₦airaland Forum

Yes you can. I started with my Nokia 3310 and I don blow.

MadamVanessa:




Shameless Reno mockery. By age the fool is far older than Traore , but in terms of feats and achievements young Traore has floored him. Young Traore is a president of a nation, but old fóolish Reno mockery is X clown.

Traore is a coup plotter and a criminal. Were you dropped on your head at birth?

Wtf is wrong with you?

Medici777:
you be fool

Why?

Samantha125:
My late paternal grandfather got into an arranged marriage with his second wife, but it still never worked out... He went back to his first wife that he chose for himself running and never looked back... They stayed together until death separated them in their old age.

Some of us didn't even know he had a second wife until his death.

Lots of my Indian friends complain about arranged marriages though, especially the ladies.

helinues:
Have those elders lived with the arrangee lady before hence knowing all about her behaviour and character or they just assumed from afar

It is assumed that if the mother has a good character and from a good home, the lady will also be good.

LordYon08:
The two exist but still fake.. love isn’t needed in marriage.. You have to respect and love you whoever it turns out you marry

Love is needed but I believe love grows over time as you get to know each other and, grow in friendship.

Have you ever wondered why our parents' marriages seemed to last longer than the ones we see today? Back in the day, most marriages in Nigeria were arranged by families or communities. My parent marriage was arranged and it stood the test of time with love growing over time.

Love was not necessarily the driving force; instead, compatibility, family background, and shared values were the key considerations. Fast forward to today, where falling in love is seen as the ultimate requirement for marriage. But with love marriages, we now see rising divorce rates, marital dissatisfaction, and emotional burnout.

It makes you wonder if arranged marriages are better than love marriages?


Pros for for arranged marriages, families often play a significant role in ensuring the couple's success. For instance, our grandparents often stayed in their marriages because they had the backing of both their families. It wasn’t just about the husband and wife; it was a union of two families, which acted as a safety net when challenges arose.

There’s the story of Mama Ngozi and Papa Ngozi, who got married in the 70s through family arrangement. Mama Ngozi said she didn’t love her husband initially, but she learned to respect him and grow love over time. Today, they are celebrating 50 years of marriage. She attributes their success to the mutual commitment to make the marriage work rather than relying on fleeting feelings.

Divorce was rare in the past. People often worked through their issues because of societal and cultural expectations. Arranged marriages taught patience, compromise, and resilience.

Pros in favour of love marriages are ; Love marriages are built on personal choice, which allows individuals to pick a partner who aligns with their dreams, values, and ambitions. Chidera, for example, fell in love with her husband during NYSC. She said, "I married my best friend," and they are happily raising two kids in a marriage where friendship is the foundation.

Unlike arranged marriages, where couples sometimes meet on the wedding day, love marriages thrive on emotional intimacy. Love marriages allow couples to build deep emotional bonds before taking the marital step.

In today’s world, people prioritize happiness and individuality. Love marriages give room for individuals to walk away when things don’t work, unlike in the past where societal shame trapped couples in toxic or abusive relationships.

The rising divorce rates are a reality. But is it because love marriages are inherently bad? Or is it because our society has evolved?

1.Some may argue that today’s couples are not as patient as our parents’ generation. They give up too easily.
2.Financial strain, infidelity, and unrealistic expectations often strain modern marriages, whether arranged or love-based.
3.Unlike in the past, divorce is no longer taboo. People feel empowered to leave unhappy marriages.

Finally, are we romanticizing arranged marriages because they "seemed" to work, or is there truly something we can learn from them? On the other hand, are love marriages the solution to individual happiness, or are they too idealistic in a world filled with human imperfections?

Let’s hear your thoughts:

Would you let your family arrange your marriage today?
Do you think love alone is enough to sustain a marriage?
Are we the problem, or is it the system of marriage itself?
I would like to hear your thoughts.

Caseless:
Did you read other crime he's convicted of, or you just ran to town with what the media told you?

Did he kill someone?

ChristCee:
He was sentenced for armed robbery. The punishment for armed robbery in Osun is death. The judge followed the law made my the law makers of the state.

The state lawmakers are eeeediots then.

Delightsome2023:
trash

What is trash about people's lived experiences?

Do you have a brain at all?

He should not be alive now. Should have been executed as a coup plotter. Same with Buhari.

Rajiolaade:
you & your replica are the eeedio, law stipulates that if you armed yourself with even a needle to steal or rob no matter the value of the exhibit,you are guilty of ARMED ROBBERY and the penalty is death. The judge judges accordingly.

Well then, the judge and the law makers are irreemable eeeeeeeeeediots.

Fvuck the judge, fvuck the lawmakers, and if you quote me again, fvuck you too.

TheGreatIyaebe:
You think I care?

Rolls eyes!

This is a new year madam.

Let us follow peace with all men, not women. All men is what the scriptures commanded. Waging war against the menfolks will tantamount to a sin against the Holy Scriptures.

Happy married life

Not a crime, you have to learn to live with it.

Onitola2:
he was not sentence just for stealing the fowl, it's because he was holding cutlass with him while stealing. Stealing while arming with anything that can kill another attracts maximum penalty

Still did not warrant a death sentence.

The judge is an irredeemable eeeediot

The judge is an eeeediot

Omotena1:
Relationships are a waste of time these days.

Loyal girls are taking last. It's not working for me.

I think it depends on the individual you meet and attract for a relationship that determines if it works or not.

Samueltemi337:
I am sure you have sent the boy a dm
That's your fellow man

Irrelevant to my comments. I have tons of ladies in real life to pick from and not sex starved.

Why are people insulting the lady? She is making a reasonable request and I believe the post is pretty explanatory enough.

New update, I scheduled a meeting with my wife's ex, I am planning to beg him to leave my wife alone. Iove this lady so much kai!

koladata:
how will you know you weren't given true love ?

Example, if you refuse access to your bank account as a lady, it means there is jo true love.

If I complain about something and you refuse to change, there is no true love.

Nicepoker:
I am her ex. We are still seeing each other.

I am calling police for you. What kind of experience is this.

Nicepoker:
This man you are so eccentric.

Why na. Are you my wife ex. 😁😁😁😉

Peakdesign23:
Some of these men are so foolish. I just recall the video I saw on Tiktok, the secret telegram group with 70,000 men who raped, drugged and slept their wives, mother, sister, cousin, aunt's and thier daughters. They still go ahead to share their unclad photos to this telegram group. The world is full of crazy people.

That is despicable.

Nicepoker:
Op is your wife still seeing her ex?

I don't know yet, I am waiting for a feedback from her and will update.

dominique:
Too many women getting killed by exnir soon to be ex husbands it's gut wrenching. One even called in that her ex husband is on his way to harm her but the police said there's nothing they can do. About 15 minutes later, the ex husband arrived and killed her and other occupants of the house. The rate at which men harm or kill their wives, ex wives and even girlfriends is disgusting to say the least yet they expect us to believe that women are the evil ones. Not that there are no bad women but they pale in comparison to bad men. May God continue to protect us from this evil, violent gender.

Did this man ever thought of the children's welfare when in fits of rage? Now the kids are orphan with both parent dead same day.

Sad

trium:
I hate AI articles and the person knows themself.

At topic, I think one part that is overlooked is childhood. Adults are a reflection of their childhood. You need to know what that person went through growing up. Many people don't realise that the person is trying to fix the problems they had in childhood, whether they had parents or not. Listen to them very well because that past is what they will spend the future addressing.

You are on point with this one. I had someone who was emotionally abused by her father. She also saw the father constantly abusing the mother and this led to a constant distrust of the husband, unnecessary quarrels and the marriage almost broke up.

helinues:
Love yourself first before having expectations of loving others

Is that not same as selfishness when you love yourself first?

Mindlog:
Crazy!

These men never stop to wonder who will take care of the kids when killing their wives.
The dad was killed for siding with his daughter.