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nirJP:
make you guys go fine job can't you see that the mail is almost 10th years ago that too old for you f o o l to be putting up you number besides did she put her number there mumu

myomy:
Please don't crucify me.

I am a Christian and a faithful woman who unfortunately got married to a womaniser. I never enjoyed him once because he prefers to use his free time outside the home with either single girls or married women. I think is case is somehow spiritual (he needs serious prayers). He even resorts to violence when I accused him of cheating, I mean he has started beating me because of other women!He doesn't pay attention to me nor even touch me for weeks. To even pay a simple complement is wahala.

Now I'm bored with it all. I need a friend of the opposite sex not for sexual intimacy nor for extra marital affair but someone I can talk to, turn to for companionship, somebody I can call and he will be there when he wanders away. Somebody I can look up to. Do you understand? I'm talking about a kind of relationship that existed between Jonathan and David. Do you know why? I dint want to develop hypertention thinking about him and his escapades.

Or is there anything wrong with a married woman having a male friend especially if you married a man who is highly irresponsible and doesn't have time for you? I wouldn't have been looking for somebody like that if i had married a decent man. Most times I am lonely even when he is around his presence doesn't make much impact because he is either watching TV or playing with his phones.

thesicilian:
Unfortunately, I don't know of any, apart from marital infidelity. If its something the church/Christian elders cannot resolve, then its probably better to take a walk until things change for the better.

myomy:
Please don't crucify me.

I am a Christian and a faithful woman who unfortunately got married to a womaniser. I never enjoyed him once because he prefers to use his free time outside the home with either single girls or married women. I think is case is somehow spiritual (he needs serious prayers). He even resorts to violence when I accused him of cheating, I mean he has started beating me because of other women!He doesn't pay attention to me nor even touch me for weeks. To even pay a simple complement is wahala.

Now I'm bored with it all. I need a friend of the opposite sex not for sexual intimacy nor for extra marital affair but someone I can talk to, turn to for companionship, somebody I can call and he will be there when he wanders away. Somebody I can look up to. Do you understand? I'm talking about a kind of relationship that existed between Jonathan and David. Do you know why? I dint want to develop hypertention thinking about him and his escapades.

Or is there anything wrong with a married woman having a male friend especially if you married a man who is highly irresponsible and doesn't have time for you? I wouldn't have been looking for somebody like that if i had married a decent man. Most times I am lonely even when he is around his presence doesn't make much impact because he is either watching TV or playing with his phones.

thesicilian:
No one who abuses his wife deserves to be married to her. If your husband abuses you, especially physically, you have 2 options: Either to stay and pray it gets better, with the possibility of you one day becoming severely brutalized or ending up dead, or you file for divorce and live your life alone or with someone else who appreciates you.

myomy:
Please don't crucify me.

I am a Christian and a faithful woman who unfortunately got married to a womaniser. I never enjoyed him once because he prefers to use his free time outside the home with either single girls or married women. I think is case is somehow spiritual (he needs serious prayers). He even resorts to violence when I accused him of cheating, I mean he has started beating me because of other women!He doesn't pay attention to me nor even touch me for weeks. To even pay a simple complement is wahala.

Now I'm bored with it all. I need a friend of the opposite sex not for sexual intimacy nor for extra marital affair but someone I can talk to, turn to for companionship, somebody I can call and he will be there when he wanders away. Somebody I can look up to. Do you understand? I'm talking about a kind of relationship that existed between Jonathan and David. Do you know why? I dint want to develop hypertention thinking about him and his escapades.

Or is there anything wrong with a married woman having a male friend especially if you married a man who is highly irresponsible and doesn't have time for you? I wouldn't have been looking for somebody like that if i had married a decent man. Most times I am lonely even when he is around his presence doesn't make much impact because he is either watching TV or playing with his phones.

IdeyVex1:
@Myomy

I will be very sincere with you.  You are not looking for a friend to talk to.  You are looking for a way to get back at your husband.  that is while you are looking for a male. You are actually looking for someone you can develop intimacy with and then maybe have sex with.

I will advice against thatt as that carries a moral burden with it.  I have one question for you:  You must have dated your husband for a while before marrying him I guess.  Was he promiscous during your courtship?  Did you have any suspicion that you were not the only one in his life?  If you did and then went ahead to marry him, then you made your choice and you'll have to live with it.  Women who fail to understand that "the only change you can find in marriage is for the worse" always make such mistakes.

Now if he was not the promiscous type, then check yourself.  Do you nag him?  From what you have, it seems you've not been married for too long.  Did you lose your appeal?  Some women marry and then become so lousy in dressing that the husband cannot stand him.  Do you deprive him of the kind of sex you know he enjoys.  Some women are fantastic in bed before marriage but after that, they assume they hold the four aces and become so drab in bed that the unfortunate man has no option but to seek for what he is used to outside. There are lots of other things I can write about that make men look outside and none is even close to being spiritual.  Look again at the marriage before and after and take a wise decision but a male friend to talk to and get. Kclose to? NO!!!  If u dey find assistant husband, talk!!

Another angle I am even looking at is the christianity angle.  I know a woman who will not dare to be intimate with her husband in the open because she claims to be born again.  I don't know about inside oh!  This same woman might have been hot before she became born again!!!

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Hello, plz tell her to say d truth, I knw who she is, she is an adulterous woman and d husband has left her.. Filing for divorce. She shouldn't bother to call herself married, let her wake up to real world and marry her boyfriend she had been sleeping with... Lol
Wishing you success while you resolve your marital problems.