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ileobatojo: What has all this got to do with the fact that they have publicly said they are not feminists?

And the fact that Meryl streep is a feminist with a long lasting successful marriage?

Do you understand the basic difference between people's character traits and feminism?

pls tell him o. its like nobody wants to understand that every woman has a person trait before she is a feminist. mtsheeeeew.

dinachi: Demi more is an unstable character....see the links i posted ealier

Katy Perry wanted to dominate in her marriage...

Madonna is neither here nor there..

Beyonce herself according to the links you posted said that the word feminist can be extreme....and prefers to call herself a modern day feminist which is neither here no there.

your only focus is on extreme feminism. that's the only type of feminism you acknowledge, so no matter what anyone says you ll only agree with your self. this is not different from saying Muslims are bad people because some of them like like to blow up things. Feminism is a subjective topic. everything writing here is in my opinion.

ileobatojo: True. And the reverse is also true.

But who are the bitter pseudo feminists that are making happy feminists look bad you were referring to? Come out straight please and stop dancing around the question.

its a general thing not a Nairaland thing. pseudo feminist in general. I'm not out to insult you or anything. Jesus! That post has noting to do with you. just let it be.

its Ma not sir. you were the first to accuse me of "poly monikering" and insulting you. Don't worry if i ever feel the need to insult you I will do so directly. its the internet. the worst that can happen is that you ll insult me and type them in caps lock. Today is not the day.


Live long and prosper.

ileobatojo: I see. With supporters like you, who needs haters?



Who were you referring to with all these o jare?

lol. based on the op's write up and most comments here they have attributed those qualities to feminists and I'm saying its not true. a woman can be bitter, man hating or homosexual and still not be a feminist. calm down I'm on ur side.

ileobatojo: See me see something o JK. They open a thread to bash and insult people, their rudeness is repaid in kind and they are now trying to cry foul. What kind of babies are these for God's sake?

What do they do next? They start creating fake monikers to come and support themselves when they know they have no substance to stand on on their own. It's a total shame I tell you.

Throwing out terms like man hating, lesbian, sexual orientation blah blah blah does not make your nonsense any more impressive. You need to show evidence. That's the only way we will know you have sense and are not just a spambot empty barrel.

you need to take a chill pill.

ileobatojo: Another fake polymonikering regular poster.

This is getting boring. Why can't you people be bold enough to say what you want to say as your regular selves? This degree of cowardice is so alarming.

where did this one come from now? huh? . And I was actually in support of some of ur write up o. still support them tho even tho u called me a coward. Just calm down.

people have to understand that feminism is subjective not objective, and its is not synonymous to man-hating or misandry, rudeness, lack of respect or seeking of superiority over the male folks.Its not a war against men. its a fight against bad policies. So please don't confuse your bitterness, sexual orientation, rudeness, or bad attitude towards men or women with feminism. Stop making we the happy feminist look bad. And if you like don't take of your family in the name of feminism, I wonder under which feminist law it is written that you should be disrespectful or rude. Bitter pseudo feminists.

The real thing that keeps men and women apart, is fear. Women blame men and men blame women, but the culprit is fear, women are afraid of one thing, men are afraid of a different thing; the fears of women have to do with losing while the fears of men have to do with not being good enough for something. One is loss, the other is insecurity. Men are innately more insecure than women and women are innately more needful of companionship than men. It's good for both men and women to be able to recognize and identify these fears not only within themselves, but within each other, and then men and women will see that they really do need to help each other. It's not a game, it's not a competition, the two sexes need one another.

You're going to meet many people with domineering personalities: the loud, the obnoxious, those that noisily stake their claims in your territory and everywhere else they set foot on. This is the blueprint of a predator. Predators prey on gentleness, peace, calmness, sweetness and any positivity that they sniff out as weakness. Anything that is happy and at peace they mistake for weakness. It's not your job to change these people, but it's your job to show them that your peace and gentleness do not equate to weakness. Always appear to be fragile and delicate but the thing is, don't be fragile or delicate. Be very gentle but also show that the gentle also possess a poison. Compare yourself to silk. People mistake silk to be weak but a silk handkerchief can protect the wearer from a gunshot. There are many people who will want to befriend you if you fit the description of what they think is weak; predators want to have friends that they can dominate over because that makes them feel strong and important. The truth is that predators have no strength and no courage. It is you who are strong, and it is you who has courage. Many friends have been lost over the fact that when they attempt to rip you, they can't. They will accuse you of being deceiving; Don't be deceiving, Be made of silk. It is they who are stupid and wrongly take gentleness and fairness for weakness. There are many more predators in this world, so be made of silk. You are silk.

Drop that guy like a bad habit. I know your mind tells you the same thing. From the little you've written I can deduce that he is proud, self centered, egotistic, the world revovles around me type of guy. But if you ll like to marry a dictator and be a robot for the rest of your life all I can say is Live long and prosper.

someone that you are dating but didn't bother to know where he lives and you are talking about marriage. both of you should keep jonzing that you are in a relationship o. I laugh!!!

Any partner that will distract you from your success should be dumped like waste product and forgotten. Cos in the end if you fail and can't do something tangible with your life she ll dump ur azz. So forget her existence and try to better your life. She's just not that into you anymore. Sorry Bro

be careful what you use for you skin. what works for her might not work for you

jumzzy448: errors like?
@op, good write up.

Thanks dear.......

Every family requires a leader (not dictator). (Women calm down, until we start paying dowry its not us).
Before you marry man, ask yourself

Can I respect this man?
Will my respect be reciprocated?
I'm I intelligent enough to criticize his opinions without crushing his Ego?
Is he capable of Leading me?
I'm I willing to accept him as a Leader?


If your answers is no kindly sit ur pseudo feminist self wherever you are. You are not ready for Marriage.

LEADERSHIP

Power isn’t control at all — power is strength, and giving that strength to others. A leader isn’t someone who forces others to make him stronger; a leader is someone willing to give his strength to others that they may have the strength to stand on their own.

Leaders are not, as we are often led to think, people who go along with huge crowds following them. Leaders are people who go their own way without caring, or even looking to see, whether anyone is following them. "Leadership qualities" are not the qualities that enable people to attract followers, but those that enable them to do without them. They include, at the very least, courage, endurance, patience, humor, flexibility, resourcefulness, stubbornness, a keen sense of reality, and the ability to keep a cool and clear head, even when things are going badly. True leaders, in short, do not make people into followers, but into other leaders.


To be Continued......................

sauer: I have nothing against feminism but your little essay is riddled with too many errors.

please feel free to state your opinion. Everything I have written is in my opinion and they are my random thoughts on my feminist views.

Feminisim and marriage.

Most people are of the opinion that feminism is the reason for the increasing rate of divorce, which is wrong. The bad attitude of people is what is wrong with marriage. And the fact that some women now understand they should not be treated like animals by their husband's and men also understand that they should be constantly verbally abused by their wife's.

Marriage is supposed to be a partnership between two individuals, based on clear defining rules that suit them. Love and lots of respect are key ingredients for a stable marriage. Men are born with the instinct to provide and to protect their family and women have the motherly instinct to care. The continuous struggle for equality upsets this balance. Whatever feminist agenda you have start from your home. And always remember that partners are supposed to help and respect each other for balance, not to fight for equality or superiority.



To be continued.......... Good night

toke8: My gf called to say she wants to go to silverbird galleria with anoda guy dat i dont know. I asked her not to go because am not comfortable with it since i dont know d guy in question. I asked to take her there instead, she said no. I asked dat we all go together (including d guy), and she said no. And dis is d 2nd different guy asking to take her to d cinemas in 3days. She said dey are her friends around where she works and dat she wont do anything stupid.
Could she have been cheating on me?

that girl is not your gf.

@op you've made that mistake already. just struggle thru each day. think of something you can do for money, use your talent. there is always a way. its a tough life but you just hv to live it.

pickabeau1: It had its usefulness to provide suffrage n equality in the workplace but now it has lost focus

The focus should be on human rights...not one gender claiming superiority over another

the women that should be screaming feminism are the women in Saudi Arabia that r not allowed to drive.

my dear you are not a feminist don't come here and blame ur bad attitude on feminism. feminism does not in anyway teach people to be disrespectful. change ur attitude. you are welcome

First of all I must state that everything written on this thread is in my opinion. And please pardon my typos if any.



Lets not confuse feminists with bitter women(aka i've been hurt by one man therefore all men are evil, and I hate men) because most people are quick to call any rude female a feminist, and we should also understand that in any group there are extremists. Every true feminist understands that feminism is not a war against men but a war against bad policies that belittle or dehumanize women. Because we are first humans, before we are women. Some of us understand the fact that men and women will never be equal because they are not meant to be equal, but compliment each other in aspects of life. Heck all men are not equal so what are we talking about. So the feminist fight is for better opportunities for women. The real feminists understand this.............................


to be continued.