How to deal with getting dumped before the holidays?


There's nothing like being dumped right before the holidays to break your spirit.
As a Get Real about Love coach, I get calls about it from thanksgiving through Valentine’s Day.
First of all you have to look at it as a blessing in disguise, even though your heart might be aching.
Follow these steps and soon you can let go and move on!

Call in a support team from the people who love you who will be there for you!
Make plans to keep busy and take some space to heal your heart.

Don’t focus on a reconciliation! ONCE IT’S OVER LET IT GO!
Have a final talk then move on. When someone leaves… it is over! Don’t call to see if they are ok.
GET YOUR STUFF FROM HIM/HER!
Get all your stuff (CD’s you left, underwear, T-shirts you wore to bed)
so you don’t have that hanging over your head.
This is all a part of moving on. It helps both people let go!

YOU CAN’T BE HIS/HER FRIEND RIGHT NOW!
It’s best not to shift into being friend right after a break up.
It’s too frustrating and can make you feel worse if you pretend you can handle it!
You need some healing time.

Leave him/her alone and don’t call! If he/she calls, keep it short and don’t tease them.
If you are the one who broke it off, don’ promise anything unless you mean it!

NO FRIENDLY SEX TO NUMB THE PAIN!
Don’t sleep with her/him unless you want to reopen the wound and you’ll have to heal all over again. Having sex doesn’t guarantee getting the relationship back. Using Sex to console him/her only to dump them again next week is HURTFUL and very selfish!

Try to Keep yourself busy attempt to get in the holiday spirit. Let your family know that you don't want to be discussing your “situation” and need positive encouragement right now!

NURTURE YOURSELF & GET IN TOUCH WITH HEART. Go get a massage or go to a spa to get some pampering! Write your experience and feelings in a journal to get emotions out of you whirling mind before you sleep.

COUNT YOUR BLESSINGS & GIVE TO OTHERS WHO ARE LESS FORTUNATE
Go feed the homeless, help deliver food at the Salvation Army and don’t stay home sulking
GET PROFFESIONAL SUPPORT and some guidance from a love coach so that you can learn the lessons from the experience and grow from it. Get Real with your heart and realize this rejection is God’s protection and there is a reason it happened…even though it hurts right now! Healing takes time so be kind to yourself.
VISION YOUR FUTURE & KEEP THE FAITH! Someday soon you meet someone new and think,