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yeah bro have missed a lot, read through to update myself sha.
so whats good?
09 is approaching gradually man. 2 months
Thank Gid for a new month indeed

yeah onyinye all doubts should be cleared before one goes into a relationship,
as much as possible ask questions where one has doubts.

@rasputinn what a gwan my borda?
bin quite some time
hope ure chilling?
1love bro

yeah Chat2b thats it, pple never learn
once is a mistake,
twice is intentional
third time? then u really want it.
but the part of u being rigid now,do u think its really going to ''favour'' u?
yeah things happen that we have no control over but we can reduce them right?

@chat2 yeah we all mame mistkaes but shouldnt live on them.
yeah some pple are pretenders and u just might never know somethings,but one way or the other wisdom
would always come in to be able to decipher what is and what is not

@gamine all d best
@lovelace, not everyone had to put their hands in "fire" u know
experience is the best teacher they say, but not all experiences need to be learnt by u
why do u have others to learn from then?
@tope yeah at times u can't help it, especially when one thinks he/she is really in love.
but at what point do you get to and then u realise it aint worth it or i shouldnt have ever tried?

my point is, i can claim pity on myself if from the outsent i didnt know i would get hurt due do some information i didnt know about.
but if i knew for example that she sleeps around or something that ain't  just right and i just want to go in believing that she would change.
if eventually she doesnt and ends up with a friend on his bed,do i blame her?
i guess no because i knew her nature

lol gamine u aint serious,
so service next right or masters?

@lovelace why go through the stress then if one knows its gonna hurt u at the end?
its like picking a snake knowing it might eventually bite u

and then u eventually try and realise it wasnt worth it.
so why try then?

@gamine never got to tell u congrats.
congrats dear
saw the trinity eagle stuff u guys put up.
really cool welcome to da real world.

all American fathers are rapist (Oprah Winfrey)
seing such a topic does it make sense at all?
I detest Generalizations
am a Nigerian man,am not rude and not aggresive

go ahead girl, and when things heat up and u can't stand it again, i guess the pastor would tell you u cannot divorce because it aint biblical and all that
girl,, folks here have said it all and i salute their(some) views

kokoye:
hey girl, if your not proud of him now, you wont ever be, even if you forced yourself. I know its hard but don't fall to pressure. You do not want this guy, obviously.

word
marriage aint a dating thing that u can just wake up and send a text ''i want to break up'', its a lifetime thingy girl
dnt think u want to be stuck to someone u dnt love for a long time.
what if God grants you soooo long a life like 100 years what u going to do?manage all d way?
Take a walk while u can

dude where u at?
hope the police didnt detain you

@jaybee dnt think thats really neccessary, what difference would it make?

Radiant has said a lot, and has expressed wisdom in her suggestions
try doing things(positive) u havent done before
do something nice over it while youre both at your bests
talk to her about how u feel, let her know ur 13yr okd kid is involved
and a divirce is the last thing u want
let her know u love her and whateever else u feel she knows , but u need to let her know again

she wont respect you because of age, but based on how you handle matters,
ure shouting her down would make her feel ure riding on her,which would take another dimension
just take things easy and u'd both be fine.
Radiant can't help u,she can give u d best of advice which she has already done,
but its up to you eventually to take the bull by the horn

when u she shouts and u shout, u'd only be escalating matters
its not your nature to do such, so when she shouts u talk and gently make her see reasons
trust me after sometime though shes not educated but at least she has a brain and she can think
she would eventually realise her actions.
it might take a while,but its worth it that "fighting" back with words

do two wrongs make a right?

separate? after 7 years?
dude am sure u can work things out
divorce aint the best option
u did nothing just be bold enough

rightly said Jay bee

wifepalava:
my intention was also to try and get my wife educated but its not been easy because shes not young anymore and she is not entitled to free education yet so if anything meaning will cost me a lot of money which i don't have at the moment

free education for ur wife? dude am sure u can cook up some cash and send her to a school at least for a start.
no one is saying get her an MBA or something.

trust me dude there aint no age to late to learn,u start dying d day u stop learning (age should not  be a factor)

fyneguy:
Again, Fani kayode should just keep quiet and face justice.

thats if he knew what the word shut up meant
occultic forces indeed.

Toks2008:
According to what Tipsydude wrote;

[I would also like us to take our mind back to when Borishade was Education Minister. I am talking about the level of cultism at the time and how he handled the matter. That was during the OAU and Ibadan cult massacres, just to highlight the prominent ones. That was the first time he was first linked to an Occult group and he didn't bother denying the allegations at the time rather he was like "it" (being cultism) made him untouchable. This led to the serious outcry from many religious leaders when he was appointed Minister of Aviation. Many of them foresaw nothing but doom and woes ahead and time proved them right]

I think this is a very good food for thought for everyone.
Toks

so this is linked to why we should believe that occultic forces caused the air mis-haps?
are u just joking about it or ure really serious?
Weird

if ure dead serious about the call from the police about assault, all i can say now is "u don enter one chance
and would be praying you get out of it."

and how?

ok romeo if u say so

anonimi:
What do we expect if we all flock to churches and mosques where we are fleeced of our earned income by generalised promises of blessings, sow & reap, pay (unrequired**) tithes make pastor, imam & priest for dey gbaladun (enjoy). And if the blessings no come na im be say na d winch of one step mama, generational curse blah, blah, blah.
Nothing about Work, Save & Grow. No nothing!
And wetin be d blessing wey we dey expect? To get one table, position, post, appointment wey extra income (read egunje, scam etc) go dey flow or to get visa go obod oyinbo go dey underemployed but overworked or go do Opio (prostitute) work.
** http://www.yomisays.com/?p=927

is this related to what fani said?

wifepalava:
I understand what you're all getting at. i am not claiming to be perfect but I did not set out to visit an ex. I had nowhere to go after the day's work and I was extremely tired. On second thoughts I could have parked the car on a side street and slept there but it didn't occur to me at the time.
I also knew she was not educated but I assumed that education will not be a factor in the relationship. I was mistaken. besides I did it mainly because we have a child together and I did not want my child growing up without both parents. I knew her long before I came abroad.

education is not a factor, she can be educated and still nag (have dated someone like that)
it was actually wrong to have gone visiting ur ex no matter how angry or confused u were, shes ur Ex and there is a tendency to ignite something btw u guys just for that moment.
ur Ex was probably smart enough to have quickly resisted, if not it might have been a different story.
as Seun rightly said, u guys are just not compartible and u should have noticed that before walking down the altar.
i wont say its too late now.
All you both need is to work on each other and learn to adapt to changes, let her know how u feel whenever she shouts and reacts the way she does. A little compromise here and there and am sure u guys would just be fine
wish ya the best bro.
Cheers

lol

edgecution:
Most people on this forum are just talking without reading what the guy said. When he said said demons ,he was talking about saboteurs not really demons,he was talking about people cutting corners and i don't know if there was any place crash during his time in the ministry. Stop insulting this guy because i'm quite sure most of you guys will not perform when given the opportunity, all you know is to pull down. The likened the corrupt people to a cabal ,but he instead used occult.

and ure sure u read the post very well at the begining

Seun:
1) He called them "dark forces"
2) He also said, "Not only did they not care, but some of them actually enjoyed the prospect: What we were dealing with was a cruel and unconscionable blood cult who derived their power and strength from a frenzied and insatiable lust for blood."

so he is right for claiming it was occultic powers that caused them?I take one-way and have an accident, its occultic forces right?,did they turn my steering towards that side?
nobody is rulling the existence of such forces because they exist, but please the sector is rotten, the EX( Fani and Borishade) are both crooks stealing monies meant for saving lives.They both are heartless and wicked as far as am concerned.
So a better reason would be acceptable not this occultic nonsense

ehie007:
guys lets be careful here, in all this so called rubish of this man, there might be some atom of thruth, the bad state of the aviation industry in nigeria is beyound the ordinary eye.

Raimond:
You took the words right out of my mouth---the man might know what we all don`t know!!!

like what? Witches were having meetings the day those planes flew?

its either he is stupid(no offence) or he thinks we all are
today on radio it was stated that he said it was N2billion that was allocated to aviation
Borishade(most incompetent person i have ever seen) says it was N8.4 billion
pls fellow thinking Human beings what happened to N6.4b?
and he is rantling saying it is occultic forces?
am sure occultic forces took the balances as well?
they should both roast in EFCC custody
Arrant nonsense

age is age and maturity is maturity
they fall in two different classes
u can be old and stupid or
old and matured
or
young and stupid,or
young and matured

either way both operate independently of the other

the SAN at it again, at least now Lagos would begin to take a more sane look.
but its definetly going to be a hard task due to the nature and complexity of lagos it terms
of road networking and building construction
but if it could be done over here in Abuja, sooner or later it would be in Lagos as well

@youngies
went there and have a girlfriend from there and know a whole lot of fellows in relationships from there we didnt have to register any relationship.

the expulsion was extreme (if it did happen), a lighter measure would have been better
I have had reservations with some rules in school then at times that i felt were extreme,
but all in all i enjoyed MY stay there.

am lost here Nigeria1, i rest my case
cheers