₦airaland Forum

from.ikeja u can get iyana oba straight instead of taking egbeda first.then take agbara n drop.at iyana era

Can an ulcer patient use it.where are you based.if an ulcer patient can use it then am interested

08069723101.really interested.

mutter:
Not wanting to blame you but you really have to work on yourself! You bought something for yourself to eat?
Why not for the two of you.
So if you did not want to cook later and you knew this, why did you not also buy food for him or simply call him and let him know the situation. He might have brought food home for the home.
When he asked you what was wrong with you you gave a silly answer. .. NOTHING. Well someone with nothing ought to be up and cooking for her husband .
And upon all this you still shouted at him-Bad manners . Darling I have a headache would have been more appropriate.

You still stopped him from leaving the room.
A woman that was too sick to cook had so much energy for a fight?
.. and now your husband is gone and you have not gone to look for him and plead?

You are making some big mistakes and you need to change that fast or you might loose a good thing.
Nothing wrong with your husband, he just is a no nonsence man.

If you really read my post you will see where I said my husband doesn't eat food prepared outside,he almost never eats out.up make all his meals even when am ill as far as I can stand I make his meals.that was why I asked him what he wanted for dinner because I was ready to prepare it for him.
I slept off because I had a little headache up didn't say on woke up with it.
I only shouted that God will judge him after I had tried talking to him and and he wasn't answering and when I tried explaining he called me a liar.mind you he had been d one doing the shouting.I know I am not a saint and the only reason I had my back to the door was because I was really so confused and couldn't understand why he would believe I didn't answer him.you don't want to know how scattered my brain was then.but like you said I probably should not have done that we learn every everyday.
Thank you.

thorpido:
That's good enough.Now go and buy ice cream if you like that or chocolate or shawarma and get in front of the television to watch your favourite Tv station.Make yourself have some fun around the house.

Lols.thanks

bukatyne:
@OP:

1. Call him: for safety and future purposes.

2. Get a grip on yourself. You weeping all about the house is annoying and will trigger his taunting more. . By now, you know What ticks him off so get used to it and stop crying about at everything he does

* Do not take his abuse anymore. If he asks questions, answer. If you have issues, still make food. If he doesn't eat, leave him be. He is not a baby who you force feed. Start training him on What you will accept and What you will not.

3. Get something doing If you are not working. If he doesn't want you to work and you are not inclined to push it, get a hobby; read novels; Google current films etc. Travel out of your home with your mind.

4. You are working, also save a lot

5. Stop blocking his way or other stunts... one day, he might knock you out senseless, like the feeling and continue

6. Commit everything to God in prayers.


I have a feeling you married him because he was rich aka caring without getting to know him in-depth.

It would be huge to pull off from gentleman to This.

Goodluck.

Thank you very much.really appreciate your input.Will try and do what you say.God bless you

thorpido:
Okay,have you called him?
It seems his parents indulged him while growing up and it's gonna be hard turning into a gentleman now.You have to give him some tough love from now on.Don't indulge him with too much begging and crying.You have to get a grip on yourself.

See what Bukatyne wrote.

Thanks a lot.I have called him.asked him where he was,he told me and cut the line

nyafunyafu:
Why should a responsible husband travel without informing the wife? I will ignore him if I were you, what kinda childish behaviour is that one. The more you enable him the more he feels he can up and act anyhow. Abegi,time to watch yah fav TV programs without the pressure of attending to his beck n call. If an me an best time to splurge on items I've been eyeing evil grin. Also some men pick up unnecessary quarrel when they have something fishy going on you also need to be on your guard and snoop if possible to find out where he travelled to.
I can't understand why someone cannot feel free and breathe fresh air in their marriage with a man you share your bodies?
Hmm your man needs some tough love for him to out grow some of these childish acts.
Hope you are still on top of your game as taking care of yourself both physically, career wise etc. May God give you wisdom to know how to handle this situation.
In conclusion. Just call to satisfy your curiosity that at least he is ok.

Thanks dear.yes oh I still am I do say so myself.people don't believe I have a kid self and in my glory days in university I was the queen of my department for two consecutive sessions so I know say I fine small at least
I have a job even though am on leave now.

thorpido:
Does he have an alfa or elderly muslim man he respects and can listen to?
Is your husband's family polygamous?

Sorry about the questions,just trying to understand your hubby's mindset.

Like I said the only person he seems to have a little respect for is his dad.
No his family is not polygamous.he actually lost his mom a few years ago and his father refused to remarry.

udz:
@schmilez
since U knw the kind of person and reactions ur husband gives, why did U ignore him, when he asked a simple caring question, stood up, went to the bathrooom and washed ur face. just to come out and ask him what he will eat. nobody saw this part, yes ur hubby reaction no try but U are a trigger. its a two way thing. manage the situation. call ur hubby !!!!

U didn't read it well.I answered him.saying nothing
Stood up to wash my face.came back to the bedroom told him welcome and asked him what he wanted me to prepare for him

thorpido:
is he the only son?
Does he go to church or mosque?

he is not.he has an elder brother and a younger one.
we are muslims

thorpido:
Your additional posts show your hubby has anger issues and is immatured.
Tip-toeing around the bedroom so you don't wake him up..........wahala.

Don't know if your hubby can get anger mgt classes if u are in Nigeria but he needs to see a counsellor.
Does he have someone he looks up to and listens to?

To be sincere his father has really tried.he behaves for a while and then back to square one.my husband can buy you all the good things in this world,change your wardrobe when he has money and behave generally loving and nice but even when he in this loving happy mood i am on guard watching what i do or say so as not to set him off.

but i cannot keep calling the old man over every time.

[quote author=bellong post=33548108]He needs to be broken....

God willing, you will be in our prayers.
[/quote)
Thanks alot

[quote author=freecocoa post=33547647]Ha! I don't like to tow the line of 'did you not know this about him before saying I do' but it seems like there's no way around that here.

[/quote
To God I didn't know it was this bad.he actually hid a lot from me cos we had a long distance relationship spanning a little over two years .we fought yes during courtship both I alas had a part in most of our fights too and he will be quick to apologize.the most we ever spent together during courtship was like 2 weeks. He was staying with family and so was I.so he travels to see me or I travel to his base to see him and I had family there so I really did spend more than 4 days max together.though we saw quite often

bellong:
Madam, this is beyond the two of you sitting down to discuss as that have failed. He needs too many reset buttons, anger management and a thorough bashing from an external source.

Sincerely, I don't know how to advise you in dealing with such a man because he is the one in need of urgent and serious advice (provided what you have painted is true). However, what I can tell you now is to handle him with tact, wisdom and patience. Never ever let any of your arguments, disagreements and brawls degenerate to physical abuse. Always keep your distance. He needs someone to talk sense to him.

Does he act this way in his office or it is only with you? Meanwhile, you should call him to ask after him and nothing more.

He has a temper generally and ones he is angry and feel he is justified will even insult his father's mate.and he never ever accepts his shortcomings ever

MarvellousGod:
nawa oooo... So immature. .. A man who's supposed to bring his family together acting like a child...
Really hurtful, imagine preparing his food for three consecutive days without him touching them...

Nevertheless, I will still say you call him... Things may get worse if you don't. Two wrongs don't make a right. Just bring him back home first..

Take solace in your beautiful daughter. . Things will get better dear...

Thanks a lot.As I read people's comments tears are just streaming down my face.I used to think i was asking for too much.

By this time I was really upset at why he was behaving cruelly to me and I decided not to speak to him too since he was giving me d silent treatment.we went to bed.made him breakfast the next day and took our kid to school.he came home at night and I greeted him but he d didn't answer me.made him dinner served him but he didn't eat it.at this point I had decided to ignore him but continue my duties as his wife.made him breakfast the Next day he didn't eat it.made his dinner.he came home went straight to bed slept for a while and went out.came in after we had all gone to bed.
Woke up this morning prepared his breakfast,got my baby Ready for school and then I noticed him packing.By the time I dropped my daughter off and come back home because am on leave he had left the house without eating the breakfast I prepared for him
I sent him a text wishing him a safe trip after waiting for a while if he would call or text.
Later in the evening I sent him a mail detailing a the hurt I was feeling and asking him if I meant so little or if our marriage was meaningless that he could leave town without letting me know where he was going to

freecocoa:
OP, you already married an immature prick(I'm sorry I couldn't help it), the only thing you can do now is try to get him to grow up, if he will.


I advise you call him and when he comes home, have a heart to heart talk, no yelling, no names calling, just two people who are supposed to love each other talking like adults. He might try to act childish as usual so I suggest you prepare your mind, use your feminine charms to woo him and get him to open up to you.


It will also be helpful if you can shed more light on what leads to these arguments.

Things like am getting a little late with his food will lead to a fight,and he is not like he is without sin.speaks rudely to me irrespective of who is there.he tells you something you don't hear and if he has to repeat himself once or twice he shouts it at you.
I have spoken generally about his temper and how he tends to overreact to things and how his actions demoralised me especially when he talks to me the way he does in front of friends and family

What caused d quarrel this last time was this.he came home and met me sleeping because I had come back from work with a little headache I had even bought something to eat on d way so I will not have to cook for myself.ate and decided to rest.I dosed off .I woke up to the sound of him coming in and playing with our daughter and this is someone that when he is sleeping i tiptoe around him because I have made the mistake once of waking him up when when his boss was calling and I received the insults of my life.he didn't speak to me for at least a month after this and didn't eat either.that period was hell for me.
Back to the matter he asked me what was wrong even though I had d pillow over my head I answered nothing, looked at the time realised it was some minutes past 6 ,mind you my husband doesn't let anybody cook for him except him.I got up went to the bathroom,washed my face and my mouth came out to the bedroom,told him welcome and asked him what he wanted for dinner.all I got was silence.I asked him about 3 times and no response.he changed and left me alone in the bedroom.I thought about ignoring him but I decided against it and followed him to the living room and I repeated the question when I didn't get an answer I decided to ask him what I did wrong.and that was when he started shouting that he was asking me a question and I didn't reply him, tried explaining that I did and all and then he stormed off into the room.I didn't know when tears dropped out from my eyes ,felt so helpless and defenseless and that Was when I shouted at him that God will judge him for accusing me wrongly and why did he want to just pick a fight with me.needing closure I went into the room telling him that I said really answered him and all,he started screaming at me telling me he didn't have time for any rubbish and stuff.I had my back to the door and when he started getting forcefully trying to open the door forcefully.I left him so that he will not injure me

Thanks all.yes he is usually like this when we quarrel over some things I even cannot get my head around .ad we have Sat down numerous times to talk about his actions and how they affect me generally.
He is some one that will call you names like how can you be so stupid to think like this when you both are discussing something and may be you have different views or he says something like how can you be thinking like an uneducated person.when he is in his mood he can even call your names in front of our child .this last one I have begged and talked and fought and cried for him to stop doing in front of our kid

Please help me.I really need matured advice.my husband traveled without telling me he was.we had an argument some days ago and as usual with him he refused to talk to me.this is quite normal for him after a fight.I used to beg him before as he will not eat my meals too but recently I have decided to also ignore him though I cook and serve his meals which he doesn't eat by the way.should I call him to ask where he is or should I ignore him.