SiestaFiesta's Posts

Nairaland Forum › SiestaFiesta's Profile › SiestaFiesta's Posts

1 2 (of 2 pages)

Family › Re: Japan Has A Worrying Number Of Virgins, Government Finds by SiestaFiesta: 5:15pm On Sep 22, 2016

Crackhaus, I have a new collegue at work, he is a trainee and he arrived from Japan two weeks ago. grin

He is one of the weirdest people I have ever met. shocked

He lacks social skills. When you say hi, he answers so quietly, you can hardly hear him.
His body posture is very stiff. To call him shy would be an understatement. You smile at him, he doesn't know what to do. My collegues and I thought he was scared and tried to be extra nice so that he feels comfortable but this boy is just strange. You say "Ok, bye. Have a nice day/trip etc.", he won't respond. grin

You get him something to drink, he doesn't know what to say. You ask him if he wants to join you at lunch, he doesn't respond but follows quietly. He won't talk without being aksed and when he answers, it's very short. cheesy

I was at some point wondering if he is autistic or could be a serial killer. grin

And I was also wondering if he has ever had a girlfriend in his life. The boy is in his early 20s.

And then this thread showed up and so I decided to do some reading on the topic in question.

This is what I found and point three explains and confirms my impression of the lack of social skills. I didn't want to generalize based on one individual encounter but there is something about their culture - according to the author of this article who mentions that his account is based on personal experience and not a study - but there may be something about the Japanese culture that is hard to understand to both - Africans and Europeans.

The Truth About Sex in Japan

(...)

This rather banal discussion recently took a turn for the interesting, however, after the Japan Family Planning Association reported that 45% of young Japanese women, and over 25% of men, “were not interested in or despised sexual contact.” The Guardian followed this with a piece entitled Why have young people in Japan stopped having sex?

So why have they?

Why Japanese People Aren’t Having Sex

After living in Japan for a few years, this actually makes sense to me. Okay, I’m not like a sociologist or anything. I’m just some dude in Japan who tries to find a clean pair of socks so he can put one on and run to the station to cram onto the train with ten thousand of the unhappiest Japanese people you’ve ever seen. I don’t pretend to have discovered the Unified Field Theory of Japanese sexuality, but I’ll give you four factors that I think are contributing.

Thing One: Work in Japan

People in Japan, and Tokyo in particular, work a ridiculous amount, in a way that’s hard to comprehend if you live in, say, sunny California. Take a former student of mine, Naoko, who worked as a programmer. She worked—wrap your head around this—twenty hours a day.
“Every day at 4 a.m.,” she said, “they’d turn off the lights and we’d sleep at our desks for four hours.
“Did you have locker rooms?” I asked. “What about clothes?
“I just wore the same clothes, but on Sunday I’d go home for half a day, to shower. The men only went home once a month.
“That must have smelled pretty nice. How long’d you do that for?
“Five years and three months,” she said.
Okay, so maybe that’s an extreme example. A more typical case is probably my former student Masahiro, who’s an executive at a famous beverage manufacturer. He works from 9 a.m. until to midnight, six days a week, with a 15-minute lunch break at his desk. He has Sunday off, which is when he studies English.
“I have it easy,” he said, “since I work at an international company. Japanese places are a lot worse.”
“Do you ever see your wife?” I asked.
“I see her on Sunday,” he said.
“But Sunday’s when you come here to study English,” I pointed out.
“Ah, good point,” he said.
For most people, it comes down to two choices: work like mad as a single person and have a tiny apartment full of dirty clothes and half-eaten Cup Ramen containers, or get married. That way, the man goes off to work, and when he comes home after midnight, his dinner is sitting on the table covered in Saran Wrap, and there’s hot water in the tub. His wife and daughter are already asleep. Shopping, ironing, cleaning, paying the bills, everything’s taken care of for him. All he has to do is bring home a paycheck. The woman gets to do all the fun, fulfilling things like taking care of baby, grocery shopping, cleaning, and cooking meals. Sometimes I’ll ask my adult students how often they see their spouses, or ask the kids when they see their fathers. The answer is roughly on par with how often I’ve seen the Easter Bunny. I am, however, a big fan of marshmallow Peeps, so maybe it’s not as infrequent as you think.
The young Japanese people of today grew up watching their parents live this life, and it’s understandable if they’re not thrilled about this option. Marriage isn’t a great choice; it’s just the second-worst option. For a man, it means he’s working to pay for his wife. For a woman, it means a life of indentured servitude. A lot of people are apparently “just saying no” to the whole thing.

Thing Two: Prostitution in Japan

Again, this is a hard thing to reconcile if you don’t live in Japan, but being in a relationship and having sex have precious little to do with one another. For a Japanese male, it’s possible to get sex almost anywhere, at any time, for little more than the price of a decent lunch. Anyone who’s been in Japan for even a short while has seen the rows of shops offering all the usual services. (As an aside, I’ll add that “foreigners” aren’t allowed in. You can be that crazy dude who lives under a bridge and rides a bicycle with garbage bags full of tin cans hanging off the back, but as long as you’re “Japanese,” you’re good to go. But Japanese racism is a whole other subject.)
Now, I’m in no way saying that the majority of men and women participate in this, but the fact that the institution exists changes the social dynamic. All Japanese people innately recognize that:
If you’re a man with just a little bit of money, you can have sex with as many attractive women as you want.
and
If you’re an attractive woman, well . . . Look, I teach English for a living. Every week, people pay me to sit in Starbucks and simply talk with them. Afterwards, I go to a bar, and every week, sure as hell, someone will approach me and say, “Wow, let’s speak English together!” Now, I may even want to, but really, who gives away what they can sell? It’s my job, not my hobby.
So prostitution has turned sex in Japan into a commodity. It’s something that’s available for purchase, like movie tickets or a head of cabbage or something. Sex isn’t an expression of love between two people; it’s something that can be bought or sold when necessary.
Now don’t get me wrong—again, I don’t mean to imply that there are a lot of men going to these places, or a lot of women working there. It sure seems that way, but I don’t actually know. What I mean to say is that the fact that it exists changes the way people view relationships. As in, I once dated a girl who told me, “You know, a lot of men would pay good money to be dating me like you are.” Which I really couldn’t argue with because, well, she was right. They would.

Thing Three: Japanese Social Relations

Recently, a friend of mine got married to a man through an arranged marriage. She used to get drunk and try to kiss me whenever my girlfriend ran to the bathroom. She was awesome like that, actually.
“Do you love him?” I asked.
“He does train maintenance,” she said. “That’s a stable job.
“I’m pretty sure you just answered a different question,” I said.
“Well, I will eventually,” she replied.
[b]I’ll try to put this in the best light possible, but Japanese social relations . . . um, well, they’re terrible. Okay, that didn’t come out so well. Abysmal? No, that’s worse, not better. [*Note to self: insert more nuanced term before posting this.]
The society functions with robot-like efficiency because your boss tells you what do—or your parents, or your teacher—and you do it. There’s a hierarchy. If you work in a ramen shop, you don’t say, “Hey boss, how about if, instead of two pieces of pork in the noodles, we tried three?” Are you insane? That’s not how things work. The fact is, you don’t challenge what you’re told, you don’t offer up original ideas, and you don’t initiate conversation with strangers. Which presents a koan-like riddle: If you don’t talk to people you don’t know, how do you get to know people?
I’ve lived in my current apartment building for, let’s see, about a year and a half now. Man, time flies. Anyway, in that time the number of neighbors I’ve met is . . . zero. I actually rode the elevator down with a guy yesterday. He was about my age and was tying his tie while I was still fumbling into my shoes. Okay, so here’s a little quiz for you, to see how well you know Japanese culture:
I figured I’d break the ice with a non-threatening situational observation, so I said in Japanese:
“Yeah, another busy morning, huh?”
To which he replied (choose one):
A. “Yeah, it sure is.”
B. “Oh jeez, I can’t believe my alarm didn’t go off.”
C. “Do you know how to tie a Double Windsor?”
D. “Holy crap, a white guy in my building!”
E. Absolutely freaking nothing.
If you chose “Absolutely freaking nothing,” then congratulations, you’re about halfway to earning a Bachelor’s in East Asian Studies. The reality is: people don’t have a lot of contact with each other. For Japanese folks, it’s insanely difficult to establish friendships and connections, which is no doubt why so many Host and Hostess Bars exist, so people can at least pay someone to talk to them.
Japanese people excel at social interactions when there are clearly defined roles: Boss and Worker, Clerk and Customer, Drunk Salaryman and Gaijin. There are clear rules and precedents for those situations. But for two Japanese people to strike up a conversation while in line at the grocery store? Well, it’s hypothetically possible, I suppose, like Dark Matter or something.[/b]

Thing Four: That Sexy Sexy Atmosphere

People are massively impacted by their environment and the people around them. That’s the Ken Seeroi Theory of Human Behavior. Wikipedia it. That means that if everyone else is having an awesome, sexy time, you’re more likely to as well. That’s why we have New Year’s Eve. When it’s a sunny day, everybody’s happy, and when it rains, everybody’s glum. Life’s funny like that.
So I was talking this over with my colleague Fujimoto-sensei last week, and he said,
“Ah, Ken, you should have seen it in the 90’s. Japan was different then. Everybody was making money, people were positive, it was more fun.
To which I replied, “Uh, it’s ‘Seeroi-sensei,’ remember? But yeah, I’ve heard that from a lot of people.
“Sorry, Ken-sensei,” he said. Then, “You know I used to have a wife and a girlfriend in those days.
“And now all you have is a wife?” I asked.
“Yeah,” he sighed. “I think we’re in a recession.”
So then after work, I went to my usual shokudo, which is basically like a cheap restaurant. It’s a tad dingy and run-down, but the food’s solid. I think of it like an extra living room, which helps since my apartment’s so darn small. The place was packed full of about thirty guys and gals in dark suits all sitting alone in silence, eating and reading manga or staring at their smartphones with glazed eyes. I stayed for about an hour and a half, ate some grilled mackerel and rice and miso soup, drank an Asahi beer, and watched TV. Their grilled fish is really good, I must say. The only person I talked with was the waitress, which is pretty typical. She’s about sixty and doesn’t say stupid things like, “Wow, you can use chopsticks,” so I like her. Then I walked the concrete corridor to the station and silently waited in line for the train.
When it came, it was packed as always, so we put on our faces of resignation and forced ourselves on since we had to, then rode without a word. When I got to my neighborhood it was dark, which was fine since there’s really not much to see anyway, nothing like a river or a tree or anything. Well, there is a little brown canal nearby, so I guess that’s something. I stepped around some rain puddles on the asphalt as I walked past the same gray blocks of condominiums I do every day, and thought, There must be a thousand units, and someone living in each one. Why is it I never see anyone on a balcony or in a window? And suddenly that seemed kind of strange, but then the feeling passed.
Eventually I got to my own dark building and rode the elevator up. Did I simply come to Japan too late? I wondered. Like 20 years too late? Then I opened the door and found my apartment just as I left it, full of dirty laundry and Cup Noodle containers. Nah, Japan’s still wonderful, I thought as I took a can of malt liquor from the fridge. I just need a Japanese wife–that’s the ticket. Someone to clean this place up, cook me some hot meals, and love, eventually.

http://japaneseruleof7.com/sex-in-japan/

Family › Re: 10 Things Foreign Husbands Wished Their Wives Knew by SiestaFiesta: 5:01pm On Sep 22, 2016

bukatyne:
Chai!

Mindfulness sure has a wonderful effect on you; pity she's married

I am a firm believer of the basic core messages of Christianity & feminism.

Their basic definitions are just perfect for me.

Mindfulness: thanks

The pleasure is all mine. wink

You can do nothing wrong by sticking to these core messages. It's enough and it's better than any form of extremism, be it religious or feministic.

[size=3pt]I was banned by the antispam. [/size]

Christianity Etc › Re: Is Abuse An Acceptable Reason For Divorce? by SiestaFiesta: 4:57pm On Sep 22, 2016

crackhaus:
You're right, both people broke the covenant at the end of the day.

To avoid all that, people should not take the Christian oath—saves each other from arguing about who first broke it.

When people take the oath, they believe that they will stick to it and then life happens. wink

And I won't blame any Christian who believes that adultery can't be the only reason to get divorced. Some people would much rather forgive cheating than abuse and it's understandable. And since the Bible is open to interpretation and has not covered all problems of human experience, people have to seek the answers elsewhere.

Additionally, loving oneself (also in order to be able to love others) is more importnant than a fvcked up marriage:

Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.’ 31 The second is this: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no commandment greater than these.”

cheesy

2 Likes

Family › Re: 15 Reasons Why Real Men Avoid Single Mothers by SiestaFiesta: 6:14pm On Aug 19, 2016

1 Like

Family › Re: 15 Reasons Why Real Men Avoid Single Mothers by SiestaFiesta: 6:11pm On Aug 19, 2016

TV01 flaunting his azz undies on NL like a gay desperado grin

6 Likes

Foreign Affairs › Re: Journalist Pavel Sheremet Killed By Ukraine Car Bomb by SiestaFiesta: 4:10pm On Aug 19, 2016

Family › Re: Why Do Married Women Have To Be Addressed As Mrs? by SiestaFiesta: 10:33pm On Jul 23, 2016

HaneefahRN:
Very interesting thread .

Interesting is an understatement. grin

Family › Re: Why Do Married Women Have To Be Addressed As Mrs? by SiestaFiesta: 10:28pm On Jul 23, 2016

shaybebaby:
^^^^
where is that butt picture when you need it? Damn!

Don't tempt me. grin

1 Like

Family › Re: Why Do Married Women Have To Be Addressed As Mrs? by SiestaFiesta: 10:20pm On Jul 23, 2016

shaybebaby:
I've calmed down a bit now but I must say, last time I'm ever going to engage the geezer. I couldn't in all honesty after seeing that.

But he meant it to be sexy, he takes himself far too seriously to be otherwise and it got escalated when he kept posting pictures, each one not relevant to what we are discussing.

Thing is, you want to share holiday photo's fine, but maybe in the travel section where the context is relevant, you want to share kids's pictures and spouse, fine again, he is proud of his family. But here on this thread, it's to prove a point, I'm just not entirely what it is because we all have the same in different combos etc that we are proud of.

I can make you cry again. grin

Enough for today though. tongue

Family › Re: Why Do Married Women Have To Be Addressed As Mrs? by SiestaFiesta: 10:02pm On Jul 23, 2016

shaybebaby:
I don't know, I can't help myself..I'm crying here...

Family › Re: Why Do Married Women Have To Be Addressed As Mrs? by SiestaFiesta: 9:59pm On Jul 23, 2016

shaybebaby:
I did! Lawd, I did though I wish I didn't and couldn't believe it..I'm going to need to gaze at my man all night now just to wipe away the memory.

I have to hand it to him, that was comedy gold, the fact it had no place in the discussion and the vantage view he profered. I just wonder what the message was? because i didn't get it, did you?

If he was trying to be funny, then it was.

If he was seriously trying to be sex.y, then we need to call the ambulance.

Family › Re: Why Do Married Women Have To Be Addressed As Mrs? by SiestaFiesta: 9:48pm On Jul 23, 2016

shaybebaby:
watch him go right back to moral righteousness after flashing his his @rse, girl i can't stop laughing...

I am not sure now whether it is morally righteous to laugh right now. undecided

Is it funny or alarming?

It's kinda BOTH.

I can't believe he did it.

GISOS!

2 Likes

Family › Re: Why Do Married Women Have To Be Addressed As Mrs? by SiestaFiesta: 9:45pm On Jul 23, 2016

shaybebaby:
watch him go right back to moral righteousness after flashing his his @rse, girl i can't stop laughing...

He has finally succeeded in impressing us albeit impress is an understatement. shocked

I am SHOCKED!

I saw his arzz. embarassed

Lord, why?

[img]http://1.bp..com/-8As51D3ALOk/VKBpUpkHQsI/AAAAAAAAnLA/HOjxdhJ2goo/s1600/581953.gif[/img]

Breath!

I think I am reaching the moment of uncontrollable laughter.

HAVE YOU SEEN WHAT I SAW? shocked

2 Likes

Family › Re: Why Do Married Women Have To Be Addressed As Mrs? by SiestaFiesta: 9:41pm On Jul 23, 2016

TV01:
Your surety is not required. A man of understanding marries with high expectations

...off to clap this....g'night

TV

You do know that people can take a photo of your gayish posture in undies shocked

even if you attach it to your signature instead of the text? grin

1 Like

Family › Re: Why Do Married Women Have To Be Addressed As Mrs? by SiestaFiesta: 9:30pm On Jul 23, 2016

Lord have mercy!! shocked

TV01, have you just posted pictures of yourself in undies on NL? shocked

Are you sure, you are alright? undecided

3 Likes

Family › Re: Why Do Married Women Have To Be Addressed As Mrs? by SiestaFiesta: 9:25pm On Jul 23, 2016

TV01:
One that married with a pure heart, heartfelt commitment and sacrificial love. Come, the husband you purloined during the night, se you can't reveal him during the day?

See bride...chei!

TV

Clap for yourself. cheesy

2 Likes

Family › Re: Why Do Married Women Have To Be Addressed As Mrs? by SiestaFiesta: 9:12pm On Jul 23, 2016

shaybebaby:
2016: Nairaland,

References
TV,
TV01,
BRoken TV
Black and White TV

This cracked me up. grin

LOL

2 Likes

Family › Re: Why Do Married Women Have To Be Addressed As Mrs? by SiestaFiesta: 9:11pm On Jul 23, 2016

shaybebaby:
The beauty about having Mindy's mindset is that she neither cares nor needs my cheerleading nor validation from anyone else. Same here, what is being done is acknowledging excellence on my part and I can, it neither enhances my wellbeing nor diminishes it, same with her, same with anyone else who is in touch with their inner selves.

I knew he would say it the moment I saw your fondness of my comments. I didn't complain that they were coming from all sides when I was alone. And I haven't mentioned that he has already been recruting (mentioning) people who have not yet been on this thread but who are likely to support him. grin

[size=3pt]mumu[/size] grin

I don't need your validation but I truly love your appreciation. cool

Cheers girl! Grab a drink! kiss

2 Likes

Family › Re: Why Do Married Women Have To Be Addressed As Mrs? by SiestaFiesta: 9:06pm On Jul 23, 2016

TV01:
...don't hate show us your "blended" family na

Wifey and daughter...shik and side shik

TV

Because you say so? grin

What kind of mo.ron exposes his family like this?

2 Likes

Family › Re: Why Do Married Women Have To Be Addressed As Mrs? by SiestaFiesta: 9:04pm On Jul 23, 2016

shaybebaby:
I didnt, just glossed and copied and pasted, lol. Again, postulations of a "scholar" .

"Every Muslim is a terrorist."

TV

grin

2 Likes 1 Share

Family › Re: Why Do Married Women Have To Be Addressed As Mrs? by SiestaFiesta: 8:57pm On Jul 23, 2016

TV01:
...you know, you are right, I am soooo slow. You want to see more pics abi? . I'm coming, superimposing my reality on yours must be kinda therapeutic .

TV

A happily married man trying to impress strangers online. grin

3 Likes

Family › Re: Why Do Married Women Have To Be Addressed As Mrs? by SiestaFiesta: 8:49pm On Jul 23, 2016

TV01:
Actually, that would impress even me. Not sure how I ever expected comprehension as well, let alone a cogent response

TV

And that's why you actually took your time and made the effort to type it for us. grin

It makes perfect sense. cheesy

I recommend some brain workout. cheesy

Family › Re: Why Do Married Women Have To Be Addressed As Mrs? by SiestaFiesta: 8:44pm On Jul 23, 2016

TV01:
He doesn't have to be. He simply knows me well enough to appreciate I would never seek recourse to the mods. I respond, I refrain, or I retire. And what is your own anyway? After all, you have a self-declared cheerleader, who is only serving to make you look bad .

TV

https://67.media.tumblr.com/0dfc3878b1467cb8fba65b653c0f97d1/tumblr_n4robsdeUN1ssvjtqo1_400.gif

Family › Re: Why Do Married Women Have To Be Addressed As Mrs? by SiestaFiesta: 8:38pm On Jul 23, 2016

TV01:
While Crybaby is making the pasta, why don't you prepare the sauce - trying to overcome your natural limitations must be a strain. .

TV

For the first time for what feels like a century, you have managed to have a good idea. cheesy

This is what we should actually do some day. cheesy

[img]http:///media/10-26-2015/moI3Sd.gif[/img]

Family › Re: Why Do Married Women Have To Be Addressed As Mrs? by SiestaFiesta: 8:36pm On Jul 23, 2016

shaybebaby:
Sauce please
Now we are all aware of your stance, again I'm asking you to back up your arguments with well referenced sources. Abi you no go School? If you did, you must have failed. This is poor.

Don't tell me you actually read it all? cheesy

1 Like

Family › Re: Why Do Married Women Have To Be Addressed As Mrs? by SiestaFiesta: 8:33pm On Jul 23, 2016

crackhaus:
Another time...I prefer reading the discussions y'all got going here.

For your VIP assess to be validated, you gotta be pretty with a big ass... we already have intellect out of the way.

And really, I don't think TV had anything to do with your ban...it's funny you believe he does.
He a MOD?

Are you TV's lawyer now?

Family › Re: Why Do Married Women Have To Be Addressed As Mrs? by SiestaFiesta: 8:32pm On Jul 23, 2016

Timbuktou:
I asked what you thought would happen, you're answering a question you weren't asked.

So, let me rephrase. What do you think the result would be if millions of Nigerians were suddenly transported to a commune in any western European country of your choosing?

They would be looked after in Germany and chased away from Hungary or Poland.

Family › Re: Why Do Married Women Have To Be Addressed As Mrs? by SiestaFiesta: 8:28pm On Jul 23, 2016

TV01:
Bolade005, come and see another "jonzer" 0. No matter what, or how you style you've educational background or achievements, we will never see you beyond what you contribute here. And too be honest, it's mostly low-grade canned ideology, with a mish-mash religiosity which basically says "do whatever makes you feel happy".

You've been repeatedly exposed as an inveterate liar, amoral and singularly devoid of an original thought or ability to think tangentially. In fact, revealing more of the "real you" off NL will only confirm what I've written, hence your being so tight-lipped, and hateful of those who are happy to present their reality

Lack of knowledge , complex realities . Right;
Like Germany welcoming millions of refugees whose religion and culture are at best inimical to their host' culture and traditions
Like the dream of anyone being able to settle anywhere, at anytime and do anything is not absurdly reductionist?
Like actualising that will not require jihadi-type action - like Hillary Clinton' as previously posted - to achieve?

1.
Islam as a socio-political & religious creed is totalitarian, expansionist and supremacist. Any other creed, ideology or, mode of governance which does not readily submit will ultimately be warred against.

Islam demands an imposition of sharia law and fealty to the recognised caliphate. All muslims do not have to be fanatics. The creed itself is fanatical. A few simply have to follow it to it's logical course - via it's scriptures or historical trajectory. Any muslim who does not deep down ascribe and desire sharia is actually an apostate. Ask your friends amongst them .

We've seen that in the West. In NY, London, Paris, Brussels, Orlando. It's real in Nigeria, Kenya, and other African countries with no hint of Western involvement.

We see it in open terrorist acts, sexual enslavement of young non-moslem women, infiltrating the educational system and the imposition of a parallel court systems, and vigilante activity on our streets. Be blind to all of this if you choose and concern yourself with Islamophobia. Has one person been harmed - in the West at least - as a result of any of this?

2.
Women are not as emotionally capable, or as well equipped as men when it comes to leadership - especially leadership under stress. It's down to basic biology and wiring. I can't offer you any succour if that reality does not sit easily with you . Take a straw poll of men the majority will agree. Indeed, most in relationships will experience all the time Likewise women. Indeed, most women secretly dread or hate having female bosses. And they hate being with men who cannot lead. And IO donlt mena in choosing soft furnishings 0 !

Does that mean women should not be given opportunity? Or that a some may be able to make the breakthrough? No. Men are just naturally and relatively better, and better equippped. No vex huh .

3.
Racism. The bible, nor I, see men as anything other than descendants of Adam. One blood - Acts 7. I never post or posit based on the construct called race. Personally, I was nannied with a white family soon after birth, I have had more relationships with non-blacks, and I have a number - i.e. many white relatives - by marriage and by blood. Anyway, you have but 3 strategems, lies, ad-hominem, or diversion. And atimes you artfully meld 2 or more. We see you

4.
That's your gig - every question challenging gender dynamics, morality, religion, events, or politics in Europe is met by your stock response, no light in Nigeria, ergo whatever obtains in the West is better . Your self-loathing (of your black heritage), and clumsy efforts to distance yourself, or outrightly reject it are legendary. It's why you find such a ready ally in Crybaby .

There are many of you on this board - jonzing for medals . Claiming fine, educated, exposed, enlightened. Usually claiming educated when they are not fine , or enlightened when they've made a hash of their personal lives.

Your response - as I've noted quite frequently - lack real nuance, and often don't even directly address questions. A subscription to Bild and watching the late night news doesn't make you a political analyst or foreign affairs expert. The less said about your grasp of scripture the better .

If you can respond cogently to just point 1. above, and not resort to any of your 3 strategems, I will de-activate this night

Ma ruggedies, ekú weekend. We'll speak during the week if not before

TV

You are very slow, very very very very very slow. grin

You still have not noticed that I have stopped reading your epistles if they are longer than 5 lines. I have limited my attention span to ignorance to five lines. Who knows? It may be damaging to the brightest of brains. cheesy

Having said that, let us see what nonsense you have fabricated in your write-up - or shall I say the first paragraph? grin

@bold

And what made you think that I care how "we will never see you beyond what you contribute here"? grin

You have not yet noticed that how 'we' see me grin

is as important as a fart released in Indonesia yesterday. cheesy

3 Likes

Family › Re: Why Do Married Women Have To Be Addressed As Mrs? by SiestaFiesta: 2:45pm On Jul 23, 2016

shaybebaby:
Now that just nearly brought me to tears because I fear for what the future might be like when I read some people on here. But Hun, you have no idea what reading your thoughts, ideas, beliefs.. Etc does for me.
It's a reminder that there are others out who are motivated by love for themselves and for others.
The actions of the people around Munich affirms that as well.
Troubles will always come, but we can only get through it with thoughts like these which inform our actions.
Bless you fine lady, now keep schooling those who refuse to learn, reflect , reevaluate and keep learning.

Sometimes it does seem that the world is full of st.upid people who pose a danger to reason and compassion but the history of humankind has shown that reason and compassion always triumph over ignorance and hatred.

Have faith and no fear. cool

1 Like

Family › Re: Why Do Married Women Have To Be Addressed As Mrs? by SiestaFiesta: 2:38pm On Jul 23, 2016

shaybebaby:
You don't have to tell me, it is evident. Sadly it is not a race thing, it's a problem about exposure.
Simplistic and knee jerk reaction with no thought put into it. Also arguing to prove a point without actually reflecting on each point raised.
You were asked about the shooting in Germany, it was disclosed that it wasn't racially motivated or induced by religion. Just the action of an unbalanced mind.
Now any thinking person would ask themselves " why did I automatically assume it was to do terrorism, Islam a particular type of persons?"

Why is it different when it's a non-Muslim that does it?

But no! Too thick skulled to examine their beliefs against something which might lead to a different conclusion.

I have Arab friends and what they go through since 9/11 is absolutely unacceptable thanks to people like TV and his cohorts.

Ignorance and lack of exposure are the biggest danger to peace and safety.

Instead of mobilizing the moderate part of Muslims and uniting against any sort of extremism - be it right, left, religious or political - they would much rather have innocent people pay the price for something the are not responsible and as a result, generate more extremism by becoming extremists themselves and provoking more radical response.

I was told yesterday that I wouldn't come back on NL because Muslim terrorists attacked Germany. grin

Even if they had, I would still be here, speaking up for what I stand for.

You don't discriminate against people based on their religion, skin color or gender (all of which TV does). These are values shared all over Europe and yet he doesn't want to leave the European country that shares and defends these values. grin

1 Like 1 Share

Family › Re: Why Do Married Women Have To Be Addressed As Mrs? by SiestaFiesta: 2:26pm On Jul 23, 2016

shaybebaby:
Nope she won't and I hope she finds the strength to fulfil her dreams whatever they are inspite of him.
I am grateful to your parents, they have done a job and given this world one more beautiful soul. You owe it to the world to have children and pass it on to them.. Heck!you owe me
I have a beautiful child, I try to instil the same and my hope is that he meets similar people on HIS journey through life.
TV Wetin be your mark for school?

Your son will live your legacy, seek and find the people who match his intellect that he was privileged to inherit from his mom.
He is tomorrow's leader, whatever path he will choose. cool

1 Like

Family › Re: Why Do Married Women Have To Be Addressed As Mrs? by SiestaFiesta: 2:21pm On Jul 23, 2016

shaybebaby:
Now I CAN tell that you were educated in the west because of the way you present your arguments with references..from more than one source.
TV01, you see why I said your utterances give you away? Not just the content but the manner of delivery.
No way you would have passed through the system here and critical thinking would not have been distilled into you.
Lmao!
I'm a just sit here and cheerlead this lady here.

I was and I have had the pleasure to live in several countries; quality education and exposure combined. cool

They should thank me for sharing it with them instead they come here to embarrass themselves through their lack of knowledge and their over-simplified thinking in categories such as black and white. Are their brains not capable of processing complex realities? undecided

All Muslims are fanatics. All women are emotionally incapable. All whites are racist. All Africans are poor. grin

1 Like

1 2 (of 2 pages)