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Unik3030:
see this idiot,an adult using a baby's brain.blessings for extortion Kwa?it's obvious u are suffering from Stockholm syndrome.n the issue of been promiscuous,it is a fool like u that will bribe a lady with his whole world n still d wise guy will dump a weakling like u for real men who don asslick ladies.its obvious u are a pussy nigga n u will place your perforated wife over God.waiting for d day u will narate your stories that touch on this forum

Haha, my broda take care of yourself, families before venturing into bringing a woman in, if you can’t take care of yourself daily don’t plan to go into marriage,cuz once you enter, the financing level is forever demanding but If you have a woman that supports you. She either learn a trade, you set her up or she’s a working class and understand each other .. you can scale through, I’m not here to argue with you, but I want to say you’re PAINED. I keep saying you don’t know what tradition is if you’re not from a good home, you’ll respect culture..

CAPSLOCKED:
SO WHO PAYS FOR THE VALUE OF A GOOD MAN?


GET READY TO ROT AND DECAY IN YOUR FATHER'S HOUSE.



SO WOMEN FROM OTHER PLACES ARE NOT GODS BLESSINGS AND FAVOUR. BROS YOU'RE DELUDED.

My broda, don’t quote me , cuz i lived most of my life in the West over 34 yrs . No matter how much you satisfy a West woman 30 percent are honest and the rest na waste, she still get side man.. the same goes to their men, you can only satisfy them financially.... every woman is blessed but from the way things are.. Men pray God gives you your own wife.. if both women are tested for trusts I’m sure the west will Bleep up first. My broda i don’t mean to insult .. I’m only trying to open your eyes. I won’t say more than this... pls check very well yourself.. by the way why are you lamenting over the list?pls calculate how much it takes to raise a baby from birth till his/her one year old before coming here to lament. Asking for all those list doesn’t mean the family is poor.. it’s just the culture of the land. If you go to Akwa Ibom to pay this marital rites.. you’ll pay x2. Relate with the family if you really love your wife to be.. the family will be fair with you, somethings can be cut down..

Obibrows:
the list is ok. sum everything up, it cant be more than 300k.

My broda he pass 300k ... let him budget 500k cuz tent and DJ,the money he’ll spend on that day all summed up... if the family is fair .. they do the cooking .. but you won’t like the situation whereby meals won’t go round. Have your family cook their own meals aside .. the traditional ceremony is even more than any big reception you’re holding elsewhere...

Your broda should be a man and pay up the list, I’m married to my wife from the same community, the blessings after marriage will fall on him .. which I’m very sure of. Don’t ask me how. But it’s only by Gods favor you marry from that end and their wives are honest not like most people from the waste. God bless the marriage in advance.,

Thanks for the reply.. do I apply alone or with family? With all the hassle.. wedding periods/time... plus welcoming the new born/ biz hassle in the last 2yrs . I think We really need a vacation... but with the way it seems do I apply alone/ maybe give this a try with the family, I believe im left to make that decision will another country VO not think The same as the US VO ?but I really need experience/more peeps advice cuz Ive come across success stories similar to my case here on Nairaland.... thanks for your response

Hello House, being following this trend from Part 3 and it has been informative. Pls house help . Here’s my story

2yrs ago I applied to attend a conference but I was denied cuz in the blue paper it stated that I wasn’t able to demonstrate to the VO. also I noticed that my interview date was rescheduled two days to the start of the conference. The VO said I’ll be missing the conference even tho she approve me the visa she then advice to try again this happened when I was single and working as a computer programmer for a firm. Although I have my personal biz which I didn’t include in my previous application and I have stop working at the previous job. I have a poultry(my current job) MD (registration already with CAC)but i didn’t register it all this while cuz I have been growing gradually until now. I am married with a child under 4month. I’m planning to go on my next vacation with my family this Christmas ..

My question are .

Do I need to use my previous email or just a different one entirely to avoid my previous profile?

What are my chances with my child still an infant? 4months old

Will this not make the VO think I’m migrating my family and the child too young?

On the other hand ... what if I apply alone without my family ? Will one of my tie be my wife and kid and business?

I run two businesses and I earn within 4-5hundred monthly
Also I’m a first time traveler .. tour to neighboring country by road for business

Pls what are my chances? What’s your good advice ? Thanks to everyone taking part in these post .

His arrangement n calc says 400k for this things ? How much be my salary wey I wan spend extra 400k for that

Drinks
Food
Rentals
Mc
Dj
Traditional dancers

I already got the list above ( no need for rental ) are you saying I should do this twice

I can't spend double money.... I just want something that will be done once n for all .. I can't get hall money back which is like 400k with decor ...

If both families can't come to conclusion what's their to unite as one ? And if the father doesn't hear
Me out it's a sign he will have authority over my marriage ...
Oga wey dey mention hush puppi for my matter ... do you have any pride ? This is not about being proud of yourself ....

Finally me and bae plan to walk the isle ... well fast forward .. I started making plans Na as a man .. I went to �� the parents.. on my first meeting I met both parents ... I've met her mom on several occasions but was the first time of meeting her dad ... fast forward I let the man know my plans of getting married to her daughter ... he told me step by step how to go about it since they're from akwa ibom and I'm from the south south they started from the knocking of the door ... which Was fulfilled ... fast forward he requested for the pride price list from his villagers like he mentioned ... I was given that list that was 2months ago ... fast forward I made plans towards the event and when will be comfy for me as per the date since I'm always busy wit work .. me n soon to be wife agreed on the date ... fast forward every arrangement was made towards the event like. The hall , decor , food for the day and the INVITATION Letter too with date on it ... we sold out cloths the aso Ebi to the Yoruba friends which every one purchased and was very ok with the date in July ...

Well last week I n my family fast forward to the bride compound to proceed with the marital rites given on the list ... everything was provided but the father is insisting the traditional must hold in his compound well I no argue my thought was it would be something within both families ... he said he has about 100 guest or more coming and we have to make provision for the meals and drinks ... canopy .. the couples chair etc .. even tho nothing on the pride price list could be bargained for but we paid all just to ease matters ...

The event part taking place in his compound is not our plan n. Not included in my budget ...

The father sound like if the party is not holding In his compound nothing will be done ... and that sound like a party that will be messed up with his own people... which I'm not comfortable with.. Nobody want his day to be messed up ... after working really hard to plan your event .. I feel the father is stealing the show for his day if the event is holding in his compound .. or he doesn't want to spend his own cash for his people.. cuz everything he mentioned or needed has been provided

The hall is non refundable.
I'm not comfy with the occasion in his compound
It's going to be rough
Well the bride price items has been provided but not returned yet ...

I believe I have my own stand as the husband .

My mind says let's meet at the hall and do all traditional rite where we have all facilities he mentioned ... chair canopy n so on ... hall even get ac sef ... don't know what to do pls advice ... serious minded people only cuz the traditional is suppose to take place next week .. and we only had plans for traditional at the event center