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Missmossy: Eeyah,it seems you learnt the hard way.

glitest: Ignomy....You mean Ignominy?. ;..To who?...Me?.. .....First you misspelled Hermaphrodite, and now this?.

Talk about clockwise thinking.... I can just imagine the moment you thought your dingdong self had discovered the biggest word you have ever come across in you life.

Read the meaning, and figure out why your life needs a complete tear down and rebuilding.

Sorry boo.....Guys like yourself are the reason women don't respect nor want you.

I never quoted nor made any reference to you...You simply quoted me to voice your complains about the trouble you're going through with getting a girls, because you felt girls never gave nice guys such as yourself a chance.

I overlooked your sexiest comments about disdain for Nigerian women, and was even nice as to refer to a website to read an article, about faults nice guys make which hinders them from having a relationships, because i thought you could learn a thing two from from it......All to get your ungrateful ignorant comment, as a returned gesture.

The problem with your likes, is that you quote and make stupid, rude and ridiculous comments to females, only to be surprised when the gesture is returned...Why don't you sort out your attitude, and change your mindset about your view about Nigerian women; Maybe just maybe, you might find the solution to your problem.

As for you claiming been nice??...I highly doubt it...Did you ever read the part where it stated that some girls don't date nice guys, because they think that some guys although act nice, but initially do have ulterior motive ?...Guys such as yourself, does come to mind.

Annypie: thanks..i dnt understand y guys mince words wen it comes to lettin their intentions known..mi wuld just bone u,till further notice*nt every blissful relationship starts off as just being friends..its high tym dey change their lines..*if nuh na inside friendszone dey go old o!

Annypie: stop ke?tell u smtin,its beta u dnt get there@all.its just abt coming plain wt ur intentionz,dnt mince words,just be candid..*nobody dies*

Annypie: and they cry blue murder,wen they get friendzoned..b4 nko didnt it start with,*cn we be friends?*

glitest: Never meet a girl or make friends with a girl, with the mindset that she's going to end up been your girlfriend. That is the biggest mistake men make.
Most guys confuse common smile with love; Imagine that.

Most guys act nice, caring and friendly towards girls, thinking that's automatically going to make girls fall in love with them; That is not how it works for girls.Most girls just see such guys as their save heaven and place of comfort, but not as a boyfriend.

Tallesty1: Girls don't date nice guys.

Tallesty1: How can being nice to a girl brake your heart if you do not have unterior motive? If you want to be nice to a girl then be nice to her but not foolishly.

smallmadam: @OP
you are not doing anything wrong. Relationship is hard work. when you get a girl, be yourself if she doesn't like you then leave her and move forward especially when you know you were the best man you could be. Don't play games, treat your girl the way a woman should be treated and if she feels a 'bad boy' is best for her then let her be. Eventually, you would find one that sees you as worth it. and when you find her, trust me it would be smooth and easy there will be no games as long as you have loved her from the bottom of your heart.

Elantracey: what's your definition of being nice?

pickabeau1: The only way to know is to ask her and start again.
You cant know if she is seeing someone else. Trust is important especially in a LDR



ok.. this is workable but has issues too.. she may prefer to go to yanks



1st Bolded is good.. just take it you are starting over
2nd Bolded.. exactly why i said move on...

pickabeau1: By abusing her when she hesisated, shouting etc ... making her feel guilty

pickabeau1: On the manipulation side,i know too little to say so as you are also culpable as you tried to guilt her also
So at best both of you are guilty in a way

Without trust, forget it

on weaknesses,... no how a woman will not know your weakness except you dont want to settle down with a woman

Estimable: U were too fast bro......had it been u played gentle,u would av bleeped her.....but u wanted it fast and she was still studying the kind of guy ure......
I'll advise u to make her miss u,dat way ul know if she still has feelings for u.....if not move on.....

pickabeau1: The only way to know is to ask her and start again.
You cant know if she is seeing someone else. Trust is important especially in a LDR



ok.. this is workable but has issues too.. she may prefer to go to yanks



1st Bolded is good.. just take it you are starting over
2nd Bolded.. exactly why i said move on...

okparaugo: I just observed you kept blaming yourself for everything going bad and you kept pushing too hard. Why bro ?

If you make a move at a lady the first day, it is not enough for her to blackmail you emotionally if she truly loves you. Just accept she aint yours..

The girl I treated most nicely all my life friend zoned me.

So girls don't deserve too much effort or trying to hard. Leave out the routine like calling everyday, skyping everyday.

Make her miss you. Don't be too familiar too early..

okparaugo: You are being manipulated by an emotional expert..

Quit or get used the more...

Aren't there other ladies ?

Guys sef wey no dey Jand, if dem enter village with car after like 4 years of not going to village, girls will follow. Smh..

Moreover, is it only from your village, you dey toast girls ?

pickabeau1: Hmm,...

No need to rehash what has happened

1. This is what i said.. If you want to kick things again.. Are you ready for a long distance relationship

2. What are her plans? her aspirations? SHe may even be thinking of coming over for studies?

3. After you see her in naijan and if she grees for you.. what next

pickabeau1: So admit to yourself first that you have feelings for her

If you want to pursue those feelings.. that is another issue..

Long Distance Relationship has its own complications

pickabeau1: ok.. let me get you

you like her.. u went out a couple of times.. she was feeling you
You came on for sex.. she stepped back and told u to take things easy.. she will give you in a matter of time
You did not hear.. u insulted her .. words were exchanged

The chemistry fizzled..

You need to sort your feelings.. dude

Do you really want to be with her or just pursue her to get back at her

If its the latter... move on... NOT WORTH IT

The former? more energy will still be expended... my conclusion.. MOVE ON

If things are meant to be... it will happen.. if not...

pickabeau1: I dont get u dude..

I thought u said just now,, YOU HAD feelings... are you STILL having feelings for her

andromida: Yeah she was immature and when she realised what you wanted,that she had given you the impression she is cheap she pulled back.Forget her and move on.

pickabeau1: you do have feelings or you did? which is which?

pickabeau1: dude.. move on

Since you say she was just a girl you wanted to lay.. it didnt work out

You dont have feelings for her.. rather beef

Move on

andromida: This gal is looking for something serious. Waka pass. You've learnt enough lessons to up your game.

mencade5: you will hurt yourself more and more and more trying to get your revenge on her. The best revenge you may get is to move on, accept that you have been defeated, dust yourself, and try to love again. There is no known champion on top toto matter.

Its true she made you look like a fool, always leading you, and you may have fvcked up, but revenge will take u deeper into that quick sand of sorrow. Ignore her, leave her, even if you guys will later be together let her be the one chasing and wanting you. If she dont, then you shouldremian the way you are.

Signed

P.R.O. No Friendzone Committee

andromida: Looks like this was just a passing thing for you as well why do you want respect from someone who well is just passing through? Learn the lessons and move on now you know what not to do on a first date and you know to keep your cool so what do you want from her?

Maybe I see it this way because I am not a guy.