us?


And these are all valid questions, of course. When you trust someone and that trust is broken, you want to know why. Some people even wonder if they played a role in the other person’s behavior—maybe causing them to connect with someone else by making them unhappy? It’s unfortunate, but the person who is being cheated on can even wonder if they did something to deserve it.

The details involved with any case of infidelity can vary a great deal. It is tough and only the people involved can determine if forgiveness is possible, and what they are willing to do if they would like to work on their marriage. But despite the differences that exist in every situation, I do believe there are some commonalities in terms of why a person cheats.

Here are 3 reasons why your spouse may have cheated on you:

1. A Lack of integrity. Having integrity means that you say what you mean, and you mean what you say. People with integrity do the right thing, even when no one is watching. When you cheat, you lack integrity, even if for a moment. It doesn’t mean you never had integrity, or that you never will again. It just means that during that space in time, your actions proved that there was a lack of integrity at play. There is no denying that.


2. Being a coward. The decision to cheat is often connected to an earlier decision to avoid dealing with what’s wrong in your marriage. Marriage is tough, and sometimes you need to have painful but necessary conversations. But having those conversations and determining where your marriage stands requires courage. Walking away from your commitment, and any potential problems, for a momentary fix is a punk move. Yep, I said it. Have the guts to work through your marital mess instead of stepping out on the person you promised to stay with forever.


3. Immaturity. With maturity comes discipline—the ability to do what is right, even if you have an impulse to do something else. Typically the decision to cheat is an impulsive one. Maybe your marriage has been a struggle for years. Maybe it’s been months since you were intimate. Maybe you even feel like your marriage just won’t last. Honestly, I get that and I understand how meeting someone who makes you feel good might be appealing. But as a mature adult, you have to be able to control that impulse you may have and walk away. Everyday we avoid certain decisions that may seem appealing, because we know a severe consequence will follow. If you were mature enough to marry, you should be mature enough to walk away from what you know is wrong.



I firmly believe that cheating is always about the person being unfaithful. Even if the marriage is an unhappy one, and even if a person begins to fall out of love or finds their spouse impossible to live with, there is always a better option. There is always a better way to deal with things.
So if you have ever been cheated on, please know that you are not to blame. If someone made a commitment to you, even if you played a significant role in damaging your relationship, they should still honor the commitment they made.

I am not suggesting that anyone who has ever cheated is a bad person. I have met wonderful people who have cheated before. I am, however, suggesting that the person doing the cheating has to own their behavior. When anyone does something wrong, the best approach is to own it, learn from it, and try to do better. Trying to blame the person you hurt—well, nothing about that approach sits well with me.

Why do you think people are unfaithful?

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The self-proclaimed bad gal knows how to switch it up when it comes to looks and slay every time.

Riri Served us with some serious nostalgia as the cover star of i-D magazine's Music Issue. She's rocking the kind of throwback plaits that were a childhood staple for a good number of us, as well as hand-sized hoop earrings, dark lined lips and what looks like a navy jumpsuit.

 What do you think about her look?

Source: http://www.my360vibes.com/2015/01/rihanna-debuts-ultimate-throwback.html

You;re welcome

Bode2:
Thanks for the post Sir

Feeling down about your small business these days? Is the broken economy hurting your sales and keeping you up at night? Need some motivation and tough love to help you stop pitying yourself?

Well, here you go: 13 reasons you might have in your head about why you’re not as successful as you should be.

#1 Reason You’re Not As Successful As You Should Be – Laziness
I don’t think there’s an easy way to put this. I have to assume that you’re lazy. Every single successful person works their butts off to get where they are. It’s ok to be lazy. Just admit it. But don’t whine about not being rich and successful, ok?

#2 Reason You’re Not As Successful As You Should Be – Entitlement
Only a few people in the world are part of the lucky sperm club. You and me? We gotta work to get what we want. Quit thinking you are owed something. You’re not. Get to work.

#3 Reason You’re Not As Successful As You Should Be – Fear
You are afraid, plain and simple. Afraid of looking silly. Afraid of what your friends and family will say. Afraid of everything. Look, you’re either going to stop being afraid, or you’re not. Nobody can convince you to stop. Imagine though… what awaits you when you stop with the fear excuses?

#4 Reason You’re Not As Successful As You Should Be – Negativity
You may not realize it, but the people you associate with might be negative [orifices]. They could be soul-sucking beings who don’t want anyone to be successful. Get rid of them, now! Surround yourself with successful people. People you want to be like.

#5 Reason You’re Not As Successful As You Should Be – Stop Thinking
How much do you want to bet you have paralysis by analysis? You think way too much about what you could or should do. Doers get what they want, and everyone else gets what they get. Stop analyzing and start doing.

#6 Reason You’re Not As Successful As You Should Be – No Goals
You plan nothing. You believe that someway, somehow, everything you always wanted will just magically happen. So you “play it by ear” and wait. You need goals to shoot for. Otherwise, you’re just treading water.

#7 Reason You’re Not As Successful As You Should Be – “They”
There’s no “they”. There’s no secret group of people that controls your success or failure. You’ve made that up to make you feel better about yourself. The truth is you, and you alone, control your success in life/business/everything. It’s easy to blame “them” though, isn’t it? Weak.

#8 Reason You’re Not As Successful As You Should Be – No “X” Factor
You can’t do it because you’re not pretty enough. Or don’t have a strong personality? You don’t have the “X” factor? Wow, what an unbelievably lame excuse. The truth is even jerks, idiots and boring people can be just as successful as anyone else. Your problem is you don’t believe it yet.

#9 Reason You’re Not As Successful As You Should Be – Time Waste
You’re a classic time-waster. You spend hours and hours every day working on not-working. You do things that aren’t productive. How are you ever going to get anything done, or reach any goal if you keep wasting time? You’re not. So you might as well give up now if you’re going to keep this path.

#10 Reason You’re Not As Successful As You Should Be – Social B.S.
You spend way too much time in social media land. You waste probably about 50% of your productive hours of the day doing this. The sad part is, you know it, but you can’t stop. So you can’t get anything done that matters.

#11 Reason You’re Not As Successful As You Should Be – Think Small
You think way too small. You are constantly looking only a day or a week ahead instead of years ahead. Because of this, you never get anywhere, and you never lead; you always follow.

#12 Reason You’re Not As Successful As You Should Be – Don’t Want It
You don’t really want to be successful. Sure, you like to dream about it like everyone else. But in your heart you are afraid of what might happen if you really get it. That’s B.S. fear your brain is feeding you. Success is change, and it feels really, really good. Tell your brain to shut the [foolishness] up.

#13 Reason You’re Not As Successful As You Should Be – Don’t Believe
You never believed that it’s possible. Society taught you that only a few “exceptional” people get what they want. Everyone else should just settle. If you really want to believe that, go ahead. The rest of us will be at the front of the line because we believe.

Source: http://www.lifestyleng.com/2014/09/13-reason-youre-not-as-successful-as.html

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By incorporating water in ounces equivalent to our weight (daily) we noticed significant changes in our health. Not that we are unhealthy, we just noticed a difference in how we felt. So between our own personal discoveries and a little research this is what we’ve found. Making water a part of your daily regimen can take your s3x life to another level.
Here’s How Water Helps:

1.Moisturizes the skin, leaving it smooth, supple, and oh so touchable!

2.Elevates energy levels. It causes you not to tire so quickly. Are you down for another round?

3.Lubricates joints and reduces pain in your joints. That new position you wanted to try? Water can help.

4.Improves blood flow to your extremities, making you more sensitive to a loving touch. It also can improve erectile dysfunction because it improves circulation and blood flow to hubby’s umm…lower extremities.

5.Regulates body temperature, and this is important because it gets…hot…steamy…you know? You know.

We don’t know if this changed your mind about water but it sure changed ours. Include it in your daily routines. It’s worth a shot! The bottom line is water can change your s3x game! Try increasing your water intake for a better s3x life with the one you love! There are really so many health benefits to gain from drinking water, there’s no way you can lose.

Now tell us, how much water do you drink a day?

Source: http://www.my360vibes.com/2015/01/5-ways-you-didnt-know-water-could.html

Very very Welcome ma!

Hello Miss, talk about her son, tell her how u feel about him and also be good to the mother inlaw and also visit her frequently am sure she gonna like u, and the last always be your self!

LogoDWhiz:
Hmm! Toxic indeed!

Well I haven't encountered such before but I've seen this signs in friends' relationship.

Thanks for this OP.

U didn't add this!

When the opposite sex most especially female, keeps nagging. Can be frustrating.

Thanks for the contribution.

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[b]You know that feeling you get in your gut when you are deeply involved in a situation that just isn’t sitting well with your soul? It’s an unsettling feeling that tells you something needs to change, yet you find yourself holding on to the situation, ignoring what your gut is communicating loudly and clearly.

Typically that gut feeling is rarely wrong. It’s our body’s way of telling us things that we seem to be overlooking. A gut feeling that is ignored is sure to pop up again. So what does a bad gut feeling about a relationship mean? Simply put, it means that the relationship you’re in may be toxic and you should think about hitting the road if things don’t change drastically.

Toxic relationships are far too common when they shouldn’t be. People tend to stay in situations that don’t serve them well, sacrificing their happiness in exchange for a warm body to hold when they need affection. Misery sure seems like a high price to pay for some affection if you ask me. And sure, none of us are in perfect relationships and some moments with our mates leave us feeling frustrated, annoyed, and a straight up angry. But temporarily having a negative emotion is very different than being in a relationship that is consistently toxic.

So how do you know if the relationship you are in is toxic? It’s not that hard, really. The hard part is acknowledging the toxicity in your life and deciding that you deserve better and you want out.[/b]


Here are 9 signs that you are in a toxic relationship.

1. You don’t respect each other.
Respect is a two-way street. Whether you are being disrespected, or the one being disrespectful, the toxicity is surely present. Respect is the cornerstone of any healthy relationship. If you don’t have respect for each other, you shouldn’t be together.

2. There’s emotional or physical abuse.
Abuse has no place in a healthy relationship. It is never okay and it is never your fault. If you are being abused emotionally or physically, you have to find a way out. If you need help getting out of your relationship safely, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline.

3. You’ve been cheated on multiple times.
I am all about forgiveness and second chances, but when someone shows you time and time again that they have no intentions of honoring their commitment to you, you should move on and find a person who will keep their word and treat you the way you deserve to be treated.

4. Someone is always angry.
There are few things more toxic than unmanaged anger. If someone in the relationship is always angry, they have to work on the issues behind the anger before it destroys everything in its path.

5. You feel like the love you get comes with multiple conditions.
If someone truly loves you, you shouldn’t feel like they are always placing conditions on their love for you. If they are only able to love you under certain circumstances or if you do certain things, their love for you is not genuine.

6. There is dirty fighting going on.
All couples disagree at times, but when your disagreements turn into full blown fighting matches with nastiness being exchanged and people hitting below the belt, you are in an unhealthy situation.

7. You’re the secret lover.
If someone is with you but is keeping you a secret, please run. You shouldn’t have to play such games, and starting your relationship off on a negative note definitely sets the tone for what you should expect down the line.

8. You act different in your mate’s presence.
You should feel free to be your authentic self at all times. If you act completely different around your mate than you do around your friends and family, it’s a red flag you shouldn’t ignore.

9. Your gut tells you that you deserve better.
Your gut is rarely wrong. If you feel like you are in a toxic relationship and that you deserve better, you are probably right. Don’t ignore that gut feeling. It’s there for a reason.

Nairalanders, Have you ever left a toxic relationship? How did you know it was time to get out?

Lets hear you!
Source: http://www.lifestyleng.com/2014/12/9-signs-that-you-are-in-toxic.html

Mzgracie:
Chai!!!

Anything can make FP now...


MODs, diaris Godu oooo

LOL!

A gas explosion which occurred in Akure, Ondo State on Saturday, December 13, has left many people dead and several others injured.
The incident is said to have occurred at about 7pm while gas was being sold at the station located along Arakale Road in the state capital.

“We just heard a loud explosion and fire coming out of the gas station and we all ran. The fire suddenly engulfed the cars parked along the road and the buildings surrounding it,” a witness told Punch.

No official casualty figure has been released but many are believed to have died due to a delay in the arrival of firefighters to the scene.

http://www.my360vibes.com/2014/12/gas-explosion-kills-many-in-akureondo.html

Turned what?

pinkiecutie:
turned on

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The photo on the left is from her 2015 calendar while the one on the right is from her 'Only' video featuring Lil Wayne, Drake Chris Brown. She shared the photos on instagram...
http://www.my360vibes.com/2014/12/nicki-minaj-shares-more-sexy-photos.html