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Each time you allow another person to get under your skin, you're choosing to give up control over your life. The next time you hear yourself saying "so and so makes me so mad", or "what she/he said really hurts my feelings", check within yourself to see what it is that is truly making you that upset. A lot of the times, what upsets us so much about another person is really a reflection of our own selves, things we're not aware of that we don't like about ourselves. Pay attention the next time you get upset with what someone says or does to you. Ask yourself why it is upsetting you so much. Check to see what kind of expectations you have for others. If your expectations for other people are too high, then you're more than likely going to be going around upset all the time. People will never be able to live up to them. Just because you would not say or do such a thing does not automatically mean that others will live by the same rules you have for yourself.

No matter how upset you get about the actions or behaviors of others, it won't change anything. The only person you have control over is yourself, and if you're so busy being upset over the behavior of someone else then you have just given that person power over you. Another person cannot make you upset without your consent. Check your thoughts when this happens to see what you are focusing on.

Be careful not to get wrapped up in another person's emotions, they are responsible for what they say, feel and act. Don't allow them to drag you into their misery. Detach yourself from the drama.

Whatever it is that you feel another person is upsetting you about has more to do with YOU and less to do with them. Take responsibility for your emotions and get control over them. Make a commitment to yourself that you will no longer allow others to determine how you feel. As soon as you notice anger, hurt or fear arise take charge of those thoughts going through your mind, ask yourself who it is that is really in control of how you feel, is it another person that really has that kind of power over you or is it that you are letting them have that power over you? Look at the upsetting thought and tell yourself "interesting point of view that is" and simply let it flow right past you, don't hang onto it. It's not yours, it belongs to someone else.

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As you know, I believe it's crucial for the success of your relationship for you and your spouse to go out regularly,preferably once/week...Date Night!
I never understood how people could expect to stay close and have a fulfilling relationship without spending quality time together.

But there is the question: Where do we go? What do we do? And how do we go out all the time without breaking the bank?
Let's share together and put a lively touch into your boring relationship...

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A man once came to a town and asked the local sage, "I am thinking about moving here. What kinds of people live here?"
The sage asked the man "what kinds of people live in the town you came from?"
"Where am from,the people are liars,cheaters,mean spirited," the man responded.
The people are the same here," said the sage.

Then another man came to town and asked the sage the same question, "I'm thinking about moving here. What kinds of people live here?"

The sage asked the man, "What kinds of people live in the town you came from?"

"Where I'm from the people are wonderful, kind, and courteous," the man responded.

"The people are the same here," said the sage.

You see friend, people are not as you see them; people are as YOU are.

What do you get when you smile at someone? You get a smile back. And if you stare at someone? You get a stare back. What you get is what you are.

Friend, we're NOT an objective observer of the people in our life; we're a subjective influence. In other words, our presence changes what we observe.
It works the same in your RELATIONSHIP. Your relationship is not simply a function of who you pick; it's also a function of who you are.

Who you are and who your spouse is mixes to form the dynamics of your relationship. I know you want your spouse to change. And YES your relationship would be better if they did. But YOU changing can change things just as well.
...Because if YOU change,then everything around you changes too.

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Duck, Duck, GOOSE!

Hello,do you know Aesop's fable about the goose and the golden eggs?

Let me share it with you and explain how it relates to your relationship.

The fable is about a poor farmer who discovers that his goose is laying golden eggs.
At first the farmer thinks it must be a trick. But when he gets the eggs appraised, he learns that they're pure gold!

The farmer can't believe it. And he gets even more excited when he realizes the goose is laying golden eggs EVERYDAY. Eventually, the farmer becomes fabulously wealthy.
But the farmer tires of caring for the goose and waiting day after day for the golden eggs. So he decides to kill the goose and get all the golden eggs at once. But when he opens the goose, there are no golden eggs. And now the goose is gone too.

How does this relate to your relationship?
A good relationship lays many golden eggs: security, companionship, fun, intimacy, just to name a few. In the words of Jerry McGuire, "You complete me." And that's exactly how we feel when we're in a successful relationship...COMPLETE.
Over time, most people grow tired of caring for their relationship. Most people become selfish and impatient. So they stop extending common courtesies, being sensitive, and thoughtful. They stop giving their relationship time and energy. And they treat the person closest to them in a way they would never treat even a stranger on the street.

The amazing thing is that most people's inappropriate behavior in their relationship is, in their mind, an effort to grab some golden eggs. In other words, people aren't trying to sabotage their relationship. They're trying to get what they want. They're trying to get the golden eggs. But their behavior is killing the goose!

In the beginning of your relationship, your bond is strong and indestructible. But if you want the goose to keep laying the golden eggs, you've got to learn how to take care of it.
It's easy to fall in love. But maintaining a relationship that lays golden eggs often is something very few people know how to do.

But the fact is, friend, it's not hard. You can do it! You simply have to know how.
Remember the first time you tried to use a computer? Overwhelmed right? "How does this work?" But once someone showed you; from then on it was easy.
Friend, renewing your relationship and maintaining love in your relationship is kind of like learning to use a computer. It's seems impossible; until someone shows you how to do it.

Love is NOT a mystery. Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. Just as the right diet and exercise program makes you physically stronger, certain learned skills applied to your relationship WILL make your relationshipa stronger. It's a direct cause and effect. If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable--you can "make" love.

Friend, if you want to learn how to nurse the goose back to health so that it lays those golden eggs again, here are your options.

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This touched me.

There was a blind girl who hated herself because she was blind.

She hated everyone, except her loving boyfriend. He was always there for her.

She told her boyfriend, 'If I could only see the world, I will marry you.'

One day, someone donated a pair of eyes to her. When the bandages came off, she was able to see everything, including her boyfriend.

He asked her,’ Now that you can see the world, will you marry me?'

The girl looked at her boyfriend and saw that he was blind. The sight of his closed eyelids shocked her. She hadn't expected that. The thought of looking at them the rest of her life led her to refuse to marry him.

Her boyfriend left her in tears and days later wrote a note to her saying: 'Take good care of your eyes, my dear, for before they were yours, they were mine.'

This is how the human brain often works when our status changes.

Only a very few remember what life was like before, and who was always by their side in the most painful situations.

Life Is a Gift

Today before you say an unkind word -

Think of someone who can't speak.

Before you complain about the taste of your food - Think of someone who has nothing to eat.

Before you complain about your husband or wife - Think of someone who's crying out to ALMIGHTY GOD for a companion.

Today before you complain about life -

Think of someone who died too young.

Before you complain about your children -

Think of someone who desires children but they're barren.

Before you argue about your dirty house someone didn't clean or sweep -

Think of the people who are living in the streets.

Before whining about the distance you drive

Think of someone who walks the same distance with their feet.

And when you are tired and complain about your job -

Think of the unemployed, the disabled, and those who wish they had your job.

But before you think of pointing the finger or condemning another -

Remember that not one of us is without sin and we all answer to one MAKER.

And when depressing thoughts seem to get you down -

Wipe the tears and wear a smile on your face to thank GOD you're alive and still around to hope for lots.

And before you think of closing this platform,
Please think of sharing this with as many people including your deep thought. It might change someone's thinking towards Life...

ConfidantLANRE...your emotions confidant
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Cares!!!

This touched me.

There was a blind girl who hated herself because she was blind.

She hated everyone, except her loving boyfriend. He was always there for her.

She told her boyfriend, 'If I could only see the world, I will marry you.'

One day, someone donated a pair of eyes to her. When the bandages came off, she was able to see everything, including her boyfriend.

He asked her,’ Now that you can see the world, will you marry me?'

The girl looked at her boyfriend and saw that he was blind. The sight of his closed eyelids shocked her. She hadn't expected that. The thought of looking at them the rest of her life led her to refuse to marry him.

Her boyfriend left her in tears and days later wrote a note to her saying: 'Take good care of your eyes, my dear, for before they were yours, they were mine.'

This is how the human brain often works when our status changes.

Only a very few remember what life was like before, and who was always by their side in the most painful situations.

Life Is a Gift

Today before you say an unkind word -

Think of someone who can't speak.

Before you complain about the taste of your food - Think of someone who has nothing to eat.

Before you complain about your husband or wife - Think of someone who's crying out to ALMIGHTY GOD for a companion.

Today before you complain about life -

Think of someone who died too young.

Before you complain about your children -

Think of someone who desires children but they're barren.

Before you argue about your dirty house someone didn't clean or sweep -

Think of the people who are living in the streets.

Before whining about the distance you drive

Think of someone who walks the same distance with their feet.

And when you are tired and complain about your job -

Think of the unemployed, the disabled, and those who wish they had your job.

But before you think of pointing the finger or condemning another -

Remember that not one of us is without sin and we all answer to one MAKER.

And when depressing thoughts seem to get you down -

Wipe the tears and wear a smile on your face to thank GOD you're alive and still around to hope for lots.

And before you think of closing this platform,
Please think of sharing this with as many people including your deep thought. It might change someone's thinking towards Life...

ConfidantLANRE...your emotions confidant
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Cares!!!

Happiness is a choice,not a result. Nobody/Nothing will make you HAPPY until you choose to be happy. No person can/will make you happy unless you decide to be happy. Your happiness will not come to you,it can only come from YOU.

I saddle you to choose HAPPINESS today...

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Every relationship has a cycle. Getting out of a boring relationship/marriage don't always do the trick. It's a normal thing after a few years of marriage,the euphoria of love fades. It's the natural cycle of every relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother ,touch is not always welcome,and ur spouse's idiosyncrasies drives nuts,instead of being cute...

At this point, you and/or ur spouse might start asking ,"did I marry the right person?"You may begin to desire the love with someone else. This is when marriages bbreak down.
But the ans to this dilemma does not lie outside your marriage. It lies within it.

I'm not saying you couldn't not fall in love with someone else .You could. And temporarily you would feel better. But you'd be in same situation few yrs later. Because the key to succeeding in marrige is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the person you found with immense determination to always workout things.
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If you don't want to live the rest of your life in regrets,its better you part ways with her and wait patiently for the right woman for you. The blind truth is that she never respected nor see the future in you. #stay stong bro# you can reach out to me for some emotional help though-whatsapp:08156142264 |PIN:2B0A7AAA

Love exists in the simplest things we do together. There I no need to convince or force anything on each other.

The greatest feeling in the universe is to be around someone who values every asset you made of and wants to hold you with no harm, wants to kiss you with ease, wants to touch you softly, wants to call you at night, wants to see you smile passionately.

But I think what is better than that is finding someone who does it all because he wants to see you happy...

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Do have a blissful night rest.

Greetings!!!

YOU DON'T NEED TO GET OVER YOUR EX, BUT YOU NEED TO FIND SUFFICIENT REASON TO MOVE ON...

Focus on why the relationship failed, why it didn’t work and why it almost certainly won’t ever work. I can’t say I’ve completely gotten over my ex, but I have moved on. I’m sure I will always care about him/her in one way or another, but I love myself too much to put myself back in the hole I just clawed my way out of.
There are billions of people on this planet. I know it may seem like he or she was “the one,” but I guarantee you there is someone else out there who can also be “the one.” And if it doesn’t work out with that person, there will be another one.

Don’t hold yourself back by restricting your possibilities. Don’t spend another day wallowing in sadness and regret. Decide this very moment you no longer need your ex, because the fact is you don’t.

You may want your ex more than you’ve ever wanted anything else, but you don’t need him or her. What you need to do is get your sh*t together. And the only way for you to do that is for you to accept you were wrong. He or she wasn’t the one you’re going to spend your life with.
You have to learn to get up from the table when LOVE is no longer being served.

"One of my favourite quotes is from a Keyshia Cole song called 'Let It Go': If he/she ain't gonna love you the way he/she should then let it go, If he/she ain't gonna treat you the way he/she should then let it go! It ain't where he's at; it's where he wanna be."

The good news: The love of your life is somewhere out there, wishing and waiting to meet you.
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Getting what you wanted always doesn't bring real happiness...find Happiness in whatever LIFE throws @you

We mature with the challenges coupled with understanding(from sensitive experience and exposure),not with age assumed to have gotten enough experience and exposure:many people(souls) gets older without growing.

Don't get fooled with the physical/age maturity,it outrightly differs from emotional maturity...

ConfidantLANRE...Your emotions confidant.

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A great relationship is about two things: First, appreciating the similarities, and second, respecting the differences. So be cordial, but don’t completely change who you are for someone else simply because it’s what THEY want, or because it’s what THEY think is best for you.

If someone expects you to be someone you’re not, take a step back. It’s wiser to lose relationships over being who you are, than to keep them intact by pretending to be someone else. It’s easier to nurse a little heartache and meet someone new, than it is to piece together your own shattered identity. It’s easier to fill an empty space in your life where somebody else used to be, than it is to fill the empty space within yourself where YOU used to be.
Good evening. How has been your day? Am up for chat.

ConfidantLANRE...Your emotions confidant.
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A great relationship is about two things: First, appreciating the similarities, and second, respecting the differences. So be cordial, but don’t completely change who you are for someone else simply because it’s what THEY want, or because it’s what THEY think is best for you.

If someone expects you to be someone you’re not, take a step back. It’s wiser to lose relationships over being who you are, than to keep them intact by pretending to be someone else. It’s easier to nurse a little heartache and meet someone new, than it is to piece together your own shattered identity. It’s easier to fill an empty space in your life where somebody else used to be, than it is to fill the empty space within yourself where YOU used to be.
Good evening. How has been your day? Am up for chat.

ConfidantLANRE...Your emotions confidant.
Whatsapp:08156142264
PIN:2B0A7AAA

A great relationship is about two things: First, appreciating the similarities, and second, respecting the differences. So be cordial, but don’t completely change who you are for someone else simply because it’s what THEY want, or because it’s what THEY think is best for you.

If someone expects you to be someone you’re not, take a step back. It’s wiser to lose relationships over being who you are, than to keep them intact by pretending to be someone else. It’s easier to nurse a little heartache and meet someone new, than it is to piece together your own shattered identity. It’s easier to fill an empty space in your life where somebody else used to be, than it is to fill the empty space within yourself where YOU used to be.

Good evening. How has been your day? Am up for chat.

ConfidantLANRE...Your emotions confidant.
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[So many of us hide from ourselves and we don't even know who we are. We don't know what we feel,we don't know what we want.
It's not selfish to love ourselves. It clears us so that w can love ourselves enough to love other people.
It's so important that we discover,know and understand about true "self" before seeking to be loved equally by others. Just because what we know and understands about ourselves determines the room we going to create for our partner(s) in our lives.
Greetings!
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Wake up happy!

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@ConfidantLANRE is a relationship counsellor that shares the right word and experience with you,to safe you from your emotional difficulties.

Love always PERSEVERE
Love always FORGIVE
Love is always the BEST
You deserve the BEST
You deserve LOVE...

Why would you choose Agony?
When you deserve to be loved and remain happy all your life.

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Kindly re-broadcast
Thanks.

Smiles* if u truly know ur person n fateful with ur instinct thought, u hardly get fooled by someone who is in for pranks.
1) if you are not sentimental with ur favourite taste(m/f) out of
Pity or favour received either by kind or so
2)if u not trying to fool d partner in question
3)if d foundation of d relationship is build on experiment...

It's simply what you know and understand about yourself that you will posit about your partner..,you are saddled to know ur real self b4 you can define any trait of ur partner

Don't be an attention seeker out of desperation. It will only belittle n derep ur selfworth

A man seeking to be perfect with all these can't make a lively relationship u know...we'v all gat a weird ish to deal with anyways