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Pls mature advice needed and pls no insults, I have already insulted myself enough.

I have already posted about this same guy here last year and I'm sorry for not following your advice

To cut the story short, I have been dating my bf for almost a year now and we always have unprotected sex but he always pulls out and I always take drugs

But I didn't take any last month because he pulled out and too much of contraceptive drugs is not good for the body, I didn't think anything will happen since he didn't cum inside me, my biggest regret.

Last week, I didn't see my period so I used the pt strip test and it was positive, I also went for blood test and it was still positive

I informed him about it and he told me to go for abortion, when I refused he was so mean to me and told me that it's not his business that I should not call or visit him again,
I was so sad, it felt like he literally ripped off my heart, I cried all day, I couldn't stop crying.

So I decided to go for the abortion, when I checked how its done online, I was so scared, I couldn't bring myself to kill a life inside me

So I decided to let his family know even though they don't know me, I called his elder sister to explain after hearing my side she called her brother to confirm and he lied that he just met me and we had sex only once that I have been sleeping with other guys I was so shocked to hear that, because I really love him to the extreme that other guys don't even exist,
I told her that we now have DNA test that I'm not scared because I know that the baby is his, she believed me and told me not to see her parents, that I should settle it with him first

He came to see me and started begging me not to involve his family that I should go for the abortion, but I can't kill my child that was conceived out of love, at least from my own side

I'm just confused because if I tell his parents that would mean marriage and I can't stay in a loveless marriage
Pls advice needed

GrabHisBalls:
Don't sleep with anyone 'cause you want to keep a relationship. There's no guarantee that he'll be faithful. If you must have sex; do it 'cause you want to. Secondly, two months is such a short time for all these.

Lastly, when one breaks up for the first time, there's always this struggle to let go. The longer you suppress the feelings; the better you get at it.

thanks a lot, I pray I suppress my feelings fast so I won't do something stupid

BabbanBura:
Sexual compatibility is so critical in marriage and one of the cheap excuses for cheating. Please do not ignore this important area in taking your decision

I know, that was why I broke up with him, we aren't compatible

modestbrowser:
He wants to fucck u and leave u.... A guy who truly wants to marry u would respect your decision especially if they're right and would never force u for sex.

Talking from experience... Guys like girls who stand their ground especially when they're right.... It shows u can manage a home and can be trusted.


PS.
Never feel bad doing the right thing!!!

thanks that was exactly what I was thinking

Thanks, that was exactly what I was thinking ]He wants to fucck u and leave u.... A guy who truly wants to marry u would respect your decision especially if they're right and would never force u for sex.

Talking from experience... Guys like girls who stand their ground especially when they're right.... It shows u can manage a home and can be trusted.


PS.
Never feel bad doing the right thing!!![/quote]

Sorry for the long Epistle, pls bear with me I have been seeing my guy about two months now, the problem is that he has a high libido, and I'm not like that.He has been asking me for sex but I'm scared because I don't want to be used and dumped without a meaningful relationship. I was with him today and he was so worked up because we were making out, but I was not ready for sex yet, so I told him so. He then said that it's like I don't have high libido,that he has it,and that's why married men cheat because their wives can't satisfy them any time they want sex, that he's marriage will not be like that too,that he will marry a girl with high libido like him. So I got angry and told him to go and look for girls like him, he told me that it was a joke, but I know that it wasn't just a joke. So I broke up with him because what he said is true, we didn't match. Now I am regretting my decision because I really like him, should I go back to him or should I move on.
Sorry for the grammatical errors