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this acid guy's jokes are so dry.i cant even make sense out of it.the other one was dumb as well.pls try harder.you are dry.

hello people!!!!!!!!!!!! what can i say?the responses have been overwhelming.thank you to all you wonderful guys out there.nairaland na the place sha
well things are better than they were before,though not fully back on course.i managed to make his favourite junk for him-mac and cheese.as for the other madam who wanted to put a noose around my neck,she has not given up.she is determined to complete and accomplish what she has started.she told me she 'will never forgive me for creating a rift b/w herself and her only brother.'how silly can she get?i just told her i was sooo happy she's a woman too.and it'll not happen to her only if she decides not to get married.
i'm seriously preparing for the sunday trip.my mind is made up,thanks to all your posts that gave me alot of strength and courage where there was none.
i'll never leave nairaland o lai lai!!!!when i return,it'll be one love b/w me and y'all. i'll also intrduce my husband to this forum-that's if his work will permit.

thank you everyone.i love you all

chips and hamburger from mcdonalds.washing it down with a bit of coke zero and lime

adeboo you've been such a shoulder.yes,i'll join the forum once i'm back from nigeria.you sound like you are married.are you?i wish you all the best.you guys are so good.i never knew one could have friends without actually meeting them.

busta thanks a bunch.you bet i'll be in 9ja for the funeral now-wont miss it.as for my in law,she knows she's so out.i'd have given you guys update even if things were still sour.since i told you when things were messed up and you lent a listening ear,i'll also tell you when things are okay.it's not like the thing is all cleared up,but it's alot better now.at least we are talking and planning the trip.thanks again.

thanks alot cute9jaguy,but the thing is this-i was doing my masters when i met my husband.i had to round off,before i could discuss anything about marriage with him.this was in 2004.we got married in 2005 september.the suggestion not to have kids just yet was mine and he bought it.he was in medical school and that is aaallloootttt of cash and .apart from that my husband is one who likes planning to the minutest detail.we planned to start trying for kids by june this year. thanks so much.you are so right about the topic.i guess i was not just at my best at time of posting.


abbey10 thanks too.i'll take that into consideration.

nwando thanks so much you are such a darling.

i have to update you guys on the turn things have taken.i also have to thank everyone.reading some of the posts put a huge weight off my shoulders
afterlocking myself and my husband in the room,he wanted to go watch the tv in the early hours of the morning and asked me for the keys.i told him he'd get it only when we had settled our differences.to cut a long story short.he told me that his anger towards me was aggravated by what his sister told him. please my dear friends hear this--he said she told him i called my sister in the us and was so excited,telling her that 'the old witch is dead now i can have peace in my home.good riddance to bad rubbish'.i was in shock,tears began to flow down my cheeks.as i was trying to recover from that shock,he dumped another bombshell.my sister in law told her brother that i said i told my mother that i'll be sending huge sums of his money to her since my mom in law was dead.
at that moment,i thought i was dead.
i simply broke down in tears and told my man that i never said any such things.i even asked him to call my sister and mom and ask.i went to his sister's room,and told her to repeat what she told her brother before me and my elder sister because i was going to call my sister.she could not utter a word.she just stood there staring at me.this was about 3.20am.my husband was just staring at his sister.i told my husband i was going to call mysister so he could confirm.i later went into my sister in law's room to ask her why she had to tell such blatant lies.she replied saying-'i only thought it will make things better'.i got so angry.i walked away congratulating myself that i had contained my anger.

i did not even know he heard what his sister said.it was when i was trying to put a few things together that.my husband called me.he said 'look angel you have to calm down' .i pinched my self.it's been almost 2wks in this hell and suddenly i hear him calling my pet name!!!!!!!!!!.he told me his sister told him so much,but since he can now see she made things up,there would be no need telling me more.i told him i was not keen on hearing any more.my sister called from the us to know if we needed anything from there.my husband told her i was the organiser,so she could talk with me.i then hinted her on what was going on.she spoke to my husband telling him she had hardly spoken to me.she called my house 2ce and my in law told her i was not home-meanwhile i was o.she called me 2ce at work but i could hardly talk to her.that confirmed everything to my husband if he was in doubt.now i am relieved that i'm no longer a witch to my husband's eyes,and he now knows who the real culprit is.my annoyance stems from the fact that he can hear such horrible things about me and keep them to himself,and believe them.one thing i know for sure is his sister is moving out once we return.and then secondly,we have to re-address things in this marriage.i thought things were 100percent okay,but now i know that is a big lie.he has told his sister that she must not breathe a word of the past 12 days to anyone,or else he'll seize her passport.i'm still watching and waiting.truly,i'm no longer so interested in this marriage.this is the plain truth.it only means that if i had not been persistently pleading,these things woul not have come out.
my parents,sisters and cousins will be there for the burial.for me,after truly paying my last respects to my mom in law,i' have alot of looking inwards to do.it's been hell on earth for the past 12 days.

av spoken to my mom about it and she is not happy.she said like you all did to settle things b4 leaving for nigeria.she said to go into the room,lock the door,put the key in my bra and tell him we just have ther to settle or else nobody is stepping out of the room.he booked his flight to nigeria for sunday.i also have a seat on that flight too,and i've told him that much.i'll keep trying and i know he'll give in,albeit gradually.my sister in law is a small fry to me.when this blows over,i'll show her who's boss i promise.she has really hurt my feelings. i thought we were closer than this.when my husband did not want her to stay with us,i fought for her to stay,so she'll be able to save some money to finish up her education.when she has no money,i'm always there for her. i know i've been there for her when all seems down and she knows it.i just pray to make things right with my man,then i'll ask her why she was so cruel.this is a mess  created i know,but i'll come out of it a better fellow.
his freind calle dme saying he is deeply shaken by his mom's passing and i should keep talking to him.he told me he cried.i feel so sad becos all was well befor the answering machine episode, he's been making calls to nigeria for things to start taking shape before he gets back-he's the 1st son. the phonecard got finished and he still had other calls to make.i called a friend of mine to send me a card PIN by text and she did.i copied it down and gave it to him.the guy took it and said 'thankx'.i hope this is the beginning of a break through.i've known my man for 5 yrs and he has never done this.
i hope this blows over really soon.thanks d re-loaded,adeboo,sly,busta et al.you guys are the best.

this is more than sexy lingerie honestly.the guy i invited to come and beg just left.he called my hubby and spoke to him.i heard his friend telling him he should not take it as far as he has,and he has to cool down.he replied that he said i laughed on purpose and he sees it like i'm so excited his mom died.after the guy left i went to beg again for the umpteenth time.he just stood up and went away.
i have just got a BAticket online for myself.i went to him and told him was going to nigeria even if he does not put me in the plan.i also begged him to forget about everything so we do not disgrace ourselves further in nigeria.i know he heard me but he did not respond.
i dont know what my sister in law has up her sleeves now.i hate that i ever told my husband to let her stay with us.she told me' why have you not even had a baby?at least my mother would have been happier if she had seen her son's child' i think she'll cause trouble for me in nigeria.she has been making all sorts of comments and going to talk to her brother in their language-efik.i dont understand cos i'm ibo.she does not usually speak efik cos her brother warned her not to since i dont understand it.
one thing i know is if things get okay b/w my hubby and i,she'll leave.

thank you all so much.the thing is he would not even talk to me.like yesterday,he walked in ,i came up to him for the usual hug,but the way he nudged me aside was terrible.even in his sister's presence.just got home and his sister told me he ordered chinese.but there is dinner in the kitchen for goodness sake.why is this guy treating me this way.he's got a BA ticket to nigeria only for himself.he has not even told me anything about it.it was his sister who mentioned it to me.i went to him on my kness this morning.when he felt my cries and pleas were disturbing him,he stood up and left the room.my boss has been asking me what the problem is becos he has noticed am not my usual bubbly self.i keep trying to evade the question.how do i wash my dirty linen in public?i was even pretending to be dying of cough last night just to know if he will come to the bathroom to know what the problem was.he did not.is my mistake so grave that it cannot be forgiven?i'm truly sorry and i have told a good friend of his to come and intervene.the guy promised to drop by on his way from work.i just hope he does cos it's quite cold out there.
i'm at my wits end.dont know what else to do.

rhino you are correct.that's why i regret ever being there when he was listening to the message.i dont know what else to do.i've tried but i will continue to try harder.thank you so much for your reply.i really appreciate it.

pls guys i'm slowly dying.i came home some days back with my husband and there was a message on the answering machine.it was his cousin who stays with his mother in nigeria.the guy said' momi dey sick.im neck don turn 360 degrees and dr say na severe stroke i get.'i laughed.that was the biggest sin i have ever commited in my life.pls dont get me wrong.i did not laugh becos the woman was ill-no.it was the way he said the 360 thing-i just imagined someone's neck turning all the way round,and i chuckled.i did not even laugh so loud.
a few minutes after then my hubby went off to the patio.i went to put my arms around him and the way he threw my hand soff was shocking.he then began to tell me how disgusting i was and how he could not believe he married such a heartless woman like me.i've never felt so hurt in my 27yrs of life.he started making calls to people in nigeria to take his mom to a better hospital.while i was taking my bath,his younger sister who works in tesco returned and he apparently told her what happened and how i laughed.i went to the kitchen to say hello to my in law,but she said' even if my mom and you are not best of friends,you did not have to laugh when you heard she was ill.'
that killed me.i tried to let her know i was not laughing and my mom-in-law.my hubby kept on boning me for 3days after that.i was in bed on the 4th day when i heard my sister in law scream.i jumped out of bed and ran to her room to find my husband there.his phone had dropped to the floor.the cousin called and told of mama's death.a knife tore through me.my husband's eyes were red like blood.he stormed out of the room.i went and knealt by my in law and held her.we cried together.later that morning i went to work-i work in a shop(m&s). before leaving,i did everything i could to console my hubby.i was even a bit late to work.

when i came back,my husband calle dme.i was so happy,i thot he was about to settle things.this man started telling me of how heartless i was,and that eventhough i had a little quarrel with his mom 1yr back i did not have to flaunt my heartlessness by going to work that day. i was shocked.just for the record,the little quarrel he is talking about took place when his mother came to uk and was threatening fire and brimstone if i did not get pregg.when i planned with my man that we will not have kids till we were able to cater for them properly.she was told but she kept saying it was me who refused to get preggy so i can keep sleeping around.there was alot of anger and voices were raised.a neighbour called the cops.she left 3 days later saying i had bewitched her son.i cant laugh at her misfortune even though we were not the best of friends.i have to work.this is uk things are tough here.i tried my best to make her happy when she came,but she went bk telling people i left her and locked her up in the house.please my problem now is my husband that has refused to talk to me.his little sister seems to understand but she no longer gists with me like she used to.i'm at work now and i dread going home to meet the horrible situation in my house.pls i need suggestions.arrangments are being made to go to nigeria and he's not even putting me in the picture.my in law said he told her i'll plan my trip myself if i'm interested in going.i felt so bad.i withdrew 1000pounds from my a/c for him to add to the expenses in nigeria but he turned it down.i hope my marriage is still intact.pls help me on this one.

hello guys it's been almost 2 weeks and my hubby has not as much as said a word to me.i just joined this forum.my friend told me about it.i'll really like to share my thought s with you guys but i cant seem to be avle to post the topic.i'l keep tying anyway. take care y'all.