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House please can anyone recommend a good professional marriage/couple counsellor. Please any assistance will be appreciated. Thk u.

justsmile: Hey......read your thread where you had a concern about your then boyfriend. Seem like you later married him. Or did you later marry someone else?!
If you did marry him, then am not surprised the marriage is already having issues!
Don't be depressed my dear! Just find a way to best communicate your dissatisfaction with his behaviour!
Above all, talk to your heavenly father about it and pray for his change!

Married to someone else.

jydogirl12: This is disheartening ..... how are you coping? where are you located? Do you have occasional blood work for std screening? Have you guys talked bout this , one on one?

@Topic.... First year was Trying :-

Reside at maryland in lagos. Its a trying period. We've spoken about it but nothing has changed.

First year of marriage has been horrible. Sometimes I have the feelings of regret. Its barely 4 months of marriage and my husband is still having a hard time letting go of most of his bed mates. He made me believe he's a God fearing man but he's not. Its very depressing and I feel betrayed. He keeps saying he has let go but I end up finding out otherwise. I wish I could end d marriage.

@Omo_Tier1
thank u very much for your response.
the person i intend using as my sponsor stays here in Nigeria. Apart from the introductory letter and the account statement, is there any other documents im to attach frm my sponsor?
yes, the company gives payslips.
also, please how do i go about getting a tour operator.
thanks in anticipation.

@Omo_Tier1,

please do u know if its advisable to apply for a tourist visa with someone sponsoring me even though i work but my salary doesnt go to my account and i dont have much in my account.
please kindly respond. thanks

and pls.

i want to apply for a tourist visa to the uk. please can i know the documents to submit and also in the section where it was written if i have any family or friends in the uk, what is the appropriate response to it. please, for the tourist visa, is it just one during the 6months one can use the visa? lastly, can i use my account which has less than 400k in it in applying. or should i get a sponsor. i work in an upcoming company which doesnt pay money into any account as i am been paid cash. please your response is highly needed. thanks and God bless

@jt2010
please which of the tour operators did u use. thanks

please can someone assist. i want to apply for a tourist visa to the uk. please can i know the documents to submit and also in the section where it was written if i have any family or friends in the uk, what is the appropriate response to it. please, for the tourist visa, is it just one during the 6months one can use the visa? lastly, can i use my account which has less than 400k in it in applying. or should i get a sponsor. i work in an upcoming company which doesnt pay money into any account as i am been paid cash. please your response is highly needed. thanks and God bless

ibube, pls how do i get in touch wit u.

try clear essense

Please does any one know any good professional counsellor that specializes in relationship related matters in Lagos . Preferably in ikeja but other areas are ok too. please its urgent

ok. Thanks. by the way, does anyone know any professional good counsellor in lagos preferable around ikeja side.

@ 190:
I wish i could leave them to carry their cross while i carry mine. but the truth of the issue is that im the Tina in the story. Thats why i need urgent help before i loose it. im really saddened. i just want to know if its possible the relationship can still work out and what things i should say to him, the terms im to give him if we are to work things out and the step i should take.

Ok, the bottom line is that the guy has bn cheating on Tina and Dami but still wants to be with Tina but Tina is not too sure wat to expect again if he could hide something like this for a long time claiming Dami is his cousin while Dami said she isnt and that she's is gf.
Tina now wants to know the next step she shd take cos the guy is apologetic and said he wants her not Dami.

Thanks u all

you're welcome. thanks too

selencious thanks for your response. I will withdraw calling him but at the same time patient on what will happen next. I wish you the best in your relationship.

thanks alot ohasol. That's exactly what i plan doing. If he ends up not calling. then i know he's not mine and therefore shouldnt waste my time and energy on him. Thanks alot. God bless

II'm still in my early twenties therefore its not like i'm desperate.  he always told me im not taking the relationship to another level and stuffs like that.
He was the one who suggested he meet with my family and i didn't want to say no because i didn't want him feeling i dont like him or was hiding him from them so i just had to.

About the calls, before he moved and some months after he moved, he always did most of the calling but now, since he's got another job, most times he's always busy, and the calling reduced and he said that the calling shouldn't be a t.i.t for tat affair. Therefore i took it upon myself to try to call him when he doesn't to make sure he's ok.

Its not funny opsydudu.
I do need people's opinion and advise. (including yours). Thanks

Please what do u suggest i do?
Do you think i should try to think of him less and be less bothered about the issue?
Make new friends?
I do most of the calling. Do u think i should reduce the rate at which i call him?
I just dont know what to do.

Thank you Ebonyeys.
I have spoken about it a million and one times with him and i dont want to always sound pushy about the situation.
He always talk of how soon he wants to get married. He even suggested we do our traditional marriage in other for me to know that he's not searching for any lady again that i am the one he wants to marry but i told him i dont want it to seem like i am tying him down with it. that when he is truly ready then we can go for it. But i just cant understand why he has not introduced me to anyone yet.