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N0favors:
How old are you if you don't mind me asking?

about to turn 36

youcanmakeit:
Karma works, I can testify it.. What goes around comes around..

Ok let me give you an example of why I stopped believing in karma.

I have a friend, she’s a bit older than me. She used to date a guy in school. He was broke as hell, she got a job right after college and was supporting him.he pretended he wanted to marry her but was too poor to do so. So together they made this plan: she would get preggers, get a visa, come to France have a baby, pay a French Citizen to acknowledge the baby (hence she herself would get residency) than she would come back home to marry him. Letter on, he would adopt the baby back...

She sold everything she owned, quit her job, used her sister’s identity to get in and had the baby. She went through hell with her child, running from the police, sleeping in slums working awful jobs for years. When she finally got back on track( got papers, a decent job and place) she went back home to see her man. She found out he had found a job a while back, married a young lady behind her back and had no plans for her anymore.

She cried her eyes of. She was in her mid 30’s at the time and was devastated. She met her actual husband a few months later and within a year was legally married and pregnant with her son.

Her daughter’s father in the other hand was struggling with the new wife who happens to have fertility issues.
At the time as was 100% on board with this karma BS. I told her that she was “winning” because she is such a good person, a decent God fearing woman who works hard...

Guess what happened ? The very next summer she went on vacation home with her family. Her girl (who was 9 at the time) got sick, nothing too bad apparently (a bit of fever and headaches). She was eating and playing fine. All of a sudden she lost conscience and died within a few hours.

I stopped believing in Karma that day and probably stopped believing in most if not in all the bad vs good religious BS

Timekeeper:
My advice wasn't bad... Why can someone say God doesn't exist if He doesn't help her take revenge.... Saff or wat is Ur name, I am not a fool, okay....

Not what I said... I said if bad people get away with murder and good people go through hell than I doubt there’s a God keeping tabs... I was speaking in general. I m not seeking revenge but justice. I would like this karma thing to be real. Just a bit, that’s all

Timekeeper:
Well, go read my post.. What evil have I posted? That u shud stop hanging someone fate on God existence.... U stopped going to church probably bcox Ur Man needs u 24/7 by his side and now u r blaming other Christians... U r sick, u don't want to be rebuked at all. Even the Bible recommends open rebuke .. U r thinking everyone will fall pity for you Abi... When we don't even know the other side of the story.... U come here to play victim, so that people can continue to criticize the men.... It doesn't work like that miss... Accept rebuke and learn from mistake....

I think you should try and practice what you preach! The Bible say we should not judge others because only God can judge us. Still you came here telling me I deserve hell because I had sex before getting married. All I’m saying is I know hundreds of people like you, who tell the same Bs but will litteraly ruin entire family’s, taking all their money to buy shiny cars in God’s name or wait till marriage and then sleep around like dogs.

If you think cyber bullying is not bullying you’re wrong and no real Christian would tell someone in pain you deserve it so suck it up. You’re mean to say the least

ladiesreject:
Am not trying to be callous but you deserved what you got.

During the time that you guys were together, you knew he had a girl somewhere who he was constantly in contact with. What were you thinking, you thought he was going to leave her for you? SMH

Again, can you swear that there wasn't a particular guy who was serious about dating (and probably marrying) you? But what did he get from you? Humiliation upon humiliation.

Am happy your Shakara has ended.

I've lost count of the number of girls that have rejected me, not because am not handsome, but because I'm not a player.

Am better than most guys such girls usually end up with. They get cheated on, but still, they can't just have some self respect and move on.

Tomorrow when such guys finally settle down, those girls will come online and start ranting (like you).

So yes, without a single doubt, you deserve it!

Thank you, have a nice day

Timekeeper:
Don't put God into this at all.. After all u were warned never to av pre-marital sex. Even though u wanted to, u didn't even protect ursef, did u forget that God exist then... A man that u r not married too is just using u anyhow, but now u r hanging his faith on God.. Please leave Him out of these Ur issue...When u were doing it, you ignore God na.. Just ask got forgiveness and mercy.... We are sinners and none is holy as the Lord.... Ask for mercy and pray for a better man that will accept you and your baby or change it fake husband into a changed man...

Stop putting God existence in a doubt bcox of one heartless man u gave Ur life. .. God exist irrespective of your ignorant and my ignorant life. .

People like you are the reason why some people lose faith... I used to go to church every sunday until i realised how mean and disgusting most of these so called "people of God" were... Religion is supposed to make people be more compassionate but i find more good in atheist people than in people like you. It's almost like you think you can do or say any evil think you have on your mind, pray it away and strat over

Nnaabros:
Very likely the dude is rich so why won't you willingly get pregnant for him? If he were a struggling guy who really cares for you and wants to settle down with you, would you have have agreed to 'carry belle' for him. Stop playing the victim card. You brought this on yourself.

That's why many guys have lost respect for you girls. The only thing that matters to most of you is money and you are willing go jump to bed with any man for that. And now you want society to take pity on you and see you as a hero because you didn't abort the baby. Please carry your cross yourself and live with the stigma. Welcome to single motherhood club

First of all, i met this guy in an alumni reunion. We took the exact same classes and hold the same degree . As of today, he makes about 100$ more than me/month and that's peanuts.

My parents are both MDs and my family is not wealthy but we are fine. My siblings are all settled, have good jobs and are married to people who are doing great.

He was born to a very, very modest family. His mother used to sell fruits in a local market. He lost both his parents at a young age and his sisters are married for some, divorced for others but all unemployed except one middle school teacher.

So no, i didn't get pregnant because of his money. When I started dating him, i had this other suitor who's from a
very wealthy family and some of my friends were pushing me in that direction. I chose to
follow my heart and got sucker punched. Now i will be the heartless bitch you all crave.

ednut1:
y see ur self as damaged goods u got pregnant for someone who doesn't deem u fit to be the mother of his/her child , u shud have seen the signs. forget him and move on, make ur self happy

That's the way people see single mothers...
I should have known better. I don't regret having my precious baby tho

front4line:
Only one way out for such a wicked soul.
Kill him n make sure he stays DEAD.

Personally, people who are deliberately wicked need to be paid back in kind. Use to be nice n all but that shii don’t work especially in this Nigeria

Sometimes I whish him death and then I feel bad about it. My mum keeps telling me I must bear positive thoughts toward him anyway because he is my baby’s father. I keep trying but I can’t. If he doesn’t pay for what he did to me but moreover for what he did to that child, then there is no god above

About this karma thing, I used to believe in it like I believe in God. Then I grew up...
Life is unfair but still, I thought being a “good person” would shield me from meanness. You can’t prevent death or disease, it happens to the best people. But hell, who would want to hurt someone who did nothing to them. That was my mojo, never do something to someone you wouldn’t want somebody do to you.

If karma is real, I’m paying for something and I really can’t find what... only 2 things come to my mind:

1- when I was in college I had this one suitor. He was really in to me and the nicest guy ever. I told him right away I had a boyfriend back home and would never date him but I would like us to be friends. We were in the same math and physic classes so we spent a lot of time together working, listening to music or just talking. I never took is money or used him in any way. I really liked him as a friend and told him. I know he still had feelings and maybe I should have cut ties with him but I was 19 at the time and never thought hanging out with him was wrong.

2- my father used to be really mean to our maids and I remember one of them telling the other one that my father would regret it because he had 3 daughters himself, that someone someday would treat us the way he treated them.
If this is true, if children pay for their parents mistakes than this is worst than no karma at all. That would mean my daughter will suffer from her father’s actions I’d rather see him become president of the US, marry Beyoncé than have my baby go through any kind of pain.

Shugarlord213:
I bet there was one guy whom you ate his money and also wasted his time also

I am so happy when useless girls end up this way

I’ve never done such thing. You have no idea what kind of pain I’m in right now and how hurtful this is but fine. God bless you

Mcy56:
So sorry for your plight.
Pls put yourself together, life goes on.
Believe in God and be prayerful. There's nothing that happens to man which God does not know of. He's able to make it up to you.
As for that man, he might think he's smart now but karma is sure waiting for him.

Been praying for years now. Parents been praying, too... maybe I’m cursed

clive2u:
Raise your child. Live your life. If there is karma then his is coming soon like new naija movie. God bless you

I don’t think there’s such thing as karma. Horrible people live fulfilling lifes and die old in their beds...he will get away with ruining my life and there’s nothing I can do about it

ednut1:
How is this our business At 37 u still dey behave like kid

How am I behaving like a kid ? Feeling hurt is abnormal ? You’re right it’s not your business but I thought this section was just about that: sharing personal matters that are nobody else’s business

Hello

I had a baby for my ex but the minute he learned about my pregnancy, he pressured me into abortion and took off when I refused.
I could not believe the man I had been dating for so long would do that to me.

I couldn’t figure out why he was so reluctant for marriage and pinned it on commitment issue and European mentality. so when he asked me to get pregnant for him, I was thrilled.

We started trying but had a fallout right then. He became more distant but we kept trying.

I thought we were just having a rough time.

Now I know that all the time we had been together, he was still in touch with his college gf back home. He went on and got her pregnant too so our babies are about the same age.

He took care of her and her baby all along but refused mine for months.

Being dumped hurts, being dumped after years hurts more, being dumped after years while pregnant is excruciating, being dumped after years while pregnant for another woman you also got pregnant... I just want to die right now �

Why did he do that to me ? Why did he string me along for years when he knew damn well he was not going to marry me ? Why did he knowingly wasted my best years and my chances to settle? Why did he get me pregnant if he didn’t want it ? Why did he got her pregnant knowing that I was pregnant ? Why did he denied my baby and took care of hers ?

I did I really deserve this ? I did nothing terrible to him, never cheated, took a dime from him, disrespected his family... if i was not wife material in his eyes why didn’t he just let me go ?
Now that he ruined my life, he gets to live happy with her ? There’s no justice in this world and All ive been told all my life is BS. Being god fearing and acting like a decent human being only got me to cross path with people who took advantage of me. Girls I know who slept around, got multiple abortions are happily married when I left to be an old single mother... a damaged good as they say...
Sorry I needed to vent �