 Romance › Re: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by smileing(op): 6:08pm On Aug 11, 2018 |
vululadilolo:
Although It's easier said than done, don't be too hard on yourself. He forced himself on you.He is a predator, you are a victim. You did nothing wrong. Don't let it break your spirit.
Look for a professional therapist( female if you fear being assaulted again). If you can't or don't want to, find a trustworthy ( non-judgemental) family member/friend to confide in. Don't keep to yourself. Get your mind busy and fight those suicidal thoughts.
I guess I don't understand what being chaste means because I don't see why you don't consider yourself chaste : You were forced to act against your belief/faith. If he "convinced" you to continue sleeping with him since you are not a virgin anymore and you don't feel at ease with it, stop it...
Life does not always happen the way we want it. We need to face it and rebuild ourselves differently. It can be hard but it's possible( that's why you need all the positive or professional help you can get).
Once again, don't keep (it) to yourself, find someone trustworthy to confide in, preferably a professional. Virgin or not, rape is a terrible assault to your mental and physical integrity.
Btw, If you are still in contact with him, cut it. It's toxic. I insist, if possible, report him. Wish you all the best ! thank you so much I'm grateful |
| Romance › Re: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by smileing(op): 6:06pm On Aug 11, 2018 |
Orchid45:
See a professional psychotherapist, not your pastor, youth president, a family friend or someone you think is religious. Rape can lead to mental disorder or even suicide if not given the attention it deserves.
Breakup with the guy and get him arrested. alright thanks |
| Romance › Re: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by smileing(op): 4:29pm On Aug 11, 2018 |
@vululadilolo
thank you so much. I have not reported to anyone yet
hurt, pains and disdain on myself have left me discouraged.
all these while, I have been offering him all I could (companionship, encouragement, emotional support, friendship, spiritual assistance ,inspiration ) except for my body. and he made me love him so much little did I know he would come for my body .
my worth is not based on the hymen but yet I value my chasity.
I'm broken cos I encouraged people to be chaste. who do I talk to. the therapist I tried talking to tried molesting me too
I'm deformed now as I am feeling suicidal
what I built in years just crashed within a twinkling of an eye |
| Romance › Re: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by smileing(op): 3:47pm On Aug 11, 2018 |
alterswerve:
Virginity is not the same as sexual purity.  please sir throw more light to your statement |
| Romance › Re: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by smileing(op): 3:46pm On Aug 11, 2018 |
thorpido:
Do you consider reporting him to the authorities? What he did is rape and he has no excuses for doing that.
You don't think your people will like him,in your heart of hearts,you don't really think he is the one.
You should wear your shoes to walk,innit? ok I ve not considered reporting him but if I do I don't think I have a strong evidence apart from the broken hymen. is there anything else I need to know before reporting him that ll substantiate my evidence |
| Romance › He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by smileing(op): 2:28pm On Aug 11, 2018 |
Please I need responsible advice
Many were coming as suitors but I don't know why I let him come closer.
He forcefully took away my pride and I was hurt. He said he did that cos he doesn't want to lose me
I wanted to leave but I couldn't cos I love him.
I don't offer sex cos I'm religious and I believe it's a sin. Told him to wait till marriage but he wouldn't.
for almost a year we ve been courting I didn't allow him touch me.
Till this day he forcefully had sex with me .
He wants to come pay my dowry but I'm not sure that my people will let me marry him. I too went and prayed about him and they told me that he is not my husband (about 5 different people said it)
He is OK, financially, is educated and promising.
But not God-fearing as I wanted.
Now I'm pained for what he did to me .I'm grieved cos I wanted to lose my pride on my wedding night.
and I'm thinking of leaving him cos I'm hurting so much now.
I feel less of myself and sinful too
Please what should I do?
those that married non Virgin how did your spouse take it. I need to know cos it ll help reshaping my mindset |
| Literature › Re: Chronicles Of Tracy by smileing: 12:15pm On Jun 17, 2018 |
Nice story keep it coming |
| Literature › Re: The Hole In The Wall by smileing: 10:22pm On Mar 12, 2018 |
Yemike:
Noise Kwa?
Where ceecane and Nostradamus are noticing the noise makers
No noise, just here to chat. Lolz Good for us cos this story doesnt need distractions o Oya enjoy your chat  |
| Literature › Re: The Hole In The Wall by smileing: 8:51pm On Mar 11, 2018 |
Yemike:
As my babe is already fast asleep (poor bae, she's 76 already) mah just position gidigba by your side as we await master souloho.
Hope nobody dey here??
Lolz funny you. No wahala just gallant But no make noise o.  |
| Literature › Re: The Hole In The Wall by smileing: 9:50am On Mar 11, 2018 |
Yemike:
Drives In my BMW 1928 model with my 76yrs
old babe looking so fresh and beautiful beside me
Sighting oga soulhoho I prostrate gidigba thanking him for the invite.
As all the VVIP have been occupied, Mah just manage this VIP seat with my fresh babe as we awaits oga souloho to Sama us with updates. Lolz Bmw 1928 model.wondering how this would look like. Oya position well Oga soulho has started his suspense and tension already 1 Like |
| Family › Re: See What Was Killed In My Roon Now by smileing: 10:44pm On Mar 10, 2018 |
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| Family › Re: See What Was Killed In My Roon Now by smileing: 10:23pm On Mar 10, 2018 |
madridguy:
Haba, why Chelsea naa? Why not Man UTD or Liverpool? Chelsea and Arsenal na for children naaa Lolz. So as am a fan, am a child ni? |
| Family › Re: See What Was Killed In My Roon Now by smileing: 10:19pm On Mar 10, 2018 |
madridguy:
Haba, why Chelsea naa? Why not Man UTD or Liverpool? Chelsea and Arsenal na for children naaa Lolz My dear I don't know why am still a Chelsea fan o But after Chelsea na barca I cant be a man u or liverpool fan o Lolz |
| Family › Re: See What Was Killed In My Roon Now by smileing: 10:07pm On Mar 10, 2018 |
madridguy:
Are you also a madridsta? Nah am a Chelsea fan |
| Family › Re: See What Was Killed In My Roon Now by smileing: 10:02pm On Mar 10, 2018 |
madridguy:
Yes am proudly madridsta. Number 1 Madrid fan for Nigeria. Nice. Enjoy the glory  |
| Family › Re: See What Was Killed In My Roon Now by smileing: 9:56pm On Mar 10, 2018 |
madridguy:
She should do that with respect. Ladies should learn how to talk to guys. Yea but is not everybody that has that courteous act seems you re a staunch madrid fan |
| Family › Re: See What Was Killed In My Roon Now by smileing: 9:48pm On Mar 10, 2018 |
madridguy:
You be snake girl abi why you carry the matter for head like gala  Lolz oga chill na Person no go express herself ni   |
| Literature › Re: The Hole In The Wall by smileing: 9:43pm On Mar 10, 2018 |
souloho19:
Now calling on the detectives of NL;
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| Health › Re: Kerosene In Lantern Explodes In Delta. Kills Girl, Burns Her Mum, House (Graphic by smileing: 8:05pm On Nov 23, 2017 |
chubysoft1:
If it were the kerosene that caused the explosion why is this the only incident that happened? Where are others who bought the same kerosene? I don't believe everything on the media. My opinion: something else must have triggered the explosion. Police do your work! Its TRUE. I was a victim of this.kerosene should be treated with utmost carefullness When I see stories like this, I can't help but thank God for saving me No scars nor traces of burn on me |
| Literature › Re: The Devil Wears Okrika by smileing: 6:59am On Nov 15, 2017 |
Omg Even mama Ezinne Nawa o.she couldn't even think of Ezinne but the evil barthlomew and his father Abeg after this story, ll deal with this woman specially Family of evil. Souloho19 continue abeg |
| Literature › Re: The Devil Wears Okrika by smileing: 8:28am On Nov 14, 2017 |
TeekayCarter:
It would make sense oooh.... it would be a classy hell. Classy hell indeed  Scary  |
| Literature › Re: The Devil Wears Okrika by smileing: 10:38pm On Nov 13, 2017 |
[quote author=donblazer10 post=62329015]lol..funny girl[/quote Aww am blushing o |
| Literature › Re: The Devil Wears Okrika by smileing: 8:14am On Nov 13, 2017 |
TeekayCarter:
you like designers abi? you can help patronise him.... Lolz who doesn't like good thing But for it to be sold by the devil ....I run Look at all he did when selling okrika What more if he starts selling designers 1 Like |
| Literature › Re: The Devil Wears Okrika by smileing: 5:43pm On Nov 10, 2017 |
Wow
Amazingly good
Finally they have caught the devil
When he gets to the other side of life he should sell designers 3 Likes |
| Literature › Re: A Lonely Heart (A Story) by smileing: 9:42pm On Oct 02, 2017 |
Oh my! This is really interesting Please bibijay123 I need loads of update You re really good  1 Like |
| Literature › Re: Hello World (the Novel) A Weekly Update by smileing: 11:38pm On Sep 30, 2017 |
MezieNnnamani:
Thanks. @smileing Welcome Don't disappoint and don't starve me of updates |
| Literature › Re: Love Hiccups by smileing: 2:02pm On Sep 30, 2017 |
Kimberlywest
You are on hit back to back
You ain't disappointing at all
Nice one |
| Literature › Re: Hello World (the Novel) A Weekly Update by smileing: 1:59pm On Sep 30, 2017 |
Nice beginning
Following 1 Like |
| Literature › Re: "No Pleasure For Dead Girls" A Story By Mancrimes.. by smileing: 12:04am On Sep 28, 2017 |
Mancrimes you ve got a nice storyline My piece for you Give room for details, increase suspense and make the characters especially the killer more sophisticated. Your story can be predicted easily. for instance, you revealed the killer and left us not guessing and again when kelvin was surmoned, why wasn't he accused since he had something to do with the victims since the killing act is under investigation (you would have developed and detailed much from here).the last killing scene wasn't thrilling for me though coupled with the reason that inspector Daniel gave.how did the killer follow the inspector up? Details lacking! Let me stop here But truely, nice story You owe me a mention when you start the second part 1 Like |
| Literature › Re: Love Hiccups by smileing: 11:43pm On Sep 27, 2017 |
Keep it rolling ma'am
Love the way you are bringing it on
How come ken totally changed
Nawa o |
| Literature › Re: "No Pleasure For Dead Girls" A Story By Mancrimes.. by smileing: 4:56pm On Sep 25, 2017 |
princ007:
Another killer! This one no go wear okrika.. Well done mancrimes Lol no this one has upgraded o he now wears Aba made This killer is something else maybe a sibling to the okrika devil |
| Crime › Re: 15-Year-Old Boy Who Had Sex With A Goat In Niger State Arrested by smileing: 10:06pm On Sep 24, 2017 |
kingIsaac1:
nice idea.
smileing...indeed u ve got a charming smile..#winks Aww thanks dear |
