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Dyt: selfishness

I tot as much

Onegai: Tell your relatives to pls be quiet, as if trouble comes, they will not pressure you then o, they will stay at home. You obviously like Guy no.1 more than Guy no.2 (it's always like that). So here's my suggestion: tell Guy no.1 "I'm not sure why you're acting like this, pls tell me if anything's going on, I'm gonna live my life, you know where to find me", then limit calls to him to once a week, preferably text rather than call. Tell Guy no.2 "I'd like to get to know and love you better, may we have 3 months and after we marry?"


Then see where the chips fall.

I support @onega, dats d best u can do. So dat u won't loose at both ends. There seems to be some musicians playing in some men's head.

Yah, use another girl flash her, she will surely sit up....

God forbid bad things. It can't be true. Some pple ar just idle. Spreading rumours all over! Mtchew

I happened to meet this guy after I had a broken relationship with my ex boyfriend. This guy came at the very right time when I needed him most. He was so caring loving and gave me every reason to love again. Threemonth into the relationship, he asked us to do our introduction which I refused. As at then I was 23 yrs old, in my final year in school. I refused not becos I don't love him, but cos one, I dnt not him yet(enough), two, my dad will not allow me cos I'm still in school, I'm already close to his family cos his niece is my friend. He was adamant at first wen I refused but he later reason with me. I noticed one thing about him he is hot tempered, that was one of the reasons I'm trying to be careful, although everyone has his weaknesses. Wen I finished my finalyr project, we finalised to have our introduction which at first my dad was against, not that he dint like the guy but he want me to come back frm service before we do anything of such. The guy is seven years older than me. He has a job and he is ok. I'm also the first born of my family. But after much talk, my dad agreed to the intro, and we did our intro this year feb. Now d prob: this guy is not stingy and knws d right thing at d right time,I'm not materialistic and if I need something I just tell him, if he has, he will do it for me. but he is so hot tempered to the extent dat these days wen he gets angry he say so many things to me, bad things dat make me sad. He will talk to the extent that I will almost b frustrated and tell him to go, but as soon as it get to that extent, he will start begging me. This is the latest dat happen, note that I am tru with school and I will soon clock 25, I went to school for my clearance and wen I came back I spent just three days at home and he called me that he has come back ( he travels a lot cos of the nature of his job) I left my fathers house and went to him, I av been there for the past three weeks now and I told him abt all I needed to take to camp, I let him knw that its not possible I asked foranything from home again, dat he has to buy them for me which he agrees, now, its time for me to buy those things he said he has spent much that I shud go and meet my parents, he was saying all sort of things to me. All this while I never tell my mum abt this cos I dnt want her to dislike him. He insulted me, sent all sort of thing to me tru bbm which I told him I will show my mum but he dint care. I'm confused. This guy is tearing me apart, the words he says to me wenever we had a fight is more than wat I can condone, pls guys, now I'm about to tell my mum abt everything, what shud I do abt this guy. I'm confused o.

Hi nairalander, this story is about a friend of mine who is not a member but needs ur advice.