DeepSight: + I certainly believe in greater female involvement and despise misogyny and male chauvinism. However women are human - dont think that it will solve all things magically.
aribisala0: Good video maybe you should edit it and add commentary to update where you are at different stages The imagery is great but difficult to understand will make a lot of sense if you edit it and add commentary
thatigboman: how is political? I say people should be who they say they are. Ngeneukwenu has been claiming female until he bursted himself, which complaining about ebonyi bad roads and car reflection showed he is man.
I said the first few people that commented on the thread turned it to a political thread. Fighting over which govt fixed the road and all that. Got it now?
thatigboman: Sapphire u didn't show your face. Wanted to see if u were u actually a man masquerading as a woman like Mr Woman ngeneukwenu that's claiming female till he was caught on car reflection on abakiliki road and we found out he was a man. I still have the picture and the post in my archive but swear never to expose him again.
If you want to see my face checkout my videos on YouTube and Facebook. I can't be filming my face on a highway. Or better still, come to PH and see my face.
thatigboman: Sapphire u didn't show your face. Wanted to see if u were u actually a man masquerading as a woman like Mr Woman ngeneukwenu that's claiming female till he was caught on car reflection on abakiliki road and we found out he was a man. I still have the picture and the post in my archive but swear never to expose him again.
See how they have turned my travel thread into a political thread.
kpankpangolo: One hour and ten minutes. Impressive. Speedboats are fifty minutes, meanwhile passenger boats are two hours. Looking forward to enjoying this in the future. The Nigerian Police with their dubious ways will start kidnapping people on the road in a bid to enforce checkpoints in the area.
A Christmas Day Road Trip to Bonny Island: A Journey Long Awaited
December 25th will always stand out for me not just because it was Christmas Day, but because I finally experienced something many of us in Rivers State have talked about for years; traveling to Bonny Island by road.
Bonny Island, a historic and culturally rich local government area sitting at the southern edge of Rivers State in the heart of the Niger Delta, has always felt just a little out of reach. For decades, movement in and out of Bonny was limited to water transport or air travel, making every visit feel like a mini expedition. But this month, something remarkable happened. The Federal Government temporarily opened a road linking Bonny Island to Port Harcourt.
And I knew I had to experience it.
Setting Off from Port Harcourt
I began my journey at YKC Roundabout in Woji, Port Harcourt, early on Christmas morning. The city was unusually calm, no rush, no chaos. Most people were indoors celebrating with family, which made the timing perfect for a road trip. The light traffic gave the journey a relaxed, almost reflective feel.
As I embarked on the journey, it hit me that this wasn’t just a normal trip. This was history unfolding in real time.
The Drive: Smooth, Scenic, and Symbolic
The road trip was surprisingly smooth. No long traffic hold-ups, no stress, just a steady drive through the Niger Delta landscape. The sense of connection between communities made the journey deeply meaningful.
I documented the entire experience on video, capturing the road, the environment, and the quiet excitement of finally being able to say: “I travelled from Port Harcourt to Bonny Island by road.”
The entire journey took about 1 hour and 10 minutes, a time that still feels unbelievable considering how inaccessible Bonny used to be.
Arriving in Bonny Island
Pulling into Bonny by road felt surreal. What was once reachable only by boat, helicopter or plane was now connected by land. This road represents more than convenience. It symbolizes development, unity, economic growth and new possibilities for the people of Bonny and Rivers State as a whole.
For locals, travelers, content creators, and businesses, this road changes everything.
Final Thoughts
This Christmas road trip wasn’t just about the destination. It was about witnessing progress. Being able to travel from Port Harcourt to Bonny Island by road is something many never thought they’d see, let alone experience.
If this road becomes permanent, it will redefine travel, trade and tourism in the region. And I’m glad I got to document this moment while it’s still fresh and historic.
I had a chat with some officers on the road. They more friendly ones requested for my number. I gave some and didn't give some. LOL!
Watch the video and enjoy as I cruise through Port Harcourt to Bonny Island.
1. Do not marry a man because he is ready. Marry a man you love. Better to laugh in a keke than cry in a Lambo. 2. Marry go into marriage if you are not financially independent. Love if sweet but money maintain a home/marriage. If your husband is the only one providing up to salt and maggi, my dear, that home can never be sweet. 3. Do know discuss your relationship with your friends. There are so many things your friends shouldn't know about your boyfriend/husband. 4. Respect your man. 5. Put your self development first before him. If you do not develop he will dump you for another woman. 6. Take care of your body. 7. By all means try and stay independent of your parents before 25. 8. never open your legs for any man. \most man lose interest the moment they nag you. 9. Be a listener than a talker. 10. Always carry money with you whenever you go to visit any man or going for a date. 11. Don't make your love for a man be more than your love for yourself. 12. Try and have at least a skill or a business even if you have a certificate. 13. By all means try and go to school and graduate. 14. Never take back a cheat. 15. Make your health a priority. 16. Do not bend your rules for any man. 17. By all means have at least a Love Machine. You can get the cheaper one from Jumia. I have vendors too. 18. Always have your money. Whatever he gives you should be a bonus. 19. Do not date a man you are older than unless he is from a wealthy home. 20. By all means never give birth if you don't have any source of income.
Destigmatizing divorce is a necessity in this generation. Divorce is not a sign of failure. Marriage is not the ultimate purpose of this life, being married is not the biggest achievement and the purpose of marriage is to enjoy it and not to fight for it. If you find yourself fighting for your marriage just know that the war may never come to an end and even if you will win few battles you may still end up not winning the war. A turbulent home is a war without end where a woman will be forced to walk on egg shells every single day and simply issues that can easily be resolved with maturity turn to a time bomb. Living in a turbulent home feels like living in a war front. The slightest issues gets over blown and misinterpreted and used against the woman. Every effort is made to belittle her and degrade her and strip her of every dignity. In a turbulent home, there is always an obvious effort to make the woman not to enjoy the home. The man is hell bent on not letting her enjoy peace of mind. Abusive partners take everything personal, seeing you triggers them and once you accept it you are simply expected to soak it up and get used to it without complaining and see it as a way of life. What is not easy to understand is why some women choose to stay in an abusive marriage instead of running away.
First, is the Stockholm syndrome. Psychologist have discovered through series of research that when women are abused and they stick with their abusers for too long they tend to become very sympathetic to their abusers. If someone abuses you and you refuse to leave them after a period of time you will develop sympathy for that abusive person, you will tend to overlook their abusive tendencies and start to manage the situation and keep adjusting and squeezing yourself to adapt to the abusive behaviour. The human mind is tricky and it accepts whatever is dished out to for a long period of time. For instance if you keep calling a child stupid or foolish after a while the child wills tart to exhibit stupid or foolish behaviour. Women who refuse to leave abusive marriages gradually develop Stockholm syndrome which makes them love the abusive partner and trauma bond with them deeply. They become a partner in crime in the abusive dynamics. It becomes part of their love language. They start to expect it and start to see it as part of marriage. You will hear them say something like no man is perfect or that it is better to cry in benz than to cry in keke. They will come up with so much excuses to defend the abuser. They may even start to believe that the abuser loves them so much that he loose control and starts to hurt them. They simply brainwash themselves to continue with the abusive relationship and cope with them. Stockholm syndrome is simply a coping mechanism borne out of mental manipulation. As a woman you must be able to identify Stockholm syndrome and deal with it before it destroys you. There is no defence or justification for abusive and even if there is it should not be coming from you as the victim. A victim must not defend evil or make it lesser. Once you stop seeing the boundaries between an abusive behaviour and a love behaviour then you are simply suffering from Stockholm syndrome.
Second, the fear of being alone or the fear of walking away from the marriage is what keeps women in abusive marriages. After a while women build their life around a marriage, the society expects them to leave their own parents, jobs, house, surnames, identity and get absorbed into the world of the man. Women sacrifice a lot in marriage, they are forced to sacrifice their friends, relatives, families, siblings, career, health, cities they grew up, their womb, their heart, their business, their career, their social support system and a lot of basic survival mechanisms in the hope that their husband will be able to protect and provide for them but sadly many husbands do not understand the difference between being a husband and being a girlfriend. They demand submission without responsibility, they refuse to face the reality of their office as a husband. They misunderstand the loyalty and submission of their wife and take it for granted. Submission and loyalty of a woman is a heavy sacrifice that must be compensated with huge responsibility and management to ensure that things work out well. A woman who submits to an irresponsible man is like someone throwing gold jewelry to a pig. It is a complete waste of time, emotion, life and resources. It is a very dangerous move that has led to the death of many women. The purpose of submission is protection and provision. It is against human nature to submit to what will kill you. The only difference between a tree and a human being is that a human being will run away when he sees something that can kill her while a tree cannot run away from whatever is coming to kill it. This is a natural sensation that is even present in animals and more developed in human beings. It is a natural reaction. Women who get killed in abusive relationship have been converted from human beings to trees.
The goal of abusive men is to convert their victims from human beings to something less than a human being. The whole essence of abuse is to degrade and reduce the potential of the woman. There is nothing that a woman will do that will justify abuse because abusive men have a deep problem inside themselves. Abuse comes from deep inside the oppressor and not from the victim. Do not let any man to convince you that they abuse you because of how you trigger them. They abuse you because of their own internal issues with themselves. Nobody goes around abusing everyone they see on the road, abusive people simply seek for the perfect victim and when you find yourself in an abusive relationship you should remind yourself that you have made a mistake and fallen into the trap of an abusive person who sees you as a perfect victim.
Another reason that makes women to stay in abusive relationship is that they get suckered in by the abusive dynamics. Abusive men are not ignorant of their evil behaviour. They simply hone their abusive skills and trap their victims with an emotional roller coaster of up and down emotional triggers. The brain works with some chemicals called dopamine and it is easy to manipulate and get people to become addicted to it. Nobody gets addicted to cocaine or weed or cigarrete they simply get addicted to the chemical reaction that it triggers. Abuse partners are experts at triggering intense dopamine reaction in the brains of their victims. Most abusive partners follow up their abusive actions with some charming and loving actions to encapsulate their victim inside a confusing situation. With an abusive person you will always feel confused and not know what next to expect and naturally the brain finds this to be very exciting. The brain hates calm situations and always loves up and down peaks in mood. That is why great movie producers always add suspense in their movies. Research has shown that humans do not like what always stays at one point. Abusive partners are experts at making the woman's mood to go up and down in an extreme pattern. One second an abusive partner is very very sweet and the next second they are so mean that you as a victim will not mind sticking with them until they become sweet again. This is going to be like a heroine addict, always waiting for the next high. Even though human beings are rational, nobody sits down with a calculator to calculate the rationality of their behaviour.
The best way to escape from abusive behaviour is to break the patterns and this can only be done by identifying abusive behaviour. Once you can identify abusive behaviour then your next job is to set clear boundaries and be firm about it. If you cannot take a firm stand against abusive behaviour then you should get ready to continue to suffer from it. Another thing you should do is to seek outside help. You must build a strong social support system and refuse being isolated by your abuser. Most abusers try to isolate their victims so that the abuse will not be detected. But once you build a strong social support system it will be very easy to find help. With a strong social support system you will become less vulnerable to abuse and will be able to take a firmer stand against any abuse. Abusive marriages and relationship does not know education, wealth, age, location or any status and it is something that can happen to anyone. We have seen it happen to professors, rich women, and even women living abroad. You must find help and support if you are in an abusive relationship. There is nothing to hide about it and you must be strong and firm and see it as a battle for your survival. Type marriage partner in the comment section to receive a link to join my special WhatsApp community for regular updates and our monthly webinar. Send me a DM if you want to book a session for private and confidential consultation.
1. Women always believe the idiotssssss would change.
2. Women stay because of the children.
3. Women stay because of the society shaming them.
fredpeter: and u actually claim to go to school... If a woman receives money from a man by pretending to visit him then she can be sued because there is a verifiable evidence to that effect but how can u sue someone that verbally said he wants to marry u and didn't, probably even didn't sleep with u at all
I don't talk with people who didn't go to school. If u went to school u would see where I said that if there was a chat when he promised marriage he MUST and SHOULD be sued.
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