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MrCork:

beejay501:
I think Rollo will fight against Ragnar..
then maybe Ragnar will kill floki avenging the priest's death

offorkansi:
Yesterday, I struggled to hold back tears as my neighbor told me the heart wrenching story of her friend.

Her friend was 7 months pregnant. She was expecting her second child. The first one is 4 years old and their previous attempt to have a second, have ended in 3 miscarriages.

Sadly, just when they thought this pregnancy would be different, she also lost the baby. No, the baby was murdered. She delivered a stillborn.

My neighbor who spent three days with her in the hospital was fuming with anger as she narrated her friend's ordeal. The night before she had the miscarriage, her husband had come back drunk as other nights.

He forced the wife to have sex with him. The woman pleaded with him that she was in no mood for sex, more so with the pains she was enduring due to the pregnancy. The drunk husband would have none of it.

He forced his wife, and had rough sex with her after giving her a thorough beating. The next morning, she started bleeding and was rushed to the hospital.

As the devil may have it, the doctor was not on call and the nurses and student doctor were the ones that attended to her. They gave injection to stop the bleeding, the bleeding continued. They gave another injection.

Then she started feeling unbearable pain, labor followed and she spent agonizing hours pushing out the baby.

The baby came out lifeless. 7 months of pain and discomfort without a bundle of joy. Who knows if the previous miscarriages were not a result of the husband's Ill treatments.

Men, your wife is not an object of pleasure. She doesn't exist only to satisfy your sexual cravings. It's her body, when she's tired and in no mood for ex, she has a right to tell you so and please respect it.

As for the woman in question, she says she loves her husband and doesn't want anybody confronting him on her behalf. I've since dried my eyes and gone on with my business.

Sempumping:
YELS......she can be pregnant and be menstruating too FYI

MrCork:
..am not your brothers...anyways are you lightskin?

MRBrownJ:
i am not an insecure person, but if it would eve bother me, then i would sit her down and we would have a mature discussion until the issue is resolved, and both are satisfied with the outcome.



yes, she has every right to be jealous (to each their own low self esteem) but to expect her husband to walk away from a business he may have heavily invested in (physically/financially), without having a PROPER MATURE discussion on the issue, is certainly not the way to go.



again, to each their own low self esteem, but i dont think anyone should suddenly erase their past simply because they are getting married. there is nothing wrong with keeping friends with your exes (if thats what you wish), but you certainly have NO business marrying a man if you cant trust him with such petty stuff.



so if his ex had linked to ministers and ogas at the top, who could greatly benefit his business etc.... you do believe he should delete her contact because he is getting married to a woman who isnt comfortable with their now friendship?! ahahahahahahahah very funny!



again, YES you have the right to feel however you wanna feel about their now friendship, but expecting him to disregard his business dealings because of an immature wife, is ridiculous! without having a mature discussion on the issue, there is no way this man should change anything about his business dealings (and possibly lose his investment). wifey should grow up and act RIGHT, instead of acting like a child. if these guys cant sit down and have a mature discussion, where both can put their views across, and come to a MATURE understanding/solution, then they have no business being married together!

MrCork:
..stop cussin on nairaland & stop derailin people's threads...no man on nairaland want a lady like that ..GROW UP!! (word of wisssdom?

MRBrownJ:
no no no sista, you "say" mutual respect while expecting your feelings and self to be put 1st. how can that ever be mutual respect? mutual respect is NOT about disregarding someone's views/opinions and expecting ONLY yours to be followed, it is 1st about having an understanding and 2nd communicate maturely so 3rd you guys can come to a solution that fits the BOTH of you (important word here is in bold).

as for the OP, you must not know what COMMUNICATING means. just because you tell someone that you have issues with their actions, doesnt mean they automatically have to accommodate you. 1st you have a mature discussion (back and forth) that can last a while until BOTH come to a SOLUTION. such can often take times. how can you assume that the man isnt understanding because he hasnt changed, and that means it is a lack of respect? would taking the calls in private change anything about how she "feels", really? would hiding make matters better? come on!!!!
this lady simply want her husband to STOP contacting his ex (whatever the cost), and this is the beef here, nothing else... if this ex was a doctor doing life threatening surgery on her husband's parents, she would still act the same jealous/selfish way.

if you think that the OP has made a clear case as to why her husband should stop having any contact with his ex, then no wonder there is such a gap between men and women when it comes to problem solving

MrCork:
^^^^^hello mad woman Sanana......you will never find man on nairaland with yorr atitude on less you start actin like lady....this is not a curse..it is a sayin!! (No ofenese)

MRBrownJ:
again, read carefully what i wrote as it isnt about men vs women (or even cheating) but mostly about respect/communication/understanding in any union. all this issue was NEVER about someone being superior than the other, but all about COMMUNICATION.

as for wifey washing my dirty underwear, how hard is it to throw an underwear in the washing machine?! please!

MRBrownJ:
women like yourself who think that THEY can overreact to whatever they desire, and expect their husbands to be quiet and accept whatever nonsense you throw at them, are simply dreamers.

[b]here is the reality of life (take note):
- most men would accept all your childish act before marriage, but will put you right in your place when you guys are a few months/yrs into that marriage, unless you guys COMMUNICATE beforehand.

- if ever your future husband foolishly puts you 1st, it will only last until you guys have kids, and then THEY will be 1st... and therefore any business dealings will be needed to improve their wellbeings (whether you like it or not)

- the "mumu" that you describe here on NL (as your "perfect" man), and that you dream of marrying, is NOT a man... he is a muppet that hasnt got a backbone, and who everyone will use and abuse (starting from you).

- COMMUNICATION is the only stepping stone to possibly settle any issue in marriage.

- Women like you who talk about mutual respect, yet dont have a clue about the meaning, is the reason why so many marriages are failing these days. how can there be ANY mutual respect if you expect your husband to DISREGARD his business dealings, DISREGARD his own feelings, STOP being himself, so that he can accommodate YOU (and your feelings) 1st. mutual respect should have you respect him as a man and whatever he choses to do, instead of trying to force him to be who YOU desire him to be. i mean, who are you kidding?! if both your feelings are respect equally, why yours should be 1st?

- we men rarely give a damn about y'all feelings because we all know that you women are emotionally driven creatures, and overreact most times (especially during that time of the month).
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EOOJ:
I love this

MRBrownJ:
then i certainly would hate to see what will happen when your husband EQUALLY "reacts" to your sudden madness, and deals with you accordingly.

MrCork:
...AND PLISS MOVE YOR GANDORARABISH THREAD TO FASHION......ROMANCE SECTION IS FOR CHASIN WOMEN ONLY!!!(no ofoeinse)

MRBrownJ:
probably not, but i doubt that "dealing with them" can solve anything, far from it. your violent ways will only give him tools to use against you, and possibly ruin a business deal.
mature COMMUNICATION is the only solution here.



i dont know as i dont have a crystal ball, but it certainly isnt impossible to only have free time at night to discuss such dealings. if they are busy with other jobs during the day then night time would be the only time to discuss. if she is a mother and have a family of her own to deal with then only when the kids are asleep could she be free to discuss business. would that be so far fetched or do you women see everything NEGATIVE as soon as another woman is involved?
mature COMMUNICATION is the only solution here.



what a selfish statement!!! so now just because you aint cool with your men's business dealings, he should stop them to accommodate your low self esteem and insecurities, without having a mature discussion about the issue 1st?!
mature COMMUNICATION is the only solution here.



bwaaaaaaah! women are quick to throw the above statement when they have no valid point to bring to the table. why dont you explain to us why your feelings should be more important than your husband making money?
actually he does care... but obviously he cares more about his business. again, your feelings are important but NOT a priority in a family's wellbeing. get over it.



he probably would but is it RIGHT?!

MrCork:
...bro be care full....Saronna is a agresivve animal!!!

MRBrownJ:
after reading the above, we can clearly understand that in your world everything is about you, you and only YOU.... i do feel sorry for the man who has to live "under" you command.
to each their own misery.

STFUareyouGod:
It's nice but maybe too much.
I think they look nicer when they look simple.

How kind did it take to paint that? And how long can you have it on?

You said it's temporal, how do you get it off?

STFUareyouGod:
lol. I can see how much you love this 'heena'. Are you from the northern part of Nigeria?


Yes, the 2nd and 4th looks simple and gorgeous.

Have you got some on you?

STFUareyouGod:
lol. I think I know what it is now. But I'm sorry to say, I don't find it fanciful. I honestly don't find it attractive. But I don't have problem with it tho

STFUareyouGod:
what's it for?

STFUareyouGod:
What's this?

MrCork:

MrCork:

ramuona:
My issue is that I'm naturally jealous. Why do business with her? Since September last year.. Business I have not seen.. Or heard the business name. He can do business but not talking and chatting all the time. If I'm talking to him he will be busy chatting with her.... If I come close he hides his phone.
My issue is not self esteem... My issue is that I'm jealous they talk all the time + laughing too (to my hearing .. Even in mid night. She calls him

jaelz:
please help me retweet: https://twitter.com/BlabyJaelz/status/705658667237023744

Rollar:
Stop you?? Sister I'd pay money to make you! I'll bet if you wanted to upload some nυdes they'd try to stop you too. Maybe you should do it to spite them, show em who's boss

JohnieWalker:
My Number one woman....Momma is Special Jhor