Thank you for your insight. It means alot to me to know what is inside. Culture is so very important. I was raised in a very vocal Italian home, We showed our emotions. We kiss and hug without abandon, We say I love you so often, I know we are different in alot of ways but that's what makes us human, Yes, the first time he said I love you, was like pullling teeth, I know in my heart it was hard for him, I have learned that for him those words come not so easily, But, he shows his devotion in so many other ways, You truly have some great men from Nigeria, As well as women, I would love to know more about your culture, If it would help in my relationship than I will learn and heed your words of wisdom, to know is to love, to love is to know,

I will take your advice. Thank you. He is my king and I his queen, I respect that, When you say your culture holds men back. What do you mean? I want to learn about what his world was like before he came to the States. I will be his teacher yes, and be a patient one at that. A pupil is only as good as his teacher.

It's funny. After I wrote that yesterday he was a different lover in bed. HE is very intuative. I think he needs to know everyday that I love him. He is good and kind, Thanks for the response.

I like that saying. We all have to bend sometimes. I have a lot to learn about Nigerian customs and ways, Although my man is very Americanized, values are taught as children. What are some of the most important things to your culture in regards to a marriage and relationships? I would appreciate any help in understanding where he is coming from sometimes. I know his parents mean alot to him as mine do. Also, I read that Nigerian men tend to be very selfish in the Bed, I have noticed this. Is this something that is taught? I hope I can change this. Can a leopard change his spots?

My Nigerian love and I did have a blow up about the possiblility of him asking me to marry him just for a piece of paper. He said haven't I proved my love for you. I have stood by you in good and bad. He is a good man. He has retained a lawyer and the lawyer told him he was concerned about our age difference. He told the lawyer I love her and her age makes no difference to me, I gave him the option to leave it I wasn't the one for him. He has chosen to stay, I do adore him, he is not like anyman I have ever been involved with. You Nigerian woman should be proud of the boys you have raised into men. Thank you. I have spoken to both his Mom and a few of his siblings. They are wonderful people. I can't wait to meet them in person. I feel he is being genuine. I feel it in my soul. If I am wrong, than my heart and soul shall shatter. I will then pick up the pieces and pray they will slowly mend back together.

I think this is a great idea. Being new to this site and especially since I have been newly introduced to my loves family, I want to find out so much. Where is a good place to start researching my boyfriends country, his roots. Should I call and talk to his Mom. Is that acceptable? I want to show respect. I was raised in a family with Italian - German roots. Respect is big, Of course things change, but I still demand it as should any woman.

This is my first time to this site. I am a intelligent, well read American woman who has fallen deeply in love with a younger Nigerian Man. We have been together for almost a year. We have our good days and our bad of course. But mostly good. All of the sudden he is wanting to marry. I told him no, it it is for the wrong reasons. He got mad and said if I loved him I would marry him for whatever the reason. To me that is not so, Marriage is a commitment that comes from the heart and the soul. He askeed, would you marry me just for me to get my papers. No, I won't. So then he said well, I asked a friend of mine and she will. So, I said go for it, In my heart I was dying, That cut like a knife, We worked things out and he finally said He loved me. I know Nigerian Men don't say that a lot. He does show it in many ways, I am leary though, He keeps on saying lets go to the Vegas, It is quick there. I don't want that. I want it to be from his heart and his soul. Like me, Should I be wary of his intentions? I am so confused. He is so hard to understand sometimes. So hardheaded, H.E.L.P [color=#770077][/color]